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LittleBigDick:
My worst fear came true.
My ex came crawling back after I started getting serious with another girl.
We broke up 7 months ago. We'd been together since uni. I'm 25, she's 23. She said she needed some space and wasn't sure we would work out long term. I tried to fight her on it for two weeks but eventually gave her the breakup and went ghost mode

First couple of months were rough but I applied myself at the gym and other things and when I was feeling better about my physique made a Bumble account just to gain some self-esteem back and also take my mind off her. Met this girl about 2 months ago and we've been fwb since then. We Bleep every week and recently we've been talking about making things serious. I confess I'm starting to become infatuated with this girl, and she's already head over heels for me.

The problem is that I still love my ex, way more than this new girl. She reached out today saying she regrets breaking up with me, she was depressed and got some therapy and realized I'm all she wants. She says she went on a few dates but "didn't have sex or even kiss any of them."

She said I could check her phone if I want to. Obviously she could have just deleted any proof but I'm inclined to believe her considering she was very prudish when we were together and also I was the one that disvirgined her

The problem is I don't know whether I stick to this new babe or accept my ex back

Bro, take it or not, u would loose your respect if u take her bck. Besides, what makes you think she, can't walk away again since she did it d first time? Now she has tasted other guys n wants to come back, mumu sef wants to accept. Your choice bro

Goodlady:
He's not picking my calls cos I told him I wanted a car as val gift.
I just told him how I had a busy schedule last week and I wasted lots of money oh tfare plus the stress in entering cabs.
We were discussing and I mentioned I wish I had a car and we just talked normally.
Since last Friday, I v been trying to reach him but he's not picking my phone.
I called his friend to ask after him. He called back n told me he's going to check on me but he hasn't.
Why is he acting like he doesn't care?
Could my instinct be right that he's trying to run cos I mentioned I wanted car?

Let me tell u what he's reluctant to say.... IF U WANT A CAR, THEN BUY A CAR OR TELL YOUR PARENTS TO GET U ONE. WHY HV U SUDDENLY BECOME AN OPHAN BCOZ U HV A MAN?. U CAN EVEN TRY TO SAVE UP HALF D MONEY N PLEAD WITH HIM TO COMPLETE IT, NOT THAT U ASK HIM OUTRIGHT FOR A CAR. NO MA'AM. U ASKED FOR TOO MUCH (even if he can afford it)

Trust22:
See love... Every normal human being with Voters card in Nigeria should vote for this man.... Physically and spiritually, he meant well for Nigeria..

Even d urchins know this, but tribalism had so blinded them. What a pity.

Yamiriflathead:
See his Nzobu Nzobu supporters wif their bastard flatherds. Ipob terrorist candidate

Kuku commit suiciide, Obi is coming to rul Nigeria. Take it or not.

bender79:
There is nothing else in his head only arrogance and gaffes. Tueh!

It's so unfortunate that d urchins hv chosen to be blind!

FriendsAndFans:
I am planning on getting married this year, so i want to seek guidance from married folks how they were able to raise funds to sponsor their introduction and wedding.

i dont have a partner yet, i just want to plan ahead.

I suggest u start saving ASAP, especially if your marrying from d East. Its better to hv enough cash n not need it, than need more cash n not hv it. Expect unplanned n unexpected expenses. Bottomline, whatever u doing for a living, work harder, u will surely need more cash. Especially if u plan doing all white, court n trad. For me, I did all within a mth, I spent hell.

copyrites:
Omo.. More like a rally.


Atiku and Tinubu didn't see this coming. They must be going through a lot right now as their imminent failure at the polls draw near.

Their failure is guaranteed, Nigerians are now awake!!

TechW:
It's obvious Nigerians want to give obi a chance to prove himself. I look forward to seeing intelligent people like deie and Aisha in the government

WELL SPOKEN!

LordviccoDaGuru:
Pandora Obituary the chief sponsor of Insecurity in Nigeria will never rule Nigeria, Go and write it down

Get ready, u go commit suicide las las when PETER OBI wins.

OkoRemi2023:
if Tinubu is your dad, you won't be miserable Hawking gala on express road


na Tinubu cursed your father not to make it at his early youth age?



you Igboeee that's always boasting that you're rich are now crying that poverty want to kill you just because Buhari blocked you people smuggling of drugs in and out of Nigeria



cursed tribe

My dad won't stoop so low to wanna "dupe" Nigerians at this age. Your madd bcoz u heard d truth. Guess what? U and Tinubu will still cry more after he looses d election, bcoz Nigerians are awake. U can start planning your suicide now bcoz d old dead fooll has lost election!!

PrinceOfLagos:
he stands a better chance than Tinubu in this election

Of course, his far better than that old, stupiid, greedy, half-dead thief.

Bayonet40:
Good evening nairalanders.
Why do Nigerians believe that you must have to cut your baby's hair (especially male babies) immediately they reach 1 year?
Is there any theory here?
People have been suggesting that I cut my boy's hair when he reaches 1 year which is some days from now, he has much hair which I plan to maintain and keep in a good shape.

Don't mind them, do what u feel is OK for him. My boy clocked 1 a mth ago, I even dey plait him hair sef. Cut kor!!

chiefolododo:
Do these people really like him? Even when he is saying rubbish, they still clap for him

May God punish all of them supporting him n cheering him on.

Hoelujohn:
The president can rule on wheelchair. It's not compulsory for him to be able to walk. It's the brain that matters.

In this case, both d brain is dead and we all know it.

Gucciblog:
They say he doesn't have structure and he can't win his local govt. What exactly are they scared of?

We will shock them all.

jossymarcel:
Education should be seen as the bedrock of any society but when it becomes encompassed with immoralities and indiscipline, it stops becoming one.
In recent times, Chrisland Schools have been in the news for various unruly behaviour, from a teacher that sodomized a pupil, to an underage pupil that showed her sexual prowess. I decided to investigate pretending to be a teacher. When I was assigned to their school at Lekki, I observed most of the kids aren't discipline and they are touch not. Teachers will be teaching in a class and the students will be ridiculing and playing songs instead of listening. They feel their parents are too wealthy and the school can do nothing to stop them. Although, the school said it has disciplinary measures but it is too weak. In their year 12, I witnessed lesbianism, where another girl put her hands in another's breast until I shouted at her. Perhaps, even though, most of the kids are spoilt, the school isn't doing enough to help. From arrogant vice principals to greedy educators, the school is in a mess. Parents pay millions of naira but I just pity them because the school isn't moulding their character. They are after profit. To parents that have ears, monitor your children well. I am speaking from fact. The school has lost its value. He who has ears, let him hear. A word is enough for the wise.

My best suggestion is to send your kids to say sch (not boarding), when they return each day, do d training n beating (when necessary) yourself.

Registeredguest:
I'm a lady in my mid- twenties, I got married aged 22, (always wanted to marry early) on the second year of our marriage we were blessed with a baby, parked to our house and things were rosy. I have always been a workaholic due to that I have never lack as a young lady in terms of finance.

I have always helped him in his house projects, might not be much 100k, 50k, 20k when need be. I never siphoned my money to myself, as a young lady I envisioned my pretty little family on my head, (3 children, handsome husband and pretty wife with a fine car living happily)

Now to the main problem,I think it all started when he told me he has seen a genuine plot of land that we should buy it together, I told him no, I want the land all by myself I have money to pay for it, (just want to have something tangible for myself alone) he said no problem.He sent me an account number of the seller I sent 600k to the seller.we did the necessary documents and everyone was happy.

After some weeks, I decided to dig around his phone then I discovered that the account I sent the 600k to, refunded 200k back to my husband, woke him up instantly I demanded for an explanation.he story no make sense. I was heartbroken, for months I was hurt...the two families got involved and settled the issue.money I no see...

Ever since this issue happened,the home has not been peaceful, fighting everyday. I find it so difficult to forgive him. I insult him, he insults me, he broke my phone, I break his door...I was demanded for an apology he says
"I'm his wife, no be today man dey collect him wife money, he say woman go build house for him husband no ear no go hear" those things hurt me more... everyday was fight, I parked out,I went to my sister's place,he didn't call, he didn't reach out.

3 weeks after I parked I discovered I was pregnant,and informed him immediately through text.i stayed at my sister's place for 2 months no word from him... I decide to rent my own place,I rented a place and went to his house to park my remaining stuff,I meet him home,as soon as he sees I came with a truck to park my things he knelt down and started begging me...I was like,na today I commot for your house why now? He say he think say I dey play, he no think say I serious like this,for good two months you didn't say anything why now...with enough dragging I parked my things to my new rented apartment... since the day I park till now this man has not allowed me rest,his family members has been calling me to come back home, his dad came from the village to plead on his behalf.


My dad is insisting I should not go back...I'm now 6 months pregnant ,I need a father in my children's life.im finding it difficult to forgive him,I'm struggling within myself to forgive and trust this man again.

How can I let go of the past and move back with him...I decided to pay him a visit on Friday,he was happy I came,he did everything possible to show me he has changed but that feeling of betrayal and hurt is there.i left there this morning with querrell,I know I started the querrell,but I can't just seem to forgive him.please I need your help and advice on this pressing issue of mine.

No insult please, I have cried enough.

Don't forgive him NEVER..... Till u realize your stupidity has made him get a side chick whose now abt 2mths pregnant, then u start going to shiloh for God to bring bck your husband. Nonsense.

maestroferddi:
APC and their supporters are living in grand delusions.

The inevitable resounding defeat on this forthcoming election will reset their brains for good.

You've said it all. Nothing more to add.

MaryAye:
After taking the advice of meaningful nairlanders on this https://www.nairaland.com/7341050/he-wants-date-he-doesnt.

This is the aftermath.

I arranged for a meet-up with him to discuss my supposed assumptions. He told me, "he doesn't hate my child, but he feels my son was gargling like a mewling child."

I asked him to elucidate. Which he did and I politely told him that if he gargled, it was because he's still four. I think he should give my son time and establish a friendly relationship with him.

It was like my pep talks rattled him and he immediately slapped me that I have insulted him and trapped his pride. I was like, what!!!

This was a harmless discussion. Why did you slap me? He started apologising. He said he didn't know what came over him.

I told him to leave my shop. I told him I will call him when I'm less angry.
To me, I wanted to pipe low and take his word for it. He asked for some money to take bolt home because he didn't come out with cash. I went into the shop and gave him.

After that day I didn't call him or wanted to have anything to do with him. To my greatest surprise yesterday, he came to my shop and started assaulting me so that I can't leave. I was like, I never wanted to date you before. I was just considering your proposal.

That little tussle was what led to him scattering the fruits I bought. My neighbours came to our shop and before I knew it, he has raze all my goods.

My neighbours called the market chairman and they bungled him to the police station.

What is wrong with men this day? I didn't collect anything from him. Thank God I took the advice of nairalanders. You guys helped me to identify this before going into it.

Thank you, all.

Make sure he pays for all he damaged b4 he's allowed bail.

LordviccoDaGuru:
SOURCE

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=pfbid0GUBgnohjuBwyUpTFJfF6U823tg5yPFcjoiP8KG4NjtYXzDUqGYhLsy9BwENpX3n5l&id=100070802845606&sfnsn=scwspwa

It may shock u to know that even d armed men are obedient.

Continue fooling yourself.

GardenOfGod:
Massive.... Online supporters becoming offline supporters.

Naysayers are ashamed.

Meanwhile APC Abuja rally is an eyesore... A mockery of heroin induced Tinubu

All we want is a, better Nigeria. Its obvious ONLY PETER OBI can do this. So let's stop looking at go-political zone n focus on what these candidates can do for us. PETER OBI IS D MAN!!!!!!

LocalStandard1:
Firstly, I think he is the most listened to man in Nigeria today.

But my problem is:

What wrong with us in Nigeria? I mean, I was fanatical about Buhari pre 2015 elections, I had a problem with anyone who had a problem with him. Buhari didn't really have anything to offer but we just wanted "change". We fell for falsehood as clear as day, lies as promises.

I didn't really care what Buhari said, I just wanted him. Maybe cos of my regional affiliations with him?

But now taking out time to really listen to Peter Obi speak, I hear and see someone different. He speaks like an informed appointed Minister, more of, eager and ready to serve. This is someone who has done and continue to do his home work. This is not someone who just want to be President just as an ambition but one who think and believes he has solutions and is willing to learn the more and listen, as he said.

If I can look beyond Buhari's many bad records, even refusing to heed the warnings of my grand parents, who know him, and still surpport him. Why can't we all give Peter Obi a chance?

Come on, let's deviate from these older and obvious crooks and try this other guy.

You say he lies, prove it! You say he stole, show me where!! If not drop the tribal pressure and do the right thing.

God bless u for speaking d truth. I wish n pray ALL NIGERIANS will wake up to reality, let's put hands together and make Nigeria work again. Thank you.

Biodun556:
Incoming president by God's grace

dey whine yourself.

Islandlady:
The fact still remains Men will always be Men! Stop being emotional and childish!

History and nature has proven men to be polygamous and flirtious in Nature! Although it depends on your level of control but it is an inbuilt characteristics in Men!

This your belief will NEVER make you a good wife. I strongly recommend you adjust your mentality. Thanks.

grop1040:
Hi guys,

Something happened 9 months ago, I decided to keep mute or probably just wait for the right time to commence my investigation to actually know what is going on between my step brother and my wife. So im 9 years already into my marriage, and we have 3 kids. My step brother who is the 2nd of my mum has temperamental problem.
He's bossy and very vulgar plus he's controlling, everybody knows him for that, he was married 13 years ago, however after his family relocated to the USA, he later found
out that his 3kids aren't his, the marriage ended like that, ever since then he's been traumatized, emotionally and any other way one can describe him as. Sometimes in order to at least feel that children presence around him, he would ask me to have my children come over to his place for some days, and I could witness
how that really helped him over time, but then I noticed the absence of his wife started making him familiarize with my wife in certain odd manners which I was not really down with.

For example, if he comes to our house, most times comes around with a friend, either female or male, my wife seems not to be the attache type who would sit with us in the living room, she will rather be upstairs in the room, I have witnessed cases where he will shout at her, saying how can everybody be here and ur there upstairs, there
was even a time when one of the visitors he came with sighed and made face in a way that defined, wow, "was that necessary". Or times when he will ask her to
cook stew for her, if she forgets or probably didnt want to do it because she knew it isnt her duty, she will be yelled upon, you'll here things like, where
is the egusi i told u to make, even the one you made last time, u didnt put enough this and that. Now yall might think am a dullard or a simp, or someone too relaxed
as gentle and as patient as I am, I be original demon, if I start my madness, the result will end in eternal damage,and our family background from my mums side where
this my brother was born, we tend to uphold unity over adversity, so when things like this occur, mum would rather have us calm and not fight so unity can continue.

So sometimes last year, the major issues started grooming that made me start to think if there was something going on with my step and my wife, it started with when
the kids were with him, so madam and I were suppose to go for outing, so we decided to branch at his place to check up on the kids,on getting there while in his living room,
he said to my wife " I like your hair" she responded thanks, he was like are u guys going out, I was like yea am taking her out, next thing she asked my madam, so when are we going on
our own outing? I shrugged and didnt understand where that came from, though she didnt answer him. While we were leaving, I was waiting for her to bring up the topic
and put it to me that why did ur brother say such a thing, even if its a joke, its too expensive, but she didnt, I brought up the topic, and she was like shes surprised too
that she never thought he would say such a thing. 5 days later, we had a family party in his house, my other brothers, cousins and my mum, my children were there, while the
caterer were cooking outside, and we were all in his living room drinking, he opted to get some meat to dish and give everybody to at least be chewing something, he served it round
but when it got to my wives turn, the one he already bit off from was what he gave her, funny thing is, it was only my mum and myself that saw the scene, my wife was not aware, that was when
I knew something could be going on. Afterwards, I put the ish through to my wife, she acted disgusted and said she cant blv he would do such, that although my mum already called her
to say the same thing. So I asked details of what she discussed with my mum, she said my mum advised her that whenever he calls her, she shouldnt pick,that when he knows
its obvious that shes avoiding his call, he probably would want to report to her, and then she will now break the silence of what she my wife have been experiencing
with him thus her refusal to pick his call. So i called my mum and I was like being calm,patient and cooperating with the useless policy of the family doesnt mean
that the recent things happening wont seat any longer with me, that am gonna have to confront him and put him in his place. My mum begged me and begged, cos shes
76 years old, I considered and I had no choice but to cooperate with her advise. The funny thing is, after this whole ish, I asked her that if he calls, will you pick,
she answered yes I will, but I will have to see what he has to say first to know if I will continue the conversation or not, I was like for real? You must be kidding me,it means
something that I am not suppose to know of is happening, she was like oh well its ur fault, why didnt u confront him instead of listening to ur mums advise.

Since then, I have let it slide, but what actually made me bring up this issue again, was when I went to my bros house to pick some stuffs my sister sent from the USA, madam
was off to the market, I called her to ask if she would like the only size 10 of the shoe I saw cos she wears 9, she didnt pick after calling like 4 times, immediately my brother
called her with his own phone, she picked and was like sorry when you called I try to pick but it was nt connecting, I just weak at that moment sey wetin dey sup.
Guys, ladies, from deep experiences u guys must have gone through, what do u think could be wrong and what do yall think I should do, something could be happening
that if I dont unravel early, it might be the cause of ones demise or destruction.

You've allowed rubbish fly for too long. Your wife's relationship with your bro is wrong and I believe you know this already, or are u waiting till u catch him on top your wife b4 u act? Cut her off him 100%, give her your rules insist she abides to it. A STITCH IN TIME SAVED NINE..

dubezra:
I was giving a query in my place of work(2nd month of employment), my boss stated the code(code 27) in the query later. But on my employment later and even till now I have not received the code of conduct document. My question is : Is someone suppose to be punished by his/her boss without first giving he/she the code of conduct?.

its a query, which dwarves a reply. So respond, make it clear that u were NEVER given d CoC, so u weren't aware of any such rules. However tender your apology, promise not to do so anymore and demand for a copy of d CoC bcoz your dedicated to d betterment of d establishment.

Femifasola:
Stop this nonsense. Seems you enjoy the blood let in the country.

I'm yoruba and I'm fully OBI-dient. No propaganda can work this time. Kill ya sef

May God bless u abundantly.

ElSudani:
Obi doesn't have any record of achievements. He is running on empty. No remarkable policy achievements, no remarkable physical or landmark achievements. Nothing.

U speak well, yet u lack sense. I wonder how that works!

Talentempire:
So
I stay in a compound that has about 8 flats not face me I face you

I and this my neighbor are the oldest tenants there.

Since all the tenants that use to be in the compound moved out

I became kinda close to this my neighbor

am married she is also married
I became close to her because it is not good for one to leave in a compound and have no relationship with at least one tenants there

And also I don't want to build any relationship with any new tenant again cos I don't want any drama I have seen enough from privious tenants.

So since she is the oldest after myself I decided to just maintain the friendship.

But the problem now is

This Woman can make everyone around her enemy without them offending her.

as she use to say " I can keep malice with all the tenants in this compound with extra"

So
There is this new couple that just moved into the compound and for no reason she just hate this people
They can not come outside in peace , they can not seat in the front of their flat peaceful her children will be going round and round ears dropping on this couple conversation just to go back n tell their mother what they heard

An most times the information the the kids gives their mom are mostly lies

The next Thing she will come and tell me with so much anger and bitterness

The annoying part is anytime we are together the only thing she talks about is this couple how much she dislike them and all of that

Which I have asked her severally what they did to her that she hate them this much
But no solid reason .


As for me I have no business with any new tenant in the compound the only thing connecting us is greetings and maybe NEPA bill

But the way this my neighbor friend is treating all the new tenants in the compound is very disturbing

She has stopped all of them from fatching water from the well because the well is close to her window , she has also stopped all of them from drying her their clothes near the well.

After doing all this she wants me to support her and clap for her
if I tell her she is wrong she gets very angry.

Because of her troublesome nature the landlord ones evicted a tenant because of her
But that was when she newly moved in
But later the landlord got to understand that she doesn't like peace..

Even when we take our kids for outing this woman must make trouble with with people there
Same when we go to the market

People will sometimes ask how I cope with a person like that
But I cope anyways

But like this now am tired

Most times I feel so embarrassed
When she act stupid in public .

My issue with her is she always wants me to support her to matter her wrong,
To always tell her that her actions towards other people is right
Which I can't

Just last week she went to fight her kids school teachers plus the owner of the school base on what her kids told her

And just Just yesterday again she came to report this new couple to me base on what her kids told her

And I told her to stop fighting people who are not fighting her and she should tell her kid's to stop telling her things about other people

This morning I greeted her she gave me a cold reply

Please if you have any experience with this kind of people what's the best solution to handle them?

Are u talking abt your neighbour or u talking abt your wife? Bro, MIND YOUR BUSINESS. Cut that woman off bcoz she will soon ruin your life, bet it. As for your co-tenants who are scared of her, that's their stupidity to bear. Once again, mind your business bro n de-associate yourself from this woman.

PandoraObi:
"To hell with you and your money " Saidi balogun said.



NOTE
IF You don't believe this, but you believed Tinubu offered money to Osufia without proof, you are one of the reasons Nigeria can never be better even if Peter Obi mistakenly becomes president, insecurity will crush his administration if he escapes assassination, he might not escape impeachment because you have planted bitterness and hatred for him already, trying to heal the wounds of the people you have deliberately maligned will destroy his administration

Your obviously frustrated. Hahahaha

Omihanifa:
He just wants to be president for the sake of being president

Exactly what he meant by "Emi lo kan"