bukatyne:
Instead of telling your husband to stop 'spending on his family', point him to projects he can spend money on.

E.g. 'My friend said there is one cheap land at Igbo Tutu' or 'how I wish we had our house, we wouldn't be bothered about Baba Mulika asking for rent every year' or 'there is one mutual funds that the entry is N200k and you get 15% returns per year. We can be paying Junior's fees from the interest'. You can also bring up investment for your kids etc.

You know what works with your husband so explore that. Also appreciate him for what he does so far.

@buying your land: I am not a fan of spouses buying stuffs behind each other so I will say deposit the money in mutual benefit/Chapel Hill/Piggybank for now while you try to make him see reason

You should also understand where your husband is coming from: in some cultures, the 'worth' of the first son/husband of the first daughter is their ability to fund everyone's lifestyle without complaint while their own immediate family suffers.

It is a recurring theme so you re-orientate him in love and harmony to see that his family can and will survive without his handouts.

Wow. So much wisdom. Well-done

Spot on

franchasng:
Most Nigerians and black people don't have sense at all, when they are in position of authority, they act like God forgetting that they will never be in power forever, now what will happen to you and your generation and people when you go out of office Black people think for once

Between 1966 - 1972 or so, Gowon was the Military Head of state of Nigeria who decides what happens to who in Nigeria but today he is a side looker who cannot do anything to stop the killing of his own people.

What about T. Y. Danjuma He was the all and all that decides who would live and who will be killed in Nigeria back then but today he is powerless as he watches his people being slaughtered in the most gruesome manner.

Or have we all forgotten the Almighty IBB the dreaded Military Leader that held Nigeria in his palms for more than a decade but now he is only sitting powerless in his home in Niger State grinning in pains.

Oh I forgot the deadly no nonsense President OBJ. The man that used EFCC to silence anybody against his political will, today he has turned to a wailer wailing from his powerless home in Abeokuta.

President Buhari and his people and supporters should know that Buhari can never remain in power forever. At most 2023 Buhari will become powerless ordinary man. How will he be remembered by that time

Power is transient, if u are in power now, use it for good because u won't be there forever!

It is not wise to see fire and deliberately put your hand inside. So many women regretting in marriage today are wishing they saw such signs or attitudes before they married their husbands. You have been fortunate to see this from the beginning, be wise.

CryptoClub2018:
Not all wives deserve this. I'm sure the woman has paid her dues too

Wow, amazing line of thought

I rarely comment on Nairaland. Your questions made me login which I haven't done for a year. I am an On- Air Personality/ broadcaster in one of the most reputable stations in Southern Nigeria. And by God's grace, I have had merit awards in this career. Interestingly, I never studied Mass Communication. I have a B.Sc in Biotechnology, (currently taking a PGD in Mass Com tho). I had no idea I could even broadcast. Till I met someone who saw the gift in me I had no idea I had. I was taken as an intern without pay into AIT/Raypower Fm where I got trained on the job. I developed a passion for broadcasting and so I stuck without the pay. But today, I have 4 years experience and I am highly paid for it.

If you are really passionate about this, you may have to pay the price. Get yourself attached to a station and learn, while you work a part-time job. When you eventually gain the experience and develop a unique talent, stations will bid for you. Sometimes we do things not for the present and an instant reward, but for the future with huge opportunities and gain.

learoce:
I hold a good degree in a science field that has nothing to do with mass communication, but I am interested in a TV broadcasting Job. Please any advise on how to go about this? Or any useful links that can brush and acquaint me with the skill set and know how of such job?

Spent Valentine at work

Jesus!! Wat would he have done with 50k Video games? Gamble? N he killed a child for that?

Oh please. We are not so ugly in warri.

Xyg12:


That I don't understand too. He is spending tax payers money on his child. Is he the interpreter?
As in

Obama: Hi
Son to Buhari: Barka
Buhari to Son: Barka
Son to Obama: Hi

Obama : How are you
Son< kuna Lafia? Buhari >ina lafiya kalau, na gode

Son to Obama: I'm good, thank you.


Obama: Hope you arrived well?
Son to Buhari: Ina fata kun Zo Lafiya
Buhari to son:Ba damuwa

Son to Obama: it is okay

Obama: nice to meet you
Son to Buhari : naji dadin haduwarmu
Buhari to son: na gode
Son to Obama: Thank you

Lol. You are good at this

inimitkel:

Cryxtal one thing I would love you to know is that you are born according to God's perfect plan that includes your genetic make up. All it takes Dear is for your assigned partner to locate you. I actually know a couple with the same situation and are happily married today. Yours' will definitely be an added testimony.

amen. Thanks for your strong words. Right now, I will just focus on my career n further my education. Keep adding value to myself. M not sure m ready for another emotional session

These are quite irrelevant, I think

Lol.

Lol. Cool

Chai! This man is practically wasted

After two years, I just read this post. Funny thing I just got dumped tonight cos of SCD
This is not the first bowing to internal or family pressure. So hurt but can't cry. Want to blame some one or something but m just blank. How many will come n go, how many times will I be hurt like this for being born this way.

RIP

Tydies:
Another smarter person will continue from where he stopped.

Probably someone with better ideas

It's gruesome
But I think I can eat the chicken legs n silk worm. Silkworms are eaten here in the delta

The president is strategizing indeed

The lady is taller? I don't like that

I vote

Tomfrench

Iamkinglee

Cc NLJega

vimi:
F

F for fish

Caseless:
wow! How is delta
yeah...this happens.


I'm fine. How are u doing?

Cool. Where u at?

Caseless:
fine.

It's been long I saw u here.

Gone back to d north?

m in the Delta. I come online, just don't comment.
Wazup with u?

Caseless:
how are u doing?

m awesome. N u?

Lol. Y does this sound funny to me?

Nice one op

hopeforcharles:

What is he later founds out?
My type of Man will never use it against a woman no matter what, but if he founds out outside it might be more disastrous than ever. What do u think she should do about telling him.

Maybe u are different. But not every man thinks that way

mizjules:
I will not really blame her... No one knows the trauma she's been through having to birth a child fathered by her own father!

Yea. It may have been a crazy experience watching that child grow everyday.

Mcbussy:


Amen

Sure. Love gives

nas4q:

Sure every generalisation is wrong. Just as ur signature, some men deserve to be loved and trusted in addition to them being respected. I believe u must have a reason or two 2 hold on to that believe even though it's wrong. Nothing do u, I just peeped ur profile and I like what I saw

lol. Thanks. But trust me u don't need love n trust, just respect. Lol.

kenonze:


Nice dp
But wear ur shoes

thanks. Totally my choice