₦airaland Forum

thekichinboss:
True, you are right. Me I'm always grateful oooo

yes ooo, same here. please continue to be grateful so He can do more for you.
#Goodmorning

thekichinboss:
Nawa ooooooo, it is well

Na so. we have to be grateful and appreciative of how God made us. We are all unique.

thekichinboss:
.yeah I get, breastmilk and formula cannot be compared. Just that some men begin to overreact as if it is the wife's fault that breastmilk is not flowing. Some men become so aggressive you would think they want to use the milk to drink tea

you're very funny. That will be wrong sha though it can be frustrating but its not the wife's fault.
we suffered ooo, before my wife's breastmilk starts flowing, there is nothing we didn't do, from palm kernel to hot water, from tom brown to palm wine, drugs to massaging, there is nothing we didn't do or apply. I never blamed her, we were in it together, I know its not her fault. I heard it's also very common with ladies that gave both through CS.
So taking the frustration on the woman is totally wrong.

#meanwhile the milk is more important to us thank to
drink tea

McSquishi:
Well from the perspective of women in the West, African men are conservative. Maybe in comparison to your female counterparts you’re not. But from my experience in African/Nigerian groups like this one whenever an African woman expresses herself at all sexually or even dresses somewhat sexy she is shamed by the males in the society. Men might be more adventurous than the women they marry but only because the women have learned to repress their sexual desires... I’m guessing.

You’re right though, it’s a terrible marriage if you can’t tell your partner what you like in bed. but communicating is one of the most difficult things to get right in relationships, and communicating about sex can be even harder.

if women from the west see African men as conservative, then they are wrong. African men are adventurous, versatile though a few are rigid and may have ego issues but they are usually wild.

The narrative have changed a lot, a lot of women now expresses themselves and some guys like me like women who expresses themselves and go for what they want. most African men love women that can express themselves sexually and to be honest, if a lot of our women will do that, some cheating incidences will not happen. Dressing shouldn't have anything to do with one expressing her sexuality or demanding her right. I have heard a lot about northern Muslim ladies not wearing anything under their gown and some being wild and adventurous and active during sex with their partner which is the way it ought to be.

you're right, communication is key alongside other things like compromise and sacrifices. In marriages these days, communication is going down instead of increasing. Again, sometimes it's because of unyielding partner. when a partner is always turning def ear, some will stop and will begin to find alternative elsewhere though its wrong

thekichinboss:
Yeah true. Breastfeeding milk is important but it's not cast in stone if for any reason the mother can't breastfeed. And yes the child will still be smart and intelligent, it's not about breastmilk.

Although breastmilk is very essential especially in building the immunity of the child.

yeah, the child will be smart and intelligent but you can't compare breastmilk to formulas. the immunity, the attachment, the nutrients, water, etc all in one. My boy suck for over a year ooooo.

thekichinboss:
True oooo, even the thought of it sef is weird

it may sound weird but its true. we are all build differently, The one I read us the lady herself that was asking if it's Normal that she usually have orgasm when her baby suck.

Some ladies lips are so sensitive that they can have orgasm from kissing talk more of breast just that the person involve here is her child.

McSquishi:
Hmm, maybe that’s because of the conservative culture, right?!!. Women are shamed for liking sex too much and if she starts asking her husband to do all these acrobatic and new things she’s probably afraid he’d judge her?

Maybe they don’t ask because sex with the husbands isn’t enjoyable

I guess that because African men are usually conservative lovers in comparison to their counterparts in the Western world.... and many don’t really understand the female body or that sex is meant to be enjoyed by women as well. When someone doesn’t know how to please you or isn’t concerned with pleasing you it can make sex an unpleasant experience.

probably culture or maybe their orientation. It may also be because a lot of ladies marry men far older than then, whatever the reason is, its bad. Why should a woman be afraid of her husband judging her, it doesn't make sense.

you may be right, they might not ask because sex with the partner is not enjoyable and the partner is rigid not willing to find ways to give her pleasure.

African men are far from being conservative. True is, most of these things they don't do with wives at home, they do them outside. African men are far more adventurous than the women.

thekichinboss:
Sure Can't be all women ooo, cos me I don't feel anything like orgasm, it's even more of a slight sensation, mostly on the other breast that is not being sucked at that moment, and then before you know it, that one sef go dey leak milk.


I think there was a post of a girl who said she felt some kind of orgasmic way when her aunties baby sucked her boobs, but that's not her baby so I guess that's why.

hmmm, I have read something like that before, I think its ladies that have very sensitive breast. I Have also heard some ladies said their weak point is breast, I believe such ladies can orgasm when their baby suckle while some like my wife don't feel anything at all. she finds it weird self.

thekichinboss:
Na so ooo, it's like that for some women, while for some, it is fountain of flowing milk right from day 1


Body no be same, that's why person no fit dey compare mothers

you're right.

McSquishi:
The truth is a lot of women are more adventurous than their husbands. .

Hmmmm, certainly not in Africa. Here that majority of women find it very hard to ask their husbands for sex, just sex oooo.

spicing things up is good, a partner should have the interest of the next person at heart and do all he/she could to please the other. it means if a partner wants it differently the other should try to do it but the request must not be dehumanising.
If one have a partner that he/she know cannot handle pain, them should partner shouldn't be asking for what will cause or bring pain to the partner no matter how he/she love it.
understanding, compromise and sacrifices....

lilyheaven:
Milk refused to flow for two days, I started drinking palm wine , pap without sugar nor milk
Fourth day, it started flowing, but the pain was so much, I cried each time I’m feeding the baby.
Massaging with hot water helped me a lot.
Chia that pain was terrible, the pain really touched my inner heart

eyaaa, Pele. my wife did all that you mentioned above too and more. Her milk didn't come on time.

thekichinboss:
I have heard so too, but I don't know how true that it but I think it's very possible. Cos one would definitely feel some kind of sensation when the breast is being sucked

not all women.

thekichinboss:
���the way you men clamour for breastfeeding ehn

its not our fault ooo, we just want the best for the child and knowing how important breastmilk is, we have to clamour for it.

thekichinboss:
Sometimes it's like that, and I understand it would be so overwhelming for her.
It's okay to use formulas if breastmilk no gree show face, as far as baby is well fed.

it was ooo, initially I didn't agree to the use of formulas but when I noticed that he was looking malnourished, I had no option than to agree.

Wify breastmilk refused to show ooo, and when it eventually started flowing, it wasnt enough, had to buy milk for my baby.

marriage is more about companionship to me though with lots of Patience, sacrifices, understanding, maturity. etc

20 years is quite young, can she handle the pressure, the stress and issues that will arise when they're all under one roof. If she is mature enough, why not.

donnie:
Indeed

a lot of things happen behind the scene that most people don't know about.
May God help us

donnie:
Indeed

a lot of things happen behind the scene that most people don't know about.
May God help us

emae009:
try twitter and tagging notable lawyers and human rights activists alongside the bank and CBN. Twitter is known to help people faster. Just try

Thanks for this

AwesomeStormy00:
Wnat is the way out. I love my country im a Nigerian first before anything else. God help my country

Most of us do, I'm proud of my skin colour and a very patriotic Nigerian but when you look about happening and our leaders recklessness and other things happening, you begin to loose hope.

For now, its only God that can help us because we are not united as a people to demand anything positive

lanre9ja:
If u have money u can go to court or tell ur company to change ur bank details to other bank

She is not. She has open a new account and will soon start the process of linking it to IPPIS for her salary.

AwesomeStormy00:
That country is finished gosh.

Honestly, with so many anti-citizens policies.

FatherCHRISTMAS:
But the transaction/narration occurred in 2020. why are they now closing people's account.

They told her any account at all with bitcoin narration or transaction should be closed irrespective of when, that's why I want to know if anyone here also have similar experience.

ecomalchemist:
WAHALA BE LIKE NIGERIAN GOVT !!!

Their wahala just too much.


For 3 months this lady no go collect salary for just no good reason.

Norphiee:
That’s bad
I will implore you to find a good lawyer and take a legal action
The order was just given this year

She don't want the stress jare, aside that is she doing a project and can't any legal issues now.

Freestainworld:
Nigerian policy is inconsiderate of her citizens

you're super right. They don't consider the citizens when formulating policies and its bad

emae009:
find a good lawyer to sue both First Bank and CBN. Since the instruction abi order to close all accounts that transact crypocurrency was only given this year, they can't bring something that happened last year to that effect.

Somebody in the bank actually suggested that but the problem is money and time wasting in court processes.

If its a recent transaction, It will be a more reasonable reason for the closure but this is a transaction of last year that she did not know anything about.

How should they even close her account without any for of notification.


this our country, Na God go help us.

Klass99:
I feel you and I don't think those fake lashes enhances our beauty either, and yeah it does look slutty on some women I've seen.

Have you ever bothered to tell the ones you know personally that the false lashes is not a good look on them? You'll be doing them a great service, coming from a lady like me foolish ones will assume it's jealousy.

@ Richy4, I love short skirts and other outfits which are above the knees.They roll up higher on their own when we are walking, pulling it down is just reflex action.

I don't do short outfits to the point of vulgar or scandalous, it's short enough to keep me decent and appealing. I always carry a veil with me to drape it over my knees for when I sit down with my short outfits (House on the Rock Church, taught me this and now it's a habit)

I did that veil thing at an interview and my interviewers were impressed enough to comment on it.

Its always a pleasure to see or notice a lady with good home training and manners!!

Hmmmm, interesting!