@ trooe

Ok cat eyes, i'm here

@ isiokpukpo

yes, there are lots of part-time jobs in Norway. The country is also about one of the richest, most well-to-do you can think of. It's also a welfare country, i mean they financially support all groups of people . . from the old, to the jobless, to the students . . i mean every group of people benefits from the government one way or the other.

Now before you start thinking of taking the next flight to Norway, take a break and understand that the money just doesnt start running into your account immediately you land at the airport.

What i'm trying to say is that you have to be at the right place, at the right time and definitely meet the the right person. Just bear in mind that you can get a jobb, and yes even the least paid in Norway earns more than good And if you're coming to study, you can count on the government to help you to an extent.

More wonders? . . i would be glad to help!

Obviously I won't kill them . .but the way i'll treat them or act around them from that day forth, not only will they wish with every inch of their being they hadn't acted so stupidly, their conscience will severly deal with them everyday, for the rest of their hormone-controlling lives

With that said, neither my partner nor my sister is stupid. I can vouch for them with my life

plus_Queen:

wow cute -ass loooooooooong time.
+osisi here o

My dear, don't say what your eyes saw. I've missed you guys a whole lot, just been caught up in lotsa activities.

Trooe (aka omo eko) informed me you asked after me . . i'm well and bubbling. Hope you've been good?

Honey, in as much as i hate to ask you to move on with your life, you can't force love on someone who aint ready to recieve it.

What hurts my empathy in this situation is the fact that you do love him ver much, i don't need a prophet to tell me that but what do you do in a situation where your husband wants another woman and dosen't give a blinking eye about you nor his son? I say he doesen't deserve a pearl like yourself and only you can draw that line.

My dear, its time you started thinking about your hapiness and the hapiness of that little innocent boy before your emotional trauma starts running out on him. You've been everything a wife is supposed to be to this man, given him a son and ready to follow him to the ends of the earth and yet he fails to realise he needs both of you in his life?? Well its either he's been bewitched or he doesn't have a sense for good things.

I really think you should gather strength and move on . . no my dear, its not about culture here . . i've seen racial-marriages work, if the parties involved really are into it . . he just prefers his new "lust" to you . . he's just hanging on to flimsy excuses to justify his fling with this other woman . .
Like someone earlier said, I pray he wakes up from his trance, but until then, you just can't sit back and watch him drag you to his fall. You deserve better, your son deserves better . . and your husband isn't ready to give you guys that.

Bhola:

Sisikill, I think I agree with you. We should not send her to anyone that will help her self esteem.

Seriously, Tara do not go to anyone that wants to help you with your complex. Your Nigerian man is the right one for you. There aint no better man or human being out there for you. So, please fight it out. Use everything you have to make sure, he doesn't leave you. I mean, work 120 hours and Bleep his brains off. Learn Yoruba, heck, I will even teach you the language and show you how to tie iro.

Do you want her to die trying?? What else do you want her to do?? She has already indicated her interest in moving to Nigeria with him, but he still doesnt think bla bla bla. Hasn't she compromised enough?? Why can't he teach her these "cultural thingys" he fears she doesn't know and then crucify her for not trying or not showing interest. Afterall when he went after a welsh lady in the first place, he knew before hand they didn't share same culture . . yet he was willing to live with it then . . so why not now? Abegi jare, the guy is with his senses!

The wedding vows they took, wasn't made for her alone. I'm actually wondering if her love for him was ever reciprocated, i hope to God it was . .

Hey guys, lets be easy on her.

The only mistake she made was posting in a wrong section because obviously this was made for the "jokes" section. .

I'm sure it was all in an "let's laugh until our ribs hurt" intention, not to upset anyone. Its as glaring as light that she didn't cpmpose the write-up herself.

please a good sense of humour wouldn't be inappropriate at this point . . regardless of the "indirect insults"

@angelheart, i could vouch you just didn't come all the way to nairaland to throw insults at nigerian men, or did you dear??

Unfortunately i can't tell what i would do if such should be my fate (Gid forbid) . . sex isnt everything thing but it is still a very important factor in a marriage.

Now it will be very easy to say what you would "like to" do . .but until you're caught in the middle of such situation, you can't really say for sure what you would or would not do.

However, i like Constance, Caroline, Chidinma and Ego for their staying positive.

^^^so you're deliberately ignoring my calls and YIMs shey?? No wahala!

Lovely ones you got there chinweub . . i knew "the silent treatment" from before.

Please put more, it doesnt hurt to have a good laugh once in a while

idrismuna:

My hussy likes BOGOF. When we go out shopping, if he finds anything on offer, he stays glued to it calculating the discount on it. Comparing it to its substitutes.
I get easily pissed with this, because most of the time, we don't really need these things. He just like buying them because of the discount on them.

Laughing my ass off at "BOGOF" (buy one, get one free) . . in as much as i wanted to say i guess he's just being economical and all that . . i realised on the other hand that "too much of everything is bad"

Well, my dear, you'll just have to live with it and learn to love that side of him . .or even if you can't imagine "loving" it, try to accept it or else you'd only end up beating up yourself over something he doesn't even see as a problem.

Now thats some joke, lol. Analysis 101

lmcao

Welcome to the forum, hope you have a wonderful time, journey and experience.

All good things (come to an end) - Nelly Furtado

9cent:

i'm a nigerian but there are somewhats i don't seem to like about my country people and there lust for money.
let me start from the igbo's.
there other name is money lovers. they will kill there folks for money ritual.
nobody want to be cheated instead they should all die.
they use there female children to do business by placing fat bills on there inlaw to be before he can marry there daughter. even if they get married, the wife in question will still be looking out at other men out there who are pretty richer than the husband to sleep with for money making.
they are never honest people. and they will do anything for money.

for the yoruba ladies,

nothing is good bout them. no marital commitment. marrying them is a complete waste of time. they stink and love to go to party than goin to visit there husband on sick bed in hospital.
they believe nothing goes for nothing for them, u give me money and i give u Hot. lol

for the hausa'a, my god. they are the most useless set of tribe in the history of nigeria. marrying them is like marrying the animal they Rear.
they aution there daughter to another man in exchange for a cattle. they flogg there inlaw only to figure out if he realy loves her. why do i have to go through pains because i want to marry a woman when she's not the one and only in this wide world? and the funniest thing is that they are mainly illiterates.

for the calabars,
prostitution starts off the day. the first day i slept with a calabar girl was hell on me. she had to tell me ? You JUST DEY START WHEN I THOUGHT I WAS JUST ABOUT TO ROUND UP. LOL
they are very rebellious when it comes to sex and money like the igbo's and yoruba's. hausa's don't give much damn bout money rather they will demand for a cattle in exchange for their daughters.

peace out!

Eyaa poster, ndo oo. Ooops, yes, i'm igbo.

It must really suck to be you, but its a part of life to wake up one day and think you can't measure up for anyone or anything but i'm sure now that you've gotten it off your chest, it must feel a whole lot better, dunnit?

Like j-girl said, there are many other girls out there who aint nigerians, but take this along, they're no better people. They have dirty linens too.

What i think will do you a lot good is using the time you use in summing them up as monsters to find the good ones . . in an egg pack of twelve, three might be rotten and spoilt but hey, the rest nine are just good

j-girl:

Now Mr. 9 cents
1. Is it by force to love your country? Be westernized all you want. You can always marry a chinese girl or a middle eastern girl.
2. It is wrong to assume that all Igbo people are the same. Money rituals is not specific to igbo people.
3. If marrying yoruba women is a waste of time why are there any married yoruba women?
4. Marrying hausa women is not by force. You don't have to go through any pain. If you can't afford the cattle, go for another kind of woman
5. As for the calabar girl - maybe you're just a one-minute man. Try hanging in there for just one more minute.

Now that got me rolling

Well the truth in the situation is that i no longer feel the success of a relationship is measured by how long you've dated or courted. Someone you "get to know" for a year could still turn into the devil's incarnate after you've said "i do" and someone you've known for three months might retain their goodness . . and vice versa.

The advice you need, is in your heart. You alone know what and how you feel about this girl, is she someone you could imagine spending the rest of your life with, do you feel you're compartible, would you want her as a wife, . . these among others are questions you should ask yourself. If on the other hand you don't feel you're ready to commit, if you have some reservations about her, things about her you feel you still have to know . . sit her down and tell her you need more time, you're not yet emotionally ready to start courting . . and if at the end of the day you can't see both of you in a joint future, let her free before she develops deeper feelings for you.

You have the yam and the knife in your hands Just remember marriage is a "life-time-contract", not something to rush into "just because" . . . !

I think its only natural to get bored of people from time to time, not that you love or care less about them, just that we all could gain some from being on our own for a while.

Its a phase that comes and goes. After you've gotten the breathing space you need, things will be as normal as usual.

quentininc:

o baby free the babe abeg

I wasn't holding her down either, on the contrary i was helping her up

lmcao, now thats a joke. His grafite shaft among many other of his problems.

ademiller:

@ cute ass, well the english was a little confusing, and u know i no get time to give myself headache, so if that is d ansa fine, i guess the poster has forgotten bout this thread sef

Eeeya, sorry for the confusion

quentininc:

@ cute,

thats the answer girl

Thanks jare

@ poster

No matter what you're told, you're a somebody and never settle to being called less.

@ aristotle

Mrs English, well done. We know you know it all, clap for yourself, rubbish
With that attitude of yours, how will people ever dare to learn, when those they should learn from are being arrogant and too full of themselves.

elizabetta:

Is it possible for two women to get married to one man and still live in love and peace?because i have heard of women like that behaving like sister but i think they are pretending or what do you all think about this?

Some pretend, but not all. For the pretending ones, the pretence can only last for a while. For the non-pretenders, i guess the harmony would live forever.

Do i want to share my man with some other woman? Wife or concubine . . hell to da no For what nah! Is it the blade that aint sharp enough, or is the barber incapable of barbing.

Sisikill:


Rotflmao. . .took the words out of my mouth keyboard


@ Poster
No Roses please. It's soooo cliche, if she's anything like me she'll throw it in the trash the minute you hand it to her.

I think he should know his girl's taste. If she's a sucker for things like that, i mean the roses then it wouldn't be innapropriate. For some girls, roses do the trick Just as long as he doesn't expect the roses to do all the work for him. The roses should be a starting point, not the whole package.

If she's not a fairy-tale romance queen, then the roses should be deleted.

ademiller:

cute ass, u get chance

and your rong

You wish jealousy, because you didn't know it

But seriously sha, i heard the joke before and that was the answer, so if i'm wrong then nobody can be right

opokonwa:

Simple. Keep your goddamned mouth shut!

Too late, he already opened it But i'm sure he knows what to do next time, should same situation come by.

D-reloaded:

This I agree with

as for corny rose nonsense, I hope she jabs you with it.

You're mean, I swear lol.

LOL, thats girls for you. But you too, na wa for you sef. Why would you be counting how lucky someone else is when you have your own girl in your arms?
I mean nobody is asking you not to appreciate God's creature, but you don't have to be rubbing it in on someone else. The other girl is gorgeous, yea, and you thingk her guy is lucky, all good but you don't have to shout it out with a mic nah. All you could have done is appreciate her in your mind Cos no girl will be happy walking with her guy and having him wish to be in some other guy's shoe Abet you wouldn't appreciate  it if your girl saw some guy on the street and goes "that's the guy i wish i was dating" . .  Hope you get the drift

The deed's been done sha, there's only left to mend it. Your plan is a good one, but you got to have sincere words to back it up, If you love her, they shouldn't be far fetched.

Tell her that though the girl in question is pretty and all that, its her you want to be with because you think she's beautiful in and out. Tell her its her you're attracted to, ad if you wanted to date the other girl, you wouldn't be there asking her to forgive you. Tell her you were just trying to be honest with her, not hurt her. Tell her that in your eyes she'll always be your queen irrespective of someone else's beauty, she's the one that's got your heart beating.

I'm not telling you to say these things for saying's sake oo, but because you mean them, because that's how  you feel about her. I assume i'm right Cos otherwise you wouldn't be here seeking advise to soften her heart, right?

She'll come around, just give her some time, and be sweet to her. She naturally felt the love you have for her is measured by her beaty, let her know it isnt and both of you will be just fine.
Next time, please be careful eehn, in as much as its unrealistic, every girl wants to be "miss world" in her partner's eye" Just do everything in your power to avoid the question if the answer isn't what you think she wants to hear Cos i don't feel you should lie either.

D-reloaded:

were you drunk? 

No seriously is this like your first relationship?

How does anyone still fall for that trick in this century?

Ok how long have you two been together? I'd admit she sounds young because only a girl would ask such a question. It usually means they need assurance that you believe they are "the most beautiful person in the world", most mature women don't ask such questions because frankly we know we wouldnt like it if we hear the opposite of what we want thus we avoid the wahala all around.

I thought so too, lol

Let me try:

no.2 and no.3 have to cross over first. no.3 gets off, while no.2 comes back with the boat. Then no.1 alone goes to the other side where no.3 is and gets off the boat.
no.3 returns with the boat, picks no.2 and both of them cross over with the boat together . . all three are on the other side, safe and sound

Am i right?

smile4kenn:

sorry cute-ass, i feel you, i know what it takes to miss a loved one

Thanks. Take heart yourself. God gives, and God takes!