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Fun reading it, wasnt hard at all . . guess its true what the author said, "the human mind doesnt read letters by itself, but the word as a whole"

WORD!!!

@ SAM MILLA

You're really cracking my ribs, i can't laugh no more . . bring 'em coming

@ PHEESAYOUR

Have you sat down to think what the cause of your problem might be??

If you keep finding yourself in a same compromising situation over and over again, then maybe there's something you're not doing right??

Are you the kind that has to have a girlfrind?? Could it be you leap before looking instead of the other way round??

If all these girls really are your girlfriends then maybe you've been rushing into things

Take your time, don'tbe vulnerable, don't act desperate, Cos you'll only end up attracting the wrong girls. Before jumping into a relationship, take time to study a girl . . true love is difficult to find, only but a few get it served. When you find that true love, believe me your days of creating numerous threads will be over

frankiriri:
Very true. I am from a polygamous family so I know where the shoe pinches.

Sorry eehn, but no experience is a waste, now you know what you wouldn't put your own kids through

davidylan:
@ cute-ass
your point is duly noted. A neighbour of my uncle's i once knew lived separate from his wife for the first 2 years of their marriage. there were married only 2 weeks and the wife did not want to settle in Nigeria so she could get naturalise as a US citizen. the guy had a good bank job here and did not want to leave.
After 2 years he got tired of hoping for one visit or the other and decided to go join her for good.
There were fine for the 2 years they were apart so its definitely possible for a relationship to survive that.

thats the thing, actually literally the chances are 50/50, but worldly chances of surviving 30/70

There are those things you seem to weigh the negativity to the possible positive, things like online dating, distant relationships and the rest

I guess the answer should be "following one's heart" Cos in situations like this two people will give an exact same story, but each with a different outcome.

Until you tried or not try, you'll never find out the other. A and B have different destinies . .

would i want to do that? lai lai! Where i go you go!

Are you asking sef?? Even if it means holding the edge of he aeroplane, as long as we land at the same destination

I could do a distant relationship just fine, but knowing the frustrations, i wouldn't want it in a marriage, esp. if kids are involved But dear what do you do when you're in the situatuon with "that one", . . life

fashigiggs:
Wen it comes to true Love "its difficult to find, easy to lose and hard to forget" remember this and u will find true LOVE.

I love that sound

and @ lilrukevwe

Don't be desperate either, in its time, it shall happen

@ Davidylan

I get your point, thought about that

But the truth?? you can't predict tomorrow

What if the 3-4 years turns into 9-10 years or even forever. Afterall she doesn't want to relocate to naija just yet, and there's no gurantee that she would in those number of years

When you don't live together, I mean a situation where you're dependant of the embassy to see your spouse, your view might change, you might fall for someone else during the period of time

If they're not about to live together as man and wife yet, what difference does it make?? Let them wait because they stood the test of time, are meant to be and love each other . . not because of the "ring"

I know married couples sometimes have to go through the same thing, not all find it amusing either but then they couldn't prevent it

modification: Or is there something else they'll gain from it?? have they thought of having kids already?? which i think makes it worse, why have kids when mum and dad don't live under the same roof (yet)??

@ chiege

This one is blue, are you coming or not

The more i read about the GPA, the more confused i get, ngwa, lets go

Noo ooh, no second wife

The consequences are just too much and disheartening, hm hm, lai lai

Like someone else said, we'll adopt (God forbid i be in the shoe though but should incase), I'll rather do artificial insemination and the kid is ours

Second wives can be dangerous, family and home wrecking, peace and fun breakers, and before you know it, it graduates to "my own, her own, our own"

When you invite a lady to share your home and husband esp. on the grounds that you can't bear kids, you can as well wave your hapiness good-bye, Cos right before your two eyes it'll fly out the window

What i dislike most is the sharing and turns, *shaking head* Mba oooh, no, nei, nehi, no!!!

I gather you're yoruba - - i had to recollect a song we usually sang just to remember the language lol

But you're mostly welcome to nairaland, the forum of intellectuals , you're one already

Have fun dear, eeeeeeeennnnnnnnjjjjjjjjjoooooooooyyyyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!

chiegemba:
@ cutie; right behind u exitin

LOL - - that way dear, the blue door

IBDat:
Exactly - the guy no get mouth to complain, have u seen his numerous threads?

My dear, i have oo and i've been advising and advising so tey sey my fingers were wearing out, I was most shocked to see him here again

And at the beginning i was like "oh, that girl he was talking about", but then he shot himself by saying "this is another chick"

Omo Eko:
@cute-ass
Abeg ignore them sweetie

Good idea, I'll do just that

IBDat:
LMAO - This is another girl

- Well it's simple - If she's new and u're not a liar - Leave her triffling ass
- If she's been around since, while u too were playn - Why are u making noise, recognise the game and abide by the rules

ROFLMCAO The rules of "the game" - - -

1) Take back fellow cheats afterall birds of a feather flock together
2) Don't complain o, afterall you're getting a taste of your own paracetamol
3)

Omo Eko:
It's called Grade Point Average

Thanks hun, that means I'm in the wrong thread We don't do Grade point average here

Will find the exit myself

@ omo eko

What can i say girl??

@ fekuti

fekuti:
cute-ass if you weren't so slow, you'd realize that akinwunmi's response was to the thread starter.
you're full of it, you have chop were on top of the food wey them serve you.

Doesnt that show you how much i don't want to communicate with you?? I want it so badly (not to know you exist) that it drives me insane

fekuti:
I'll have you know you've been kissing mine all this time.
All in hopes that I'll stop pestering you, but I won't

Thanks for the revelation dear, you're in love but for Christ's sake, I'm not. Biko rapum aka (leave me alone)

@ niceuzor

It doesn't matter, you already did your worst. But point of correction though

niceuzor:
mind you i didnt mean to hurt u afterall u started it all.

If you left my post where it was, whether a text book, novel, compositon, poem or a word, believe me we wouldn't be here. When i see other's story book, I love to read them and if you don't feel like reading them, why not just jump and pass.

Or was i holding a gun to your head?? Nairaland I bow . .

chiegemba:
@cutie; hey girl! how u dey !

Sweethaert i'm fine, at work sha, thats why i cant holla

Nobody wants to tell us what GPA is, why now??

@ niceuzor

After stalking me for ages, you finally realise I'm a bitch?? Wonderful. It took some time though, but better late than never right??

niceuzor:
U think typing whole book will make u the best in Nairaland u fail o

You didnt remember i was the worst on nairaland when you were going about seeking my contacts, hypocrite
I just had the feeling you weren't the kind of peep i mingle with, did you just prove me right or what? *sighs*

For crying out loud peeps, i and chiegemba will appreciate it if someone told us what is GPA lol

post edited slip of fingers

Buahahahahahahahah Johnny, johnny, I like the way he thinks

Some peeps are better left unreplied, yea i think i'll stick to that . .


It seems to me though that my attention means so much to you, well get it into your scull, I don't like your company.

Now I'll leave the thread for you, I don't chat with morons, neither do I kiss their asses

Have a lovely day/night/evening or morning though , you're below my feet, just accept it and we'll all have a happy life, and if you wouldn't accept it, it doesnt hurt you to deny it either, rat

*thinking to herself* "he really does think he'll have me tonight, not a chance in hell" how sad!!!!!!!

luxoire:
my question to you guys now is this:
WE ALL KNOW RELIGIOUSLY / MORALLY abortion is wrong. CAN YOU FIND ANY OTHER REASON (other than those 2) TO JUSTIFY KEEPING A PREGNANCY, YOU COULDN'T HANDLY OR LIVE WITH?

@ twinsy
So we're now doing the part 2 of the thread, shey?

Well if you ask me, it could only be one more

THE FEARS AND DANGERS OF AN ABORTION

I know like you and haywhy said, it isn't that risky but lets take it to the African standard.

For some reasons unknown to me (maybe because in Nigeria f.ex. it easn't legal to abort), the girs and their boyfriends choose to go to a quack . . now we all know it takes an extra miracle for a girl who has been to the quack's to come out whole. Some end up dead, while most of the rest end up wombless or organly difigured

Most girls after witnessing or hearing such stories, would run for their dear lives, forgetting the chances of a successful abortion if done at a reputable hospital, the fears beaten into these girl make those aware of the possible success as scared as the rest, hence they'll rather bear the kid and put it up for adoption.

Coming to europe on the other hand, where morals and religion aren't really the order of the day, and they take doing abortion as light as going to get an injection, the girls carry out abortions on daily basis.
Esp. if they don't want the pregnancy, without blinking twice, the pregnancy is already gotten rid of

So i really do think that the talk of "abortion" being such an important topic lies in the four corners of Africa

fekuti:
housfly, must you write a book everytime you respond to a post.

Why arent I surprised to have this honour of having you to be the assistant housefly, no, on the igbo thread, you were crowned a rat so i'll stick to that.

Now if your rat ears will listen, you either buy the book or take a hike to whatever part of the world you so damn please, but please keep your lousy comments to yourself, I don't give a hoot about them, and i certainly couldn't care less

Order your cab, please.

How can you be asking whether to move on with a lesbian??

Don't you love yourself at all??

the truth is that even if both of you mutually decide to keep going, sooner or later her real her will take over, and where does that leave you if you guys have gone far??
If she's a defined lesbian, I suggest you quit at the top of the game, and prevent both parties any future dissapointments and heart break and ruined dreams

If she's bisexual on the other hand, thats a different story. Your chances of loosing her to another lady will be pretty much the same chances of loosing your straight girl to a fellow guy, you just have to keep your fingers crossed, No one can predict tomorrow