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babyosisi:
May the Lord continue to bless you and your sister Ansa and take you to heights you've never known before,in Jesu's name.

Totally in support oo, I'm short of words (that doesn't happen often) . . two parents? gosh - - please eehn dearie take heart ooh, your sis too.

@ fifie 90

On first thoughts?? No she isn't the one

On second thoughts?? maybe, just maybe she is

God revealed her secrets to you, she confessed. Her actions (sleeping with a married man) is very bad, but who's perfect or without sin?? It might be she really did drop her deeds then, or maybe she's just putting on an act

But they do say, that a broken trust is hard to regain, could it be your subconciousness is making you virsualise that she's still going down the evil path??

Give it some time, pray for her and about her, God revealed her escapades to you, now don't forget that the same God could turn one's worst habit Even a prostitue willing and with God's grace can change, why can't she??

If she's meant for you, then there are chances God has made her a new person, but please take your time, do not rush things. Continue waiting on God, listen to the spirit, and in time, God will prove the TRUTH (whether she's for you or not) to you, in more ways than one

God watches out for those he loves, remember that, he'll lead you though

Tips??


Tell her how you feel, pour out your heart to her in all sincerity, there are chances she feels just the same and wants you as a guy to make the first move, your delaying any longer might make her conclude you aren't interested, she changes direction, falls for another, and when your mouth is unsealed, it'll be too late

Time waits for no man, and let your guiding thought be this " there are two answers to the declaration, a yes that would make you the happiest being on earth, or a no, that would hurt you for a while but give you the chance to continue life" Believe me, its not worse than that.

You could start off by asking little little questions, that reveal your intentions to a point, her reaction will guide you the rest of the journey, and when you come close to stepping out from your shell a bit, you wouldn't want to stop, and before you know it the question is poped.

Now go get your "curly sue" (girl) pal

tenor:
that part of the "lady actually sleeping off" got me startled. could it be that she actually enjoyed it?

Or maybe he was too rough and had sex like a beast, that she was totally exhausted

Rape is rape though, whether the person enjoys it or not

Ok dear, lets see

Well there's actually little or nothing you can do to prove it, until she's been with you and you don't dump her for a better target at the end of the day. Thats how you can prove it.

But till she accepts your proposal, just use your actions (that are greater than words) to tell her its she/her you love, do little sweet romantic things, surprises, just be a gentleman, and for the whole time when you're still wooing her heart, keep to her

At the end of the day (be it a moth, 2 weeks, a year), and you don't deviate from her, don't go after other women, be it for sex, long time relationships or any other thingy, she'll be damn sure its her and no one else you want and probably love, then you've passed the test of time and tempetation in flying colours

To her, you might fight tooth and nail just to prove you could get her, but if at the end of the day you still stick to her, then you're a graduate of love

The time taken, might feel frustrating, or too long but do remember that "no good thing comes easily", and at the end of it all, yo'll emerge the winner, Cos she's the perfect premier, thinking of tjose should make you hang on, don't give up, and give all you got.

Good luck, true love is hard to get, if she's your true love, then fight to have her no matter how hard

That was da bomb, MATHEMATICAL LOVE indeed

Wait, i have to copy it immediately

@ knotty

the truth is that i don't fancy the idea of couples sleeping in seperate beds, seperate rooms?? thats not even imagineable (to me oo), but i know there are some couple couples who have it as their way of life and have been working out just fine

but the difference between you and those peeps, is that they agreed jointly to it, have lived like that forever. When you just wake up one morning and just decide that your sharing a room isnt cuting the cake for you anymore, its questionable and not so pleasing to the ear

Something must have led to your sudden change of mind, and i think resolving it would be a better option, Cos running away from it all in the name of "sleeping in seperate rooms", wouldn't solve a thing, might make it worse
And if its a habit she developed or something about her that turns you off after she's slept, then work towards banning the habit (for better, for worse remember)

I've seen couples that do it, with the rutine of one, tip-toeing (if they have kids ) to the other's room on the night of sex, And i've always asked myself: was that why they got married??
Where's the feeling you get from rolling over, and being in your spouse's arms??, cuddling uncalled for??, having intimacy come naturally??, feeling their presence around you?? stealing a kiss or two in the middle of the night?? waking up together and smiling at each other?? the feeling of togethernes, oneness and unity?? that dream you've heard, and waiting to be married and share it with the "one and only"??


Well its not in my place to judge them, its their cross . . but in your case, she didnt choose it, and if i were in her shoes i'll be devastated, but don't sleep with her just to please her or because Nairaland users say so, that'll only create hatred towards her in your mind. Resolve things and do it (sharing her bed) because there's no other place you'd rather be than beside her, EVERY NIGHT, FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIVES (TO LOVE AND TO HOLD) Good luck pal

Moriki:
Please cute_ass, this is not a fight!
I can imagine the rage when u send the post with all that stressing NNNN and OOOO!
Since you don't like the picture, alright!
Then do you like the man?

LOL, who said it was the pic i didn't like, its the man in the pic so again

NNNNNOOOOOOO, i don't like him him him nah by force?

youngies:
Somadina is not a bad name _{cute-ass please help to tranlate somadina}

Somadina = "don't want to stand alone"

reminds me of

nkemdiche bu ajô aha
"mine is different" is a bad name

Ônweghi ihe ana ahughi ka emelu nani ônwu
Only "death" has no solution, any other thing does

Anuta agbôghô, a chupu agadi
When a young flashy maiden is married, the older one is thrown aside (how rude)

@ topic/peeps

Its not in all cases the person has to be "bi" to stick with their opposite sex partners

It is possible (i said possible) that she's a lesbian - - - like IBDat mentioned, its not very easy to reveal that being in you. Some will want to deny it not to bring dissappointment and shame to their family and live under the umbrella of supressing their true feelings and desires

They know what the world consider normal is getting married to an opposite sex, make babies and unite a family, some want that though deep down, who they are contradicts

So yea its possible she's lesbian even though she's still with him

debosky:
Omo Eko cool down now, its not that serious. he obviously doesn't know what he's talking about.

I support that statement 100%, but thats no excuse for his uncalculated response People who don't know what they're talking about or have anything worthwhile to say, shut their traps, very simple

If he's bored of being on nairaland, couldn't he just join the "forum games" than lay false lame irritating annoying wretched infected and stupid accusations

Or does everything have to be joked with?? Its a public forum, and there are lots of guests and members, why would anyone in their right mind and senses make such arrant comments on a life they have no clue about??

@ whatever the poster calls himself

General chief of the armed forces, you want to stop "yahoo girls", what have you done about all the "419" ers and scammers roaming the streets?? Those nymphos who claim to be virgins . . what bloody business of yours is it??

The last time i checked, it took one to know one, abeg just zip it up jare, and keep your assumptions to yourself. Does it seem like we're interested??

one love my foot *sighs*

MILITIA:
Why do some of us behave like we have been "jazzed" by "Ominigbon"(juju)-----that we cannot even see the truth? Wetin them gif una chop sef? OBJ an "ex-president" and "a hero"? Please try an "ex- khaki dictator" and a "mugu".

God bless your fingers jare . . paint the truth, turn it upside down, view it from sides, angle 180 degress sef - - the truth remains the truth

Afterall Obasanjo wasn't our country, he was only the president, taking sides with him will only make it seem the character he exhibited was the "supposed" way of life and ruling - - - which it isn't, not by a long shot

Lovely pics . . Big congrats to your dad oo

@ drrionelli

LOL . he's just being sarcastic, since people would say meeting a bad or stone hearted or wrong girl can lead you to your untimely grave , its just in the name of fun, cheer up dear
But when i saw the heading, i was coming in to ask him if anybody wanted to die young, before nko? lol

@lobinoxebe

You've been her friend for a while, you should know if she's a good gir or not. If she is and you do like her, just ask her out. You'll have to date someone sooner or later (if you haven't decided on being a catholic priest "father" , It seems she has a thing for you, but didnt want to come out pushy, asked you to be her friend to give you the open floor to take the next step, and maybe the reason why she turned down your friend, because she wants you

It could also mean she doesn't want nobody yet, but thats something we'll find out when you've given it a shot, right??
But only if you like her, if not, don't , if you do, Thats when you'll die young, raising her hopes and dropping it from such a height (girls don't like that)

But while you're at it, snap out of the supersticious name thingy, Who cares what Mabel means anyway, its of no consequence to you or the relationship you might build. Thats the preoblem with nigerians.
When i attended secondary school in naija, i almost changed my name from Linda to Jennifer or Venessa because nigerians would tell me my name meant "pretty serpent", some even scared me by telling me i acted like a serpent atimes *foolish people *, if not for my British Pricipal, thank God who told me she wouldnt lt me change my lovely name just because . .

Your name means what you wants it to mean, though i've come to find out my name stands for "pretty (the serpent not included" (spanish name meaning bella), in naija i decided to tell the ignorant peeps that "the serpent my name stood for, was the serpent in the Bible that the Isrealites looked upon and were healed

Leave whats written on the cab and just enter into it, the girl is just fine Good luck with your love escapade pally

tafari:
why are you shocked?

Didnt know you had a wife

Omo Eko:
My own opinion oh and don’t take it personal, it should be Tmoni winning instead of cheifoh

Who told you that (personal preferences sha)

voted based on popularity Hey re u at work

Yes ooh, I'll be home in 2 hrs time I'll holla when i get home

@ busygirl

Hey girlfriend, quite an age

Not very soon i guess

Orikinla:
Beyonce cannot bluff Jay-Z.
He has nothing to lose if she leaves.

His hands are full.
Jay-Z has style and has a large heart for charity too.

are you serious??

And who says Beyonce has anything beyond style, or that her heart was large for being stingy

Lets just say, they're a great couple and stop analyzing who leaves who, or who worths more . . its of no consequence, lovers worth the same, same great loss no matter who walks

busygirl:
WHY? he deserves it, if you ask me

@ omo eko
Darling, take heart, snatches the best of them, but their foot prints in our lives and hearts will never fade away (a power death cannot exhibit) Its well

@ muki

yea . . what could have been, but never was

No matter how same situation you share with someone, you can never say you know how they feel. I can only imagine what its like loosing a parent, esp. a mum (not that dads are less in worth, no but)

But you're right, that hope of meetng them some day never to path again.

Take heart dear, God knows best (hard to believe in times like this, but he does)

When i usually asked God why he took him away at such a young age, my mum would say "it would have been harder if he died in his 20's when he now had his future in his palms"

Like you said, no matter when or how, or where they die, its just as painful - - - I never understood death until it snatched something so precious right before my eyes from my palm, I could do nothing but cry - - - defintion of the inevitable things in life , , , , It shall be well, love ya

@ muki

You're right, with time it gets easier, you learn to live with the loss, you remember them and instead of anger you smile and just love them

Just that writing now, made it all real, i was just crying like it just happened. Maybe becasue i've never expressed it writtenly, but its all good

One thing i know, i'm ever grateful to God for letting me know him, though just for a little while  - - i remember asking God, "If he was going to die so young, why bring him in the first place", they were just words in anger.

I think you should take the gift (from your mum), and use it. Let it remind you that she's there with you, will forever live on in your heart, and that she loved you so dearly, use it to remember her, her gentle soul, beautiful ways and that she is your mum (not even death can change that)

tafari:
i am in love with my WIFE

I light a candle for my maternal grandmum who passed away 5 months after my birth, I never got to see you, I've seen pictures though, but your stories everywhere i go make you live in my heart, rest in peace

for my paternal grandparents, granddad in 1996 and grandmum in 1991, you're the best one could ever ask for, loved ya till death and even after , , will never forget the song you composed with my name, rest in peace

I light two candles for - - - - - -
YOU (the one person i would have laid my life for), the day YOU passed away to rest in the bosom of the Lord (14th April 2004, just two days after our sister Benita's birthday), was and will remain the worst day of my life. I didn't think i could live another minute, i never thought i could survive without YOU in my life . . My brother Shalom
My love for you is undescribeable, words can't begin to explain, I loved you with every atom of my body, soul, life, you were my one in all. Writing this brings tears to my eyes , and the wonderful days and memories i had with you for the four years you spent on earth, you were just too much. Like no one i had ever seen, little but mighty . .
I couldn't stop blaming myself that maybe . . , the doctor who . . , mama for . . , i was even ready to dig you up after your burial Cos i thought "what if he has woken?" But no, it was goodbye, after you told me you loved me (in your tongue, it came out "i lobe you" lol, i and Benita still mimick the way you talked), wish i knew it would be "the last",

For as long as i breathe, you'll remain dearest to my heart, i might never stop wondering "what if", and i make this promise, "MY FIRST SON SHALL BE NAMED AFTER YOU, you were my little hero - - - I LOVE YOU SO SO SO MUCH, MY LOVE, DEAREST BROTHER, SHALOM (DEATH, YOU ARE SO WICCCKKKED

_{(no, not him on my profile}

mukina2:
to the queen of my heart, my angel, my love , who died on the 23rd of october 2006 i am missing you every day but i know you are in a better place than i am .Mama i know it was God's will that you go when you didnt even get to reap from the kids you had .we love you and we are praying fro you everyday.
i miss you miyonta and i love you more . rest in eternal peace Mama  

Please eehn take heart dear, God will be your strength, shelter and rock

The kind of situation where i love the ratio 50/50

It all depends on what kind of children you got

Both girls and boys can be co-operative and less needy, both could be a tog of war too.

Girls could grow being men-chasers, bad-friends-followers or "body at home, spirit and legs outside", and suddenly the little girl you used to know isn't (or wouldn't be) that your "little girl" no more (parents find it hurting)

Boys on the other hand, could grow up being nuissances, causing trouble in the whole neighbourhood, having sex with every Mary, Hannah and Esther as if there was no tomorrow, money greedy to meet up with friends and latest "must haves" (and before you know it junior is a man (or he thinks he is))

ryu11:
it's obvious honey, your name afterall is J, freak

Come back here, aren't you forgetting something??

Kemjisuper:
I'm in love with - just a minute, whatamIdoing? This game is whack!

Tell us who you're in love with jare

@ topic

Hmmm anyways i'm in love with MYSELF

OlowoTee:
jsut taht i gto msesed pu wehn i cmae aorcss the wrod taotl mses & phoelm.

(_{just that i got messed up when i came across the word taotl mses & pboerlm.)}

But you've caught the gist now, haven't you?

Omo Eko:
Hey sweetie missed you but will be soon lecture time

Hey love, I'm at work. Miss you a 100