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It can be a nice look on some. But I always felt it was more for the flirting with others than for the bobo at home. Heck, its not like there is any mystery there anymore. Unless of course, you aint tapped that yet. But if she's comfy, am aight.

How does this addiction thingy work? Do we repair to a crack house or this more of a clinic deal?

Jackal:
Marrying a feminist is just pushing one's luck.
Why would i marry a woman that believes she has got equal rights as i am?
Gender equality me ass.
A woman's submission is one of the sterling qualities of a virtuos woman. . . anything apart from that, she can ferk off!!!

I guess you're right. Why you need a good mate to help lift you up? When you can work hard enough for two and come away with less than enough for one. But what the hell, you've got a virtuous woman. I know that would give me a rise everyday

Its all good for a bit static on forums. Its those that want to reenact the static in their lives that kinda get me scratching my head. Some can dish but get all riled when it gets regurgitated. Sometimes we all have to bend over and grit our teeth. Its whosoever's will prevails.

RedHotChic:
Once again, mongolian VD can humiliate your sword. Don't say you weren't warned.

Mongolian VD! Hmmmm!! This na intimacy gadget?!

There was good reason for the Feminist Movement. And there are many areas of gender inequality around today. So the struggle continues. But a lot of what is taken as feminism, especially amongst we Black folk, is just women mouthing off about beating men down. Now I have no problem with a woman beating down any man of her choice. If thats what gets him off then more power to him. Just not cool with the 'Bills, bills, bills' mantra that keeps being yelled around. Yes I can pay your bills but can you shut the hell up for a minute so I can actually get to know you!

Creamish:
haaabbbaaaaa!! Is that possible? My own Cyclone!!

I don record this O! For future reference Keep keeping on sha

Its not easy to learn kissing from TV and video. No blame Niaja guys too much. Some of them don't even have kissing in their repertoire. Omo Olosan never required that. Just enter room, remove wrapper and ding dong.

jennykadry:
and who told u that,its everybody that like pounded yam and egusi

Tell me when you find the Naija man who doesn't. You can interchange the egusi with ogbono, edikainkan, onugbu, gbegiri or whatever. But love it we do.

jennykadry:
poster u can say that again sweetie naija men kiss as if they have hot pounded yam inside diaa mouth

That just shows we've got our priorities right. Which kind kiss can compare to the allure of hot pounded yam with egusi elemi meje?!

I agree that no relationship worth a damn can be reliant on one mate dominating the other. It not only isn't necessary it fails to get the best out of both mates. A guy marrying a feminist must love her for the strong will and passion with which she applies herself. He wouldn't want to see that flame extinguished. Ever!

Remember that for every ring of laughter, there is a tear falling somewhere on earth. You may not be directly hurting anyone through the exercise of your free will but sometimes a lot of damage can be done. Very often what we call free will is a series of connections and loops that have been pre programmed. We just just don't, or choose not to; see the machinations. Sometimes society may take time to evolve but its evolution has to be by mutual consent. Even wild beasts live by a social code.

Subscribe on O! The world will continue to be a happier place.

t00 cUTE:
because the world made them so, u knw most times we re taken 4 granted, so if all can't be hard let some be,

If na only some e for good. But dem plenty like locust. A plague on all their houses.

Everybody gets taken for granted sooner or later. The good provider, the good mother, the wise one, the strong one. Thats survival of the most cunning for you. Its not how upright you stand, its how far you see when you look up.

Creamish:
If your my long lost Charly, then your welcome

Long lost?!

No be una abandon man and troway?

Woman may not know her worth but she sure can put a price on a man; down to the very last decimal point.

Somethings don't require all this boasting O. There is a natural capacity for nurturing in some of us. But why is it that some women are as hard as walnuts?

Is this a private love in or can we all join in?

Sometimes human being naturally repress things. It's a perfectly natural response to stress or fear. I am just saying that the rearing up of feminism in a relationship can have the effect of lashing out at one person for the sins of many. That just can't be right.

Being part of a society does imply subsuming oneself into the culture and rules of that society. In order to relate to others we sometimes have to use society as reference point. Of course no one should be limited by the limitations of the society they live in. But they have to live by it norms. That might mean not exposing ones vulnerability to opportunists in the name of being strong and independent. If you really want to be strong, you can wait to express your views challengingly in the right forum, or you can work your guy over pretty hard in bed. I am sure he will love that kind of strong independence!

[quote author=HR.hotness link=topic=144237.msg2401070#msg2401070 date=1214044285]In my opinion, being a feminist means u are should be rational and show good judgemnt. . . I expect that she should always show good judgemnt unless u are planning on being irrational and applying extreme stress[/quote]All relationships will have moments of extreme stress. Thats perfectly natural. Its just not appropriate to reduce everything to gender biases and sexism. Sometimes we all have to confirm to societal definitions of genders. That doesn't stop a good relationship being a good relationship. When this go awry we fix them. No need to go burning bras. All I am saying is small pikin wey wan stretch neck to see wetin old person dey do must be ready for pepper wey go wash im eye.

[quote author=HR.hotness link=topic=144237.msg2401016#msg2401016 date=1214043331]I expect any man who marries a feminist would have found a balance between commitment, love and respect and therefore there should be no need for her fight the causein her own home.

If you treat her right, there will be no need for her to be "feminist" at home [/quote]You know that, sometimes after a cat has spent all day chasing chickens it might think that its a tiger. The balance should be found but dog wey rear up for hind leg must know that when im come down na run be im next move. So she just needs to show good judgement even in times of extreme stress.

If they have a good relationship then he should thank God and continue to look forward. Being a man means being able to take the hard decisions. He shouldn't back out because it will bring some difficult calls. When he is married he should continue to do what he can. Others will just have to apply themselves to pick up the slack.

She can be a feminist at work, on the street, in the market; or wherever she likes but as long she is feminine at home then we know where we're going. Cause we know women cant stand a man who is a major wuss. A woman with a good head on her shoulders and a great intellect is to be cherished. She just needs to be wise too. Since we don marry I would assume we no get fight. So if she make mistake and confuse love with license then lion go enter market place!

Sometimes kissing requires you to really get close up to the kissees face. To be honest, with some faces this is going above and beyond the call of duty. So what you might think is inability is an overwhelming desire not to. This why the principle of "Cover the face and fire the base" exists.

Ewo! See enemies all around you! Next time you go learn to look away and squeeze face. I no blame you sha. So many times all these babes dey use all kind camouflage. Whether na make up or push up bra; you don't know what you're getting getting till the unveiling. Then those pert breasts can become flat pancakes and the nice round globules become bean bags! But you just have to deal.

Next time if na joke you wan joke, put on a DVD.

Rockchick:
More, more and moe to come. who has a problem wit me and Micheal bolton

Please! Michael Bolton is a truly awful singer who is full of himself. And since he's shite we know exactly what he's full of.

@Derby - This is a new twist on an old scam. This your good name would have been better held up if you weren't a dude. Of course its possible you might be suffering from gender dysmorphia. In which case, seek treatment!

http://hi5.com/friend/169247653--Derby--Profile-html

Rockchick:
My Fav Love Song is "A Love so Beautiful" By Micheal Bolton

C'mon!!!

Some men might and some women might. Its all a cultural thing. In Naija men are brought up to see relationships are very functional. I could never stop laughing whenever I heard my Gran or Aunts describe a woman as serviceable. Some/Most Naija men just take their relationships for granted.

But their are plenty of women who feed into it too. Just like you can't make a Ho into a Housewife; you can't get blood from stone. If you choose a guy who is clearly emotionally superficial, how can you be surprised when he's sat stonily faced watching football while you are desperate to talk about the price of meat in the market. He aint got it to give and he aint gonna give it up. If you can't walk away don't walk in.

A word of advice; forget stressing about 77 things and stick to the one thing you do know. And thats free advice!

Tetchiness - I concur with you on 'Baby' by Ashanti. A real smooth groove. But all that Whitney Houston dross, hell no! Her best stuff was done in the 90s. Go check it out.

And whats with the "all songs by" stuff. Thats just lazy, not to talk of lame. If you cant think of a song, go away, plug in your earphones and come back with something that says something

For me, just a few that pluck those strings are:

Straight From the Heart - Con Funk Shun
Killing Me Softly - Roberta Flack
If Only For One Night - Luther Vandross
Any Love - Luther Vandross
Oh No - The Commodores
For The Love of You - The Isley Brothers
Put That Woman First - Jaheim
I Forgot To Be Your Lover - William Bell
Can't We Try - Teddy Pendergrass
Is It Still Good To Ya - Teddy Pendergrass
You're My Latest Greatest Inspiration - Teddy Pendergrass
Right Here Waiting - 112
If This World Were Mine - Alicia Keys featuring Jermaine Paul
Stranger In My House - Tamia
Officially Missing You - Tamia
Can't Get Enough - Tamia
Come As You Are - Eric Benet
Trade It All - Fabolous
What's Come Over Me - Amel Larrieux and Glen Lewis
How You Gonna Act Like That - Tyrese
Be Without You - Mary J. Blige
Beautiful - Charlie Wilson featuring Snoop Dogg and Pharrel

Just think about who you would put first, her or yourself? that should answer it for you.

Perfect figure today can become Oprah Winfrey tomorrow. Just chop and clean mouth, when better reach your hand.