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He stated his personal opinion, is there a law against that?

Realist2:
We are in CHANGE, things are supposed to be done differently, or do you want us to change the CHANGE ?

When it favours you, you remember we are in change. Hmmm Nigerians na only God go fit save us from ourselves

This same thing was done to Ameachi, and Goodluck kept quiet. Using 5 legislators. The commissioner of police then watched the activities from his office window which was opposite the state assembly in Rivers State.

kokomaster3d:
Same thing people told Noah, until the distruction. Be warned

From the beginning of time there has been and will always be people who say YES and those that say NO. So that is not indicative of the subject matter...

udoka55555:
I don't like the idea of the presidency having all the powers....... all the governors are crying... east, west, north and south....

some even have to withdraw as CSO of their states...

this is very bad

When local government chairmen were crying, what did you say

This is one snap shot that is in a split of a second. Someone blinking at the precise moment will look the same.

tempest69:
This is the typical none sense being preached by religion. Religion stinks..

Religion makes you Ask, seek crave for what you already have..

Adam and Eve good example. They want to be like God but the fact is they are already like God.


Religion will quote jargons to whoo you into guilt like this post. Simple definition of sin and they can quote of the bible..

Sin is simply the mixture of Good and evil. I. E Knowledge of Good and evil..

Genesis 2:9 And out of the ground made the LORD God to grow every tree that is pleasant to the sight, and good for food; the tree of life also in the midst of the garden, and the tree of knowledge of good and evil.


Genesis 2:17 But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.





And this is the icing on the cake.

Genesis 3:5 For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil. Genesis 3:22 And the LORD God said, Behold, the man is become as one of us, to know good and evil: and now, lest he put forth his hand, and take also of the tree of life, and eat, and live for ever:..




Hope this helps..

#HATERELIGION

They will not take their time to read this and its implications.

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VANENON:
This is really deep. Wish i saw this long long ago. However its still useful.

Frankly it might not have made any difference. Why?
I am sure Adam promised God not to eat of the fruit in the midst of the garden. He eventually did when Eve gave it to him.
What makes life what it is, is the prevalent uncertainty, and in that uncertainty breeds hope, and a reason to forge on.
The person you are today is not the same person you were 5 to 10 years ago. So when you make a promise 10 years ago, you are actually making that promise from the stand point if I continue the be, to think and to act the way I currently am. The point at which you make the promise.

Alas we often never remain the same and promises are broken and on and on

Judas betrayed christ, Peter denied him 3 times before the cock crowed....we can go on and on

A person that has been diagnosed of a terminal ailment more often dies faster than if the person had not been told why?
My reasoning is that in lifes equation the portion of uncertainty has been removed consequently there is no more hope. With no more hope there is no more drive which is life force and eventually they die.

Why do people commit suicide, because they are not able to see beyond their obstacle or challenge!!!

In summary, nothing in life, absolutely nothing in life is full proof

wordsmith042:
u gotta read and laugh along
They say, "the fastest way to get a man to marry you, is to cook his best meal and serve it with a chilled bottle of coke" - okay, nobody said that, i just totally made that up.
But, if it was true; then Nneka would never get married.
Nneka, was my church crush - church, in the sense that we attended the same church and she was in the choir - so yeah, church crush!
But you see, she wasn't like any other choir girl you know. Forget those "head-tie wearing, Ankle skirt" girls you're probably imagining.
Nneka had class, and ass too - not sure which was more, but both were in abundance. Her figure eight ( shape wasn't helping matters, not to talk of her clear American accent - Mehn! Angels had to be made this way.
So yeah, we eventually started dating after I broke forcefully out of the deep shackles of friend zone I was submerged in - *middle finger village witches*
During the course of our dating, she kept complaining about the money I spent eating out and buying junk food. I never really had a problem with this cos' I barely had time to cook for myself, with my 9 - 8 job and all. - Yeah, 9am to 8pm! My boss was directly related to the devil himself.
Anyways, she offered to cook and insisted on spending the weekend. She was going to "spoil me silly" with different kinds of dishes I had never tasted. I knew right then, that I had found the one. No more cornflakes and indomie for one week - goodbye carbohydrates; Hello protein!!
I fell deeper in love.
Saturday finally arrived, and I was treated to a huge plate of Egusi soup - Everybody's favourite.
I'm not much of a Bible story kinda guy, but after first taste, I knew instantly that soup must have been inspired by the story of Lot and the Pillar of Salt.
My Egusi soup was filled with the missing parts of the Pillar of Salt. I'm not joking, I might have as well, ordered a salt solution instead - heck! it felt like it.
But I let it slide, maybe she was just nervous cooking for me for the first time - Love, really is blind.
By evening, we had Beans - or should I even call it that?
Beans used to be my favourite food, until Nneka catwalked into my life. Now all I see when I think of Beans is horror and battlefields.
You think I'm lying? Okay, picture David and Goliath. Yep, remember those stones David picked before the fight? - yep! those ones.
They were present in my dinner plate. Actually, I think I had more stones than Beans for dinner - but then again Love prevailed, I let it slide.
It was when I saw her washing the rice with soap and sponge the next morning, I knew that I was finished.
"Blood of Donald Trump!! ", I shouted!
But deep down, I was certain the end was finally here. At that moment, I knew my village witches had won the battle - they were probably twerking to a Gospel beat sef at that time.
It's been two weeks since that weekend and I've not had the mind to return her calls or texts. Please, how do you arrange your lips to tell somebody you're not doing again?
Brother zone has never felt more perfect to me. I willingly zone myself.
I give up abeg, I'm not doing again joor!

You could teach her to cook!
Cooking is a skill that can be learnt. You should break up over things that cannot be learnt that are absent or present. For instance someone with a propensity to always quarrel. These are behavioural patterns you cannot stand!!!

You never mentioned what was in her past
So we can objectively comment!

When they want you to marry them they don't express these views....hmmm

revolt:
by sharing you mean custody inclusive abi? Or typical of women ud expect to hold on to the kid while he trains them for u and they barely know him

God will bless you! These women, hmmm the only mistake he made was making children with her....

shaybebaby:
No, so the time and resources required to raise them should be shared equally.

But she insists that the kids be with her...so lf l get to see the kids 3 hours in a week then that much should l pay for

hairyman:
Now this is the woman's side of the story, the man's side is rarely heard. But first let us explore some scenarios, did the man attempt to take some of the kids with him? Most probably he did but of course the woman resisted vehemently, if the children are young, the court will most likely grant the woman custody, so she keeps the kids, has what might be called a stable family, and expects the man to maintain that family while he wallows in loneliness. This isn't about child support, this is unfairness to men, if the woman is incapable of taking care of the children then she should give them up to the man, rather than expecting him to do all the duties from a distance while gaining nothing out of it given that with such duties, he will probably be unable to start another family somewhere else.
This brings us to another usual.scenerio, in which the woman also teaches the children to dislike their father or, often, threatens to do it. What use are children to a man if they hate him. Logic demands, in this case, that he starts another family. Support for the other becomes a matter of discretion, thus he might "support" as he seems fit or as is directed by the court and leaves it at that.
Anyway we rarely hear the man talk, the woman always plays the victim. More often than not though, she is far from that.
We get the picture of a nice considerate woma who refused to bother the man because she thought he wasn't financially stable. A grossly illogical picture because men do not seperate from nice, wonderful women!!!

Exactly

You know the irony of life, these same women saying kill him, kill him. If the man in question happens to be their brother you go see justification from them for his actions...

shaybebaby:
Better still, shame men who think it's okay to make children who didn't ask to be born, pay for their mistakes.

Say no to being a dead beat dad!

Na only the man dey make the kids? Women

VANENON:
Do the needful to his children and ignore her.
Your/his responsibility is to your children and not to her. Irrespective of her action pay/pay part of the children fees send her feeding money. Keep the evidence of transfer to her account or to children's school and show the evidence everywhere she goes to shout.

This is a very responsible answer.
I have another question, the man in this case re-married and goes to have kids, his income stream has not expanded. Prior to this incident his plan was for 3 kids. At this point he has 3 with the new wife and 3 with the old. For him to have peace in the house he focuses on the 3 at home. Would he still be a bad man?

MissRaine69:
And that will be the reason he will tell his kids when they ask where he was all this time?
Your mother wanted to have her cake and eat it?

You do not know the details of this story, neither do you know my mother. I am happy to tell you that my dad and mum are still together unlike the lady in question. I will chose also not to disrespect your mother the way you did talking to me

makydebbie:
When I was being insulted you turned a blind eye to it because men are not heartless. Mtcheew.

Person go dey work for Julius Berger dey collect salary for John Holt

makydebbie:
When I was being insulted you turned a blind eye to it because men are not heartless. Mtcheew.

Were you being insulted by me

makydebbie:
Who una judgements epp?

What is your business about somebody's separation? See misplaced priorities.

Women are heartless, men are same. No difference. Argue with your ancestors abeg.

You feel pained reasonably so, but there are other ways of expressing it than resorting to derogatory statements and indirect insults in a civil society.

makydebbie:
Who una judgements epp?

What is your business about somebody's separation? See misplaced priorities.

Women are heartless, men are same. No difference. Argue with your ancestors abeg.

It is indeed a pity that you cannot have a reasonable conversation with certain people. At what point in this discuss has anyone insulted you directly or indirectly?

VANENON:
The man has a very wicked heart. What have the innocent children done to deserve his negligence?
He walks away from his responsibilities, allowing the poor woman bear the load alone and he thinks things will be well with him?
The man has been shying away from his responsibilities to his kids by pretending he has no kobo to his name...and the woman has shouldered the responsibility all by herself. Only to see him getting married to a new wife.

This woman has done no wrong by calling out the lowlife scum!!!

Let me paint a senario for you so you judge!
A man caught his wife in adultry with evidence, later he moved out of his house when he noticed the wife was still secretly communicating with her lover. The wife works and earns a salary. She insist that all the kids will be with her. The man rents another apartment and is paying rent.
The woman goes around crying wolf that the man has abandoned his kids that he does not pay for their accommodation anymore. He was still paying their fees and sending feeding. Later he stops sending feeding and she continues to cry wolf wolf that he has abandoned his responsibilities you no longer care for your kids accommodation or feeding. 2 year down the road he no longer sends fees, now she is crying the loudest. What will be your verdict here!

MissRaine69:
That’s a fight beween the two adults
What of the children?
So do they grow up knowing that their father never once tried to fend for their them not even once?
I don’t know I am on the fence

If the woman puts certain conditions for the man to access the kids (using them as a leverage), which is not in his interest you dont expect him to do anything. Most times the men say bring the kids let me take care of them and the women say NO, will he kill himself? Moreso the law is loopsided towards the woman when child custody issues arise!!!

She cannot eat her cake and still have it

makydebbie:
Speak for yourself and not all men. I've seen men abandon their kids and I'm reacting to this story not even looking at gender. You all should leave me alone, if the table were turned, we'll hear how women are heartless and so on.

Women are, you cannot take it away from them.
My question still remains, what led to their separation. She simply left out that part of the story!!!
If she told us that portion then we can conclusively say o this wicked man
These days I take what people say pinch salt. I alway would like to listen to both sides before concluding or passing judgement!!!

tunjilana:
Any man or woman who hides under divorce to not be involved in their child's life is a coward simple!. If one party is blocking you from being involved, use all legally available means to challenge that party till it is clear to all involved that you want to be involved in your kid's life.

That being said, you cant rule out manipulation as well. I know of a man who was a sole provider for many years. The wife who equally works was stocking up her savings while using the "A man should provide" clause to keep the man away from her earnings. The man lost his job without any savings, he was even indebted due to the burden he had carried alone all these years, the wife failed to yield and started the usual women behavior when they provide, less than a year after, marriage packed up, she was doing well and even started a business with her savings while the man was left out cold. Man ignored her for years, fixed his hustle, did what he needed to do and bounced back. He initially hid his new status from her and tried to reach out to the kids through her but was met with extreme ridicule. The lady's mother even insinuated that the man was just using the kids as a cover in order to have access to her and her money. Man ignored and got married shortly after. That was when she actually got to know he is now a wealthy man with flourishing businesses and assets, then the blackmail and name soiling started. The man simply used that opportunity to request he get involved in his kids' lives. He changed their school to a much better boarding school and all, then the song changed to "He is too busy and doesn't visit them often", the man simply requested he moves the kids to his home(which is in a different city) if she is tired of taking physical care of them. That shut her up forever. Sometimes most of this noise are just for manipulation and most spouses will not give details on how they both got here.

Exactly my point!

What did she do, thats the first question to ask!!!

She is not angry that he is moving on really fishy if you ask me

I saw a case where the woman commited adultry and was caught by the husband. The husband had been shouldering all the bills regardless of the fact that the wife works...She commits adultry refuses to release the kids and the man leaves her with the kids. Now you want child support? why not ask the men you have been sleeping with

Now if that man in the situation above goes ahead to get married, and have kids with the new wife and the other woman is asking for money when all that happened was through no fault of his!

Its the best time to and save your future!

234GT:
Married people should stop making the thing look like rocket science. Marriage requires only the commitment and determination of the 2 individuals involved to work.
A woman committed to the success of her marriage won't pick up FOOLISH quarrels with her husband, and a committed man won't start sleeping around.
It's simple.

Correct but not as simple as that. After the wedding that start off line, one party begins to notice he or she is putting 70/30% percent then the crack begins. If not noticed and addressed properly it further degenerates. One party begins to nag, it irritates the other party or comes across as nagging too much bla bla bla, 8 to 10 year down the road and wonder r....

Amazing responses, but frankly NO.

Na if him see me there him go fit block me...