kushme:
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MARRIAGE IS ABOUT THE CHILDREN!!

 


This comment is that of a female with the baby rabies mentality.  you see the man as a sperm donor. And just a partner to help you raise the kids(correctly).. Or are you going to tell me that older people in love remarry for the sake of having kids again? 

Must there be a marriage before kids can be raised correctly? Tell this to all the baby mamas out there.. 

Most of the time, things women do and say are for their benefits. They don't care about the man.

Just reason the bolded carefully !

Children are ideally raised by two committed parents. Without this need - if there were no children, believe me, 99% of marriages would disappear.
Of course there are exceptions, hence 99% not 100%.

I just pray I meet and marry the right person for me. That's all

Tinamoore:


On the contrary, knew him way back in the university. Married him when he had no money.Sacrificed my chance to travel abroad to him.but when he started making money, he changed completely.have now abandoned me and the kids probably for his white girlfriend

So no, mine was not about two months dating.it's about a man who acted like he loved me cos he was poor.but showed his true colour when he started making money.

Too bad I really feel your pains...it heartbroken, I would advised you focus on your kids, it really tough being a single parent but with God by your side good things will come your way and you will never have reason to cry again, may God bless you and your kids ma

Amazing responses, but frankly NO.

Lol. Not married and not searching.

Please, how can I also open a thread?

234GT:
Married people should stop making the thing look like rocket science. Marriage requires only the commitment and determination of the 2 individuals involved to work.
A woman committed to the success of her marriage won't pick up FOOLISH quarrels with her husband, and a committed man won't start sleeping around.
It's simple.

Correct but not as simple as that. After the wedding that start off line, one party begins to notice he or she is putting 70/30% percent then the crack begins. If not noticed and addressed properly it further degenerates. One party begins to nag, it irritates the other party or comes across as nagging too much bla bla bla, 8 to 10 year down the road and wonder r....

kushme:


true talk.. Miserable people trying to bring you into their miserable marriage league.. They hate single happy people, they envy your freedom...

I weak my person... Nigerians can advise u constantly to do wetin no get gain but wen e reach beta tin, ur nos no dey go for dis fone...

Lizbeth7:
Lol. Not married and not searching.

Please, how can I also open a thread?

I was almost proposing to u, but noticed u not smart.
Dnt knw hw to open a thread.

terrezo2002:
What do you expect when you marry for the wrong reasons. Marriage is sacrifice. You love even if your partner doesn't deserve it.

What if your partner wouldn't stop messing up.

I dey craze

blackbeau1:
I just pray I meet and marry the right person for me. That's all

Hate to break it to ya - you'd marry the wrong person. Guaranteed. That's just how it's set up.
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234GT:
Married people should stop making the thing look like rocket science. Marriage requires only the commitment and determination of the 2 individuals involved to work.
A woman committed to the success of her marriage won't pick up FOOLISH quarrels with her husband, and a committed man won't start sleeping around.
It's simple.

You get sense abeg..

Yes,I will.Though he wasn't romantic but he tolerated me, he never bothered me but I lost him in September, Dear hubby, you're greatly missed.

Yes...

Aremolekunowo:
No because she lied about her genotype AS

Sorry about that,but dont you go for medical test before your wedding day?

I will marry my wife over and over again, a special breed a wife, mother and a home builder. I CELEBRATE U 16YRS+ and there has never been one I mean one I nor gree.

Kingzy4pep:
Seems I'm the one gonna marry you..

This one that many guys are sending me PMS, biko nu, no be advertisement, I just talk wetin dey my mind.

Liliyann:
All this married people just keep on scaring the single ones
Truth is nobody forced them to get married,that your marriage isn't a bed of roses or what you envisioned for shouldn't make you discourage others!!

As for me,the only thing that can make me have a second thought about my husband that is if I eventually decide to marry is poverty,nothing turns me off more than a broke and lazy guy.

what are you bringing to the table?

Donald3d:
And una talk say make I no fear marriage , all these No I am seeing .
God abeg give your pikin beta wife !

Guy marriage no b ahm pray you don't fall on the wrong wife. From delta got married to Igbo woman, bro d battle no b here they trying taking my kids away from me. Shapaly I remove my 2kids remaining our new born son... She decided to stay in her father's house but the battle continue.... Guys that never gotten married be praying oo women are wicked, D's 1 I jamm na Jezebel. Still know Oghene(God) pass dem

sekundosekundo:
We have a lot of married spoon fed children claiming to be adult. So many of them don't even know that there's no perfect human let alone marriage. Even Adam and Eve joined together by God Himself messed up. There's no marriage without problems and chalanges. I have nothing to regret about my wife, together we're winners.

well said! marriage should all about team work! no one 100% perfect

NothingDoMe:
This is why I'm against 2 months dating

Cc NwanyiAwkaetiti

My dear her story ain't about short term dating. I'm sure most of our grandparents of those days never dated long but they stuck with themselves until death.

Billyonaire:
Sure, it will break many, cos some partners will see each other's responses and start making important decisions. Marriage a very big wahala. I do not think it is natural. It is just for social control and energy transaction for the matrix. But at least one has a personalized sex organ to generate orgasm almost always, when needed.

I totally disagree with your standpoint sir.

janey1984:
Please who is this nwanyi Awka-Etiti on naira land

Just a simple nairalander dear.

Chikita66:
This one that many guys are sending me PMS, biko nu, no be advertisement, I just talk wetin dey my mind.

Mtcheeeeew cheap attention seeeker

Tinamoore:


On the contrary, knew him way back in the university. Married him when he had no money.Sacrificed my chance to travel abroad to him.but when he started making money, he changed completely.have now abandoned me and the kids probably for his white girlfriend

So no, mine was not about two months dating.it's about a man who acted like he loved me cos he was poor.but showed his true colour when he started making money.

if we dlg deep we may find out ure a very quarrelsome person or ure mkn his life a living hell. A lot of women try to control their husband's and when it doesn't work, they nag him to death. You didn't talk bout the sacrifices he probably made for you too. If we aSK oga now, a lot of details you hid will pop up. Takes two to wreck a marriage. The cause n effect. Its either this or oga is mental.. Cos nobody sees a woman he loved thts gvn him kids, peace n goes out.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
My dear her story ain't about short term dating. I'm sure most of our grandparents of those days never dated long but they stuck with themselves until death.

cos everybody knew their place. Their responsibility etc

Been married is different from been in a relationship.... All those No no no might just be sidechickz

will marry her over n over again. infact, would have married her when we were kids. she is a superwoman!

Tinamoore:


On the contrary, knew him way back in the university. Married him when he had no money.Sacrificed my chance to travel abroad to him.but when he started making money, he changed completely.have now abandoned me and the kids probably for his white girlfriend

So no, mine was not about two months dating.it's about a man who acted like he loved me cos he was poor.but showed his true colour when he started making money.

Sorry to hear dear. The hearts of some human beings are wicked.

There are some things we can do with impunity, but simply because of the consequences it culminate in for the person at the receiving end, a reasonable man would not take such decision.

We know that after a couple has lived together for few years after the marriage ceremony, the tendency that the affinity between them would drop by almost 70% is certain, but this shouldn't serve as an excuse to start acting inconsistently all the time.

And that's why we really need to be sure about the maturity level of whoever we intend dating. Don't allow love to blindfold logical reasoning and judgements.

Marriage to me, is not a rocket science; it appears to me to be the easiest thing to deal with once you both are matured.

Cheating can be done by any of the parties, but never should it be done with impunity.

That impunity is what usually leads to issues. Many African men are found of thinking they can do whatever and act any how they like, as they have been made to feel this way by the society by the popular principle of they being the head of the family.


Also, many married wives have unconsciously made their family a theater of violence. They are never going to be calm for one second before throwing caution to the wind at a spark of any little suspicion they observe about their husband.


Your husband will have female friends, and that doesn't mean he's having extra marital affairs with them. You just have to learn more about him. And this goes with the wives too. Once you understand each other, no need of stealth monitoring.

Be your self. Even if he's acting in a strange way, pretend you don't see it. And try to figure out why the new behavior is coming up at that period. Same applies to the man too.

That's my little contribution to all prospective couples.

all I know is , our Igbo girls tend to be more loyal and value marriages more...

ameri9ja:


Gullibility spotted. Love ko, Lovett ni.

U think am gullible? Oya define gullible first then we talk

Tinamoore:


Yes, from my own experience, love is pain.wouldn't have married him if I knew what I know now.

Maybe u rushed in soooo early not understanding what were getting into.