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angelo5uk:
Really.... Screeming at an old woman like that..... No wonder they're always having marital issues

OK so now it's about the age now.when she was lying up and down she didn't know she was an elderly woman and the thing will backfire.she's now playing the victim. She for even pull that wig comot for her head before pushing her out

Old women that cannot respect themselves yet want the younger ones to respect them.

cr7lomo:
Shut up ur dirty trap...this shows how evil most of u women are..men are even the one defending the old woman while u twarts are supporting tonto...y embarrass someone old enough to birth her...the woman no get children?? If Na me, I go find tonto, beat am like pickin...Churchill beating go b like petting...wicked evil women everywhere

oga Ade keep quiet and stop spitting everywhere if I lie against you you go like am?

Be barking everywhere like a mad dog

NemzySeries:
d Tonto of a dickeh getz rotten daily.....weda d woman is lying or not why address her like shez ur dog all bkos u give her visa & clothes? pple dat will billions to deir pets & animals nko?

when you take care of someone like your family and she lies against you,you'll definetly go crazy and not care about the age.I'm surprised tonto didn't slap the woman.

How can someone be treating you well and you're now lying. When caught you're trying to play victim with sob face. Common na

NwamaziNwaAro:

Shut up and take care of the woman joor, see how they are intimidating the poor woman.

From Tonto's raging voice and temper, I now totally believe the allegation that she fought her mother-in-law and can only imagine what Churchill had to cope with.

Nigerians and their use-abandon-dump syndrome.


God punish that your lawyer who won't advise you well.

Eats six times a day indeed

I don't blame you, I blame poverty that has made someone's mom your object of humiliation.

excuse you.wasn't her service paid for?does tonto owe her or her family. The woman wants to take advantage of the fact that her son likes her to commit libel.such an ungrateful nanny

Some women won't even send and replace her immediately, tonto still exercised patience so you're the one who needs to shut up because if you're the one you'll have been angrier

ZarZar:
What are you talking about? Didn't you read the part where I said to each their own? We're individuals with different outlooks, so of course I'm not gonna sit here & cheer at her. But I'm also open minded enough to live & let live. So please spare me the thinking you know me part.

zarzar zar zar zarzar.how many times did I call you?

Ye pretend

If these kinds if lenient punishment are given pedophiles will still continue.there has to be a strict law punishing this disgrace of men walking around lurking for little school girls

Yonce:
She's fully clothed isn't she

Do you grind on men when you dance at parties? How is this different?

She's dancing on HER man at HER wedding because HER man likes it. If it bugs you so, pluck out your eyes honey

don't mind it.coming to form saint Mary ,miss morally perfect

deebrain:
Some of you just say trash.

They met at the strip club my foot...


Was privileged to be in a ceremony where this happened.

A church girl with a bit of society (I can vouch for her personally). They met during a voters registration years back.

When questioned by many of us that had reservations, we got to know that it was the husband's fantasy (which she knew about in their time of courting). So she decided to learn the steps and display it to him on her day.

Stop all this childish conclusions.

don't mind them.local village men everywhere. No exposure at all

ZarZar:
Lol, gone are the days of blushing brides. This is a little too over-the-top for me, simulating sex in front of people. But whatever floats their crouton.

abeg excuse me with all this fake prudish behavior. Can she not do anything she likes with her husband. Did the husband complain.both of them are happy so why can't you be happy for those who are happy

They're sha not doing it in front of their parents,pastors or in-laws

Honspeaker:
We have lost it all as generation

speak for yourself please.

Isn't it her husband again abi is he your husband, she can do anything she wants with him. It's their wedding day not yours.if she like sef she can bring out his preek



On your own wedding Begin singing hymmnn from church to reception

2Ways:
Olosho rebranded

that she's sexually expressive doesn't mean she's olosho rebranded.you need to get yourself educated

niceguy7:
Iranu, lapdance weh she go still do tire on top their bed after the wedding....

is it your wedding?

Is it your waist?

Is it your vagina

missbehave247:
I pray they listen

#yawns#

Even mercy aigbe did all that yet she still got the beaten of her life like an animal

hush15:
Gf, I understand what you saying but I don't agree. Was it the parent that introduce the guy and choose him to be her suitor?

If the answer is no, then the parents are not at fault at all. Lesson learnt is when you are not ready for it, don't go showing him off to your parent.

I just feel she succumbed to fear if the unknown. She dated this guy and all the while, she didn't mind at all. When it got to marriage, she still didn't say anything. They might have gone for counselling sef but she didn't utter a word on her reservations. On the wedding day is when she now realised she is not strong for it. This has nothing to do with age but the fear of so many thing she didn't want to come to terms with in reality. I remember on my wedding day, I couldn't believe it was me throughout cos I had always dread the idea of being married but guess what, I just took it as it comes and eventually it ended up being fun when I look back in retrospect. Up till now, I still can't believe am hooked but guess what, I am and am loving it. Trying to be better. My wife still thinks I might still run away cos she can't believe it too cos have always had my doubts. Now, I replace all my doubts with faith and when I think about it, it makes me want to live my wife.

When it comes to marriage, nobody is perfect. And there is nothing like the perfect guy or girl, it just you knowing you can stand with this person and make progress together. Love doesn't cut it be cause we think love is what propels a marriage. If I don't love him, I can't marry him but you see, that thing called love is suppose to be the result of your marriage cos that's what union produces. You may not fancy the person but eventually, that person becomes thing that ever happened in your life. That's always the story. True love story always end up in being with person you never thought it could be possible with and it's usually the best love story that last forever. Neway, if am the guy, I would take it as it is and move on. No quarrels and move on cos like the bible says, all things work together for good.

Am sure if she is willing, cos I want to believe the guy genuinely loves her for him not to see her reservations, the guy would have make a good husband for her and I might be wrong but then I don't so. The crazy thing in all these is that I hope she makes a better choice when she fully decides cos like my ex, she would wish she never left but I guess it's all for the best

lmao oga Ade e be like say you dey watch too much telenundo


Broda this is not Gardner's daughter neither is it second chance or secret of the sand or even passions.this is reality.com

People differ,a woman going into a marriage out of let me sha please daddy and mummy because of the money they've invested is only selling herself to misery.yes I agree she made the mistake of bringing a man she wasn't sure of marrying home. That was totally her fault but is it not better now that she realised that she Didn't love this guy and make a u turn than entering finish and any small disagreement you will hear if not for my father you think I will marry you

Abi a situation where she's committing adultery or elopes with the man she truly loves.this thing is a win win situation o it's just that you're not seeing it the way I'm seeing it.it's better that she voiced out now so the guy will move front and find another wife and the girl will follow suit.

There's nothing like love grows.infact nothing the guy does will ever impress her.she will begin to see sex with him as something irritating. Infact it will affect almost every part of their lives and the guy will feel he's putting his all and she's not reciprocating

Toyin please keep quiet.its enough already

Smh

alexialin:
Am telling you!
Its like death sentence .
Phew! Such horrible parents

the parents are one selfish bunch

Tosinex:
Very bad of you bunmi.. Heaven sef can't be happy with you, what you did is enough for that man to commit suicide! He proposed to you, engaged you and you agree! You shouldn't have agreed atleast he will know his stand. Go to God in prayer and ask for forgiveness! Ask the man also to forgive you because you've not offended only him you offended his creator.

ask God for forgiveness for taking her destiny into her own hands,ask God for forgiveness because she doesn't have power of choice, ask God for forgiveness because it's no longer her life.

Dynamite02:
From her story she did not push,but her loved ones kept pushing her..pressuring her against her own desire...they must have trapped and choked her with their nagging leaving her with no choice,for someone still depending on her parents it must have been hell for her. Generally people will judge the aftermath but not the journey itself

exactly my point thank you

hush15:
Common, someone that left someone at the alter already invited the society into her private life already because all those guests and friends will talk bout it forever. More so, when everybody seen to have forgotten, she took to twitter to start explaining what should have left alone and invited the society again to come feast on her issue. Even she can't get over her actions. That one aside,

Now about what she did, whether is wrong or not, only God knows best because here all I can see is that she will pose a very big problem for the guy in the marriage because rather than focus on her marriage and build her family, she will be distracted and complain every time. After all, she wasn't into it anyway but cos her family had a say, she went ahead. Probably cheat on the guy eventually sef.

However, she could still have cancelled the wedding a day to the wedding not on the wedding day. Cos that pressure didn't come on the wedding day. There is a build up already and while planning everything, am very sure she would have asked herself if this is really what she wanted. It's not like she didn't like the guy, she just wasn't sure whether she could pull through. And when it seems she can't, should have just saved the guy the huge embarrassment even if if it the day before.

Me, I believe that there is more to it and am sure she has interest in another but can't come out clean yet and besides, can't introduce since the parents are upset already. It's a question of time.

is it by force for a woman to marry someone she doesn't love just because she's 30 for goodness sake.take it or live it Nigerian parents and families can be pushy overbearing and domineering. All the while they were courting to the time they were planning wedding, the girl's family didn't see the handwriting on the wall.all they were concerned with is how they'll show off and slay at their daughters wedding. All they're after is I will invite governor this, senator that to chair the wedding

The family of the girl are unreasonable people, they're not after the girl's well being, it's all about the ceremony aka karimi for them. If they were after her happiness they should have asked her are you sure you want to marry this man when he proposed instead of saying say yes.they should have asked do you feel happy with him,do you love him? These are questions the family should be bothered about

Cordis92:
Do you know how many times they met or spoke? Do you know how many times she refused it but people told her it would be fine that love grows? Like I said before, I won't judge or condemn anybody because I was not there and even if I was there, I still do not have that right.

gbam

Antichristus:
WHICH SCHOOL DID YOU GO TO AND WHO WAS YOUR ENGLISH TEACHER. JUST CURIOUS TO KNOW. TAKE ANOTHER LOOK AT MY RESPONSE AND DECIDE IF YOUR QUESTION IS STILL PERTINENT. TO PUT IT IN ANOTHER WAY:

P1=FROM DAY 1 SHE NEVER WANTED TO MARRY THE GUY;
P2=FROM DAY 1 SHE SHOULD HAVE STOOD HER GROUND BECAUSE SHE HAS A RIGHT TO DO SO;
P3=EVERYONE WOULD HAVE BACKED DOWN OTHERWISE THEY WOULD BE VIOLATING HER FUNDAMENTAL RIGHT;
C =THE SAD EVENT OF THAT DAY WOULDN'T HAVE HAPPENED AND THE WHOLE WORLD WOULD RESPECT HER STAND.


DO YOU STILL NEED A TRANSLATOR

it's you that has comprehension issues

Didn't you read where she wrote that when the guy proposed to her,they forced/pressurized her to say yes because he has a job,he's this and that so what's your problem? Meanwhile they didn't give the girl space to make her own decision, she was in between, pressurized, confused,contemplating and then on the day of her wedding that was when she made her final decision

its like you don't know or pretend not to know or just being an alabosi aka hypocrite to know how Nigerian family operates when they have a daughter of 30 and she's still at home,once they sight any man near her,they won't even give her breathing space to make her own decision and weigh things. They'll all be all up in her business and use emotional manipulation, insults and shades to push her into marriage even when she's not sure she loves the man.all they're after is wedding ceremony without putting the girl's feeling into consideration.

The girl has a right to choice AT ANY TIME.after all she's not a baby. Nigerian Families will learn next time to let things take their natural course and stop forcing and throwing their daughters into any man as if her feelings are irrelevant

Kebreal92:
May GOD help our Women. We treat women in this part of the world like trash. As if they do not have say in issues concerning their own lives.

in Nigeria any woman that makes her own decision is tagged rebellious and not submissive

omoolorire:
The lady in question did not get it right. Reason:
She allow the guy to even proposed for unrealistic relationship
She gave the guy impression of her consent by allow introduction to take place.
She was still not convince enough during engagement.
She just allow the guy to waste his resources on kangaroo wedding
Well I don't blame her if what she claimed actually happened but the guy too ought to have seen the red light before wedding day.
I wish the guy good luck in all his future endeavors.
For elders in the house mark my word something is waiting for the girl in future. Pls don't ask question for God sake. Thank you.

I am an elder.what's waiting for her?

Antichristus:
A fool at 30 is forever a fool. You didn't want to marry him and you played along to the very last minute under the guise of being pushed or coerced? You should have stood your ground from the word go. Right to marriage (whoever one wishes) is a fundamental human right under international human rights law. Now, any sensible potential suitor should simply walk past you because you could still change your mind after saying "I do."

are you serious ? So she doesn't have a right to change her mind at anytime? Isn't it her marriage? Isn't she the one that will live with him?

Why do society like sticking their nose into other peoples business and be forming unnecessary itk.even the one the husband is beating blue black at home will come and be forming marriage counsellor

Fkforyou:
And she decided to bring it on Twitter to seek public sympathy since she couldn't get it from her family.

She is just looking for that one person to tell her what she did was right and not the truth.

Well, her Dads anger is justified to some extent, I just hope he gets over it Sha.

Perhaps, she didn't say anything wether she tried reaching out to the abandoned groom to seek his forgiveness

It seems she isn't so sorry for her actions

the reason the father is angry is because of the money he has spent for the wedding and the embarrassment it will cause him. Same applies to the mother. No opportunity to show off to her friends and her family. It's like you don't know the way African families are. They do things for their own parochial reasons and make it look like it's for the family

Kebreal92:
Its so unbecoming the rate of marginalization and victimization of our female gender in a typical African society.
Too bad it had to end that way. In as much as I pitied the groom. They should hv seen reasons with the lady.
Its her marriage and not theirs.

abi o.when anything happens won't they tell her to go back to her husband house after all you saw him before you married him

Meanwhile if a man did the exact thing the lady did they'll say maybe it's because her character is not good.

Nigerian culture is so anti women especially in marriage

Billyonaire:
Happiness.

A lot of people take it for granted. If you are happy, you are lucky, millions are super unhappy and they are just getting along in marriage.

This lady did great. Many married ladies today didn't love their grooms and still dont, and they cheat badly, and those who can not cheat are in a frustrated marriages and that is a major cause of broken homes. So you all see why I said this lady did great.

One man has been saved from a lifetime of depression by her sincerity.

exactly. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage

Any man that marries a woman that doesn't love him,if she doesn't put him in trouble, she's the one that will kill him through her actions and inactions. Nothing the man will ever do that she will like.they'll now get to the level where they'll be tolerating each other

talk2alabama:
Ok.. Bravo.. I hope she isn't living with her parents still.. Because if na me.. Na pursue I go pursue her comot from my house

if she marries the guy out of my father said my mother said and she doesn't love the guy it's for sure she will cheat on the guy or still be married to him and be searching for the guy she loves and then eventually leave her husband, abscond with the kids and her boyfriend. Which is preferable?

Meanwhile chasing her out of the house doesn't make ant difference

Leave there immediate if you don't feel good about the whole arrangement. It might be your instinct talking to you . Many times it's the ploy designed by ritualists and kidnappers to trap unsuspecting job seekers

Mshewwww

This woman is annoying. She doesn't even know what she wants.even the lanre sef looks like a fat monkey