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TheEnlightenedO:
You’d be amazed how many people haven’t heard of these apps outside the country, not everyone uses these things... Same way you’d be amazed how many people don’t know you can send western union and money gram from Nigeria to any country. Most people believe na only to receive we fit do

SirMichael1:
Hello Good afternoon Familanders. This is very long, so please bear with me.

I’ll start from the root. Well, in my church, there’s usually a committee for the married men where most times we can proffer solution to the issues or need of the church members and other times organize get together monthly within us (married men) just to foster unity. Since we're like 20, different men host the get together. Therefore, it's spaced out for 1year and 8months.

It all began last Sunday when I was chosen to oversee the next get together which comes up this Sunday after church. When we (my wife and I) got home after church, I told her about it and she immediately asked, “who would do the cooking”? I was taken aback as the question sounded strange. I replied her saying, since she did the cooking the last time, I figured she’d do it this time.

She got angry and said there’s no way she’ll be going through the stress of cooking for 18 to 25 men and that I better know what to do concerning who’s going to handle the cooking. I tried to calm her down and reminded her of how I assisted her in the kitchen by pounding the yams while she made the soup -two soups actually and that I was going to help her this time. Yam is quite expensive so we’re not pounding this time, just Semo.

She remained adamant and said there was no way she would do anything, that the work stressed her so much and she won’t partake in any cooking and that I better go find anyone to do the cooking. Thing is, I understood the fact that the work was stressful for her because she was 5 months pregnant then and it was her first time.

Yesterday at work, I kept pondering about a solution and a thought struck me. I called her from work and asked her, "how about I get one of the women at church to offer you support?". She blatantly refused and still held on to her words.

My mind hasn’t been settled since morning because I got hold of a caterer and she told me that she’ll charge a thousand naira per head, that is approximately 20k. Truth is, the get together came at a wrong time and considering the prices of drinks, the cost of the food stuff, meat, ingredients, etc. I really can’t afford a caterer right now.

I’m at a cross road now. I don’t know what to do because it’s causing a rift between us. I thought of bringing a church member to assist on that day without informing her so she wouldn’t surprise me and leave the house but I fear that if she comes, my wife might not join her in the kitchen and the woman will begin to feel a certain way (thinking of how ungrateful we are). Then again, who will purchase the food items? I’ve just been confused. I really need insights.

Note: I said I'll help her make the swallow, she just needs to make the soup.

Dantepet4000:
Must every money be an ilegitimate money. Nigerians sha. ANyway , i fogot to mention is went straight into sugar cane farming

Toseenlove:
Lol.......See Smackdown & Finishing.......

Theundertaker:
Let me see if it works na before I make my final decision. U guys talk like quality women r everywhere, neat, composed , intelligent, humble , still a student , so I have control over her , plus a good cook, These other girls r just one kin. She’s Chubby with big breast and tight vg .mehn

Ojb194616:
Please I really do need matured advice on what to do.
I have been with my girl for over two years now.
So far, I would say its been going really smoothly, she's the best and I really love her.

But the issue now is, her parents are not in support of us. It has really been a thug of war between her and her parents.
The parents are not even ready to set their eyes on me. I really wish they give me a chance to say something.
The most confusing part right now is, my girl has refused to let go. My parents are in support of us. My mum love her much.
But our hands are tired because we can't do anything to change their mind or see them to avoid embarrassment as they insist she must marry her tribal person.

I really don't know what to do at this point.
I really wish I could confidently say I could give up on her.. But truth is, I can't as I really do care about her.
She's Edo and am Yoruba.

Rtk5:
Few days back I posted a topic on how my wife left home with our 2years old son after a little issue that even animals will laugh at us when they hear it because of how trivial the issue is. Now this is what is at stake

1. She hasn't called since she left a week ago & I haven't called either because I didn't chase her.

2. None of her family has called to know why she came back home though I don't Blame them, it depends on what she must have told them.

3. Perhaps she has moved on already, its no problem but let her come and pack her belongings. I sent her a text to come & pack her stuffs then whoever she is ready to come back she's free but I'll never follow up at her family house & she replied that she's not expecting me to follow her up cos she knows I'm not gonna come after her.

5. My decision is, if she doesn't come back by Sunday or at least come to pick her things, I'll move on & I don't care if she comes anytime & see me with a babe at home. I can't remain single hoping she comes back when perhaps she's already found a boyfriend.

6. Some of you would think its pride that is making me not to go to her family but no, I don't want to look stupid cos I've done that severally.

7. Maybe I'm here killing myself with thinking while she's at her family house laughing.


Waking up to see her stuffs in my house is really hurting me the more & making it difficult for me to move on.

I really need your advice guys, pls

lightangel65i:
Ok my friends husband is basically jobless, drinks a lot and also cheats on her, which she knows, she is the one taking care of the family while the man is just dead beat who wastes the little he has on bet naija, and despite this she still loves the man to the last. I really wonder can people stay with someone like this or is it charm

Rotjijatau:
I'm writing this piece with due permission because both parties involved are on nairaland. My friend & his wife had a small issue that made them to keep malice for more than a week. Then last Friday he went to work & she sent him a text message that read "I am going with our son, whenever you are calm & settled, come for us, the key is under the footmat in front of the door" to his greatest surprise he came back home later in the evening & didn't meet her. He didn't call her, next day Saturday no communication whatsoever from them, Sunday which was yesterday same & today too no communication. Everyone adviced him not call her since he didn't send her out of the house neither has he ever maltreated her. Maybe she's trying to show him that whatever happens she has a place to go. I think her mother is suppose to ask her why she came home or better still contact the husband to know why his wife came back but nobody from her family contacted him. On a second thought, the mother shouldn't be blamed since nobody knows what the wife told her mother, but this is not the first time the mother is acting in this manner. He has put all her belongings together in the house so that anytime she wants to come & pack, its fine by him & if she comes back its still fine by him. Anything she wants to do is very okay with him, he just want to keep his hands clean. What is your advice or take on this? One thing has been hindering him from making a move to call or look for settlement is PRIDE & EGO. They really love each other that they can die for each other but right now I don't know what the devil is doing.

Juliearth:
Congratulations! You just dodged a missile. Imagine getting married to this kind of vindictive woman. Your house would have been worse than a hell hole. Allow her to continue to wallow in the misery of her hate. If you can and it won't be much of a bother, move houses so you can stay far away from the negative energy that she exudes.

I can't imagine how hard it would be stumbling on her rock hard face on your way to your place of hustle... That would ruin your day. Seeing her on your way back would ruin the rest of your evening.

Zzor:
I know your type,you emotionally wrecked her completely and didn't see anything wrong with that.You have to seek her forgiveness else the guilt won't ever leave you

Officialgarri:
Explain the hate.

Has she sent men to rob and beat you up yet?
Has she embarrassed you in public yet?
Has she sent you messages like once each month just to swear for you?
Has she called you in the middle of the night just to start swearing for you?

fados4sure:
Did you read what I wrote?


Where did I say Flutterwave is a loan app?


Flutterwave is a payment processor just like paystack

sunmarouk:
guy, he just said the truth. which nonsense targeted add is that, out of 100 people targeted, maybe only 3 might end up patronizing you(after pleading and assuring them seriously). The leading by hand or referal is the best bet. Even ordinary home teacher, if they don't know you, you will place targeted add and posters tire, thereby wasting your money, time and energy. Don't try argue, cos am speaking from experience as a business man & educationist.

for you to sell in wuse market, you must already have your dedicated customers, otherwise your money and materials will be tied down. 1year will reach without you making any reasonable sales and still need to renew shop rent worth millions

iamadonis2:
Calabar. And I'm into female luxury items.

binghamm:
I've dated or had relationships with between 20-25 girls in the past. Of that number, maybe only 6 or so had sizeable amount of breast. Arguably only 3 has really big breasts. The rest are just average or maybe very small. One didn't even have any at all. When I also look around, I hardly find girls with good amount of breast. I have a suspicion that there are fewer women with big breasts than there are with small ones.

Now, I'm not crazy about breasts. I like them all sizes. So this is just something I've noticed. What do you think?

Ahmedsuleiman:
Hello brother,

I hope you are as fit as a fiddle? I stumbled upon your book on Nairaland coupled with the website you put and the cover.

As an astute and adept writer, I want to commend you for the good job and do not rest on your laurels at all.

I do publish my books on Kindle Direct Publishing (KDP) as well. And I pray that God in His ad infinitum mercy cum grace speedily accede to your wishes and make you the best of the best. Keep up the good work, brother.

PS: I would like to reach you on WhatsApp via this link so that we can discuss better on some other opportunities foe your books, share ideas and make progress http:///2348136113444 or 08136113444.


All the best to you.

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