Godoverevery:
I think it should mandatory for intending couples to live together for 6month to 1 year....I will be sharing my own personal experience.
my fiancee have been staying with me for the past 7month we are getting married next year and our parents knows we are staying together.
I must confess is a lot staying with a woman.... Growing up anytime my mum and dad have misunderstanding and she start complaining about things we the children always support my mum but my dad always tell us we will understand things better when we get married...he was always at receiving end of things.
Now i realised what he meant then.
I have learnt a lot within this few months which I will like to share.
1: women will frustrate you but you must be really patience because is just there nature.
2: Money is the only thing that makes them happy...no matter how good you are on bed or how faithful 70% of her happiness is based on money
3: If you don't have money she will disrespect you no that for sure.
4: women are naturally stingy if she is spending her money on grocery or anything in the house she expecting you to pay her back double.
5: she will try to impose her way of doing things on you/try to control you.
6: women are manipulative if you are not careful she will try to drag you to herself and family alone
7: the only powerful weapon women they think they can use to punish you is sex.
8: women expects alot from there man... buying them car,house infact she expects everything to revolve around her.
9: To be honest this sharing of bills thing can't work just save yourself the stress... just no you are carrying 90% of the bills....if she use her money to cook to her she is doing you a favour.
Let me stop here....what I wrote are just my personal experience and what I have heard from married guys.
To be honest no man is complete without a woman infact they are the salt of this world.

So my advise to any man who is planning to marry make sure you live together with her for at least 6 month so you can know the person you're marrying to know if you can handle the pressure and her characters...
Note : As a man if you lack Patience and not able to over look things don't bother marrying ooo.

If you are also staying with you fiancée feel free to add to the list of the things you have learnt.

Guy, you are spot on, 100%. Every single point you listed, from 1-9, played outbbetween

Godoverevery:
I think it should mandatory for intending couples to live together for 6month to 1 year....I will be sharing my own personal experience.
my fiancee have been staying with me for the past 7month we are getting married next year and our parents knows we are staying together.
I must confess is a lot staying with a woman.... Growing up anytime my mum and dad have misunderstanding and she start complaining about things we the children always support my mum but my dad always tell us we will understand things better when we get married...he was always at receiving end of things.
Now i realised what he meant then.
I have learnt a lot within this few months which I will like to share.
1: women will frustrate you but you must be really patience because is just there nature.
2: Money is the only thing that makes them happy...no matter how good you are on bed or how faithful 70% of her happiness is based on money
3: If you don't have money she will disrespect you no that for sure.
4: women are naturally stingy if she is spending her money on grocery or anything in the house she expecting you to pay her back double.
5: she will try to impose her way of doing things on you/try to control you.
6: women are manipulative if you are not careful she will try to drag you to herself and family alone
7: the only powerful weapon women they think they can use to punish you is sex.
8: women expects alot from there man... buying them car,house infact she expects everything to revolve around her.
9: To be honest this sharing of bills thing can't work just save yourself the stress... just no you are carrying 90% of the bills....if she use her money to cook to her she is doing you a favour.
Let me stop here....what I wrote are just my personal experience and what I have heard from married guys.
To be honest no man is complete without a woman infact they are the salt of this world.

So my advise to any man who is planning to marry make sure you live together with her for at least 6 month so you can know the person you're marrying to know if you can handle the pressure and her characters...
Note : As a man if you lack Patience and not able to over look things don't bother marrying ooo.

If you are also staying with you fiancée feel free to add to the list of the things you have learnt.

Guy, you are spot on, 100%. Every single point you listed, from 1-9, played out between me and my girl

chymdyx:
Good afternoon. Pls, does anyone know of an apartment within Abuja town, with 4-6months left on it, for rent?
As in, someone maybe wants to move out of their apartment, and it still has 4-6 months rent on it... So I can refund the person, and complete the remaining time?
Or, a new apartment, where the landlord would be willing to take 4months rent?
Pls reach out to me, it's needed urgently

3months...till begining of feb. Gwarinpa 100k.

Put up yout whatsap no

Divorce her sharply. What advice are you seeking?before they put your story and pictures on instablog or tunde ednut as RIP?

Seandisputed:

Mhen you're the real MVP.. how long did the relationship last?

I'm not a patient type. I move on immediately I see any trait i'm not comfortable with.

Two years plus. Ended last year

Blackmoran:
May day! may day! mayday!.... op abort operation and run for your life,
I have dated a girl like that, by your story it seems you are dating a girl with bipolar disorder.. BPD..
here are there trait, they are good on bed, they have mood swing, they are very needy, they are good manipulator... they are violent, and lastly they look innocent...
it takes me years before I got to my senses I thought that neediness was a sign she loves me, not until the day we had a argument and she threaten me she will commit suicide, at first I thought she was joking until the next morning when I find her piercing herself with a blade... God save me that morning I would have end up in jail...
so op to avoid stories like, " husband stab wife, wife killed husband, husband and wife found dead" please leave now!!!!!!!!!!!

Hehehe..that ex of mine. Read the previous contribution.

aluyapreston:
I met this girl about two months ago when I went to visit my caterer friend in an hotel where he works. She makes sharwama there and mehn she was crazily beautiful and most importantly purpose and goal driven. In fact her ambition completely aligned with mine (this I knew when she showed me an incomplete feasibility study of her next line of business). I fell hard for her immediately but it was until a week later I let her knew my feelings and she reciprocated thesame, thanks partly to the fact that her ex broke up with her.

Our relationship from there simply skyrocketed. Our bond grew stronger, we took practical actions toward our goals, supported each other financially and in every other way and yes we had sex. However it didn't take long for me to notice some signs that gave me a odd feeling.

The first was her love for me: maybe it is because this is actually my first relationship, but there is a way she gets all over me that make me feel stuffed and choked sometimes. I'm an introvert and practically enjoy my me time but since we kicked off our relationship nothing of such exists anymore. From her ridiculous number of calls to her constant request for attention, I'm not sure of my sanity anymore.

Her strictness/anger: she has really never gotten angry with me before but I have seen her with other guys who try to cross boundaries. She can practically stare their soul from their body with just one look because of a simple a touch to her shoulder and that is when she's in a good mood. I saw how she once shouted the blood out of her male neighbour during one of my visit when he made a flirting remark. She does this to females as well and it kind of scare me. I mean she once made a cab man cry from her foul mouth because she found out he had overcharged her. I don't want that kind of anger directed at me for any reason. At least for now, anytime she gets angry she just stay quiet and turn away from me.

Death threats: when she first told me that she could blow off my brains if I ever cheated on her, I took it for laughs. After all how can she get a gun, but when she repeated it about two weeks later by promising to stab me if she see with another girl in a compromising position I knew it wasn't for comic relief anymore. I have no intention to cheat but for a relationship in its early stages I think the threats are uncalled for.

So I've been thinking if the threats are something I should take serious or let it slide, because apart from everything above she's just so perfect and lovely and brilliant. She can hold intelligent conversation for as long as need be, something I've never seen in other girls. I really don't want to break up with her but I don't want to die either

These beautiful girls are always the ones who are bipolar. My ex had similar characteristics- she was very strict and had anger issues (any small thing will trigger her off).

Over beautiful, over desirable she was, inshort she was/is a trophy wife, but with a lot of insecurities and little things could set her off, just like that. If we were on a whatsap call and she heard females talking anywhere in the background, she will just switch to video imediately and start quarel- who are those girls seating/making noise behind you(in a public place o). Why are they there, who are they? Ah, ah..biii, how can i know?

She never showed her anger traits in public or with others, sha..only me(though she was once told me she slapped a cab man who was trying to take advantage of her from ICM ikeja.

She jumped me publicly like twice-jump as in got angry and started to hit/slap me (in that feeble, female way though) and i was just pulling back while others were begging her to stop. Just because of a comment i made.

She omce threatened she.was ready to go to any lenght to get revenge if i ever left her, for wasting two years of her life. Las las..it is she that packed up and left and has made me an enemy. Though i loved her like kilode, she refused all my entreaties to come back, though i knew she had anger issues. She was an all round good person, her nacks was A1++++, but meehn, werey dey disguise and mean too, in some aspects, never wanted me around others

In your case, so long as she is not physically violent, you will be fine, she is just bluffing. Mine could just physically pounce on me inside house, for something as inconsequential as refusing to add her on social media(that she deleted me from, ab initio, from anger).

So as for you, you are doing fine.

JIMMY1393:


Who are all these guys na...and here I thought it's only white folks that did this obsession of a thing ....it can be energy draining ...how can you be giving update for activities withing the house na...that's madness lmao...and me myself I've been hoping to find someone that would call as frequently as this but all these stories are scary af and I don't want again

Me and my ex used to talk all the time. In a day, we could talk for 14hrs...she used to tell me everything- if she was cooking, going out, in an uber,(mostly video calls), if she was coming in, going to the market etc- without prompting. We enjoyed it and it was mutual.

There werr times, when we would talk from 10pm till 5am...nonstop. While i was away from her, abroad.

When its not mutual, it becomes obsession

AkaraAndBread:


Victoria Cakes and Marley Moore (MarleyXXX) are the ones in charge now.

Which Victoria Cakes. Old Cargo. You, you are only just knowing her.

Coldie:

Jada fire and maserrati are in completely 2 different categories

Which yeye category. Na you dey put them fpr category. They are not contemporaries, thats all. One came before the other

NewDelhi:
Some months ago, I gave a colleague some documents to go and submit at SON, lekki. She left her phone behind and proceeded. Normally I have the habit of going through a girls gallery or videos whenever she leaves her phone behind. If the phone is locked, I check if it's removable and has a memory card. Luckily for me, the latter was the case with this girls phone. I instantly removed the memory card, slotted it in my second phone and reached for her gallery.

What my eyes saw was beyond imagination. I instantly connected to my laptop and copied the videos there so I could go and enjoy myself when I get back home. When I saw her the next day, I just dey look her dey imagine all I saw in my head. Very clean shaven girl with birthmark for her left labia majora. Fat clit with a kponmo like toto.. damn!.

You could very easily get found out, oga..most phones, when you unmount and mount a memoey card, it prompts you to chose where you wish to save new media once you re enter your password.

You'l look like shit once found out, when you are thinking you are smart

Jada Fire...she has since been replaced by Maserrati, who is also on her way out soon. MsYummy and Rachel Raqs ti take over

Why should you let a female friend you are sexually attracted to, stay with you? As friend. If you were not sexually attracted to her, even if you see her naked, it wont move you.

Never allow a female stay with you, who wont let you fvck. In your own house? She's giving you rules? Send her out, let her go stay with the guy she fvcked..simple.

A girl wanted to stay in my house once, while in transit on het way to go and see whoever. When she told me on phone, i asked her: haanty, when you come, are we fvcking? She said no. I said okay, so you cant stay in my house. Go pay for a hotel.
She asked why? I said i dont do bed and breakfast, so i cant keep, you simple.

She grumbled and moved on.

Another came after a night out, of flex, when she had already told me she was spending the night at my place. When we got in she said no, i shdnt touch her, when she was butt naked in my bed. I dindt have power to argue. I simply threw her out.

She thought i was joking till the uber pulled up and i told her to leave. At 2am.

No time

Casper21:
An American average houses are so expensive than houses in Banana island.

An average single worker in USA living in a one room rented apartment pays $2000 monthly. In a year it totals to $24000. That's about #9,000,000 naira in conversion rate of 380.

While in Naija, the most beautiful 3 bedroom ensuite flat in Lekki can be gotten for#600k or 700k yearly. About $1800.

Imagine earning $4k and your rent eats up 50% of Ur income and you then spend extra $1000 for your bills and taxes. see why it's somehow difficult for your friends or family who are abroad to send you Money?

Oga you dont know anything. For one, its even difficult to generalize as america is like a continetnt, not just a country. And its not even called one room apartment over there Its called studio apartment(your self con) one bed apartment.

Now we have nomenclature out of the way, different cities and different areas of town have different rental values.

A studio apartment in any of the second tier cities like Baltimore, New Jersey,, charleston, Detroit etc costs way way less than 1k usd in the inner cities( that is closer to downtown, but perhaps more notorious) while in the suburbs, further away, and mostly white dominated, it can be $500 or less.

In the tier one cities like new york, LA, frisco, Miami, Boston, a studio apartment can go for as much
1k or 1k5/depending on location. In mahattan, you can even pay 2k or more, but how many manhattans do we have in America?

Summary, is: on average, studio apartments cost around 1k.usd per month in America.

And where can you see 3bedroom.in lekki for 700k..wetin you dey smoke? If you no.holl your 2.5m dont even go near.

Laughandie:
I'm picking up on the red flags right now.

1. He says he will do something as small as calling me back and he doesn't.

2. He says he will never disrespect because I'm different and then does number 1. Also this implies he is a disrespectful person and he will choose to be respectful to me. You either respect people or you don't. You don't pick and choose who you will respect and who you will disrespect. Respect is a state of being and not doing.

3. He won't take no for an answer because I'm not interested due to 1 & 2 and he won't leave me alone. I ignore his calls and he keeps calling. I turn down his dates and he won't stop asking. I have shouted at him to get the message that I am not interested but he says he loves my voice and he wants to hear it for the rest of his life.
I have blocked his number and he uses another number to call me. He either has zero self respect or he is a sociopath either way I won't be his victim. What a psycho.

Is he your boyfriend or toaster, haaanty

Your name na sorry o.

Even single women who are not even 30sef cant get the type of men they want to fvvck them, not to talk of you, a divorcee... You cant get, and you will only keep unsettling the marriages/ relationships of your ex boyfriends, because those are the only ones you are comfortable fvvcking, and wont feel like you are hoeing around.

I have many of them.like that on my case-early 30's and mid 30's. I go just dey look.dem dey say- 'see dis one, e be like say bomb dey your head. After how many years, after how many children. Abeg shift.' I can take them out, flex dem, play with them for abit, but thats all. When small small girls full everywhere. If any of your ex boyfriends likes old women, or older women, you are in luck.

And if you say, you have been with your husband.since 17,/how did an ex boyfriend come.into the picture?

If you have money, you have hope, you can get any of these unemployed 27 or 30 yr olds as a boyfriend to be servicing you or fvccking you.But lemme not lie to you, you have a long, lonely road ahead of you for the next 10 or 20yrs.

You can.buy sex, but companionship is what many women from 30 lack, once they dont have husbands. Then they start trying to unsettle their ex boyfriends(married or not) for sex and even companionship.

Taaa God forbid.

If you have a career, business or money, you may still get a man. If not, you are finished for life. Loneliness will finish you. 25yr olds never see man/companion wey go dey fvck dem on a regular, na you?

Sorry o

..

I can relate.

Let Hwr use your phone,simplicita

Go and do DNA for those kids first. Then come back

Igbodicool:

You are the olodo here.
So you want him use 'am' instead of the right contraction of 'l am'.
Which school did you attend?

Calm down, the OP is asking a question, so he cant use the contraction, I'm. He has to use 'Am' as the subject of his sentence.

Now, we are the ones to ask you which school.you attended.

You are being cheated. From the printing point. Even if u print DI, aingle page, its still N25 prt page and not 400. So, if you are using offset press(impression), it should be much cheaper, tho they charge per thousand impressions, per color.

Kriss216:
She’s the type of woman I want in my life right now. The guy is just being childish. Someone like me will even tell my girl to collect more money from my mum.

You are such a shame. Your mother shd have aborted you. Are you sure she is even your mother? Smh for this supposedly woke generation. Well, this is the world we live in now and the kinda kids people have bred.

She, your mother didnt even train your properly so it is even okay sef that you should try to conspire with a strange woman to cheat. Shame on you again

SenorFax:
Well, with all due respect, the guy is stupid.

Business is business pls.
But if you want peace of mind. Don't do business with you family members, they will kill your business in no time.

If the guy doesn't want the girl to collect money, he for settle her in return for the time spent for his mum instead of her customers.

Dumb and stooopidof you. You are a disgrace and you shd shut your mouth

Sorry eh..try to move on

Hmmm...problem.

It is l, bruh

Spot on. Nigga said it all. Nothing to add. Move to front page pls

You are a LESBIAN...gay, homosexual simple. No need to sugarcoat. It always starts that way. You are not alone though, many of you girls are like that- lesbians at base and aspiration, even if you do not manifest yet.

Because no girl is willing just yet to buy you shawarma and give you transport and hair money just to fvck you.

Once one comes along along you'l be the one eating her azz. Just a matter of time

Ehe...bros, you funny o.

You are giving her monwy to expand her business and you are asking hiw she saved money. The business she is expanding, do they pay her with slaps? Are you not the one who said, she said she is losing customers because she operates from home? Dont her customers pay her?

That said tho, so you think she survives on your 40k? And if she is saving she will tell you? Never try to investigate a woman's income. Women get money from diverse sources, chief of which is from men. She may not be sleeping with those men, but she gets money from them nonetheless. Those are undeclared sources and she cant exolain them. And jf yoy are not picking all her bills, 100%, dont ask.

How do you think she was survivung the first four years before you found your feet? Without income? Na from man na, see this guy o.

I have also been in your situation before so i can advice you-being abroad with a dependent woman at home. Mine was staying with her friend and needed to get her own place.

Difference between me and you is that, we discussed the reason why she needed to leave and it was an ongoing discussion. I gavs her the go ahead to look for a place

First day she went looking for a house, ahe told me. As she was leaving, she will tell me. As she is meeting agent she is telling me. As she agent is showing her house, she is doung video. As agent is discusssing price with her, she has me on the other end on the phone secretly listening.

When they finally agreed on 500k, i was listening. I gave her the money. The furninshing, i was drained but i did the bit i could.she did the rest. I never asked her for one minute where she got money to do the furnishing. She was just a student graduating then, so asides small.auppoet from her father,there was supposed to be no one else apart from me giving her money. I didnt even bother to try to test that assumption.

If she no talk say she save 240k..if she say make you give am the entire 390k, you fit? So why you dey find trouble?

Why tell her to show you her account balance? Ah, ah..you don marry am? But if she cant provide even picture of the shop, not even video, then she is hiding something tho. My own girl sha, there was no reason to doubt her. Once she woke up, we were talking on her phone, if she was eating she was telling me, if she was on okada, she was doing video and sending me, if she was in uber...we were doing video call, so i knew every..so i had no reason to ask her to prove what she was doing or send account balance

Maybe you and your woman were not that close,. Me and mine were..we even only met in Nigeria once before i travelled, you, you have even been with your own a whole year before you travelled

In conclusion, give her the money, if you can afford it, dont block her, but become laid back, see whether she will make any effort to keep the relationship alive.

If she doesnt, cut her lose- she belongs to the street. But be sure of her Bleep up before you cut her lose. Dont behave like a small child.

TheAviator2000:
I have a situation going on in my life right now with the woman that I love and i need your perspective in this situation.

To give you some background, my girlfriend and i have been together for almost 5 years in a mostly long distance relationship as i left the country after the first year of meeting her. When I finally found my feet abroad, I started sending her about 40k every month as upkeep money even without her asking. I have been consistently sending her this upkeep for about a year now and have never asked nor received anything in return.

Few weeks ago, my girlfriend mentioned that she needed a shop to expand has fast growing business as working from home is no longer convenient and she is beginning to loose customers as a result of that. I was really happy to hear that and promised to give her my support.

She eventually found a store that cost about N300k per annum and indicated that she had saved about 240k and needed about 150k from me to cover the remaining rent fees, agency fees, admin fees and minor renovations. I pledged to send her the money this week and as a man of my words, i intend to send it.

However, somethings did not sit right in with me and I inquired to know how she was able to save 240k as she had never ever mentioned having that type of money saved up. Before i sent her monthly upkeep money (40k), i always inquired to know how she was doing financially and there has never been a time where she mentioned she was saving money or have 240k saved up somewhere. As a matter of fact, she has never indicated to have more than 10k at any point in time

To end my doubts, i asked her send me a screenshot of her bank statement showing the savings and this made her really upset to the point of going into a rant about "lack of trust" in the relationship. Mind you, i have never asked her to send her back statement before and have never been the type to distrust the things she said as she has never really given me any reason to. I have always been supportive and the one time I actually needed some "assurance" to quell my doubts, she wasn't able to provide it.
At this point, I feel there is some level of deceit on her part to get some money from me.

I also asked her to send me picture of the store and she said she didn't take any picture when she went to check it ...

Last week, i told her to apply for a passport and wanted to send her like 80k to do that as my goal was to facilitate her eventual relocation to join me but on Saturday, she told me that she prefers the money goes into getting her store set up and she can always apply the passport with the money she makes from her store... hmmmm

To be honest, i am really upset and slightly depressed because I come across people back home trying to "job" me for cash but never thought it would come from my inner circle.

At this point, i have mentally moved on and after i send that 150k, i will block her everywhere and move on with my life. ... That is honestly how i feel right now

I am coming.
Make i watch bal first