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Gloriagee:
The message u sent is not something to worry about but her response abi her reaction na the one wey dey worry you. Dont worry you never start to see reaction, u hear.

Newton's third law is: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

Your wife is really nice. She blocked u to keep herself from saying stuff she'll regret. U definitely can do better by being open minded n free from biases.

JubrinElSudan:
You left her in the bedroom went to the Parlor and she still followed you to there. After you had slapped her, she now went back to the bedroom, locked the door and refused to come out. The same room she refused staying before she was slapped. Most times, na we dey cause trouble for ourselves

MelesZenawi:
Stop framing up stories.

Mercy is as innocent as an unborn child to seyi bully.

Safitu:
So then what is it? Can you kindly explain it to me then? If a woman has standards, that are realistic and substantial to her life, what is the issue?

dfrost:
I agree with you on player power. Mou too is part of the mess we see ourselves in. Why price Sanchez away from Arsenal with such big money?

On his man management, he needs to know that players are becoming more important than the manager. That is one problem he has refused to understand and let go.

This will only stop if and only if FIFA and UEFA moves against or regulates it.

He still sees himself as the demigod of coaching world. Very soon nobody will talk about him.

All humans have their time. One day someone will take our place and we will be forgotten.

dfrost:
But the same set of players he had problem with won the UCL 4 times (1 with CA, 3 with ZZ).

His second stint with Chelsea ended up badly. Now Man Utd.

Mourinho of all coaches is without a club and blabbing up and down in Portugal like a scorned woman or gf? Please we need to tell ourselves the truth.

dfrost:
He said failure in his man management test. And I agree totally. Once Mou has a problem with a player, it's so difficult to reconcile with the player. Casillas, Ronaldo, Ramos, Pogba, Hazard and others.

As a manager, he is good no doubt but it gets to a point that you now need to work on your man management skills.

And what happens to what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas? Mou spills the beans too much. Damn!!! For a man, he talks too much and thrives in controversy. He left Madrid and immediately he said the only Ronaldo he knows is De Lima. Everybody knows De Lima is good but don't rub it on CR7's face.

cc: decatalyst

Ekpekus:

This is preposterous.. and it shows an obvious malpractice here.. you can not categorically say not even 1 person voted the opposition. Even in Buhari's polling unit, the opposition had some votes.
For a PU for have that number (not ward o) then something is fishy

escodotman:
Now that's a floorless victory there.
Anyway, Southsouth, Southeast, Northcentral, half of Southwest and half of Northeast are locked down for Atiku. He just needs to do well more than Jonathan in the Northwest for a total floorless victory.

SEONaijaExpert:
This is what annoys me. The educated people we have are now behaving like an illiterate because of political gains.

This is jungle justice, I was expecting the so-called educated professor to place this barbaric action in its right category.

Shame on him!

Nobodys:
being bullied to accept a date you chose?... Lols....

You can't say everyone is at fault except the guys mum, that's not fair.... The guy clearly stated in his various posts on the thread that his mum foot dragged the whole thing and that was why he picked a new date without her consent, cause of her actions toward the initial date picking.....

The mother's reason isn't even reasonable enough, convenience? really?....

my only concern is the mum's attitude, threatening to curse her child, hindering a marriage just because of convenience, says a lot.....

Anyways, let's not drag this anymore....

Eberechi24:
The question is why would you propose when you know you ain't ready? The threat from girl and her family maybe know the man stands. To know if he is serious with their sister and not playing her. It's up to the man to the make the girl understand whats on ground.
After proposing, you start making excuses, who does that? If the girl is your sister you would advise her to keep calm. She is 30! For crying out loud

excessmon:
Mum won't be involved if ideal things are done...mum is acting like a typical Yoruba woman ...he should know wat to do....guy should just liberate himself first cos he don fuckup himself

Nobodys:
..you ain't getting it at all, if the boy's mother felt like her child is getting into a bad marriage then she would have told the son to call off the marriage, she ain't being protective as you see it... she only wants the marriage to be done in April because that month is convenient to her....

What happens to the girl's parents, aren't they important?...The girls parent isn't at fault here, the man clearly said FEBRUARY so he should stick to that, in fact the girl's parents are being over protective cause they think the man is trying to play their daughter....

The OP has a lot of work to do, First, don't ever make decisions out of desperation..... second, try to bring both families together, family gathering, get together, try to create a bond cause that is evidently lacking.....

I still insist that the girl should be considerate enough to understand you... if the date is shifted, that means more planning and everything, she should just overlook it, it's not worth the stress...She needs to understand that sometimes we need to apologize even when we are not wrong....


Lemme play a scenario into your mind.
The Guy's mum has no issues with the girl. The guy is just too foolish to handle the matter. My point you are not getting is this; would you still go ahead to marry your hubby if the parents tell you to leave him if you cannot deal with a certain attitude of his you complained about? The statement quitting the relationship which was initiated by the girls mum is the main issue I have here, and that to me, is the origin of the problem. Means the guy is not worth the girl.
Secondly, why would he have to go and beg(which is obviously the guys fault) the girls family to let the marriage continue.
Now, he was asked when he felt the marriage would take place which he could have asked to consult his family before picking a date but he ansd in panic. Now, I don't know if you are married ma'am or not, but when the date is being picked, is it the groom and the bride's parent that does that selection or the groom's parent and the bride's parent?
If you are the grooms parent, would you be happy being bullied into accepting that date that was chosen (without your opinion), or would you call your son to order and let him think?
We will all lay blames on the guy, but they all have equal blames to share, except the boy's mum.
If the girls parent valued the guy, they would have requested the presence of the guy's family and that consensus date chosen will hold more ground that that of the panicked date chosen by the guy. They can even make it obvious to the mum that her presence validates every other reason or doubt they have

excessmon:
Nope its not that way....I'm not comfortable with it ...however I believe if the guy had been man enough I'm sure things won't get to this level

Nobodys:
Isn't the guy's family dictating for him also?....

The mum ain't a saint though, she should be considerate as a mother and not threaten to curse her own child, who does that?.....


Don't know Y some peeps like building mountains out of mole hills.

Eberechi24:
You didn't read this part
"I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship."

It's not as if the girl is stubborn, she is type that listen to critique and tries to amend, am not holding brief for her.

February shift is not the issue here, he is proposing another shifting to April-his mom didn't approve the February shift which the girl won't be comfortable with. She may feels the guy is not serious and deliberately delaying the whole thing.

excessmon:
Y are most comments favouring the guy and hitting hard on the lady.....I observed some key points in the write up of the op

1. If his Lady is 30 he is in early 30s or late 30s.....is it too early for him to get marry?

2. A man at early 30s is he too early to marry?

3. A man at early 30s that can't take decisions for himself what kind of man is he?

4. A relationship of three years without a reason to continue....what kind of man is that?

5. Y will a guy be so irresponsible to be scared cos his woman works and earn for herself to help him......


Finally as a man decide with your mother and not ur mom deciding for you cos she will blame you for the decisions you are suppose to take....

I adore the lady for trying to mend the life of a man that can't decide like you!!!!

My piece though

LadyHeaven:
Lol, very hypocritic forum, if it where to be the other way round that the lady keeps asking the dude to shift the wedding after 3 years of dating, i am pretty sure the whole forum would have brutally cussed out and demeaned the lady as not been ready and probably taking D from someone behind, the Op reasons for shifting the date isn't convincing no sane human being would be comfortable been treated that way, doubt would start tricking in, fears start building, is he waiting for someone else, am i really his choice, does he want to dump me and travel out secretly with someone else? why does he keep shifting the goal post everytime for flimsy reasons?

We are all human Op before we make decisions we should learn to flip the coin and put ourselves on the receiving position, ignore all this chop clean mouth guys on NL a lot of them are loners who cant even keep a pet or are in extremely loving relationships but choose to be online trolls, Love is rare to find if she is the one make it work, you are the man

CeeKay17:
People are claiming the ref was biased and they don't want Africa to win, that was why I pointed out the 1st penalty he gave us.
Secondly, if you watch football very often, you would know that not every time the ball touches a player hand that it's a foul otherwise there would be penalties in every single game. The Iran's situation was completely different. Rojo's was purely accidental and the ref would have been very harsh to give a pen in that instance.

lilbest4:
All these ones just want to cry.
Could you please shut the hell up
If Ighalo had scored the goal, would you be here saying bullshit? What about the first penalty, did anyone even spot it before the ref blew? So he wasn't bias when he awarded the first penalty which wasn't even worth it but suddenly became biased afterwards sore losers.

That was one of the best ref so far in the tournament.
No sane ref would award that penalty because it didn't in anyway stop or even interrupt a goal scoring opportunity in fact it even aided the Nigerian striker and Ighalo only started protesting after he had missed a perfect chance

fikhayo:
I am also frustrated by the crop of players and the coach's negative tactics.

Proudlyngwa:
Actually there is nothing wrong in blaming past coaches, they are paid heavily to do a job and most have free hand in doing that job.



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