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Hello man, this is exactly my issues few years ago. Let me state some facts here to let you know I understand ur situation very well.....
#You as a person will find it difficult to survive without this girl in your life.
#She, regardless how horribly she abuse you or flirt, she can't do without you herself.
#The two of you are almost inseparable...Abi.

I know all this from experience.
You will have the solution that will not hurt neither you or her if we can talk on phone. I can't articulate everything here...

Zeal0000007:
For a serious relationship leading to marriage , do you encourage going through your partner's phone for trust to be built ?.

I discovered my partner has been flirting with other guys online, thanks to the fact that I always go through her phone when she's asleep. I have done alot for this gal, just disappointed while gals wouldn't be faithful in their relationships.

This is someone I wanted to wife next year, and I love her so much despite her flaws .

I swallow alot of her flaws, like whenever we have issues she will abuse me from head to toe, on occasions like that I will ask her out of my life and my house but she'll be so bent in staying that nothing can separate us after how many years according to her "over her dead body" she wants to eat her cake and have it back.

I'm really stalk, after abusing me up and down at night I find it very difficult resist her body, I will still try to have sex with her especially when I see her nudes, I be flesh and blood.

I can't continue like this 2023, Guys please don't cohabit with a gal you haven't married.
Now I have issues of driving her way or I relocate to somewhere far just to have peace of mind. I can't continue like this next year, God forbid.

If she was coming and going ending this toxic relationship would have been effective. This is someone I have paid two sessions school fees for, care for her like she was my wife in my own little way, as we speak I have written her final year project for her chapter one to five, its just left for her to type it and present it.

I don tire for this relationship I really need a way out, I want to leave her cos its no longer healthy for me, though I really love her. She lacks respect for me , she still flirts online, she's very abusive . I have told her if you feel you have seen someone better than me, kindly move on or you feel we have stayed long enough and you can't wait anymore kindly move on, I won't hold anything against u. But you can't be staying in my house and be seeing someone else, frustrating me all round.

Sometimes when we want to have sex , neighbours must hear us because of fight over sex, but she has her good side, she wasn't like this when we started. I'm really tire, God help me next year, cos I can't continue like this.

LaSenior:
Mod please I want this piece to be pushed to front-page this is happening to me though I have prepared my Mind to do what is in my mind but I want this honourable house to look into this

I was supposed to go and do marital introduction but because of my dad's health which was going bad everyday I couldn't. I thought maybe when we stabilise him a little then I can quickly arrange for introduction but sadly my beloved Dad passed away 4days later

I have been crying endlessly and been so weak and saddened just this morning this girl I was planning on spending the rest of my life with chatted me up saying that she has looking at me since that I don't want to say anything concerning her Christmas things that she needs 50k to buy Christmas things. I was shocked to the bone haaaa why are you this heartless towards me? Does it mean you are not concerned about what I have been passing through, infact I don't want to speak more because God already saved me from a heartless lazy woman.

To the women in this forum is it right to ask your fiancee Christmas Money in the midst of seeing him mourning of his late Dad just few days his dad died this attitude of this girl is it right?

Your father is a good man. He made himself a sacrifice for ur marital future. May his soul rest in peace.

And, may you never find peace if you marry that girl.

Sleep well man.

I feel your pain.

For the fact that you're self aware, then, you're absolutely redeemable. You will love the process of your redemption and the outcome will gladden your soul.

Two things....
1. You must forgive your parents and stop seeing them as your problem source.
2. Come live with me.

I've been close to your situation before but not as deep as yours. I dealt with it all alone and right now, the sound of my name alone scares the pit of hell.

I excel in business, relationship, and in all spheres of life.

Thank God for grace.❤

deavicky:
I was minding my business in my office trying to get out of tedious drawing I was doing, suddenly my phone rang. I checked, it was an unknown number so I ignored the call and continued with my work. The phone rang again I still did not pick. About 15 minutes later a text came from the same number that she is Mr X (my friend) wife that if I'm free I should call her back.

Immediately I had to call back.
She picked and start by apologising for calling but she couldn't just help it. That they are very broke at the moment even their little baby food is finished and no money to buy it that she had asked her husband to call me but he said he doesn't want bother me. She just had to take my number from his phone to secretly call me. She said I should send them any amount I can and I should please not let her husband know she called me that I can also send the money to his account.

I was not having much at that time so I sent 20k to his account only for my friend to call me later to thank me and also indirectly warn me not ever listen to such call from his wife.

My concern here is, why is that the same person that asked me not to tell her husband be the same person to tell her husband or is she trying to cause problem between us?

Bro, you have done so well.
Don't be disturbed in anyway, you've applied wisdom already.

And, it's not a planned work. I will make it simple.....

Your friend knows you quiet well and of course knows his wife.....

Now, the wife had suggested calling you but ur friend refused, right?

Now, you and ur friend haven't talked about any money so, ur friend would have easily concluded that his wife had done what he asked her not to do.That's one.

Two, he may have heard her while speaking with you on phone.

But believe me, it's not a planned work except you see ur friend as one.

Keep doing good.

This girl is planning ur jail-term and you're taking it likely Abi......

Anyways, you have this thread as part of ur evidence.

Note: I'm a teacher myself I must tell you that she's not alone in that class and school. They may frame you one day if she really likes you.

Tonnierichy:
This particular girl can never calm down. She's notorious for all kinds of things. Just this week, her mother came to report in school that she caught her watching porn with grandma's phone. Checked her browsing history and discovered she's been doing that for 6 months

yunus22:
Good day ladies and gentlemen

I was employed as a security guard at a leather factory through a private security company 4months ago but this company never pays me as they said the factory owner did not pay them . But recently I learnt that the factory owner had been paying them.

I went to the office on Friday to confront them about the issue n also told them I will resign. They asked me to wait till today Monday so they'll forward my issue to their head office to get sorted out.

So I went to the office today, they told me I'll only get one month salary today till when they finally sorted it out then they'll pay me the remaining 3months at the same time.

I said, okay no problem. but the thing that pains me so much is that these heartless entities deducted 6k out of 10k salary n left me took home only 4k. They deducted Five thousand naira for uniform which were never given to us n one thousand naira for audio application form fee respectively.

I returned home dejected, despair n feeling defeated with so many things running on my head. It's really paining me right now feeling like to go n burn their office n kill them all or arrange to kidnap them.

Another thing that I discovered is that the factory owner pay my company 20k but they'll pay me 10k. but one thing that always motivated me is that the factory owner usually buys me food n drinks, sometimes even tips me 500 naira. So I feel like I was just saving my salary I'll cash out later whenever they paid me but it end up in tears, anger n gnashing of teeth.

Ladies and gentlemen I want your candid advice on how to go about this issue please. Should I go ahead and sue them to pay me my remaining salary or ask the factory owner to avoid the company n pays me directly since he
likes me?

I'm sincerely sorry for how this may sound to you and every other readers here.....

OK, how on earth can you be doing a job that pays you 10k for the whole of 30 days.

Are you ******

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This is massive and insightful. God bless you.

SlavaUkraini:
Simple Advice:

1- Make sure it is God talking to you and not your stomach or your Financial Condition.

2 - Wait for God and I say it again Wait for God.

Do not wake up and start ministry because you heard a voice. There are many voices out there. Stay in the ministry where you are currently serving under.

DO NOT JUMP THE GUN.

God should set you apart from your current ministry to the specific Location and People that he wants you to minister to.

Apostle Paul was Chosen in Acts 9 but was not separated for ministry until Acts 13.

That was a very long period of time if you understand Bible chronology. During those times of waiting he was under the tutelage of the Apostles before him.

3 - God would signal your Pastor or your Spiritual Leader when the time to launch out finally comes.

God is not a Author of Confusion. And he would never ignite Confusion in his church because he wants you to start a fresh work.

Your Pastor will see clear evidence that it is time to let you go and do God's bidding. Even if he is deaf in the Spirit, he would not be able to resist your launching out.

Eli became deaf in the Spirit but when God was about to raise Samuel the Prophet, Eli knew that this was God speaking.

It was the Senior Apostles that God told to Separate Paul and Barnabas. He didn't only speak with Paul and Barnabas without involving their covering.

4 - Location... Location.... Location

This cannot be Overemphasized.

If you miss this, then forget about ministry. You cannot fulfill God's calling for your life in a wrong location.

He has to direct you to the right location where you will sweat less and the results will be massive. So many are struggling in ministry today because they missed their appointed location.

Jonah was sent to Nineveh and not to Tarshish.

If you refuse to go to Your Nineveh, then get ready to Lodge in the Belly of the Whale until you decide to go to Nineveh.

Jonah 1 : 17.... 2 : 9 - 10

5 - God must not stop speaking to you.

The voice you claimed to have heard before you went into ministry must continue to speak to you and confirm his word with signs and wonders if not your calling and ministry will be seen as a 21st Century Joke.

Study the book of Exodus and you will notice one line ...

" And the Lord said to Moses"

" And the Lord said to Moses"

" And the Lord said to Moses"

God never stopped speaking to Moses and confirming his word to and through Moses with signs and wonders.

The Constant Consistent Voice of God is the Secret of every great ministry you see today.

Many are Stranded in ministry today because it seems the heavens are closed. They are not hearing anything.

Most times, it is because of their disobedience to the Last instruction God gave them.

God does not waste his word. Until you obey the last instruction, he will not show you the next plan of action and will remain silent.


And some others Received what I call "A Flash from Satan" . The voice they hear that makes them start ministry and doesn't speak again to them in another 10 Years.

They now become Stranded and Confused. Many of such people now go into Fraudulent acts in ministry because they want to save face and appear as if God is behind the ministry.

6 - Avoid the Voice of Men.

Then again, some of these ministers heard the wrong voice or the voices of men that made them to start ministry or ministry projects.

God cannot bless a ministry or ministry projects that he has no hand in. It is very simple.

The Voice of Men must never make you start ministry because when push comes to shove, the same Men that stood with you may run away.

But if God is the one behind the ministry, Men may leave, but your caller will remain and bring your way the people you were called to be a blessing to.

7 - I Wish you all the Best since you are so convinced that your are hearing from The Holy Spirit.

Nobody follows The Holy Ghost and remains Small.

He is the Maker of Men

The One that knows the Road to your Destiny.

He will be your Strength and Stay in times of Trouble, you will not even notice trouble came calling.

God Bless You

A friend is planning for his wedding, a small one actually which I've been so much involved due to how close we've been.

However, the whole process is scaring me.
This is it; the guy is the one paying every damh thing. No support from the lady at all.

Is it supposed to be like that?

Please tell me what I don't know.

..For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

Ephesians 6:12
KJV

I pray you see this.....

First, I will start by saying you caused it, and brought this terrible occurennce to yourself. The attitude of your 29 years old son only tells that you have raised your children to be dependent. You failed there!

However, that son of yours is shameless and wicked.

See, stop been concerned about if he's going to help anyone if he gets rich or not. You should rather be concerned that he's going to remain dependent on you even after marriage-if he ever think of it sha..."

Back to him: at his age, his concerns should be how to bless you from his pocket and not taking from you again.

My advice: send him out of your house, ask him to take responsibility for his life and be a man that he's supposed to be and not a parasite that he is now.

The only way to help him is to send him out of your house. Don't be emotional about it. Just do it and pray that he will get sense out there.

That guy no get single shame....shiooor

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Happy birthday daddy. You will live long to see more of God's goodness.

helinues:
You are not conscious or cautious about the misplacement of the money.

People should stop relating their carelessness to diabolic.

I used to watch one program back in the days, Pastor Wa, the man said, so you have been complaining of having Agbano money ( Mysterious disappearance of money), why not take the money to the bank and let Agbana go and take it there .

Doesn't happen that way. Just pray you don't experience it.
Life is deeper than you can imagine..

Long live baba ObJ.

I love this gesture from oba of Benin. Long live on the thrones.

Newsmic:
DJ Cuppy Celebrates Her Dogs' Birthday, Wears Matching Outfits With Them (Photos)

Billionaire's daughter and entertainer, DJ Cuppy has taken to her Instagram handle to celebrate the first birthday of her pet dogs, Dudu and Funfun on 17th February, 2022, IGBERETV reports.

She shared photos of herself together with her dogs as they wore matching outfits to celebrate the day.

She captioned the photos;



https://www.instagram.com/p/CaFsGOWswO-/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

How can one kidnap this dogs please....?

Mhistasaints:
Hello guys! I need a simple advice. I am a married man, my ex-girlfriend is also married. I've been married for 2years now and she got married 2months ago. When I got married, she told me she was disappointed at me, that why couldn't I come and beg her when she said no. She was the one that left me in the relationship telling me that her people say that I was too young and had nothing. I focused, achieved and got married at 23yrs.

Of late, she chatted me up and we discussed. She started being too intimate to the extent of trying to discussing her sexual marital life with me on her she doesn't like having sex with her husband. Few days ago, she started asking me for money. I am sensing something fishy.

What do I do?

Don't Do it!
Don't Do it!!
Don't Do it!!!

Do you want to see everything going well in your life go down the drain? Do you want a peaceful life and marriage turn to a nightmare before ur very eye? Do you want to see negative drama in your life? Do you want to regret your entire life?

You can't be young and stupid at the same time. God has blessed you at a young age and you want to trade that at the gate of destruction?

Don't do it!!!

Block! Flee!! Flee!!!

Involve them. For the slightest reasons, seek their opinion. This is not to say you don't know what to do initially...No. It will only make them cool thinking they count in your decision making.

Ones you have 2 or 3 of them that agrees with you...then change am for them...

Ire o

Brownygold002:
Hey, Nairalanders

Something has really been eating me up, I think I need to share. I'm a young gal of about more than 17, I'm brown, tall, slim, have a long curly hair (I'm from a mixed race - Lebanon and Nigeria), brown eyes and nice lips I'm endowed (no be mouth).

I'm a fresher at UNIZIK. I know I am attractive which I don't deny, I don't boast nor make anyone feel inferior. I have 3 roommates. I respect them cos I'm the youngest amongst them. But they don't seem to get along with me. I have tried everything I Can.

Each time we go out, I'm usually the center of attraction which is not new to me, nothing special. They just hate me. I don't boast. I try 2 look as simple as possible. But guys do come for me and they get jealous.

I have tried talking to them but they said they're fine but deep down I know they don't like me. The other day they intentionally frustrated me, they hid my assignments and burnt a new gown a guy at church got me. I'm tired of all these attitude everyday. I feel lyk taking my life, the hate is much. I didn't make myself. Help me guys!!

I know how stuffs like this end. Get your own space as soon as you can. Talking from experience, you are not safe and you know it.

Hating on you for your look is natural, yes. But protect yourself or you're long gone.