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Whome:
I have to respond because I get so offended by these kinds of threads.

My story is this I had on child out of wedlock but was in the relationship for a long while with the man. He said he loved me and wanted us to be together for life but he started seeing other people on the side. I didn't want to put up with the behavior so I broke it off only to find out I was pregnant afterwards.

I stayed a single mom till my daughter was two years old. I met someone we dated for almost a year and we finally married. I had a son but after my son was born my husband became abusive. I did not want my children in this environment and I divorced. Again I stayed single until my son was three years old and I met someone who lived overseas through a good friend of mine and we dated for 2 years. We finally got married and had a son. My current husband turned out to be a total liar and schemer and now I am headed for divorce again.

My first husband was good at first but later started hanging with the wrong kinds of people and smoking weed and being abusive. My second husband was a liar and a con. I have not slept around. I have never had one abortion in my life and I was a good wife and mother who always tried to be supportive of my husband and am supportive of my children. I have my own business although some days its good and other days not so but I am trying and I support my children well. Everything I have goes first to them and I get for myself when I can. I am not bragging but asking everyone here that had something negative to say about single mothrs, WHAT OF MY OWN?

If I never meet anyone I am prepared for raising my children alone but why should I be condemned for being a good woman who unfortunately met not so good men. I didn't rush into marriage with them and I was not pregnant when we got married so it was not a marriage of force. But why should I still be looked down upon just because I have children. Wont their fathers go on and marry again and have relationships? If i being single the rest of my life should be my fate then shouldn't whats good for the goose be good for the gander?

Sad if that is the way it is!
am sorry m'am

swart4real:
i am swart also a nigerian but leave outside nigeria i am lonly here looking for a good women or girl any one available should contact me through this swartphotos@yahoo.com any guy man that try to contact me will lost his contact thats all i know

waoh!!. . .oko oloyun!
so what is this suppose to mean

slimfine:
dude you were looking for advice and you didn't say who you needed it from. It is quite insulting to tell single people to shut up just becuase their advices were not suitable for you and your situation. people have opinions and is up to you to take it or leave it whether it came from a married person or not. And why didn't you think all women should go to hell when you were cheating on your wife with them? abeg comot joo,

It is not the advise that is important sometime but the way and manner you advise. Sometimes it tells if your advise needs to be taking serious or not. It helps in calculating ur age too

It is not a must to talk or advise. even though it helps in ur post count, it is still unnecessary cos u wont be giving medals for million post count. DAMN!!

For singles, you dont know what it takes to be married, so when married people are talking, stay quiet, try and digest what they are discussing and learn from it, rather than criticize

Said it again. however am damn sure he is not refering to u so no need to feel insulted

See the gun those mopos dey carry sef. Good for them they werent there when those guys were bombing the place. They would have been exposed.

Aloy.Emeka:
“We were shut in a small room and we were surrounded with mad people. At daytime, it was usually a bit quieter but in the night, that was their day. Nobody could sleep. They would be hitting their doors, scratching and shouting. When I saw this, I sat back to say ‘so, this is life.’ I was naked. This was an executive governor that was so respected with the paraphernalia of office. Anything you wanted, you got it done. You had the power of life and death. But within a twinkle of an eye, you were in that position sleeping on the bare floor. Any reasonable person would sit down and reflect,” he said.

Am damn sure that wont deter him from looting from public money if ever have the chance to be in power again. It's in the boold!

GBAM!!!
Nigge -area!!!
kai . . we r done walahi

photoshop at work. lol

@ poster
are you sure ur cousin has not done something bad to hurt him in the past. sometime will hurt people without knowing it and it can be worse if the victim doesnt open up. however, if this is not the case, it i suggest u tell ur cousin to go spiritual. go to pastor or something and let her talk to God on her own personally. that still fail??. . .then she needs not only run but flee. marriage is to enjoy not to endure, even if there is need to endure, i think 5yrs can be too much without any sight of changes in future.

collins2:
@tpia and clickgold you two have asked the most stupid questions on this thread,let me also ask you this question and i want an honest answer is it everyman that ever slept with you that you married? are u married to the man that disvirgined you?when will women ever grow up?una think say na only men dey toast women now?i am sure this dude must be a loaded guy and that was why the babe fall for her and besides she was not raped.and let me tell you women are toasted everyday by different men it is now up to the women to reject such advances or accept them,our duties as men na to to toast but no be by force.
so i beg make una grow up

still crying for answers

still waiting o
ve been praying all this while

Frankly the age is way too much. Dont think it impossible to find a man close to ur age. BTW what type of r.ship do u want from him. While is not too bad satisfying your sexual zeal, it is not advisable IMO, marrying him. Godd luck!

life is sometime about chances
we dont expect anything besides this working out unless you want to break a lot of hearts on here
hungry for the updates pls.

i wish you guys well

theolar:
SexyLeamon: i am sure u probably did not read btw d lines. My expectatns when i startd d thread was a place one can frequent to meet matured guys who were ready to settle down and tips on how to set d ball rollin. I am sure a lot of gals wuldnt mind knowin such info. If u follow d thread pple actually suggestd places .but fortunately some showd interest and i acceptd. Ladies always tend to live their lifes botherd on hypocrisy, is it d fact dat i want to change my single status an issue. At least na somewhere u go meet ur husband or wife b4 u can develop. I dont need to post a thread to get a one nite stand. My dear maybe u culd add sumtin +ve to dis thread . Hope to hear 4rm u. Have a nice day, ciao

GBAM!!! . . .tell them

got drunk in your matrimonial home?? . . .we change indecence and call it "no big deal" all in the name of tryn to feel westernized. unfortunately "bad" doesnt have another name other than "bad"

dpat60:
U GUYS ARE TAKIN A BIG RISK OOH
MY HAND NO DEY

wetin b the risk for here na
we don com again

It was a still shot that make it look like that. look at the video


[url]http://www.asylum.com/2009/07/10/obama-checking-out-girl/?icid=main|main|dl5|link3|http%3A%2F%2Fwww.asylum.com%2F2009%2F07%2F10%2Fobama-checking-out-girl%2F[/url]

larez:
You commenters are heartless oh. Don't you realize that she is at her sexual peak at that age? We all know the whole shenanigan is a booty-call thang. The Young Dude wants to be able to brag that he bagged an older woman, and got cash from her too. The Older woman wants to remember what a young dude feels like romancing her. Haba, she only lives once. Let her enjoy her thang jare.

waits for flak

How old are you? . . .y'all think this is funny or something. You know what it takes to put on a thread like this? . . .she has been push to the wall, get that into ur f#"kn head!. . . and it doesnt make any sense when you are still making her problem more worse by mocking her.pls grow up

IT happens and it will not cease to happen.
two words: MOVE ON
we men hate that especially when we realize how nice and caring you are.

PeeDaVinci:
Although i am totally against the sale of children based on my moral and religious upbringing, but, let us just view the case from an opposite angle : is there any law against sale of children (inasmuch as you are not selling them to be abused e.g for prostitution and child labour), you are selling the child to a good family so that the child can have a better life. This is very similar (more or less ) to what is done in orphanage, but they dont just tagged it with "child sale". Selling a child into a good family should be normal. extending the argument to an extreme case is the issue of surrogate parents, sperm donors, ovary donors - this is the sale of life too in one form of the other, as it is with the sale of children.

Let me state again, the views expreseed above arre not my personal views ( a lawyer will plead a case he doesnt believe in some times, and this is what im doing)

Thats a good argument there!

muhsin:
A woman, Ijeoma Emeto, who allegedly sold her two weeks old daughter for N15, 000 has been arrested by the police in Abuja.

The Area Commander (Metro), Federal Capital Territory Police Command, Assistant Commissioner of Police Sunday Odukoya said Ijeoma Emeto of Mpape Village sold the baby to one Patience Donatus Ejioku a week after her birth. He said the baby was later given to one Jessinta Ekoma who connived with her husband Vincent Ekoma and took the baby to one Juliana Ekoma in Owerri Imo State. He said a team of police officers led by Superintendent Aisha recovered the baby in Owerri.

“We were informed that the baby could not be found with her mother few days after birth and when we investigated we discovered how the baby was sold. Police would not know the motive behind selling the baby until after investigation. All the suspects have been arrested apart from Juliana Ekoma who is on the run,” he said.

He said Emota who has two other children is in police custody with her accomplices. He said all the children are under the care of the police as she is a single mother.

Emota said when she found that the baby was ill and she could not be able to settle her medical bills she took her to Donatus for care. “I too was unwell and Dotatus gave me N15, 000 for my medical expenses. We met in the church,” she said.

Jessinta said Ejioku complained to her that she could not take care of the baby, so she collected her and gave her sister in law (Juliana) in Owerri. “Juliana has not given birth and was looking for a baby,” she said.

http://www.news.dailytrust.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=2533:mother-sells-daughter-for-n15000&catid=46:lead-stories&Itemid=140

The woman might not probably intentd to sell the child. The topic of the thread might be convincing

xxxinchdep:
to be honest i dont care about kobo's views. i rather do something that just sit down and argue. if u can channel alittle bit of those voices u use in arguing to giving back to your society then u can talk to me

Hmmmm. . .seems serious and hungry for change. . .what is your plan?. . .we cant just sit down and expect something meaningful  will be done by all those selfish leaders. It seems they dont really care or aware of level of shits our country in.

you go monitor tire
just be advising her and allow ur advice to do the monitoring

Hittler or osama is nice

segan:
your biggest mistake was having sex with someone outside marriage , which is a sin,
thaz the genesis of your whole problems,
well you are on it try to get used to it,
with time you adjust,
all the best,
i am married did not have sex with my wife b4 marriage,,i was her first,
is good to keep bible principles,
take care,mate

really?. . .in the olden dayz may be lol

generalzango:
I have noticed that nairaland,is not only Nigerians that participate in the forum,so lets stop what others will laugh at us. Haba mana. Lets have 1 love,1 dream,1 feelings & 1 Nairaland.

Exactly!. . .i had been on some forums, not NL, where NL was a subject of discuss. Unfortunately it was on tribalism that has have a place of abode in some people's heart on NL. We will be wrong if we think anything happening here on NL can not have an effet on our country -- be it positive or negative-- no matter how small.

May God help Nigeria. Too much disease with diseased leader

I think people are getting somethings wrong. It is only an insane man that will think education in Nigeria is something to be happy about. We all know it and not from today but its annoying peope like Atiku still have the gut say Nigeria needs government that values education whereas he was the VP for the whole 8yrs without nothing fruitful done to the education system. They all siphoned the money and enriched their pocket. . .PTDF?. . .annoying indeed!

ok o. . .see you in 2011 God willing!

you are still on this _junk-er srike?
stupidly derained  fools