Its a pity IMO state has turned to a warzone

wagzy37:


Lmao! Modern woman. You understand that single women in their 40’s with a lot of money are the most unhappy in the world now? Adopt a child? � Don’t worry, you definitely will understand pretty soon.

Thanks for the Care

Hahahaha. Like seriously!

Youngpo413:
make excess money and remain single,na who love epp? Money is everything...

Abi na, thanks dear

Another one! Something is fishing

bigpicture001:


Maybe there are worst things u cant share here...

But lower some of your requirements..i know its your life..but u wil chase away alot of equally good people.. Those standards doesnt guarantee anything..wish i could tell u how it will end..cuz i know..its not in regrets..but in big realizations.

If u know, it wont be fun anymore..the mystery is good for u..but i know the end from the begining. U write like ur different..but from.my experience its very much in doubt..its d usual self believe of being differnt

OK I agree with you

bigpicture001:


Even if he is past...u saidbit urself that u were naive...he also is..you both are quite younger. If u think he is genuinly sorry, y not try him again after all, they said the devil you knowbis better than an angel u dont know..if u were able to see past the tribe ish...den u are ready to go down with him ...giv him another try..he wil worship u now

In my last relationship, i called like 3x daily, check on ,make myself available in needs everything u can think of..wish it was u like u boast..like all of u can boast...

But truth is that moat of u cant cant manage relationship..i mean u good girls

My ex ain't any kid, na just "ojukokoro" as Yoruba people will say.
Hmmm, I can't say anything further. "Na person wey wear show know where e dey pain am"

bigpicture001:


Is it now clear to you that i know you even from an opaque far away faceless forum...ladies are the same thing everywhere....

Just continue to endure till u meet ur puppet. You people dont know what you really want.

Will u be shocked to know that you can never be comitted to that guy even if he does everything u ever wanted in this life...you will stand by him till yoy meet a better person and then u will apologize and leave him..ladies are wired to ONLY be commited to a man after sex with him...no matter how she thinks she is commited..she is always at the door.. She will leave at the slightest provocation or whenever she sees a better man..

Know it debra..that all humans are grouped into differnt behaviours..nomatter how differnt u tink you are there are crowds of people begaving like you..just that you dont know them..and science has come to study large amount of diverse humans and grouo their behiours as a group..so dont think you are special in character..

I cn go aheaf and tell you alot of things on how you see life,patnership, achievement, etc..its not cuz i know you,but i could figure u out in a group of hman behaviour....

Just continue to try oyt in relationship..i know how it will end for u..and what ecactly will haooen in ur marriage..i dont wantbto sound like a God..but live out the life...wish could write it out and show u now so read them when they alk happen...

Good luck

Hahahaha... Keep putting me in such category. Nobody is perfect , even God has both his good and bad sides. Tolerance and understanding are what we need to live in this mysterious life. All men cheat , both good and bad ones, i cant certainy leave a 'good cheater' but when it keeps occuring, i'll have to leave; Habit is easily formed than to Jettison. I'm not feeling too special, infact all human beings ain't the same, the palms on our hands ain't even the same, there are lots Of pecuarity differences. Stop categorizing me as those ladies, So u know nothing about me. Its a free world by the way

bigpicture001:


Debra i have met a lady that talks like u...if u want i can giv u her number...she boast with all these your saying guyz are this guyz are that...no good guy anywhere,no tru love only cheats everywhere..sh refused to date anyone and like u said focuz on career...until we met....

Sh came out with lots of conditions..no sex till marriage, no visiting me at wee hours of night etc stupid stupid policies...because i love her brains and reasonings, and especially her slim obviously tall looks i agreed..the said girl started laff...and concluded i will run away in just 3months that guyz cant stay with those conditions...i dared her.

Ok..relationship started with her...am not a too much sex craving guy..i had a problem...i no get money..buy with lots of ambitions and certifications...wen its past two years..with no single cheating,sex, or fight or quarel sh was amazed and the time came for me to try to grow a biz ..that is grow financially, the said girl who now has plenty money from where sh works..became jiltery to be of help. Sh will grudge and say its a guy dats suppose to help a girl nd not the other way round....when i left her to out of anger sh wouldnt bring back the topic again...mind u,av yried almost all friends to no avail..she will always say go to bank na....

Eventually after much pressure on her.sh did help me albeit grudginly...do u know what? She ended the two and half years relationship on the ground of her percieved inapprioproate
Contributions to grow a man...she saw wot the biz is about how i invested the money in it...but she quitted...

I beeged this girl for the nest two months, and sh refused to come back till this day..now on her watsap.sh is out again looking for a patner..now if u would agree with me..what do ladies really want.. They want to have everything at the platter of gold..now the huzle gives me about 6digits earnings....

You see ,u dont blame me when i tell you ladies dont even know what they eant aside a guy who have money,they can disguise this need in variius forms,but bottom.line is its same thing they seek...u guys never see anything..be forcing urself on the few who are rich ,them go kill una with cheting and disregard.....

I am not saying ur experience is a lie, but u attached unachievable conditions to ur man.....u good girls are troublesome..looking at ur post,i know ur a good girl

'Troublesome' hahahaha that got me. Having read all you've said , sorry about your relationship. I repeat I'm not that kind of girl. If I really went after a rich guy, i wouldn't have dated the first guy. My dad is influential, there is no kind of money,zeroes ... I've seen all ,but it didn't bring my family happiness,I know what I'm talking about. The truth is most guys misinterpret a lot of things, one mistake I made in my past was that I loved too much, i did more of the calling,chatting, checking on him and you know some guys think,when you love too much, you have no other options in life ,they'll start misbehaving. I didnt understand how the game worked, i was naive, i had my own fault on side, i'm not perfect but I was willing to change but he wasnt ready to correct me ,he concluded and left me helpless. My ex is now rich, working with a big firm in lag &begging to return but I'm not giving a 2nd chance. He took me for a fool. My family never wanted him cos he wasnt my tribe but i made my mum believe he's good. Omo forget these love stories, its already a past and i've moved on. I'm still willing to try a new one but its as if it aint working, im still taking my time sha. But I can't kill myself o

bigpicture001:


With that your guy whom u tried to pull tru with..did u give him any "no sex till mrriage conditions" ...cuz good girls are fond of that and assume that a man is a wood hence he will cheat

Even if i had said no sex b4 marriage, so he wouldnt respect that wish,? after all i've done? If he cant respect my wish, then he should Bleep off, na by force to be in a relationship.

bigpicture001:


Debra would you marry ur family when the timw comes...?

I know your one of those that places social economic standard like most girl on the type of guy u must meet...

Can you ever stand with a struggling, focused but currently broke guy that has his own plans..? The p is that u ladies want to choke the few guyz with money with attentiin to get them to love you people....you would be a very big liar if u say you dont know where to find love. You know, but u just preffered to look for it at places of choice....

Babe go outside your circles and look deeper, you will find genuine loving dedicated and loving men that are ready to die for ur love....

If you reply me, i will giv u a gist (true life story) of a lafy like you who saw love, paid the sacrifice nd got better for it...

You're very funny. One problem with we Nigerians is that we generalize everyone. See nobody says or does anything without no reason. I'm not that kind of chic. The first guy I dated had nothing,he had no job, in fact I spent more cos my family were giving me, i cant mention all I did for the guy, yet he cheated and he wasn't even my tribe. That was the first time I'll be in a relationship doing what a guy was meant to do for me,I wanted to be there through thick & thin, cos all I wanted was happiness and true love. So pls forget all these sermon, i'm talking from experience. Nobody is a saint these days. I used to love easily, in fact I fell in love with someone online, I've not even met him before but that one felt I fell for him cos he's staying overseas, I started giving him space. I'm from a comfortable home, the only time I became broke is during my nysc, i wanted to be independent, I didnt want to disturb my people. so a guy been rich or not, wasn't my problem, I wanted something genuine, irrespective of the fact that a lady loves to be spoilt with money, thats not my modus operandi. These relationship and marriage thing is overrated, Romance has gone wrong ,cheating is the other of the day, infact cheating is no longer a new thing, some brag with it cos they feel they're catching fun. I've got people asking me out but I'm still doing my proper check, if I'm not satisfied, I'll leave single, work towards my career, adopt a child of my own and train the child. Some humans are just created to spoil peoples joy &happiness, nobody deserves to be unhappy.

Hassanmaye:

How can you live in old age when all your family members are married and they too are old WHO Will take Care of you??

Then I'll adopt a child

LionInZion:


While agree with most part of your comment, I think the bolded isn't completely true. You just need to keep an open mind. There are still many responsible, decent guys out there who aren't after your body.

Hmmm,well I'm still observing. Till then. Thanks anyway

Mrsoft3:


Nicely said

Thanks

iampeterben:
1. They have high expectations of their other half. When looking for a life partner, decent people will see if the other half is a good match for them. There may be many partial matches, but few perfect matches.

2. There are few quality people they can take a fancy to. The better the person, the fewer people of the same quality are around her, and the chances of meeting someone of her own calibre and developing a relationship are significantly lower.

3. They have high expectations of themselves and their future. They have goals they want to achieve in life and want to find someone who can make things happen for each other, not someone who will be a burden to them and hold them back.

4. They think there are other things in life that are more important than being in a relationship. They may be obsessed with their career, learning new skills and developing new hobbies, while a relationship may be seen as a waste of time and life.

5. They will carefully judge the sunk cost of being in a relationship. They will carefully assess the risks and benefits of a relationship and choose their partner carefully and deliberately, rather than just getting together with someone else.

6. They may already have someone in mind. This person may be someone she can never be with, but she is unwilling to find someone else to replace that person, so she stays single.

7. The person they like does not like them. The decent person may like someone who is better than her, but that person doesn't like her, and in that person's eyes, she may be an extremely ordinary person. The one who is not willing to settle for anything else will just wait and stays single.

8. They may not know what kind of partner they want. They may be good at business, friendships and platonic relationships, but not at romantic relationships and love. They also need to keep learning to get out of being single.

In general, finding a partner is not like finding a job, and many people want to wait until they are good enough to find a good person to spend their lives with. But the reality is that by the time you are good enough, you will have missed the right person and will not be able to find another one.

By:
Marcus Okoebor

All these just describe my singleness . I just prefer to be single to be at peace; not like I don't wish to be in a relationship but there are no true love out there. Pretty girls are preys to predators. Most are pretenders, cheaters and people who just want to chop & clean mouth, in fact even destabilize you emotionally. I have my family and friends, I'm fine with them. They show me true love and happiness..

gassbee:
i think d babe is trapped, she feels she cant leave, she feels she cant survive without him, she feels she cant get another man at dis time

Thats what such men make ladies become. Believe me, she'll meet someone better. There are so many fishes in the sea

maxwelltony:
Hi guys

Please i really need your sincere advice concerning my relationship, we have been dating for the past two years, but honestly speaking i am not enjoying the relationship, i dont know what is wrong with my man, at times, he would travel for three month without giving me any notice, and throughout that time, his number will be switch off, for the past two years that we have started dating, he has done that for over 5times, and i am getting confuse if i am not in the wrong hand, he wouldnt give me any good excuse and i am getting fed up with him, i dont want to break up with him all because we have gone a long way, but with his attitude, i dont think i can cope again, time is going...

Please i want the whole house to advice me because i dont know how to cope again, he has gone again and dont knw when he will be coming back.

You dont want to break up cos you feel you've gone a long way,see the earlier the better, what if youre married,these are red flags already. From all you've said, you really love him so much. You love him more than he does, thats even if he loved at all. I've been there and I'm still trying to detach totally. It won't be easy but my advice for you is "to leave" You've tried. You also need to stop thinking cos of your health , self love is bae. This male folks ain't loyal anymore, all they do now is to play mind games till they get in between your legs and that's all. They love to toil with ladies emotion's. Relationships/marriages these days don't worth the stress. Live that single life, love yourself and look good. Don't just let any kind of person into your life again, be the captain of your life.

LegendHero:
Nice one.

But I think the Nigeria media need some schooling in their reporting.

The $100m Facebook grant will be shared among multiple business and infact there are over 30,000 business or so that can qualify when Facebook announced the grant last year.

So these EscrowLock guys will get the cash & ad grant not even up to $10k at maximum but this report make it look like it’s $100m for a single company.

Imagine giving $100m each to 30,000 small businesses, how much is even Zuckerberg worth to start with?

In the USA here I think the grant is $4000 for small businesses ($2500 in cash and $1500 in optional ad credits). I don’t know the actual amount for Africa.

Now I understand what the news is all about. Thanks to you

BKayy:
The only way women become billionaires is from divorce-VERIFIED FACT
In truth the future is females leeching on successful men to achieve their dreams.

That's why the adage says Behind every successful man is a feminist waiting to either accuse him of rape or file for divorce and take a cut from his wealth"
Ronaldo and Bill Gates are good examples

More reason prenuptial agreement is advisable b4 marriage.

jidxin:
i disagree. I can never make such a mistake. There are some mistakes that are permitted... I'm and am are two different things if you use them wrongly it can't be a mistake

OK sir

jidxin:
its not about the message. Let's stop celebrating mediocrity

He never told you he was a mediocre. There are better ways to correct one. Its not a new thing many people mix up 'their &there' especially when in a rush to post or send a comment.

Lifeisnotfair:
I hope everyone is having a good day. Here's my story and I'd try to be brief as much as I can.

About four months ago I met this white girl on Instagram and since then we've been talking day in day out. I'm surprised af how quick we both connected in a very short time and to be honest I can tell that she's crazy about me and I'm as well. As a matter of fact she broke up with her ex boyfriend so she could focus on our relationship because according to her she hasn't met someone as sweet as me and I was actually cool with it since no girl has shown me such love in my entire life.

We are both in our early 20s (24 years old) and we 've both promised each other a lot, we plan on seeing for the first time in Nigeria very soon but after last night's conversation, I actually don't feel the same way I felt for her when we started talking.

She confessed to have been with 8 guys after I asked her how many guys she's dated in the past, then she said 9 and later 10 and said she has lost count of how many times she's had sexx. And oh I haven't asked her to be my girlfriend yet though but last night I was about to and after hearing all of her confessions I had to go offline and she's been begging me for forgiveness but I've been ignoring her.

I'm confused and I don't know what to do. I'm deeply in love with her and I see a future with her as well but her past disgusts me so much and I don't feel sexx with her would be something special when we finally decide to get married in the future. Should I continue to lead her on till when I get a green card and just ditch her afterwards or should I just cut ties with her now that I have the opportunity to?

Ps: She's based in America while I'm in Nigeria and for those that would say I'm not a saint, oh well I'm sorry to burst your bubble but I'm still a virgin and haven't had sex in my entire life. I'm not saying she should be a virgin but I feel like 10 guys in the past is a bit on the high side. Please NL members, I need advice on what to do. Thank you in advance.

Update:
I've been reading all of the comments and I appreciate everyone of you that took out time to advice me on what to do.

First I'd like to say that my intentions of talking to her was pure and genuine. I wasn't thinking of using her to get a green card. And second I didn't say I was looking for a virgin but it's all good now.

I actually did followed my heart like most persons here suggested and we are both cool now. We hope to see where this leads us in the future. Thank you again.

Smh. You just said you love her. Thats her past, today's the present. Everyone got a past, including you, past could be in any form, the fact nobody knows doesn't mean u don't have one too. Yet I'm not trying to justify her actions, and I understand your point of view. But at least she didnt lie to u, truth is the bedrock of every long lasting relationship. Remember she's a white girl , her environment has a role to play , they don't see having sex as something new, they start to have sex as early as age 12. Some Nigerian ladies aren't the best either, you'll date them, they'll bill u and still be fucking another nigga while you're still dating and loving up.I'm a Nigerian lady & ds s just the bitter truth &inside life, that doesn't mean there are no good ones. All I'm trying to say his True love is the foundation of it all, she didnt lie, she was open. Although you guys having met but I know there must be something you both like about each other. So move on with her but never forget this; make sure she does some STD test before you have anything intimate with her. Wish you all the best!

jidxin:
why wont they reject you, when you dont know the diffrence between their and there

Oversabi sabi. At least u understood the message he's just passed. All these attention seekers on NL

fostermd:



Medical practice is not about money but the joy of helping and saving lives.
I have taken delivery of more 500 babies and the joy of seeing new born cannot be explained.
It is also the job where I certify people dead,see their last moments in life.It is humbling.No other job is like that...
Wives and husbands commit secrets they cannot tell their spouse or even a religious leader to you.

With regards to money, doctors in Canada, US,Australia and many European countries are rich.Even South Africa appreciate them.

Ultimately, the guy should not be forced.
I studied civil engineering for 2 years and wrote Jamb again to study medicine because my parents suggested.I have no regrets.

Doctors are well respected everywhere.I work in Europe and initially whe a black guy meets a white man acting funny,when they realise you're a doctor....everything changes.

Only doctors respectfully have access to everyone's privacy as part of their job.

Lucky u. I used to think I was the only one who acted this way. Especially been a female, African environment has a way of affecting ones mentality if you're a female pursuing your career, thats for those who allowed their environment to influence them anyway. I studied business admin for 2yrs , wrote jamb again to study medicine, I didnt get it cos of accreditation issues,I graduated with medical physiology, didnt stop there,took DE ,applied again, just got it. I don't intend practicing here , Nigeria got nothing to offer to doctors than stress ,delay and wasted effort. Medicine is just for those with the passion, else nothing would have made me pay so much sacrifice, not even the money been paid to doctors especially here in Nigeria.

Cumtroller:
I'm sorry but your mum is intellectually retarded with a backward, archaic and myopic mindset.

She needs mental emancipation. I won't mince words, your mother is a destiny killer.

Hmmm. Calm down,thats someone's mother u know. What'll be will be.

JosephXavier:
Let him do medicine and use the certificate to travel out

You're smart!

ZendayaColeman:
No region do drugs pass northerners.





Abokî Buba Marwa is biased in his fight against drugs

Their religion is not against drugs but against alcohol

Jigawa state is the most peaceful Northern states. No record of terrorism,kidnap or insurgency

Makemefit12op:


https://saharareporters.com/2021/04/14/exclusive-esn-releases-photo-suspected-fulani-terrorist-killed-ebonyi-violence-blames

Like seriously

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Including your sister right?

iwaeda:
Chelsea have been handed an injury blow by Mateo Kovacic ahead of their Champions League quarter-final second leg tie against FC Porto.

Thomas Tuchel's side are looking to finish off the job on Tuesday following a 2-0 first leg win last Wednesday at the Estadio Ramón Sánchez-Pizjuán but will be without midfielder Kovacic for the second leg in Seville. 

As per Angelo Mangiante, Kovacic is out of the European clash through injury.


It will see N'Golo Kante start on Tuesday night. Tuchel was expected to make a late decision on Kante over his involvement against Porto, but it appears he will now start for the Blues.

"First of all, I was unbelievably happy when he said he would travel with us to Seville last week," said Tuchel to the media on Monday.

"The plan was for him to return against Palace, so he came back earlier than expected, and I was so happy he could feature against Porto in the first leg. He helped us in the final 10 or 15 minutes with his quality and defensive work.

"The downside to that is that he lost a little bit of sleep, rest and workload for training the next day, because of the travel we had to do and not getting back to London until the early hours of the morning.

"He couldn’t train the next day like he usually does, so we decided again to bring him on from the bench against Crystal Palace. This is the decision we made and we will manage him in the best way we can."

He added: "It’s difficult to imagine playing a game like this without N’Golo, so I think it is important we do look at him tomorrow before making a decision. We absolutely have to be careful with him.

"I will take a look at him after training tonight and see how he is in the morning before deciding whether he should start or whether he can be used from the bench again.

"The question for tomorrow is whether we want N’Golo to start or do we absolutely want him to finish the game."

A positive note for the Blues is that Andreas Christensen returns to the side after missing the win against Crystal Palace at the weekend also due to injury.

Always blues

naijapage:


Source: https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2021/4/woman-allegedly-brutalized-by-men-of-anti-kidnapping-unit-in-rivers-loses-pregnancy.html

So disheartening,daily this country is not getting better