₦airaland Forum

adeleks:
Was there a change of status on the web page or you just got the report when the evaluation was done? I'm trying to monitor mine and I can't see any update. Its been 5weeks already.

Vancouver4:
If you are overly wise, you won't tarry in marriage.

Na so my mama teach me

Vancouver4:
If you are overly wise, you won't tarry in marriage.

Na so my mama teach me

AZeD1:
Parents of the bride? In Igbo land, the women are not even allowed were the discussion is taking place. The Yoruba's don't collect it anymore so I don't know why you are saying parents because its usually 'elders' comprised of men.

Ifeoma77:
Jesus!!! Are you for real??
I have typed 5 different responses and deleted all 5 because I am trying to be respectful.
All I'll say is; thank God you're moving to Canada. Please take advantage of the free health care and see a psychologist/therapist. You have deep issues and the way you interpret events is very skewed

vcole:
@vascey I did not use any profanities or insults in addresssing guitar life. However, your admiration of his “conduct” or candour May be pretty skewed, don’t you think? He made the choice to make comments on an online forum and he made statements in generalizations that can be passed up as offensive. Nevertheless his opinion is his and his choices are his to make regardless of what anybody says.
However, this is a forum for discussion and conversation and as educated people, having sparring sessions on topics that actually do matter using logical arguments is vital. We do not need to always agree.
@salford you are spot on at the need for meaningful conversation.
You know most people live life without questioning their decisions. Both my spouse and I were lucky enough to have been raised with gender equality as a priority. So, getting married while in Nigeria saw us deciding to take on duties in our home based on capabilities and not gender. He is the better cook and has been the cook in our home from the outset. This includes family gatherings and when we host. My kids would hardly come to me for meals unless they are literally starving to death or he is not home. I do not like cooking and I have no qualms admitting that. I am better at cleaning and organizing and I do this to OCD perfection. I am also super hands on and DIY. I washed cars growing up and would take my folks cars for servicing or repairs so in our home I service the cars or take for repairs and we do them interchangeably. I also fix stuff around the house cos I know how to. We switch up tasks as necessary and this has never been a problem. Whoever is capable and available handles it.
So relocating to Canada even 34 weeks pregnant and with a toddler, we got our house furnished with IKEA and you know how that goes, we bought a power drill and literally set up everything together and it was done in half the time it would have taken just 1 person if we were following gender roles and waiting for the husband to fix alone. My spouse can be a fantastic daddy daycare or take the kids out alone and their personal care or grooming is no issue since he has always done this from birth and I have no qualms getting our cars fixed, tires changed or rotated and all what not. Chores are not an issue. In fact, chores are not the reason technically why a marriage will break up. It is the mindset and reasoning and perspective that informs a certain kind of behaviour that is the real issue.
Everyone has their choice to make in their home in the interest of what is best for them.
But when we make personal choices we should not forget that they indeed have ripple effects with unintended consequences. When some black lady sat on a bus in far away US of A and challenged segregation, it was a personal choice with a ripple effect that led to challenging racial discrimination and eventually we can draw an undulating line towards our ability to even migrate today.

Guitarlife:
Okay guys lets just get back I dont want us to spend 24 hours dragging these issues, apparently both sides are misunderstood to some extent by either sides which is understandable.

But I am not happy with the aggressive and abusive manner some people have taken this arguement, we are humans and will never completely agree on all issues, thats okay. Its not a big deal so why do we need to start disrespecting people with the manner of our expressions ?

This is the time for us to start counting our blessings in the year 2018 and invoking those of 2019 down lol.

Imagine me , who never cross the boundary of Naija even Ghana sef I never reach God just carry one of the most sought after Visa's in the world give me without going to see any Visa officer, I hear dem dey humble people for Walter Carrington but right now Trump got norrin on me

Is God not wonderful ?

salford1:
It is good to have this argument or better still discussion so people can be prepared. We can quote bible and cultural proverbs from now till tomorrow, truth is that some women will change when they come under stress or feel empowered.

What type of stress am I talking about?
Immigrants face a list of major life changes including adjusting to a new family dynamic where men are often no longer the sole providers. Many have to face being unqualified for jobs, while facing major financial pressures. Back home men were responsible for major finances, the wives were usually just supplementing the family income. Now both major finances and expenses will be bourne by both husbands and wives.

The role reversal is causing a lot conflict, parenting problems and domestic violence in immigrant families, because the whole family dynamic is changing. For some men, it's going to be a huge blow for self-esteem, self-confidence and for their masculinity as can be seen by some commenters on this thread. The stress of adjusting and creating a new life in a new and strange country can push families and relationships to boiling point. Some are working survival jobs at least till they get something better, and they're working different shifts and they may not even see each other many times. House chores would be left undone. Kids can easily be neglected too. There are also stresses when it comes to parenting, with children quickly adapting to life in Canada, often abandoning traditional values and norms. Kids are integrating much faster than parents.

When you add all this mix together, common chores will become overwhelming for the women. In Nigeria, alot of us have families around us to help, nannies, drivers, etc. Once you get to Canada, there would be no one to assist. We are often not prepared well for this.

Keeping the family as one will now depend on how well the man can adapt to these changes by deviating from cultural norms and traditional beliefs.

May God help us all.

Hopesprings:
I was reading, hoping desperately someone would bring this up, thank you so much. I love how people love to ignore this verse that says submission goes both ways! So typical! You are fighting for leadership and head of household title, well let me tell you how that same bible defines leadership; Servanthood!

Luke 22:26

"But among you it will be different. Those who are the greatest among you should take the lowest rank, and the leader should be like a servant"

Matthew 20:26
It shall not be this way among you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant

So yes, you are the head of the home, and what that means by the same bible you are spouting is that you must be the chief servant in your home!

Yemsot:
in my own opinion, submission is not slavery. like the yorubas will say 'orun o kin n wo o'. because you say okay to what the man said does not make you a slave.
when you marry who is really meant for you, you will not be clamouring for equality. even here in nigeria, the husband also shares the chores with the wife. a sane mane will know that those chores are not easy for the woman alone because they both have to work, so he helps out in the house, just as the woman also helps out with the bills.
if helping each other out is what you are used to here in nigeria then you would not have to fight over it when you are abroad talkless of divorce.
the bible is clear about the whole issue that the husband is the head and wives must submit - but this does not mean that the wife is a slave or someone that can be maltreated.
when a woman understands her husband, she would not clamour for equality, and when the man understands his wife he would not clamour for authority. but they both know when to air their views.
but we should all remember that whatever decision we take affects our children. as someone who has worked with different children, children from broken homes are not happy and [b]majority [/b]of them are the ones that give the society problems in future.
so think about these children at the end of the day.

my two cents

TheCongo2:
Bro, we need arguments and not abusive language.
As far as I know stupid is subjective.

Anyone who doesn't think my thoughts or speak my language is stupid.
Conversely I may be the stupid one for not thinking their thoughts or speaking their language.

wasseynewest:
Hurray!!!!! ITA is here!!!! CRS finally drops to 439!!!! Congrats to many of us!!!!

wasseynewest:
Hurray!!!!! ITA is here!!!! CRS finally drops to 439!!!! Congrats to many of us!!!!

flourisher:
Penny wise, pound foolish, my Uni sent my transcript via e-mail cos I begged dem o even when I wasn't sure of the email add (paid 10k). Now WES did not receive the stuff and I have to use courier cos I haven't seen anybody here that knows the right email. Now, I will pay for another transcript (though won't wait for any processing time) and still pay for dhl (I'm paying 16k total on compassionate grounds).


Please learn from my experience (and the man that even had his IELTS expired)- don't take the route you can't guarantee even if it's cheaper. I wasted about 7k and still delayed my evaluation for almost 3 weeks. Tototototo

PS: The hellofax works amazingly, it saved me money for sending the certs.

ontarioissauga:
OK nao but MOD doesn't insist.

ontarioissauga:
You must not receive the trf to commence the EOR process.

zannie:
For my school you have to pay for both. I just spoke with the transcript lady and she said I have to pay

Debsify:
WES ask for both transcript and certificate

zannie:
Yes I know they verify TRANSCRIPT but not certificates. Did they ask your school to verify the certificate you sent them through hellofax?

philip3:
What if your supervisor by virtue of his position in the company is entitled to use the company letter head eg to vendors?

Just asking.

Although I got mine on a plain paper.

Ladychristie:
please how do you check completion date for WES

flourisher:
Debsify In like less than 3 days or so. As for excluding verifying your B.C.S., I really don't know how to do that, maybe you should chat WES up on Twitter and ask
Please whats the e-mail for soft mailing wes? seems my school sent the previous one to a wrong address-http://www.wes.org/ca/support/
Please help me out seniors, my contact is waiting @ d PG sch

Hobyno:
i don't think the status will change mailed them regarding that they said it will only change once they are done with the evaluation
BCIT ICESINFO <BCIT_ICESINFO@bcit.ca> Dec 12 at 11:03 PM
To

Message body
The status refers to your application only; it will not update for when documents are received. The next change in status will be when the file is complete. Thank you.

Sincerely,

International Credential Evaluation Service (ICES/msj)
3700 Willingdon Avenue
Burnaby, BC V5G 3H2
Tel: 604-432-8800
Toll-Free 1-866-434-9197
Fax: 604-435-7033
Web Site www.bcit.ca/ices

ICES is a service of the BC Institute of Technology (BCIT)

From:
Sent: December 12, 2018 4:34 AM
To: BCIT ICESINFO <BCIT_ICESINFO@bcit.ca>
Subject: Re: ICES ECA #:A

Good day,

I noticed the status on my dashboard still indicates submitted and did not change to received despite acknowledging you got a package from my institution via your last mail Is this normal for the dashboard to remain like that? I thought it will change to received while reviewing the documents. Thank you while i anticipate your response.

Best Regards

flourisher:
Please how long will it take them to acknowledge the receipt of the docs I sent through fax?
I saved the docs with my ref no. or is there another way to put the ref no?
Finally, how do I exclude verifying my bachelor's? cos they mailed me that they are still awaiting it but I definitely don't want to evaluate it

flourisher:
Please how long will it take them to acknowledge the receipt of the docs I sent through fax?
I saved the docs with my ref no. or is there another way to put the ref no?
Finally, how do I exclude verifying my bachelor's? cos they mailed me that they are still awaiting it but I definitely don't want to evaluate it

EyesondPrize:
Congratulations

greyham:
Keyword: Some

meelola007:
Lol 8.8 ke... This is the most interesting PPR story j have read.

coolangel54:
MOD Speaking test date is on the 12/12/18 (Wednesday). I need help in locating this address in PH as i will be staying with a friend in Rumuokoro. [/b]#60 Evo Road ,GRA Phase 2,Port Harcourt,Rivers[b]. 2nd attempt
Thanks all.

coolangel54:
MOD Speaking test date is on the 12/12/18 (Wednesday). I need help in locating this address in PH as i will be staying with a friend in Rumuokoro. [/b]#60 Evo Road ,GRA Phase 2,Port Harcourt,Rivers[b]. 2nd attempt
Thanks all.