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Doyou2019:
The irony is that he's the one who feels hard done by, especially now that everyone is keeping a distance from him. How do you love a father, who doesn't understand a word of what love means?
Well, this episode is the last straw. I have only my mother to be responsible for. He can keep on spreading falsehood about me. I don't care anymore.

No matter what you can't turn against your blood man, his an old man now write him a long letter reflect on how he has not being much of the father you all expected him to be, hit those spots that pains you the most role out those mistakes he has done, give him all the time to think about it after reading your letter somehow hopefully he might think about himself

Amatarasha:
Peace wt fulanis is what we all want ...even if dey kill us ,one day some1 will die!
We love fulani

Hahaha I see what you are doing to your maternal people

Doyou2019:
Well, this must mean that each one of us is a bastard then, as we all at one point or the other have found ourselves being treated like trash by this man. I'm only enraged because I thought at over 70, he should have 'simmered' down a bit.

Oh he did that to all his kids, well looks like his personality in inbuilt, he will never change it's part of him

Love has nothing to do with religion, marry her in her church allow her be a Catholic, while you be an Anglican, it's not bad, some Yoruba Muslims have Christian wife's

otokx:
Superstitious has a relationship with Nigerian culture it appears

Superstition has to do with what we belief in, the first jersey automatically became our good luck jersey cause it was praised since 2014 world Cup and was the best jersey in that world Cup tournament, our players wear that jersey with pride and confidence they do better when they wear that jersey, all the needed in that yesterday match was confidence to give their all but they were playing with panic

True true that dark green jersey na bad luck, even Falcons don't win matches with that jersey

Very true

I tried watching this bbnaija twice but got bored, nothing there to interest me

dingbang:
Khiaa watsup? Are you listening ?

How many DMs have you sent to khiaa so far

Who gives a f*ck if they are evicted, am in pains for super eagle's afcon elimination

We have the most useless goalkeeper in the world
Looks like that akwa ibom guy took back the goal his governer praised so much

Doyou2019:
In all my time on this good earth, I cannot imagine ever feeling this hollow. I get that people get betrayed every now and then by their loved ones, but to go through that horrid experience serially in the hands of one's own father? That, for me, is the ultimate betrayal.

Growing up, my dad and I weren't exactly close, and this was born out of his abusive attitude towards my mother. At the slightest provocation, he'd lock her out of her room, pull her by the hair and pummel the hell out of her. As an impressionable 5-year-old, I couldn't understand why a big man would do this to a vulnerable female on almost a daily basis, but I knew it wasn't right. Incidentally, as I grew into my teens, I began to do something about this anomaly. I stood up against my dad and shielded my mum away from his wrath.


This, however, would become the genesis of my problems with the man. He saw my actions as an affront and hated me for it ; to get back, he sought every opportunity to ridicule me in front of my younger brothers and the extended family, even if it amounted to lies. Subsequently, he gravitated towards my immediate brother and never hid his bias. Till this very day, 20 years later, the 'status quo' hasn't changed, but thankfully overtime I have managed to embrace and live with the development. I forgot about the toxicity and focused on my mum instead, who is now separated from him.

Recently, something dramatic happened that seemed to wake up all buried sepulchre that I thought would never arise again. I called my father one Saturday and he told me he was very ill and couldn't walk. Why he shared this with me, instead, and not my brother, I wouldn't know; but I took the early morning bus down to the village the next day. Whilst there, I helped him with his medication and feeding, and soon my old man was well again. Since I had lost my job, I decided to spend some more time with him, and during that fortnight, I experienced a rare moment of 'rekindled love' for my Pa. He must have felt the same way too, as he apologized for the past. He opened up to me about how nobody in our immediate family wanted him around anymore. His favourite son, who's doing well, wouldn't even let him spend a night in his apartment! I took the moment to relate my own problems too - unemployment and accommodation. He reached out for his bag and gave me the sum of 20000 Naira. "As soon as you settle down, you will repay this loan", he said.

Few days later, I returned to my base, but a couple of days afterwards, he called only to accuse me of stealing his 43000 Naira! He hung up almost immediately and didn't give me a chance to defend my poor self. Very disturbed, I tried to get him back on his phone, but he had switched it off. Next I heard, he had spread the news to my uncles and aunts in the village. He even reported me to my immediate younger brother, the same one he told me didn't love him anymore! Thankfully, my dear sibling stuck up for me.

All my life I have never stolen a thing from this man. We weren't raised that way. But because of my financial crisis and all the many lies my dad has fed my extended family with, it appears as though they've all bought the story. They all believe I did it. My reputation has taken a big hit, my people, and my only consolation is that my mother and siblings are right behind me in all of this.

Why would a septuagenarian want to do this to his first born? Why would he want to hurt his own son? To what end really??

You are the first son? Reasons your dad hates you but love your junior brother could be deeper than what you think, maybe he has doubts if you are truly his biological son

LilMissFavvy:
The right definition of feminism is in the dictionary. That man of God did not discuss it at length.

Hmmm

Olufela30:
After been humiliated by those Russian brothers, av you heard about him ? Tell me ooo...

Samuel Peters na old man I don't know what his doing in the ring again his time have passed, looks like his only looking for retirement money, Mike Tyson fought and lost for money too when he became broke he new he wasn't physically fit again but went back to the ring just for the money

Why is mikel training let that coach no do mistake start that match with mikel,
And let them not wear that ugly all Green Jersey Biko that Jersey na bad luck

Olufela30:
After Samuel Peter s fvvk up, no trainer would trust any Nigerian... Only local trainers .....

How did Samuel Peters f*ck up?

That's rape na

Why is a ball on that table

LilMissFavvy:
By now you should be aware that the word feminism has been misused and defined in different ways by people, People see every negative feminine trait as feminism. I don't know your own definition of feminism.

What's his own definition of feminism? Cause I believe in feminism myself

LilMissFavvy:
We all know the purpose of this preaching is to sugar coat a failed marriage. After his wife divorced him, he now has time to chase everything in skirts as he wishes. So shameless. your wife moved on, move on as well, stop confusing gullible believers.

Been willing to ask you this question the man that made a thread here about cultism talking about about spiritual stuff said lesbianism homosexualism feminism are all from the devil, do you believe feminists are of the devil? Cause I know you followed that thread and believed everything he wrote