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...things we do for survival!
I have a friend whose case now is very similar to yours.
He is very passionate about his nigerian family and I see you in this angle as well.

Don't forget your nigerian family at all.
Both families deserve your love irrespective of the circumstance that produced the second family. The kids especially.

Very dicey situation. Does your nigerian wife know you have another family abroad?

... this song simply kills the rest! It's complete; beat, lyrics,rhymes, ...

Gonzaga1010: 2 my own understanding its a song 4 gud nigerians.

And where did you get this fact from

acidtalk: Onila, if there's one thing I know about you, it is the fact that you are a virgin and even though you take money and gifts from boys you didn't get intimate with anyone of them.

My mum always tell me "My dear son, go into the world and bring a very fresh Cherry from the farm of the spoilt and rotten ones."

Since you are still fresh, I want to pluck you and take you home to show mama that I have finally made her wish for me of marrying a virgin come true.

Just send me your list for the bride price. Even though I know you are a billionaires daughter, please don't include Bently, Diamonds and Shopping malls in the list.

Ara --- by Brymo.

I think it is "A very wonderful and unique song from a creative Nigerian"

... those are the direct target of the advert.
How is that your headache anyway?

OP,
Who send you na??
You sef look again, e make sense??

Absolutely true.
For both men and women though.

vivian chinaza: Nothing! No strategy, conscious effort whatsoever! I just live my life, go to places when its necessary. When the time comes, things will work themselves out. That's my belief!

That's the key.
If you know your worth why force things so natural as this to happen ??

Obey the law of attraction!

It is just because rice is cheaper(looking at all reasons attached) than the other alternatives, that is why the consumption is so high.
Poverty is a factor in this and what happens to the idea of local production of rice?

And again, what percentage of the claimed 1-billion naira actually goes into rice importation
What percentage goes into the pockects of the so called Directors

Immature statement from the Director i would say.

It is either the cup is half-empty or half-full.
It is how you see it.

The question is "What are you doing in your little way to make Nigeria better" ?

Moaning and groaning will not change a thing !

Callotti: Absolutely nothing. . .
God is in control.
So why should I pray or wish?

A man says God is in control and a man desires and wishes nothing for his country
Can a man say God is in control and not study for his exams ?

God is only in control when we ask him to take control?
Ask and it shall be given to you !

Say a little wish or prayer for Nigeria @ 52 ?
No matter what, 'Our country is our Home'

I wish and pray that Her current travails shall make her better and stronger.
I wish and pray that all Her enemies shall perish in their evil plots.
I wish and pray that Her children would come to love Her and enjoy Her fruitfulness.
I wish and pray that all that have hated Her would come to Love and seek refuge in Her.

.... Say your wish for your beloved country.

4. Delfino

I have been following Barca's games with great intent this season out of curiosity to see what could really be different from the Barca we
are used to and surely their last three games have really shown me something they are doing better now than ever before and this will
eventually make them invinsible if they just can maintain the tempo.
I am a die hard mourinho fan but i can't pretend not to see Barca as a real treat to every other big teams' ambition this season.

Barca this season have evolved from just playing beautiful football to combining this with a winning mentallity at a totally new level
like never before.
This Barca that i have seen lately reminds me of the Mourinho's Chelsea in terms of "Winning Mentality".
Yesterday again proved this beyond doubt. Beautiful football alone can't win games all the time and now more of Attitude and Strong Mentallity
must be in the mix.

I guess a new Barca is evolving, that can achieve more than Guardiola did and other clubs should watch out.

anelka101: I know the tire will get burssted,ask me why?
The piloit was in hurry when the vulcanizer at iyana paja tell him to change the tubeless tire to tube
But because he doesnt want to loose his turn,he z he will come back.

And how did you know this
Na you be the Agbero abi

thanks for the info.

No matter how well prepared you are for marriage, marital issues will still come up.
It is now how well you can handle these marital issues that defines the content of your marriage.

We are too religious these days up to the point that we expect GOD to do everything for us.
We pray about everything and then we fold our arms and do nothing, absolutely nothing.

"God will not do for a man what a man can do for himself" --- from the movie ODEYSEY

1. FLEXIBILITY --- many partners are just too rigid in their thinking and actions and this always leads to problems.
They often forget that marriage is about living a sacrificial life and sometimes you have to put yourself in your partners shoes
in order to understand/see things from their own point of view.
2. STRONG MANAGEMENT SKILL --- This is strongly required to survive marital issues. How well you can manage the minor issues
that will daily spring up before they become big "wahala" matters alot. Getting marital advise from marriage counsellors is one of
the many management tools needed in this age that everything happens so fast.
3. SECRETS --- This is one of the most critical angles to be completely avoided in marriage as most of the problems stem from
untruthfulness. No matter how difficult it is, try as much as possible to avoid lying. A bitter truth is better than a sweet lie.
4. DOGMA --- This is how we have been doing it does not mean that is how we must continue to do it.
In this different age, we need new and better ways of doing things. Dogmas can make marriage boring and rigid. Partners can create new
ideas together on how to do certain things and seek advice when in doubt.
5. FORGIVING SPIRIT --- I always love to use myself as an example on this point. There are certain people in my life that are given
"Advance forgiveness" and my wife is one of them. There is a cap though and she knows this. Many partners are not just forgiving enough.
This can be learnt if you don't have the spirit and it will make your life and marriage better.
6. YOUR PARTNER IS DIFFERENT --- many people behave to their partners how they will ordinarily behave to every other person.
Some men will even expect that their wives treat them the way the secretary in the office does and this is wrong. Knowing that your partner
is different and special and his/her place is different would make you treat them with much deserved respect even when err.
7. COMPARISM --- These days we spend so much time with others than we do with our partners and when we maybe have someone who is "nice' to us
we kind of want to judge our partners with such gestures and then we loose focus. I have seen this ruin many homes before and had it not been
for the sake of carefulness it may have ruined mine as well. No matter how "nice" that other person is, he/she can never add as much value to
you as your partner will, just because they (the other persons) don't have the GRACE to.

"Marriage is the only school where you receive your certificate before learning"

1. If you do know how to cook, the best option is that you teach her yourself. It's fun and she would be more comfortable learning that way.
2. You can seek the service of a caterer to teach her.

After all is said and done, the willingness to change and learn is up to her.
Remember that "you can take a horse to the river but you can't force it to drink"

She must see the need or else....

KateSpade: I guess I have no other choice. However, he did think about moving in with me until he finds a new place. That's all too sudden for me. Going from not seeing someone to them moving in with you. Not to mention that I don't want to live with another male I'm romantically involved with until marriage.

My people would normally say that "If Sunday would be good, it is the preceding Saturday that will tell"

Meaning "If his coming back is anything to look forward to, you would have known by now"
Infact you will not need to open this thread and that's the fact!
Because you will be filled with so much joy and happiness that you will not be able to sleep at nights.
I have been there and we were always looking forward to the "moment" but not from your angle.
There was never a moment of doubt and fear.

My simple advice -- Try to know all that you need to know about the status of your relationship before he arrives.
Ask him the important questions unless of course communication is a problem. But if not discuss this with him now.

Don't wait for him to arrive and confirm your fears.
It is normal for you to be skeptically and knowing the truth will set your mind free.

Please does anybody has any update OR
Has it being treated the usual way, swept under the carpet

[quote author=Mynd_44]The thinking of guys here is alarming[/quote]... what is your opinion ??

joeydozzy: maybe he was probably giving her CPR

... in that recovery position
You too funny!!

Ptolomeus: In my country (Uruguay), the term is used even among whites ... in a loving way.
I think the problem is that the term has degenerated into something derogatory, and is difficult to accept it as something positive.
In Uruguay, exists the "pride of blackness" proud to be black ...
Every culture is different, and that term takes on a different meaning depending on who says it and where he says.
Of course, this can also be used to offend, but then any other word would fulfill the same function.

Well said.
Culture impacts the meaning of some words greatly.

Abujafood: All those of you deriding this research work, have you done any serious research to disprove what they're saying? Better be sure of your facts before you comment!

I'm not saying they're right but until evidence to disprove what they've found comes forward it's better to just shut up!

It is just better sometimes if you don't know all these rubbish.
Knowing them will suck the hell of joy outta your life.

No need to agree to it or not, fact or false --- What would you do then, stop watching TV?
We will die anyway, old or young.
It is then not HOW-FAR but HOW WELL YOU LIVE HOW MUCH TIME YOU HAVE TO LIVE !!!

... if not we would be celebrating 900yrs birthdays abi

study my foot !!!

sanb: I don't think so... probably it might just be the ones you've come in contact with...not all of us are the same!!! So generalising and classing all ladies who fall into that category as the same is wrong mehn...

maybe a personal research will convince you.
Most women find it difficult to manage financial independent & successful career status with their marriages without wahala!!!
Unless of course the husband is a very understanding type and independent too.

God Forgive Us...

... For the words we should have said but didn't,
... For things we should have done but didn't,
... For the good people that we have wronged,
... For the world that we could not change,
... For the bad leaders that we could not punish,
... For the apologies we could have tendered but refused,
... For the hearts that we have broken,
... For the risks that we should have taken but didn't,
... For the husband/wives that we have cheated on,
... For the widows that we could have supported by didn't,
... For our mother that we have not done enough to cater for in their old age,
... For the friends that we have betrayed,
... For the children that we could not raise well,
... For the pregnancies that we have aborted,
... For the lovers that we should have left but didn't,
... For the Friendships that we should have let-go or saved but refused,
... For the friends that we should have helped but didn't,
... For all the things that we could have done better but didn't,
...
>>>>>>>>>>>>> AMEN.

deavicky: forget about your salary buy a good car like toyota camry pencil light or orobo don't mind your salary becos if you don't acept responsiblity you will be irresponsible my salary is just 50k but i drive Honda halla and toyota camry pencil light.

. Sombody pls call EFCC to arrest this guy! How u manage buy 2 cars of this sort wif 50k salary in Nigeria My friend pls stop lying!

skydeep: Let me add a point. When your employer ask you how much they can pay you this is what you should reply
" I heard your organization is fair to their employees in terms of stipends, therefore pay me based on my qualification or pay me what you think is best for my position"

This line, if constructed the way you have just put it, can never get you a worthy salary.

You should know your worth and be ready to convince anybody that you are really worth that !!!

@ Mukina2,
Thanks for sharing this lovely piece.

What Mr Abati talking about
Who cares

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