₦airaland Forum

DaPuncline:
Dude just cracking a light joke. Don't take it too personal.

Well someone may tak his advice. I went taking it personal. Wetin be my own? Am I the on that would be picking kobokobo girls? I only advised him for his own sake.

DaPuncline:
Thanks brother. But that patience is the issue, her exam starts soon, around September. I appreciate your candid advise. But what about stylishly apologizing to her when i see her on monday?

Don't tell me you want to listen to this advice again is it lust or love that is shacking you? If it is lust then take this advice. If it is love abeg, dont agree to be friends o. Keep asking her out and keep being the man you are.
Note.... Women do not like weak men. Don't mistake gentle man for weakman. So don't act like a sissy around her but be firm and just that is what attracts women. Firm and just men who set standards. Imagine Okonkwo of things fall apart minus his anger issues

NeeKlaus:
Dude, don't misunderstand me. His attempts to kiss her in the first place was bad and asking her out just after ONE WEEK?? Where's the rapport?

All I am saying is that he rushed things. You can't win a girl's affection and trust in one week. Except if she's after something else.. my opinions, tho. You have yours.

The way you put it sounded like she did a bad thing. You said she wasn't feeling him and he should run because he tried to kiss her three times and she rejected him hence she doesn't want to date him. That is a VERY wrong assumption and would lead a man to keep F-ing up.Why not just say guy you chased her away with your attitude she may never want to date you again. Leave her and look for someone else?

DaPuncline:
Like i earlier said, i was wrongly advised by friends and i regret it. I'm not that type of guy, I'm a cool guy and that was why i got attracted to her, she's the cool type too. I'm not a potential street dog. It was a mistake, i have sisters too.

I did not say you are. I said in her mind you may be. Just like a girl looking for money to treat her sick parent may come to you to solicit sexbfor pay after listening to friends who tell her men don't give something for nothing. If you do not know her story you would think she is a cheap whor.e right? Even if that was her first time having s.ex but you don't know it yet and weren't feeling her. so, that is the point. You are judged by your character you display not by the character you keep hidden in your heart. No vex for the words I used. I guess your friends are otondos. If you find a nice girl you like, don't listen to them again o.

You should call her and apologize to her for your behaviour. but let her know that you would want to make it up to her(I am not saying spend all your money on her) by being a gentle man. Make her know that you are still interested in dating her and you would take things slow and walk at her pace. No agree to be friends o. She go dey carry boyfriend's come dey show you for house and discuss heartbreak with you and how I she and her bf are doing Lol. Tell her you appreciate her offer but you choose to keep proving that you a good bf for her.

NeeKlaus:
Baba, she's not feeling you at all.. not even ONE BIT. As it stands, you are hovering between being the Secretary at her Friend Zone Association and just being "a colleague" to her.


Baba, don't make this worse than it already is. Pick up your slippers and RUN! You tried to kiss woman 3 TIMES, she declined and you couldn't read the handwriting on the wall??

If that is how you pick your babes then I am sure you only pick up girls who are after your pocket. They kiss you just to get Tfare out of you. So she should kiss him to prove love? And who told you people just love like that? Does she know him well enough to kiss him?
Abeg what are Nigerian parents doing? Who is training their sons concerning sex education?. No wonder most if you guys end up with use and dump girls.

DaPuncline:
I know i goffed anyway but i never knew she would feel bad, i could not control myself.

You more than goofed. You destroyed your reputation for her hand. If she were my sister I would advise her not to come back. Because any woman you like you just set out for intimacy straight that means by the time a girl is sending you a thank you SMS it man's you have chopped her pkonmo. Such men are randy and would pick little excuses to cheat. A man with self control gives his woman peace of mind. She can rest assured that he wouldn't jump in bed with the first woman that catches his fancy or tries to seduce him. No one wants to be with a potential Street dog Na. You sef reason am.

Okay let me crack a joke which may be true in the end. Maybe she no gree because e be like you dey stay face me I face you or self contain. Na inside same 1 room bed and parlor dey . She no expect that Kain standard. Plus you come want start o riapko her put on top.

How can you just kiss a woman like that? Too many movies have spoilt you. She clearly resisted the first time. why keep pushing? That is quite disgusting in my opinion.What next? It is not a gentlemanly attitude it shows desperation and lack of self control on your part. Her next visit now she would think you would try to squeeze her ní.pples and remove her pants? And if she resists you will keep trying every 5 mins interval? Young men lack sexual discipline these days sha. Change that attitude. If you want a good girl don't "bẹ"

4kings:
yep.. depending on the location it(privacy) might not really matter.
The "choosing your neighbor" point is kinda funny

ABI Na hahaha person no fit choose them o. But if privacy is not an issue then it is good. I know some states allow for detached buildings where owners can fence off their own homes. Not a bad idea at all.

Reading though this post all I can say is......Rapists full NL in essence Nigeria. I even fear for their mother's and daughters safety. They are so perverted that they would r.ape their own mother's and children without regrets. Not like it's news anyway, they have started doing it since. Father's impregnating their kids.

4kings:
Ya though, that's the only con i could think of.

Yeah, it's not all that bad. Privacy is another major issue too.

iukpe:
The police do not know what to do or are not involved or doing anything and the photo may even have been posted by a police man with a tecno tab

It's quite sad really.

4kings:
Na not personal experience just knowledge.
Service fee in 1004 estate for example is around N300k per annum, other than that you enjoy serenity.

That price is quite okay depending on what the fee covers.

0b100100111:
Thanks!

Outside that, could there be more cons

You may be subject to rules and regulations governing tenants. You don't have a choice for who would be your neighbour. There are more people going in and out of the compound aka strangers. Some difficulty in making changes the way you want in the compound as you must get everyone to agree with your ideas. No privacy like you get from living in your own land.

In my opinion you would have a lot of maintenance fees to pay

Where s Hushpupi? His attention is needed here I know the amount is nothing to him.

Quite a shame. Look well now on Sunday na him go give testimony pass for church.

How dem no go see truck behind a kẹkẹ? How big was that kẹkẹ irin how small was the truck? I am sure their plan was to us the kẹkẹ tó force the truck driver to stop . In pH some years back many police men were using that tactic to get trailers and a trucks to stop because of egunje they would get from them. Taxis paid #50 busses paid #100 and trucks paid #200 per night after which they were assigned special numbers which they have to use thought the night. One night they tried to use the taxi I as in to force a truck to stop. The driver sensing their plan just moved off the road even thou they insisted that he stay on the road. They got mad at him and said he caused the truck to escape. The yeye truck driver sef instead just match accelerator as soon as he sighted the police he did not even show any sign of slowing down rather he increased speed. Our driver asked them how they could be this wicked and they said the truck driver would have stopped if he did not move.

But the truck driver sef, instead of stopping to pay fine he decided to kill people and I am sure he escaped too. Zoogeria is a death trap.

He was well dressed and sitting in a car which were considered cool back in the day. That before photo doesn't look like poverty one rather it looks like maturity came with some styling.

He sniffed around to know where the father would be before he stuck. Parents should beware of such sniffers. Thank God he had not gone far and he did not take her for rituals.

lonelydora:
Delishpot....Come and see oooo

E no shock me na. Most of them are animals. The woman fit don think say faking pregnancy go bring him closer to her. I wonder how many strokes he would get if God opens our eyes to see how many lies he had told to her before now. She married a brute.

Rilwayne001:
He already condemned what the lady did, he only pointed to those who claimed to be Christians and yet engaged in the same lackadaisical act displayed by the lady to make a point against those silly reprobates masturbating on what the lady did and in turn making it seem like what she did is what Islam stands for when actually it isn't. Simply put, there are bad eggs in Islam as much as there are in Christianity, and so there's no point masturbating on irrelevancies.

Photo of them masturbating or ...... Anyway, I get your point. My only concern is when he said Christians hold strict standards for Muslims and I said well, Muslims also strictly pull down Christian beliefs making Christians judge harshly when the all so perfect Muslim goes astray(which happens very often) and does those things the preach against when no one is looking.

vedaxcool:
She has acted disappointingly, which clearly shows her personal failings as a person. Not quite different from the case of a gun running cleric or rape the gay away cleric that we hear of. One thing remains funny though that hyppcrites will hold individuals like this misguided lady to high standards but when Apostle Suliemen spends church money on harlots you will hear funny statements like judge not the lord anointed or any other silly sheeple behavior. One thing many nairaland hypocrite muslim haters have proven over and over again ; they hold your every day Muslim to standards higher standards than even their pastors and cleric.

Isn't it the same strictness you people use to discredit Christianity? You want to tell me that you think no Christian spoke against what Apostle Suleiman did? No Christian speaks against evils done by pastors or you just choose to ignore them in order to favour your ideology?

olayinkajnr:
Even when she keeps treating you like a shit for over 3 years?

Analyse this scenario: you treated her like a queen for 3 years, in fact, you wash her clothes including her undies, you cooked for her, you constantly remind her of how beautiful she is, how much you love her and how favoured you are because of her all out of love and not because she jazzed you. You do anything she wants.

But for those 3 years, she treated you like shit, no regard for you, your family, you directives (you do a she wants and says, but for her to respect one out of your directive is a big problem- directive like dear, please don't see that your friend anymore. She is a bad influence on you), she always threaten to show you 'pepper' not just when you guys are alone together but in front of your younger ones whenever they come visiting. Nothing you do for her is good. Whenever there is a misunderstanding, Jack and Jill must know. She reminds you of all the things her family have done for you when you didnt have anything even when you didn't ask them for help. She uses all she's done for you to hurt your feelings. In fact, whenever you have little issues, that is when she will accuse you of cheating on her, yet claim she trusts you.

I know there are good women out there that are deserving of unconditional love and a relationship free from maltreatment. But what can you say about that scenario? Mind you, that scenario is a true life story.

That young man chose not to maltreat his wife.

That is foolishness. When they say treat her like a queen they do not mean become a slave to a woman who doesn't love nor care for you. This topic is talking about loving a woman who loves and cherishes you. By the way, women too endure such abuses like you state up there in their marriages and people ask them to go and pray about it, give more s.ex, fast and not to talk so as to avoid argument. Tell that man in the true life story to do same. Women have been washing men pants and boxers and singlets for generations(although I wonder why a man would leave his pant to be washed by anyone unless he is sick or highly disabled) no one has died from it. Besides why give directive to a woman? If she also calls you and says stop talking to a friend of yours, how easy would it be for you to cut off ties with that friend esp if the person is close to you?? Women also have same problem and you ask them to cut off ties with friends. But yes, a wise woman/man should sit down and look at things from the angle of the spouse and see if they really need to cut off ties. Some spouses demand ties cut off for their own selfish reasons not for the interest of their wives.

divinehand2003:
Na lie

True definition of olosho.

Real ladies fight to keep their man for better and for worse.

But if a working class woman hardly has time for her man or home, you would see problem in that wouldn't you? Yet if a lady asks for some time to be with her man, you call her olosho?

@Topic
One thing I have noticed,
If a man cheats because of his woman working long hours hardly having time for her man, people would say the lady has it coming why do people think women can not be tempted to cheat and even fall in some cases? People are raised to believe that women are saints who never fall into temptation and if they ever do, then they are w.hores. cos it seems the problem we have in Nigeria is thinking that women are sexually dead and as such do not have sexual desires unless initiated by the man they love. That is a wrong assumption and it is a shame that when men create posts about what men want and expect to make a happy relationship, men start jumping up and down and insist that women read and take cue but when a topic is posted about women's point of view in a relationship, men start foaming from the mouth and demand that women lower their standards. No wonder Nigeria is so SE.xusually perverted. The men think sex was created for only their pleasure and the women have been brainwashed to love money and material things in place of physical and emotional connection. No wonder many husband's are looking to have DNA test done on kids. No love in many homes.

Make dem turn Naija to zoo. To use am as exhibition to show humans how life could become for homo sapiens when animals are crowned leaders and kings of a country. Yes no one is held accountable hence it's a free for all no paddy for jungle vibe in Naija. Man chop man dog eat dog jungle.

He gave birth? Man dey give birth? ABI he want say "Hy my daughter was birthed in the USA" why my wife gave birth to my daughter in the USA? Bloggers sha. Ina can't even hide blunders

Seedorffit:
In a video which has been making rounds in the media, the Nigerian actor, Aremu Afolayan has given reason why he decided to have his child in the United States.
Aremu, who is a brother to the renowned producer, Kunle Afolayan gave birth to his first child at Atlanta, USA in December, 2016. He took to his Instagram page last evening to rain curses on the former Minister of Petroleum, Madam Diezani Alison Madueke for causing him to do so.

‘Why I Gave Birth In The US’, Nigerian Actor, Aremu Afolayan Explains (Video)_2

Over looting several millions from the Nigerian treasury, Aremu Afolayan blamed the Nigerian minister for leaving him with no choice but to flee the country in spite of the crippled economy.
Watch the video as Aremu Afolayan rains curses on Alison:

Watch the video here
http://www.freshvibesblog.com/2017/07/why-i-gave-birth-in-us-nigerian-actor.html?m=1

RighteousI:
Another victim of the sexual revolution in nigeria. See what Thin tall tony and bisola as well as half nude girls on trace naija have done to the nigerian youth.
All they value now is sex.
Public sex is for the europeans not the african, the sexual revolution will kill nigeria.

It may surprise you that sex with Europeans aka in Europeis not as cheap and common as being promiscuous is in Nigeria. Forget all what people tell you about them in Naija.

Adorbs:
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You are right, that was how a secondary school classmate back then smiled with everyone, whenever she ate anything she gave these guys out of it too, always the first to say goodmorning whenever she passed by, but deep down they harboured hatred for her simply because she said she wanted to face her books oooo. I just realised then that she stopped coming to school and It was only after a few years a fellow classmate revealed she was raped by those same boys and she left lagos due to shame.

Quite an unfortunate story. A lady should be stern with such boys without being insulting or rude and under no circumstance be friends with them cos it is the easiest way to lose ones guard and fall prey to their schemes. If they cause too much scare, report them to the police. Give them a surprise visit with a police officer and their photos and names should be taken with stern warning not to come close to the fake in question. Although the best solution would be to never meet makes with such demonic heart who let sexual pleasure draft how they flow through life. Those ones can raid a home and murder everyone in it to hide their tracks. God guide us o.