In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”
I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.
One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?
I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.
All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”
She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.
The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”
We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”
My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”
Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”
I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”
I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions.
*What's your take?*
As a woman I am ashamed of what she did. She lied to you from the on set. It was a deliberate action, she is in love with her family and not you. Run for your life my dear.
You were just a tool and a means to an end. If you love yourself, leave her and find a new path.
There are solutions namely 1 Revolution 2 Diplomacy
As it stands, Revolution is the way out; and it's near.
See your thinking.
Very crude and mundane. The Youth have never been this united to a course. Instead of wasting their sweat and blood on meaningless protests. They need to scheme their way into mobilizing for election in 2023. They have the numbers but lack the initiative.
These protesting people are delusional and emotional wrecks. If only they can use their common sense, they ought to restrategize and mobilize people towards tge upcoming election. They have plenty of time to do it between now and 2023. Rather than waste their time chasing shadows. I thought they had learned their lessons last year.
Danzakidakura: even with all the killings happening around his region he don't want to offend his slave masters
Dumb rat. When he tried to speak with the people, you people were accusing him of calling the military on the protesters. Nigerian youth are completely delusional. I am ashamed to be associated with them
nwekeugochukwu: #OccupyLekkiTollGate: Falz Reacts To The Arrest Of Mr Macaroni And Others
Rapper Falz has reacted to the arrest of popular Instagram comedian, Mr Macaroni and many other #OccupyLekkiTollGate protesters by the police, IgbereTV reports.
In an Instagram post he shared, the singer stated that the arrest of the protesters showed the Nigerian government is not concerned with upholding the country's democracy or the Rule of Law.
Falz said that the show of force by the police was meant to make the protesters fear for their lives. He added that while there is nothing to lose at this point, the Nigerian government should be ready for the consequences of these actions.
These protesting people are delusional and emotional wrecks. If only they can use their common sense, they ought to restrategize and mobilize people towards tge upcoming election. They have plenty of time to do it between now and 2023. Rather than waste their time chasing shadows. I thought they had learned their lessons last year.
Professorcplus: I doubt. This could be fake. All these are just for social media trends and also good for comedy skit and Nollywood movies. I never see where some sane men will throw money inside river all in the name of Yahoo rites with video man and then still come online and post... Wait who did they want to please, the river goddess or the internet fans. It is only here you would see herbalist using laptop with fast internet ...
Such ignorance!!
Maybe when you decide to delve into ritualism, you will properly understand what they call sacrifices.
Sty1esLawyer: You're one hell of a persistant lady.
Search for conor mc gregor on google and see for yourself. Check wiki.
There is no where you will see Conor flaunted as a Professional Boxer. He had a boxing match with a retired Boxer, that was his one and only Professional fight. It was more of an exhibition than Professional Boxing.
Gentle0wavez: How many children would you like to have?? Me I like children so if you can give me eight I would appreciate. I know say pikin na pikin but at least make boy follow too.
One Anastasia Michael said her New Year resolution is to create her own unique style and that includes to never brush her teeth with water, Reports.
From The Information Gathered By , She stated this on Saturday, January 2nd 2021, when she posted photos of herself claiming to have brused her teeth with a whole bottle of Remy Martin VSOP which costs about N28K.
"My new year new resolution! brushing my teeth with a whole bottle of Remi_Martin v.s.o.p, Big girls brushing...This year, I won't do what everyone is doing, am creating my style and that is Never gona brush with water. Easiest way to become Rich is just to act Rich... 2021 am trippling my hustle,,, we move" she wrote.
I’m a Blogger and Google Publisher. I’m here to Report my Issue with FCMB Bank.
On The 21st of this Month (December 2020), A Payment was sent to me by Google Ireland Limited just as they do every month Since this Year Started. The Payment was sent into my FCMB Bank- same Bank I’ve been using to receive all my Advert Payment From Google and Other Companies, but this time Around FCMB is refusing to Credit my Funds which was sent in by Google and I want to use this medium to WARN People about Transacting with FCMB Bank (Mostly International Money Transactions).
My Story goes as thus: On The 21st of This Month Google Sent $2,685.38 USD to my FCMB Bank Account (The Same which they have been sending to every month and I’ve been getting credit – without issues).
22nd of December: I called FCMB Headquarters via this Phone Number: 012798800 and informed them about the incoming WIRE Transfer from Google Ireland; I mailed the Payment Receipt send to me by Google to them (via: customerservice@fcmb.com) and FCMB Bank’s Customer Service Rep who Picked up my Call and Logged my Transaction responded to me as thus: “I have Logged your Incoming Transaction, Be rest assured that FCMB will credit you once we confirm we have the corresponding Inflow…. Please, expect an update within the Next 24 Hours – You should receive it immediately we confirm we have the Funds in question”. That has been the response they always give me whenever I call in to inform them about an incoming USD Inflow every month and I get my credit before the end of Working day on that day or early 23rd which is the next Day….. This time Around I didn’t get it even on 23rd December.
23rd December: On This day, I called back FCMB Headquarters and the Customer Care Representative that spoke with me confirmed the Inflow and made me understand that he can see the Inflow pending and FCMB Bank is in receipt of the Funds and the only thing remaining is to credit my account, I asked him “Why is this taking Long? Since FCMB is in receipt of my Fund, Credit my account because I need my Money!”, The Customer Service Rep went ahead to let me know that “From what I can see here, This Current Inflow is bigger than what you usually get from Google in the Past Months, we are looking into it – why is it so?” I replied as thus: “It’s not a Fixed Payment, it might go up or even be lesser depending on so many factors, but the Payment for this Month is bigger”, The Customer Service Rep went ahead to end the conversation by telling me this “Please, I have done a follow up on this issue to confirm why You’ve not been credited this amount which I can see from my end. Please, give us 24 Hours; you should be credited on or even before the 24 hours elapses”. After everything, I was expecting my credit as he promised But I saw nothing and I didn’t get any Credit after 24 Hours.
24th December: On This Day I called FCMB Headquarters again to complain on why they have not credited me my Inflow despite conforming they are in receipt of my Inflow, the Customer service Rep that Picked up my call told me this “We are in receipt of the Fund but the appropriate team noted that Your Name was not written in Full by the sender, Please inform REMITA to write your name in Full” I was dumbfounded because that was not my first time of receiving payment from the same Company Google Ireland Limited, and IF it was a Wrong Account or mistaken transaction, They wouldn’t see the inflow, neither will the transaction bear my account number and I explained it to the rep to check my previous inflows from the same company and see that’s how all the inflows has been and I have always been credited without such issues, I made her to understand that I need my money credited fast because I need to use it for my Christmas Celebration. I also made her know that it’s a Wire Transfer which has been coming in monthly like that and I’ve been getting my credit and I don’t have any transaction or history with Remita to start up a conversation with them… The Customer Rep informed me that I would be credited before the day runs out as she has done a Follow up on my Issue…. Uptill Today I have not received my Payment… I Was Home all day Yesterday being Christmas and uptill Now I’ve been and I’m Still feeling Bad because I have #0 With me andFCMB is holding my funds with Flimsy excuses. That Made me Not To Celebrate my Christmas- FCMB BANK is WITHOLDING MY HARD EARNED MONEY.
I decided to send a tweet to their Twitter Handle so as to make a further report in regards to the issue, and on getting to their Most Recent Post (as at 24th December 2020) I noticed a tweet by another Blogger who complained about FCMB Holding his Payment which was sent to him by Google Too (Screenshot Attached to this Post)… There and then I noticed I was not alone on this and it looks like FCMB is trying to play a Fast one on Bloggers. I sent out a tweet to their Official handle but got no reply even till this moment.
I have been getting my Credit into my FCMB Bank Account every month until this December and some FCMB Customer Reps have handled my Google Transactions in the Past and here are their Details for further confirmation:
Current Inflow Transaction Request ID (Assigned to me for this transaction by FCMB Via Mail): RE-1962584 Transaction Amount: $2,685.38 Date Sent: 21st December 2020 Payment Method: Wire Transfer
FCMB BANK plc, please Credit me My Google Inflow!
Do you have a Dom Bank Account?
Because CBN has instructed all payments from outside Nigeria to be in Dollars.
If you don't have one, open one now in your FCMB branch and inform them to transfer the cash there or to send it back to Google.
Synord: The Year 2020 is fast approaching it's end and we bring to you the biggest Nigerian songs of 2020 so far .
Criteria
Year of Release : ( which must be in 2020 Airplays Streams Social media acceptance Popularity on the streets Celebrity endorsements Charts Critic reviews
In no particular order
1) Dj Neptune feat Mr Eazi & Mayorkun - Nobody
2) Wande Coal - Again
3) Simi - Duduke
4) Mayorkun - Geng
5) Davido - FEM
6) Laycon - Awa Fierce
7) Patoranking - Abule
8 ) Bella Shmurda ft Zlatan - Cash App
9) Zlatan Ibile - Lagos Anthem
10) Burna Boy - Wonderful
11) Cheque - Zoom
12) Olakira - Maserati
13) Oxlade - Away
14) Omahlay - Damn
15) Jamopyper featuring Mayorkun - If no be you
16) Rexxie featuring Mohbad - Ko por ke
17) Ajebo Hustlers - Barawo
18) Zinoleesky - Ma pariwo
19) Blaqbonez - Haba
20) Davido feat Mayorkun - The Best
21) Olamide featuring Bad boy timz - Loading
22) Dj Kaywise featuring Mayorkun , Naira marley and Zlatan - WTOD
23) K1 de Ultimate - Ade Ori Okin
24) Obesere - Egungun be Careful
25) Falz feat Mzbanks - "Bop Daddy"
26) Olamide feat Omahlay - Infinity
27) Ladi Poe ft Simi - Know You
28) Naira Marley - As e dey Go
29) Yemi Alade ft Angelina kidjo - Shekere
30) Wizkid featuring Burna boy - Ginger
What song do you think should have been on the list :?
Octopusssy: Have you ever ordered a meal for the sake of its name, and not because you actually know what it is? Perhaps, yes, perhaps no. This Nigerian lady obviously knows what Spaghetti Bolognese is and ordered it in a Nigerian restaurant.
What they served her, however, beats the imagination...
She took to Twitter to call out the restaurant for serving her the 'Nigerian version' of Spaghetti Bolognese, an Italian dish.
The only missing ingredient was the tomato sauce. The dish in question is spaghetti minced meat qith tomatoe sauce. Personally, I believe the Naija one would taste more better.
GamalNasser: While I saw Tinubu inside a Range rover Sentinel... Anarchy and communism only makes things worse for the poor.. When I said Endsars should suspend the protest the day Govt disbanded Sars many called me a sellout but some of us are visionaries who can sight problems from a mile away
God bless you 3,000 thousand.
The black race are majorly impulsive and emotional than strategic.
Imagine if they had called the protests after the reforms kicked started, they would have had the upper hand and the relevance, also momentum. But now they are seen as hoodlums, miscreants, looters.
SalamRushdie: Just see the route this man wants to use to reopen toll gate ... If confirmed many died there then the place should become a memorial for the dead and no toll ever collected there again because of the price already paid in blood
TechyMm0: Screenshot of a pics you got on Google Image or VPN google maps doesn't mean you are in Canada , so stop clowning around. Even a bucktee can run gotchies smelling mouth with internet pics
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LOL!!
Ok I decided to prove you a disillusioned shallow minded boy today. So next time you think twice before making hasty conclusions.
I took a pics with my macbook and my neighborhood as background. So would you still call it Google image?
TechyMm0: I think the delusional one is you if you think this means shit with your rigid mentality and world view
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LOL!! I thought you claimed I never lived abroad. Who is the delusional person now?
Let me advise you. Just think opposite next time. If you are going to do anything or make any judgment, just do the opposite and you may end up making something positive.
TechyMm0: You don't live in Canada or any developed Country for that matter so quit the lies
You mentality clearly show you are Warri residence
A Canadian has no Issues with watching Big Brother Canada on Slice TV or Global Television Network infact they are far more accepting of the show,
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I don't blame you, you are highly delusional, you can't tell reality from non-reality.
I just sent you a Google Map screenshot of my location. I hope you are celebral enough to understand it it. But I doubt it that someone in your Caliber can understand such....
I am way beyond your league, you shallow minded boy!!
Family › Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by deltaprincess(f): 11:54pm On Mar 25, 2021
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