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Peutetre:
Female, 35 AA from south-west

I would like to meet a guy who is well-read, preferably a Catholic, with a good job.

Can't believe I'm doing this�........ Here goes nothing�

emorse:
OP you no sabi. Next time you go caption the thread well we'll. Something like "Snakes' cousin found by my bedside" or "snake turns into scorpion by my bedside". One minute no go reach before lalasticlala locate you with him snake GPS locator.

NeoWanZaeed:
Everyone is battling trump. Chocking him. THEY SEEM TO FORGETHE IS STILL THE PRESIDENT. THIS GUY COULD START WAR IF HE WANTS. They should take it easy o

yanabasee:
Why destroy it...

why not make better use of it and probably arrest the people involved?



Why are we good at wasting resources like this?

princemillla:
I am confused.Its a clear sign I am a mor.on . Show me where am interested in knowing how he was paid.

princemillla:
...what u got

princemillla:
Stay off my mention pls.... U r a Confusionist


Check my reply to the op if after then u still can comprehend, then that's it

GigrMedia:
the good old days.

remember reading
Without a silver spoon,
Tunji the motor mechanic,
the passport of mallam ilia,
an african night entertainment

princemillla:
Chaiii see as u complicate the whole thing. Anyway, am one of the beneficiary, I just need to clarify some stuff. That's all. That's not too much to sought for. Is it?


How much he got is none of my business, I don't know him, he doesn't know me.

BOSMANARIS:
You modified this, hence for this response.

Bro, you're reading different meanings to this post.
If truly she sensed she might Bleep up, she should have told him in clear terms "DON'T COME" like the other guy said, his fiancee told him in clearer terms, don't give my parents something, she even begged but it wasn't so in the OPs scenario.

BOSMANARIS:
...he said he would still go to see her and it doesn't matter if I'm not around.



Don't come is different from if you're coming, bring something for her o.

BOSMANARIS:
But bro, the OP didn't tell her own fiance to must go to see her parents with some gifts at hand o.
And to make this thing clearer, the guy has been visiting before this very last one and has been going with gifts.

The mother isn't considerate and the OP so not seriously.

Do they know the financial status of the guy or it is now a crime to go visit your lady's family when you've got no gift to give?

Remson23:
I deeply feel irritated at reading this. Simply put, you have to change your impaired mentality. What you are fighting your boyfriend for was what I got embarrassed for doing. I regretted doing it and it still pains me anytime I remember. For clarity sake, let me share my own little experience when I visited my girlfriend's family for the first time: I went to their place on a Saturday evening. I met only my girlfriend and two of her siblings at home. She welcomed and offered me some drinks but I didn't take anything. I was told to wait for her parents that they would join us shortly. After about 45 mins her mum came back from a ceremony she went and later, her dad. My girlfriend knew that I might have a plan of giving them something but she begged me not to do anything of sort - as she found it unnecessary and ridiculous. I didn't yield to her plea. When I was about leaving, I brought out some new 500 notes (about 10k) that I purposely earmarked for the aim of giving her parents. When I handed the money to her father in the presence of the mother and my girlfriend, my girlfriend frowned immediately and felt so embarrassed that she covered her face. Her father asked why I gave them money. He blatantly told me that it was not needed. He told me to keep my money. He and the mother said to me that from their thorough observations, they like me and my personality. They gave me some words of encouragement about my life and career. They told me to always report their daughter to them anytime she does me wrong..... and that they would not spare her if found guilty. Finally, they prayed for me and told me to wait till we are ready to get married before bringing anything for them. Although I liked how they showed support for us but I still felt so embarrassed. After my meeting with them, my girlfriend was so upset with me. She asked me why I still went ahead to give them something despite the fact that she had earlier told me not to. I apologized to her and promised not to do that again. Her parents still call me till now and we still keep in touch. I pray never to have any romantic affair with someone like the OP. It would be so frustrating and annoying.

BOSMANARIS:
Fiance is an advanced way of calling boyfriend.

Haven't you heard of a wedding been cancelled just some days to go? If that could happen, who says theirs can't?

My point here is, the Mum shouldn't have complained at all and the lady was wrong not to have defended her guy if truly and genuinely, she loves her.

princemillla:
Bro chat me seems u r in my category/batch I need to make some clarification as to approved grant and what u got

BOSMANARIS:
This is totally different to the main discussion. Wonder if you actually read the topoc of Discussion before typing these.

Your uncle buying his wife stuffs I different from a boyfriend visiting his prospective mother-in-law and the woman expecting him to buy things everytime he visits.

Boyfriend o! Not husband yet.
Abi, no be this lady of this generation that can wake up tomorrow and cook up a story not to marry the guy

osazsky:
biggest fool ever..so every time i go and c my inlaw i must go with cash or gift..how many times have ur wife given money to ur dad or mum..see simps everywhere.na now i know una mumu botton

Trogge:
So buying gifts for the mom each time he visits is the right thing to do abi

GIANTPLUSHUB:
Traceey, we have passed that culture things. Now, everyone is trying to be careful and put somethings into test. You see, your man did nothing wrong at all.

How about he does not takes anything to your house but he gives you peace and comfort in marriage and always support if any situation arises in your own family side?

You need to think and go beg your man. So far he's a good guy to you. Somethings just need wisdom. Since he's into going to your house without buying something along. Next time, whenever he wants to go, try and meet him up and handover something to him to give them at home. Maybe as time goes on, he will get used to it. Do this with calm and good words, like you just want your family to see him as a more better good man.

All the very best.

donbachi:
Dis is the problem,with many relationships in nigeria..ur mum was expecting him to come with big bread,milo and milk.ur mum acted wrongly.dis is just a boyfriend and not ur husband.

Miarose:
you and your mother are too hungry. Respect and courtesy >> gift.

Trayceey:
I Need Your Opinion On This Issue That's Threatening My Relationship

My fiance wanted to come to the house to see my mum but I told him I won't be around because I'm about heading out to somewhere, so he asked me if my mum would be around, then I said yes and he said he would still go to see her and it doesn't matter if I'm not around.

When I later got home that night, my mum complained that he came empty handed. He didn't bring anything for her and she was the one who offered him her drink.

Although initially, I didn't see anything wrong with that but when my mum expressed her displeasure, I later called him to ask why he came to the house empty handed then I let him know I wasn't happy with him, that it would have been better if he didn't come. He tried arguing with me but I hung up.

Since then, we haven't spoken to each other nor visited each other. Was I wrong?

Praxis758:
This is a case of thief catching another thief in an operation

TissuePaper:
100,000 na six digits o

emorse:
Nairaland feminists right now.