₦airaland Forum

charles009:
Good people of nairaland,
Everything you are about to read is not fiction but certain reality.

At the heat of this DNA wahala, a married Ex called me on 6th of Jan to notify me that her son is mine and not her husbands. I remember vividly a certain Saturday in 2015, when we argued intensely over the paternity of the child during her pregnancy. She insisted it was her boyfriends, make una fear women. She swore she was single. Our calculations showed she was ovulating while we had some encounters. She proceeded to block me on all social media platforms and 2 months later, her friend informed me of her wedding.


The issue here is that I am married with two kids and expecting another, she told me her husband lost his job early 2018 and it has been a very rough patch for her family. she says she wants a divorce.

I asked for the boys pictures and it put instant tears to my eyes. Showed a few friends and the resemblance is striking so they said. The most painful of all, he looks not properly looked after.

I am doing fairly OK now, I wouldn't wanna to see my blood suffer, if you were in my shoes how would you handle this. My wife would not want to hear of another child...

Mature advise please...

I fear who no fear woman.

Can anyone beat this manipulator and strategist?

Reminds me about not putting all eggs in one basket

otipoju:
May we never fall into the pit dug by a woman...they will destroy you first then be regretting later.

Worst is that they are naturally manipulative.

Many would have sided her and maligned the man and some of them don't even know women lie.

Una still dey solve this matter so?

drinoayo:
https://igberetvnews.com/1378965/lovely-family-photo-agbani-darego-laws-danjumas/

That Lousie lacks confidence in that picture.

See as guyman dey fear to grab ass.

Grab em. You paid for it.

His number is switched off.

Government of the money, for the money and all about the money.

MickzyDonald:
Since you've caught them, what should we ballers be sniffing

Cow dung

Kriss216:
I choose Genny, Sexy and beautiful.

You don't get it. Maybe thats why you were all emotional.

I get Genie is your crush but it's not about Mercy nor Genie.

Generally it's about picking either sexy girl or beautiful girl.

Kriss216:
Remember, your opinion doesn't count or matter.

Never said it did here.

Just choose based on yours.

Kriss216:
Genny is sexier than Mercy Johnson.

Remember it's my opinion and it's possible to mistake beauty for sexy.

Choose one of the attributes

Fahdiga:
You are in a good position to answer the question

You seem to know the vultures more than me.

Beautiful click like

Sexy click like

From experience over the years, I have discovered that one can be sexy without being beautiful example Mercy Johnson while one can be beautiful without being sexy example Genevieve Nnaji.
Remember the examples I gave are my own opinion.

If you're to choose between sexy and beautiful, which do you consider more appealing to you?

Fahdiga:
First to begin with, They don't have a case to answer. We the reasonable Nigerians sees them as patriots that should be commended for their bravery in mobilizing Nigerian youths to save their country from the claws of vultures parading as leaders. They deserve our commendation not condemnation

Have the 'vultures' gone?

justosee:
everyone have their size of cane

It's too early joor.

See her forming lovey dovey. Not knowing she's a slow poison.


Don't mind all these social media pictures joor.

Na dem.

Whoube99:
That is the dividend of poor parenting.
You most be one of those loose & useless parent
Being a parents does not end in paying of fees, buying clothes and food. You most go the extra mile to bringing discipline to bear in your home.
Allowing a kid to do whatever he or she likes is a mark of irresponsibility on the parts of the parents.

Loose and useless?

Oga that's not cool to say.

Chisaedhor:
Oga no be like that poo

I do flog him most times but yet he does the same thing.

There is a month I refused to make subscription

He senses came back

Flogging 3 years old? Did I read well?

Chisaedhor:
Really don't know the section to post this.

My 3 year old son loves cartoon especially PJ Mask so much to the extend he could watch it from 7pm to 3a.m in the morning

If you take him to the bed room he won't sleep, he cries and if not this cartoon no body watches any other program anymore.

He use to be very very intelligent before now, its seem this PJ Mask has entered his head.

Please help me, how can I stop him or distract him from this??

Buy him a PJ masks and let him know he's now the actor.

CalliDora1:
I had to call it off cos girls won't allow him to rest. What do you expect from a Chevron lekki big boy. I can't deal.

I've gotten over him but it took me years o. Lol..
He was such a cutie.

You mean if he calls you for a hangout, you won't go?

CalliDora1:
I'm telling you, she doesn't mean it. If a woman doesnt love you truly, she won't even be able to bring herself to tell you that..

I remember telling my ex, he looks like aje kpako just to make him stop his akor ( his swag was too much and girls were flocking around him). He came back asking, jgurl, do I really look like kpako? I said yes nau and he just laughed it off saying, "you this girl you won't kill me" because I was still with him despite saying that and we moved on.

You'll do well writing books.

I'll like to know if the breakup was mutual since he's your ex now and if you still miss him cos it's often said women don't ever get over their ex.

Shokoloko:
I collect my blood from him at least one night every week and one morning every weekend

In za oda room?

Shokoloko:
1. She sent you a really disrespectful text.
2. In her text she says "Its over". When someone is done they will not bother to announce it. Apparently she isnt done.
3. She was upset when she did not get a reaction from you. I think she still likes you.
4. I am very concerned if the only thing your spouse has done in all the years of marriage is pumping out kids. She doesn't even keep the family well fed and the home clean? She leaves the kids to go their own way once she delivers them?! Strange
5. Does she continuously refer to your disability? If yes, she pities you: no love. If no, it was a one time act of foolishness.
6. Please place your boundaries. She should leave if this is about pity and if it is not she should never refer to your disability again.
7. There are 5 love languages. If you do 150% of four and it is not your spouse's love language it means nothing...so check if the unimaginable things you did for her happiness actually resonate with her.
8. Do not abscond from your own home anymore.
9. Saving your spouse's life is not spectacular - it is expected. Five pints of my blood is in my spouse's body right now. Its not a big deal

Shokoloko this your name nawaoh.

5 pints of your blood? I hope you don't tell him to give you back your blood when he mess up.

CalliDora1:
Stop holding on to those words. She said them out of anger and didn't really mean them otherwise she would have made good her threat and not bothered settling with you. Holding on to those words will only keep putting a strain on your marriage and reduce your love for her.

She still loves you. Just forgive and forget.

She doesn't mean say she dey manage him? Abi say he no complete

candyguyofficia:
Not nice, those were some strong words she used and a said word can't be unsaid. However, been that you said you both already made peace try and forget what she said. I pray she doesn't repeat what she said but should she do such you can then take a firm decision.

Oga which firm decision.

Marriage needs maturity. emotional maturity in this case.

Just don't think on it.

tell yourself it never happened.

I don't know if I can't donate blood to anyone. I heard labs even pay blood donors.

Op she has your blood in her. Forgive her because you promised to.

Remember.

CrescentMoon:
Let me first tell you my kind of character. For you to make me angry, you have to repeat an offense more than 30 to 40 times. After each offence, I would only give you facial expression that will let you know that you offended me. And I would ensure you get the message.

So wife kept repeating same offence. I told her I don't like what she was doing. She said she would adjust, but kept repeating the same thing. When I got fed up, I tried to retaliate. My only retaliation is that I stopped being around in the house. I would leave the house very early in the morning and return late at night. I would go for business in another town and return 4 days later. She knows nothing stops me from coming home everyday from the other town because I have means of transportation. She flared up. Started calling relatives that I'm maltreating her. They asked her to say which ways I have been maltreating her...she said I'm avoiding our home. Relatives asked if I'm beating or starving her. She said no.

I know why it pained her very well. If she wants to go and urinate outside, I would go and drop her there. When she is through, she would call me and I would go and pick her up again.

She's a woman that's always settling fights for couples in the street. So, she never wanted it to be heard anywhere that we are quarelling in our home. She won't want anybody to come to our house to settle disputes. So this prolongs our fights always.

When she couldn't bear it again, she sent a message to me that goes like this: I INITIALLY DIDN'T WANT TO DIVORCE YOU BECAUSE OF YOUR DISABILITY AS I PITY YOU. BUT NOW, IT'S OVER. YOU HAVE TO BEAR THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR ACTIONS TOWARDS ME ALL THESE YEARS. WHAT DID I HAVE TO DO WITH A JUJU DIABOLIC MAN IN THE FIRST INSTANCE.

Let me disect those words in capital letters for you. I have a disability, but you can't notice it easily until you start talking to me. She said I have to bear the consequences of my actions towards her... looking back, I have done unimaginable things to make her happy. I even saved her life when she didn't want blood transfusion from unknown persons as a result of her Christian belief not to contract demons from the blood of unknown person. Fortunately, my blood group is that of a universal donor. That means I can donate blood for anybody. Note that she had never done any noteworthy thing for me apart from giving birth to our babies. About being a juju man, I will tell you how she arrived at this: somebody was about to give birth from her family side and the baby was in breech position. She asked for advice and I told her that if I take the woman to the village my uncle will give the woman a concoction to reverse it. Her faith is against it, but because someone from her side just gave birth through CS, which almost led to the death of mother and baby, she asked me to take the woman to the village. The breech position was reversed. I'm surprised she now labelled me a juju man.

Instead of me to take her message personal, I urged her to please herself. This infuriated her the more. Instead of leaving me, she invited someone to intervene, tracked me to the second town, and it was settled there.

My problem now is that those words are still ringing in my head... someone I thought was a lover said she married me out of piety.

Hahaha. Oga nobi beg you beg am to marry you?


Seriously women need to check their words. E fit kill pesin.

Op forgive her.

donbachi:
No be wen him get small beef with dem 2moro..him go come social media,dey shout "i go leave dis company for una".

Lol. He has some growing up to do.

BlessedNuel:
Just speechless

Some people think say marriage na to just enter train and alight at the train station.

See eeh,if you are not ready for the deal..... jejely dey ur dey

Women be like a basket of oranges. close eye or you no close eye pick. na de same.

Worse is all those social media lovey dovey pose na scam.

my cousin husband de beat am silly but if you see their swag for online, marriage go hungry you.

Guys what killed Afro Dan that year?
Was it woman related?
I have been trying to understand what actually led to that fine boy's demise.
Abeg explain.