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BuddhaPalm:
She is not gaslighting herself, she is gaslighting the guy.

She already knows what is going on and is encouraging the guy.

kiddaz:
Lol so you would marry a girl with such an attitude and questionable character? Omor some of you are something else. Is that how you married your wife?

On another thread someone is advising ladies not to be loyal until they're engaged with a ring. It's the same boat you guys are on.

It's crazy to even think any man in his right senses will put a ring on you with such a character

It's why I advise guys never try to change a lady from who she is. Let her be free. Give her space sometimes and always make her comfortable enough to be her true self.

Just know what you want from her and take that.

It's either she's got wifey potentials or she's a WiFi ( connected to all dem n1qqas)

It's guys like you that marry loose and never know because you tried to bribe and condition her with marriage and a ring.

Wise men marry who can suffer with them, endure with them and enjoy with them, while still maintaining the good character traits they truly possess. Wisdom is really far from a lot of people today

Mariangeles:
Going by her response, he took advantage of his experience and the respect she has for him, and is gradually grooming her, and getting her to let her guard down with/around him.
And she's gaslighting herself into doubting what is obvious.

OOOKEWALE:
it is either she is a prude or she is pretending to you. She knows what the man wants but she does not want to hurt her sister or him. The man will eventually run her wella. Tell her the man is not interested in anything serious with her sister.

Umadam:
Women will deny u seven times even in ur present.
Most of them are after money. This is a red alert.....
But it's what u can correct, because almost all of the girls will do the same thing. Except u decide to forget about them.

Umadam:
Women will deny u seven times even in ur present.
Most of them are after money. This is a red alert.....
But it's what u can correct, because almost all of the girls will do the same thing. Except u decide to forget about them.

MarketDispatch:
"I am back in Nigeria, come and visit me in my hotel room to pick up your gifts I brought from USA" -...where do you think your girlfriend will be without telling her elder sister?

Atlantis585:
Chop am, clean mouth, dey go!

Simple as that.

YoungBlackRico:
And the fact that you didn't find any other suspicious chat is a cause for suspicion on it own. She even willfully gave you her phone...dodoyo

Guy, if you know plan your exit now, you go cry wetin no good. Nigerian girl lol

RISQUE:
That man go fuvk your girlfriend. Dey there Dey write epistle. Most 22 years old no get sense. Na style the man go use tear her.

ajalawole:
nothingcrazy bro... Na loose girl you dey see like that. He will chop the younger sister join. E dey happen no be today. If the younger sis dey school, chief will get her apartment wey e all be gojng to collect standy. If the younger sister wasn't interested he would have report chief to her sister or block him.

Damseldammie:
What brings about such conversation between her sister’s fiancé & her, she must be a useless girl.
A wayward girl so to say.
Dákun fi sílè kó máa gbé sóòbù alágbèèká rè kiiri béyen….
I hates nonsense 😏

DBestDoc:
Good you called it quits!
Also make sure to block her.
The girl is greedy and knows nothing about loyalty. She isn’t even loyal to her own blood, her sister. Who then are you?

Both the girl and the Old phul do not worth having a headache over.

Thank you for this. Life is already stressful, no need adding avoidable stress to it.

DBestDoc:
I don’t see a difference between you and the 50 plus years old fool. If you don’t know boundaries at this point in your life, i bet you may be worse than him at that age.

Disgusting!

osazsky:
u call a 50 year old an old man....if he doesn't like her sister and he is interested in marrying Ur girlfriend nothing wrong...if u love her u should have married her..if u can take care of her marry her next month before the old man marries her..life is a competition ..no room for slacking and there is room for overtaking..her sister loves another and the old man knows it hence he is fishing for Ur girlfriend and fortunately Ur girlfriend is giving him green light..she is just Ur friend and not Ur wife.move on..go and marry..and who told u u are young

Mattswaggz:
She's well aware of his intentions and that's the kind of thing most Naija bannies want......rich man to give them soft life....it will shock you to realize that what you're seeing as a big deal is nothing to her.

kiddaz:
She's not your girl
She's of the most dangerous kind. They feign ignorance so as to justify their intentions in the end.


RUN! Or remain and swallow more nonsense from her

NotOfThisWorld:
If she isn't putting a stop to it, then she's enabling him. This is also an emotional affair (aka. cheating), which is bad on its own, as she's supposedly in a relationship with you and she's not doing right by her sister either by having these chats with this man, but it could also turn physical sooner or later. It seems you're not concerned about these.

dawnomike:
Well, only time will tell... But, if na me sha; I ho don dey plan my exit strategy except convinced otherwise!

ruggedtimi:
45yrs old men above no get game at all.."When last did you kiss" ..."Can i be your val or i kill myself".

dominique:
As long as she's entertaining chats with the man and has not blocked him or outrighly told him off, there's a glimmer of interest.

Emeskhalifa:
Ogar better start planning your exit and reduce your emotional investment on her else e go shock you and wound you wella

Mattswaggz:
An average Naija banny block ATM.....just day play okay.

Pastoshizzy:
As usual.
FORGET!
Is the trouble even worth it? Naija girl are like flies to feaces when it comes to incoming persons from abroad.
Uncle go just chop out of your precious cake without you knowing it. If you get to get suspicious, then you're dubbed 'overreactive/insecure'.
The man sabi how to fish. Leave the pond for him o.

addictiv:
If she's not scolding him or sternly asking him to stop then she likes the attention and might accept what he's offering.

ajalawole:
then the boyfriend should block her because that is a red flag itself..... Chief will later chop that girl one day even if she is married.

YourGFsnatcher:
9
He will lash her eventually.

owiko:
She knows exactly where those chats would lead to, I bet she's comfortable with it, considering the man's deep pockets.

osazsky:
What is Ur business..u have no right over her life are u married to her..she is not Ur wife but a girlfriend..are u are first boyfriend no...and u won't be d last..if u are not d one dat disvirgin her oga carry Ur cross and move on..some of una enn..so she should ignore someone who has made money overseas just because she is Ur friend...eat Ur own and leave there she is not Ur property u are not her parents u are just an ordinary friend

Kobicove:
How is she an olosho?

Is this guy even married to her or has he given any strong indication that he plans to marry her?

These days only a foolish lady will block all avenues of discussion with other potential suitors because she's doing boyfrien/girlfriend with a guy who might drop her tomorrow