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OgidiHerbals:
You've said it all summarily. Most divorces happens with LEARNED couples.

You are right. We claim to know too much, the men become so egoistic and nonchalant, while the ladies lost their feminity in the name of fighting for equality.

Jieta2:
Only Hod knows how long you have been married, I like your last paragraph.

Thanks man.

CorperKola:
This will make him seem controlling i understand its natural for him to feel naked and exposed but its her sister for God's sake. Not a male bestie
It might also make her trust you even less going forward
Whu wont you want her to run your issurs with a third party
Does he have ulterior motives or evil intentions for her
Why does he want to isolate her completely

Well, I don't think he wants to isolate her completely, he wants to make sure there's a limit to what she discussed with her sister about their relationship.

Sheffdon:
yes my bro

A lot of them i tell you. I still know two girls that are virgins. But i want to deflower this one abeg. I can't stand another man doing it

In that case, do the needful. I had some experience with virgins in school too.

A girl once told me that since she's 21 years old, she would like to marry a 31 year old man.

If the girl is not a VIRGIN, I am not doing that scam. However, the world has degenerated to the point that even virgins indulge in oral s*x, anal s*x, send nudes, allow guys to suck the breasts, without actual penetration.

My two elder brothers married late, one married mid 40s and the second early 40s. I have personally resolved not to marry that late, even though they had children before marriage.

Agreeing with your point, I will consider marriage in my mid 30s, at this point,my goals and personal growth comes before any thing else.

The way those girls super glue themselves to the chaplain and assistant chaplain back then in school, nobody needs a prophet to know that transactions of fluids was taken place.

How people glorified and man-worship those so called men of God is quite alarming.

Why are nudes been leaked everyday and people still have the guts to keep recording nudes? Is it that they think their own will be different?

Is it love or money that would make a girl agree to send nudes to her boyfriend?

People sha have weird ways of reasoning.

Of course, I can marry my cousin for sure. I have beautiful cousins, great brains and extraordinary beauties, but I don't actually look at them from marriage perspective, however, I can actually marry my cousin.

Hahaha, one Uche for Port Harcourt don catch better CL. They go use clearance collect your money.

Rich girl from another continent with a very poor English knowledge. The spellings and punctuation is so funny.

I had this misconception that University girls are promiscuous. Not until my classmates started telling about how they were deflowering girls. In my final year second semester, the last four girls I had something to do with were virgin.

Most of these girls in school got their first freedom in school, at home they can be naughty and corrupt via social media and all stuff, most of them lack the freedom to go out to misbehave.

We have a lot of virgin girls in school.

I remembered in my final year in school, I was taught "Culture theory" I learned how to assimilate differences in cultures, how to appreciate cultures, how to learn and understand cultures instead of criticizing.

Education here is too poor, they mould us academically and careless about our character. How would a grown educated, exposed and socially inclined individual don't know when, where and how to talk in certain climes?

He was warned the first time, but the indiscipline and incivility in him must dance in public.

To be honest, I have similar relationship with my elder brother. He tells me everything, and he takes my advice on everything. Anytime they have misunderstanding, his wife will call me immediately to explain to me, I will ensure they settle immediately.

The bond is so crazy that my brother tells me about his sex life with girls before he married, who is good in bed or bad. I open up to him about my relationship also.

When he makes money, I will be the first to know, if he wants to change his car, I will be the first to know, when he gets a girl pregnant, I will be the first to know. His wife once told me jokingly that I am the number person her husband loves so she doesn't joke with me.

Back to your feelings, you can politely tell her. Start a casual conversation with her by asking her who can she tell all her secrets without fear of being snitched on? You will tell her that for you, she is the one, then when she says her sister, tell her why she shouldn't discuss everything with her sister especially her relationship with you because you guys are a team.

ExudeLoveToAll:
'told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it'. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.


'At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there'


When will Nigerian ladies be smart enough? Whenever you mention i don't want to have sex qnd you are not w virgin i immediately see you as a scammer as well as a manipulator, I usually run from such ladies because they don't usually offer much but only looking to put marriage only in front it's w big red flag.

For ladies in this shoes, I always advise whenever you tell a man about withholding sex because you want to het to know his character traits excluding sex also tell him money will also be excluded because he should know your character traits excluding money, in such a situation you guys have the opportunity to understand yourself well without sex and money

N/B this isn't about you but for every lady who has this opinion the opinion of withholding sex while expecting the man not to withhold his money

Aa regards to your mans indifference, talk things out

Son of Man, if only you can lend your wisdom to Tinubu for one week. Body and soul do not reveal this to you, but wisdom from above.

First of all, don't weaponize sex in your relationship or marriage. I understand that premarital sex is sin and all that but since we are being practical, don't weaponize sex.

Secondly, you are not a virgin but suddenly you don't want to have sex before marriage? Well, that doesn't work for me. If a girl is proposing no sex relationship, she has to be a virgin. All those area boys cannot eat free cookie and then you want to form decency with me.

Thirdly, I initiate sex, but I will never beg for sex. When I initiate sex and the girl gives me dull vibes, we ain't having that sex again, if it happens three times, I ain't initiating any sex unless she does with reasonable apology.

The best thing to do is sit his ass down and honestly talk to him about how sorry you are, and don't mean to treat him this way.

Go out, meet new people, do new stuff. It's okay to have that euphoria about the past, but move on to create more presence that would make a better past tomorrow.

There's no English word like disvirgin, the right word is deflowered. I realized this in primary 4 from a novel. In the street, we called it disvirgin or other names, but in formal writing, it's deflowered.

Home training still got a thing on me. In all my doings I don't go close to married women. It's a capital NO. I don't do married women, I don't do below 20, I don't do secondary school girls.

During my NYSC days, amongst other married young girls, there's this particular one, we were next door neighbors, she always listened to me when I am in my room with a girl, and she start hailing me when the girl is gone. She's always seeking advice, wanting to gist, trying to give me food, or spending time with me. Her young husband is always jealous of the bond, so I befriended the husband and made him understand that I don't do married women. She almost raped me.

I had different experiences with young village married women. Even some ex that are married want to do some funny stuff, I always discourage it.

PS: guys are more respectful in terms of not messing around with married women compared to how girls mess around with married men.

I want to raise a female child that won't see relationship as source of income, that she mustn't do sh*t for men to survive, but she can work and have her own money, when a man gives you money, it's a bonus.

When I go to bar or club and I see those girls naked, hanging on a pole and stripping, I don't judge them, I am heartbroken, to see young girls do stuff like that in order to survive. I don't want to blame the parents since the girls are adults, but I will be depressed if my daughter ends up like that.

I still wonder how guys beat their woman. How do you enjoy fighting who can't fight you back?

Mental health, trauma and toxicity are underrated especially in this country. Most people need help. I can't even beat my kid brother, when it comes to worse, I will just punish him instead of hitting him.

I met a virgin girl last year, and I was seeing her with these moral lenses until she became comfortable with me to the point of telling stuff she did with her ex boyfriend.

This girl told me that she was always giving her ex boyfriend Mouth Gig because they don't have s*x, she said the guy was always pouring it in her mouth, her breasts or her face. And the guy also gave her head. She confidently told me she has seen pretty number of pen*ses.

She wasn't ready for the actual penetration, but she had done nasty stuff with her ex.

The Africanness in us made us believe that only the righteous are virgin. I understand that virginity is sexual purification but not being penetrated but gives Mouth Gig or handjobs or head or anal or sending nudes and all that stuff is no sexual purity.

I just want to be with a woman who understands loyalty and growth, someone who set boundaries and is disciplined enough to be faithful when we are together.

I am not discouraging virginity stuff, I am encouraging absolute abstinence or sexual purity, not the half baked ones.

mnuggets:
This sounds so dreamy!
I definitely want to feel this.
Thank you.

I wish you well. Although, it's rare in this Gen z era because this generation has gone nut. We are too toxic for genuine feelings.

Ilekokonit:
The motivation is pure voyeurism.

Even when a woman caught in the very act of adultery was brought to Jesus by the Pharisees and they told Jesus that the law says she be stoned to death, Jesus calmly looked down at the sand and started writing in the sand with the fingers and he told them that he who is without sin should cast the first stone at the woman and the Pharisees started leaving the vicinity one after the other because dem sef know say dem no dey holy.

We waste some much time and resources on inconsequential issues.

I don't know the kind of girls you all are meeting though. I have dated girls, we didn't obviously marry but I have not experienced my girlfriend at any time being angry or jealous because I upgraded.

My current girlfriend is a student in Lafia, when my phone was stolen, she was worried for me, when I got another one she was so happy that I would be back online. When her phone spoilt, she returned home to get another phone from her Dad. She didn't even mention it to me.

My ex was happy whenever I added to my wardrobe, or get something new.

Love is peaceful and amazing. When you love someone, you exaggerate them, you tolerates them, as if they are flawless. They become extraordinary in your eyes. That's why you are under the illusion that when he or she go out, every other guys or girls would be after him or her. You want them to be happy, to achieve their goals and grow in life. You think of ways to help them, to please them. You want to spend time with them.

Love is like a spell, when you fall out of love, you will realize how ordinary the person is but only your love made him or her special.

Our generation is not cut out for marriage. We are too sophisticated and nonconformists to respect the values in which marriage is built upon.

Evolution of fashion. They called it fashion. As a Theatre Arts graduate, I understood fashion, and I see it from professional viewpoint. I won't go about criticizing certain style in fashion.

Centuries ago, jewelries like bracelet and necklace were associated with humans but then in this era where we have the unisex mantra, musicians, models, actors, and the entertainment or showbiz performers wear it for fashion.

I don't want to sound religious or like a moralist right now but when two adults consented to intimacy, what exactly triggered the anger in the youths that have been tolerating politicians?

Nigeria is going banana, what made the youths angry in the first place? If the woman's husband finds out, he should divorce her, if the church members feel betrayed or disappointed, they can go to another church. What's the motivation behind this barbaric behavior of stripping people because of adultery?

Hahaha, comrade, most of these Abuja girls, na God dey fear them o.

Getting a lady pregnant whilst still struggling to put yourself in shape financially. I have seen great men been derailed by this mistake.

Not learning a sellable skill in your 20s.

Not making a meaningful relationship, building bridges.

For my mental health, I am so insecure to marry any of my female friends. Those guys that can s*x chat with you even though they have boyfriend.