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Go out, meet new people, do new stuff. It's okay to have that euphoria about the past, but move on to create more presence that would make a better past tomorrow.

There's no English word like disvirgin, the right word is deflowered. I realized this in primary 4 from a novel. In the street, we called it disvirgin or other names, but in formal writing, it's deflowered.

Home training still got a thing on me. In all my doings I don't go close to married women. It's a capital NO. I don't do married women, I don't do below 20, I don't do secondary school girls.

During my NYSC days, amongst other married young girls, there's this particular one, we were next door neighbors, she always listened to me when I am in my room with a girl, and she start hailing me when the girl is gone. She's always seeking advice, wanting to gist, trying to give me food, or spending time with me. Her young husband is always jealous of the bond, so I befriended the husband and made him understand that I don't do married women. She almost raped me.

I had different experiences with young village married women. Even some ex that are married want to do some funny stuff, I always discourage it.

PS: guys are more respectful in terms of not messing around with married women compared to how girls mess around with married men.

I want to raise a female child that won't see relationship as source of income, that she mustn't do sh*t for men to survive, but she can work and have her own money, when a man gives you money, it's a bonus.

When I go to bar or club and I see those girls naked, hanging on a pole and stripping, I don't judge them, I am heartbroken, to see young girls do stuff like that in order to survive. I don't want to blame the parents since the girls are adults, but I will be depressed if my daughter ends up like that.

I still wonder how guys beat their woman. How do you enjoy fighting who can't fight you back?

Mental health, trauma and toxicity are underrated especially in this country. Most people need help. I can't even beat my kid brother, when it comes to worse, I will just punish him instead of hitting him.

I met a virgin girl last year, and I was seeing her with these moral lenses until she became comfortable with me to the point of telling stuff she did with her ex boyfriend.

This girl told me that she was always giving her ex boyfriend Mouth Gig because they don't have s*x, she said the guy was always pouring it in her mouth, her breasts or her face. And the guy also gave her head. She confidently told me she has seen pretty number of pen*ses.

She wasn't ready for the actual penetration, but she had done nasty stuff with her ex.

The Africanness in us made us believe that only the righteous are virgin. I understand that virginity is sexual purification but not being penetrated but gives Mouth Gig or handjobs or head or anal or sending nudes and all that stuff is no sexual purity.

I just want to be with a woman who understands loyalty and growth, someone who set boundaries and is disciplined enough to be faithful when we are together.

I am not discouraging virginity stuff, I am encouraging absolute abstinence or sexual purity, not the half baked ones.

mnuggets:
This sounds so dreamy!
I definitely want to feel this.
Thank you.

I wish you well. Although, it's rare in this Gen z era because this generation has gone nut. We are too toxic for genuine feelings.

Ilekokonit:
The motivation is pure voyeurism.

Even when a woman caught in the very act of adultery was brought to Jesus by the Pharisees and they told Jesus that the law says she be stoned to death, Jesus calmly looked down at the sand and started writing in the sand with the fingers and he told them that he who is without sin should cast the first stone at the woman and the Pharisees started leaving the vicinity one after the other because dem sef know say dem no dey holy.

We waste some much time and resources on inconsequential issues.

I don't know the kind of girls you all are meeting though. I have dated girls, we didn't obviously marry but I have not experienced my girlfriend at any time being angry or jealous because I upgraded.

My current girlfriend is a student in Lafia, when my phone was stolen, she was worried for me, when I got another one she was so happy that I would be back online. When her phone spoilt, she returned home to get another phone from her Dad. She didn't even mention it to me.

My ex was happy whenever I added to my wardrobe, or get something new.

Love is peaceful and amazing. When you love someone, you exaggerate them, you tolerates them, as if they are flawless. They become extraordinary in your eyes. That's why you are under the illusion that when he or she go out, every other guys or girls would be after him or her. You want them to be happy, to achieve their goals and grow in life. You think of ways to help them, to please them. You want to spend time with them.

Love is like a spell, when you fall out of love, you will realize how ordinary the person is but only your love made him or her special.

Our generation is not cut out for marriage. We are too sophisticated and nonconformists to respect the values in which marriage is built upon.

Evolution of fashion. They called it fashion. As a Theatre Arts graduate, I understood fashion, and I see it from professional viewpoint. I won't go about criticizing certain style in fashion.

Centuries ago, jewelries like bracelet and necklace were associated with humans but then in this era where we have the unisex mantra, musicians, models, actors, and the entertainment or showbiz performers wear it for fashion.

I don't want to sound religious or like a moralist right now but when two adults consented to intimacy, what exactly triggered the anger in the youths that have been tolerating politicians?

Nigeria is going banana, what made the youths angry in the first place? If the woman's husband finds out, he should divorce her, if the church members feel betrayed or disappointed, they can go to another church. What's the motivation behind this barbaric behavior of stripping people because of adultery?

Hahaha, comrade, most of these Abuja girls, na God dey fear them o.

Getting a lady pregnant whilst still struggling to put yourself in shape financially. I have seen great men been derailed by this mistake.

Not learning a sellable skill in your 20s.

Not making a meaningful relationship, building bridges.

For my mental health, I am so insecure to marry any of my female friends. Those guys that can s*x chat with you even though they have boyfriend.

Abi I no know the meaning of stunning again?

Make konji no lead me into temptation.

Abi I no know the meaning of stunning again?

Make konji no lead me into temptation o

Make I use my tongue touch wetin doctor dey use gloves touch?

I no get that kind mind o.

A new toxic man is born. Most heartless men we see today once had a heart.

May my ancestors take my life than for me to love a woman this way.

drimzsmoke:
I've dated a few, all didn't end well
My very 1st girlfriend after secondary school gained admission into the university before me. While she was studying English in OOU, I was doing PDS in the then UNAAB. My insecurities got the better part of me and I ghosted her at a point.
The 2nd one was an entrepreneurship student in FUNAAB, Omo, that girl na weyrey. Cheetah dey learn work where she dey. I found out eventually though
The 3 was also an English student in KWASU, very pretty. My insecurities got the better part of me, so along the line I sabotaged the relationship.

Does that mean we have no loyal people in our tertiary institution when it comes to love affair?

cassidy1996:
My sister is 37yrs, she's need a husband. She's a good girl.

Hahaha, 37 year old woman is not a girl again, woman

I remembered when I newly gained admission years ago, the girl I was dating was happy for me, bought me gifts like pots, then broke up with me. She said " I can't date someone in the tertiary institution, University, Polytechnic and College of Education students cheat a lot. You will follow other girls in school"

I was surprised, recently, I heard people argued that students cheat a lot, don't date students for your peace. Does that mean all students cheat?

Have you dated any girl or guy schooling in another state, how did you handle it or the relationship go? ..Or do you think students are not loyal to their distance partner?

Please share your experience let's learn.

I remembered when I newly gained admission years ago, the girl I was dating was happy for me, bought me gifts like pots, then broke up with me. She said " I can't date someone in the tertiary institution, University, Polytechnic and College of Education students cheat a lot. You will follow other girls in school"

I was surprised, recently, I heard people argued that students cheat a lot, don't date students for your peace. Does that mean all students cheat?

Have you dated any girl or guy schooling in another state, how did you handle it or the relationship go? ..Or do you think students are not loyal to their distance partner?

Please share your experience let's learn.

People have this strong perception about students in the tertiary institution. I have heard people argued that girls or boys in the University, Polytechnic or College of Education can not be faithful in a relationship especially when their partner is in another State. I understand that the rot and vices on our campuses are outrageous.

A girl I was dating before I gained admission years ago broke up with when I gained admission because she believed I won't be loyal to her, I will be frolicking with girls, I have girls told me that guys at home believe they fvck around in school.

Have you dated a girl or a guy in school before, and how did you handle it, what was your experience, do you think all students cheat especially on their partner at home?

Please share your experience or opinion.

It's been a long time on naira land, I went on break for years.

She always post six of her pictures on Whatsapp status everyday. She has two Facebook accounts and she will post her pictures on the two accounts, then she always record herself dancing and posting the video on tiktok.

An intelligent lady spend the night in my place, and after the intimacy, she started praying for me with tears in her eyes, and said I am human god...

I am the person in any group, people run to for solutions, share secrets with and seek his opinion.

I am a dominant, always appearing smart and strong, towering in the group.

So after considering these things, I decided to get a name that resonate with my impeccable personality, to minimize the fame of my all Catholic name, and the Puff Daddy, people call me because of my Dad.

When the girl started calling me Demigod, everyone accepted the name, very unique and inspiring.

Know when to move on and walk away. You can only control your actions, you are not responsible for the other's reaction. You can't stop anyone from cheating on you if they choose to, but you can stop them from disrespecting you when you walk away.

Anything, especially relationship, that cost you your peace of mind is too expensive.

Train your heart to expect disappointment from people you love most.

Invest in your family, cousins and neighbours than a woman you are not married to. Your family, cousins and neighbours will benefit your society if they don't benefits you.

I don't want to use the word "Hate" but in this context, I will try.

1. I don't like a girl who is obsessed or addicted with social media, especially when she is not using it for business. I once dated a girl that posted her pictures everyday on WhatsApp status and Facebook, and she danced on TikTok, we couldn't continue for several other reasons.

2. I don't like a lazy and unproductive partner. As my partner, you should be industrious, have your own goals, dreams and ambition, make effort to achieve those goals.

3. I will never accept a partner that is not loyal, a cheating partner is a capital No. Loyalty, respect for boundaries and self esteem matters to me.

4. Dirtiness, lousiness and inability to communicate effectively, just work on yourself before you meet me.

5. Emotional instability, and if we are dating, don't hide me. Don't give other guys the impression that they have a chance with you, don't go begging on social media.

I can't type all, although I have my own flaws, no one is perfect, they said, but I expect my partner to have sense and be reasonable.

In choosing a wife, I can never compromise my standards. I also consider my children, friends and family in the kind of woman I will marry. Most people (both men and women) in this generation, lack the concept of loyalty and boundaries, the lazy, unproductive and unsupportive partner, cheating partner and all that is scary.

Marriage is just scary, our generation has successfully destroy the sanctity of marriage.

Nuts all the way. Why will you even compare noodles and nuts?

The fact that a motherfvcker is born with you doesn't make him family.

2Pac

In those days, blood is thicker than water, but in our days, Love is thicker than blood.

If you have genuine friends, associates, you are good to go. As an adult, I won't advise you to reconcile with your family, you know the best.