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osazsky:
I tire for nowadays children..the op may not even have a steady job...and u want the girl to remain...he should marry her if he is man enough...kids way never do introduction feel say to marry Na beans

First of all, the OP has a steady job. Secondly, this man is her sister's fiance, not just a random man. And if you can marry a girl who's loyalty is questionable, the OP can't.

sacajawea:
Bad world that we living in

It's really a bad world, my brother.

owiko:
She knows exactly where those chats would lead to, I bet she's comfortable with it, considering the man's deep pockets.

I agree. I tried to have a conversation with her about this, the moment she said she doesn't know where that chats is leading, within me the relationship is gone.

osazsky:
What is Ur business..u have no right over her life are u married to her..she is not Ur wife but a girlfriend..are u are first boyfriend no...and u won't be d last..if u are not d one dat disvirgin her oga carry Ur cross and move on..some of una enn..so she should ignore someone who has made money overseas just because she is Ur friend...eat Ur own and leave there she is not Ur property u are not her parents u are just an ordinary friend

First of all, I am not her first boyfriend but I am the one that deflowered her. It seems you don't read the part that the man sending her those messages is her sister's fiance who is old enough to be her father.

My girlfriend came around last Friday and stayed till Saturday. I went through her phone with her permission, of course. I didn't see anything serious. Out of curiosity I checked her chats with her sister's fiance, I saw some uncomfortable messages he sent to her. He sent messages like WHEN LAST DID YOU KISS? HAVE YOU BEEN IN LOVE BEFORE? SEND ME YOUR PICTURES, SEND ME VOICE NOTE, CAN I BE YOUR VAL OR I KILL MYSELF.

This man is in his early 50s and my girlfriend is turning 22 next month. He is even a divorcee, he come to their house and everyone respects him.

From their chats, my girlfriend didn't encourage anything, but the only issue I have with her was when I asked her why didn't she tell me the man was hitting on her? She said she thinks IT'S NOT IMPORTANT. And I asked if she knew what the man is driving at, she said SHE DOESN'T KNOW.

I told her that since she has the power to decide what's important and not, she can handle her affairs, and her elder sister would be very proud of her when she eventually finds the chats. She has been trying to be extra nice and downplay the whole situation but I just told her life no hard. Let's just catch cruise.

This man is telling her that she should be a good girl for him and he will spoil her, when he returns to Nigeria, he will take her out more often. The fact that this girl is pretending or acting to be ignorant of this old man's intentions is what turned me off.

Individualism will be the end of us. Why shouldn't I take care of my siblings? What am I hustling for? Isn't it for my family and children? I will always support my siblings whether elder or younger in morally, physically, psychologically, emotionally, spiritually and FINANCIALLY till my last breathe.

Shaking bumbum and breasts on social media.

Posting your pictures and videos on social media everyday.

Keeping male FRIENDS.

Lacking in intellectual inclination.

Forming Feminism.

KingDashx:
Lol
Which one is he mistakenly, dude your snake was erect ain't no mistake. Y'all even ENJOYED yourselves.. Omo your matter don enter igala land like this.

Back to the matter, serve you right, next time you won't sleep with every woman you meet, just pray the man no carry your matter go him village if not this 2026 Omo you go hear am

Lol, I am not the one, the guy is my friend. Secondly, mistakenly because the guy had no information that she's married.

Kobicove:
These days it's difficult to know what is rel from what is fake cos everyone is chasing engagement with content

Well, I don't go about lying for engagement, he told me about it and he's really worried, with his permission, I brought it here for wider perspective.

SpencerForbes:
Your friend seems like a “nice” guy, which is great—he should definitely keep that energy. Let’s just hope being too nice doesn't end up landing him in a jail cell.

Also, is he really that young that this guy is going straight to his mom? Usually, you only involve parents when it's kid stuff; adults should be handling things between themselves. He needs to tell the lady to give him her husband’s number so they can have a "man-to-man" talk and he can explain his side. Honestly, there’s no rage quite like a guy who thinks he caught his wife with someone else—he’ll go to extreme lengths to get even. Your friend needs to clear his name now before this whole thing blows up.

Thank you for this. This is one reasonable and resourceful contribution. I will show him this.

bdon123:
Ignorance will kii ur people in nigeria.so sleeping wit married man is not bad xcept its married woman?both are equally bad.he mistakenly slept wit a married woman n hes worried?tell d baga to move on wit his life.shjt happens

I have the same mindset like you. The whole African one sided doctrine. I already convinced him to move on. The girl wanted it after all.

My friend started dating a girl recently, and she claimed to be single. One week into the relationship, my friend had to travel and she visited him, they had sex and he travelled the following day. A strange number called him to warn him to stay away from his wife, the husband visited his house and reported him to his Mom.

He confronted the girl, she informed him that the guy beat her and ceased her phone. She has been crying and apologizing, claiming they're no longer married, but they lived together, she had a child for him before the child died, and begging. I told my friend to move on and block her.

My friend is a nice guy and he is really disturbed he slept with another man's wife, I told him it's not his fault. Why do people cheat, and why is this generation celebrating cheating like a hobby or fun activity? Loyalty is dead.

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It's a fashion brand and the pay is encouraging.

Pathetically, no woman on that list that paid her husband after divorce. They're all women who took from men using marriage as the trap.

Gender equality and Feminism are the two most disgusting and driest jokes of the century.

She's cheating on you.

I got an internship to learn a new skill, and that skill got me a job that I am currently doing. While I am looking forward to better opportunities, I am grateful that I have something doing.

Seeing my elder brother building his house in the village, I am super grateful for that project.

I learned how to drive car this year.

What a content? I thought she should be celebrating her grades, but who am I?

press9jatv:
These crowd is massive oooo. Burna boy will break the record

Burna boy already sold out 100k capacity abroad last year. No African has done that before.

The girls are sleeping with married men without consequences, but the guys can't sleep with married women because of consequences.

The gods will be disappointed in human logic.

Sirmwill:
This is the picture of the century 😂

Sadly, this is the reality of life.

SmartPolician:
The moment you understand that Nigeria is a sick country, nothing can surprise you about the country again

It's really heartbreaking.

Buccalcavity2:
Nigeria is really strange.
Same individual who, on a live broadcast, encouraged his followers to kill BAT during endsars protest is now begging BAT for pardon to "stop" his trial from terrorism charges.
His clans men now think everyone has forgotten!

Nnamdi Kanu doesn't deserve pardon. He destroyed South East, I wonder why Nigerians worship villains as heroes.

Kaiser20:
Tinubu is afraid of the Terrorist, he will rather make Friends and celebrate them.
The Bandits and Terrorist kill our Military and Civilians at will , while the government is helpless.

The government keeps failing everyday, and how some people still support this government for peanut is sickening.

SisterAnn:
Don't take it personal mahn. These things are meant to be comic reliefs.

Hahaha, you are right, when the clowns lead.

Honestly, Nigeria is weird, if they explain Nigeria to you and you understand it then you are not normal.

Nigerians celebrate their oppressors, they leave everything to God, they justify their failures with other people's failures, they are suffering and smiling.

What's the strangest thing you have seen in Nigeria?

Sometimes, I imagine how Goodluck Jonathan will be seeing this Akpabio guy, because this guy was practically worshipping Jonathan as the president.

Akpabio who was commissioner, governor, and a senator under PDP platform is vomiting this gibberish?

His mother started keeping a plate of food for me if I am not around, and we eat together when I am around. Then when my friend gained admission and resume school, I stopped going to the house regularly, then his mother started sending his kid sister to my house with plate of food.

Girlfriend: He is just a friend.

Nobody: just a friend (side guy) eating your babe kpekus.

Uptheante:
Is it a northern school?

How was the Mairuwa able to convince or impress a university student that she could open toto for him?

If you ask me na who I go ask?

Seriously, anything can happen when konji is high. The typical Northern man is reputed for energized sex activity, and a solid koboko, maybe the lady wants to have a taste of it.

Gotocourt:
Na the Mai ruwa own shock me😂😅🤣

Lol, konji na your mate?

Gerrard59:
This happens across the world. It is youthful exuberance.

It is not a Nigerian thing.

Well, we are not saying conclusively that's a Nigerian thing. We are actually having a general convo about the promiscuous lifestyle in school, just that the thread is female focused.

Kobojunkie:
So, their bodily autonomy rights, the same right those boys with them exercise, are subject to your private moral delusions about them? I see!

If you can take away your aggressive sentimental activism away and understand that this thread is for conversational purposes, and no one is judging anyone, maybe you will understand that I have no private moral delusions of anyone, but being open about my experience.