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osazsky:
u call a 50 year old an old man....if he doesn't like her sister and he is interested in marrying Ur girlfriend nothing wrong...if u love her u should have married her..if u can take care of her marry her next month before the old man marries her..life is a competition ..no room for slacking and there is room for overtaking..her sister loves another and the old man knows it hence he is fishing for Ur girlfriend and fortunately Ur girlfriend is giving him green light..she is just Ur friend and not Ur wife.move on..go and marry..and who told u u are young

Life is a competition, I acknowledge that, may God forbid that I compete for a woman. He can have her, I already ended things this evening.

The way you talk about marriage and taking care of woman, it seems you think money equate being marriage inclined. You don't just marry people because you have the means or dating, you date and observe. If I had rushed to marry her and see stuff like this chats, you will still tell me to divorce.

Mattswaggz:
She's well aware of his intentions and that's the kind of thing most Naija bannies want......rich man to give them soft life....it will shock you to realize that what you're seeing as a big deal is nothing to her.

You are very correct. These girls are just sick with attention. If one million men give her attention today, she will still enjoy the extra one man who comes new. I have dumped her sorry ass.

kiddaz:
She's not your girl
She's of the most dangerous kind. They feign ignorance so as to justify their intentions in the end.


RUN! Or remain and swallow more nonsense from her

Lol, I have successfully ran.

NotOfThisWorld:
If she isn't putting a stop to it, then she's enabling him. This is also an emotional affair (aka. cheating), which is bad on its own, as she's supposedly in a relationship with you and she's not doing right by her sister either by having these chats with this man, but it could also turn physical sooner or later. It seems you're not concerned about these.

I was actually concerned and was trying to let her see the danger of the man's messages, but this girl was telling me that she didn't see it that way, moreover, she's distancing herself from him already.

dawnomike:
Well, only time will tell... But, if na me sha; I ho don dey plan my exit strategy except convinced otherwise!

Thank you boss, exit successfully planned.

ruggedtimi:
45yrs old men above no get game at all.."When last did you kiss" ..."Can i be your val or i kill myself".

It's really disgusting.

He said, show me your picture or I drink sniper and kill myself

Send me voice note or I take hypo and kill myself

Are you alone

You are not missing me I will kill myself.

dominique:
As long as she's entertaining chats with the man and has not blocked him or outrighly told him off, there's a glimmer of interest.

Yes

Emeskhalifa:
Ogar better start planning your exit and reduce your emotional investment on her else e go shock you and wound you wella

Yeah, the relationship has ended today. No need risking it.

Mattswaggz:
An average Naija banny block ATM.....just day play okay.

The man is her elder sister's fiance.

Pastoshizzy:
As usual.
FORGET!
Is the trouble even worth it? Naija girl are like flies to feaces when it comes to incoming persons from abroad.
Uncle go just chop out of your precious cake without you knowing it. If you get to get suspicious, then you're dubbed 'overreactive/insecure'.
The man sabi how to fish. Leave the pond for him o.

You have said it all. I asked this girl if she thinks her elder sister will be happy seeing her chats with her husband to be like this, she responded " I don't know"

addictiv:
If she's not scolding him or sternly asking him to stop then she likes the attention and might accept what he's offering.

The chances that she will definitely fall for what the man is offering is very high.

ajalawole:
then the boyfriend should block her because that is a red flag itself..... Chief will later chop that girl one day even if she is married.

The fact that chief is getting married to her immediate elder sister is crazy.

YourGFsnatcher:
9
He will lash her eventually.

Yes, I already know this. Most girls will fall, she's not different.

owiko:
She knows exactly where those chats would lead to, I bet she's comfortable with it, considering the man's deep pockets.

Exactly my thoughts. If the man is a random guy, it would have been better but her elder sister's fiance.

osazsky:
What is Ur business..u have no right over her life are u married to her..she is not Ur wife but a girlfriend..are u are first boyfriend no...and u won't be d last..if u are not d one dat disvirgin her oga carry Ur cross and move on..some of una enn..so she should ignore someone who has made money overseas just because she is Ur friend...eat Ur own and leave there she is not Ur property u are not her parents u are just an ordinary friend

The someone you think she shouldn't ignore is having wedding plans with her immediate elder sister. At least, you should read to understand.

Kobicove:
How is she an olosho?

Is this guy even married to her or has he given any strong indication that he plans to marry her?

These days only a foolish lady will block all avenues of discussion with other potential suitors because she's doing boyfrien/girlfriend with a guy who might drop her tomorrow

And in your own definition of foolish, the wise girls open discussion with a man who's engaged and about to marry her sister abi?

osazsky:
I tire for nowadays children..the op may not even have a steady job...and u want the girl to remain...he should marry her if he is man enough...kids way never do introduction feel say to marry Na beans

First of all, the OP has a steady job. Secondly, this man is her sister's fiance, not just a random man. And if you can marry a girl who's loyalty is questionable, the OP can't.

sacajawea:
Bad world that we living in

It's really a bad world, my brother.

owiko:
She knows exactly where those chats would lead to, I bet she's comfortable with it, considering the man's deep pockets.

I agree. I tried to have a conversation with her about this, the moment she said she doesn't know where that chats is leading, within me the relationship is gone.

osazsky:
What is Ur business..u have no right over her life are u married to her..she is not Ur wife but a girlfriend..are u are first boyfriend no...and u won't be d last..if u are not d one dat disvirgin her oga carry Ur cross and move on..some of una enn..so she should ignore someone who has made money overseas just because she is Ur friend...eat Ur own and leave there she is not Ur property u are not her parents u are just an ordinary friend

First of all, I am not her first boyfriend but I am the one that deflowered her. It seems you don't read the part that the man sending her those messages is her sister's fiance who is old enough to be her father.

My girlfriend came around last Friday and stayed till Saturday. I went through her phone with her permission, of course. I didn't see anything serious. Out of curiosity I checked her chats with her sister's fiance, I saw some uncomfortable messages he sent to her. He sent messages like WHEN LAST DID YOU KISS? HAVE YOU BEEN IN LOVE BEFORE? SEND ME YOUR PICTURES, SEND ME VOICE NOTE, CAN I BE YOUR VAL OR I KILL MYSELF.

This man is in his early 50s and my girlfriend is turning 22 next month. He is even a divorcee, he come to their house and everyone respects him.

From their chats, my girlfriend didn't encourage anything, but the only issue I have with her was when I asked her why didn't she tell me the man was hitting on her? She said she thinks IT'S NOT IMPORTANT. And I asked if she knew what the man is driving at, she said SHE DOESN'T KNOW.

I told her that since she has the power to decide what's important and not, she can handle her affairs, and her elder sister would be very proud of her when she eventually finds the chats. She has been trying to be extra nice and downplay the whole situation but I just told her life no hard. Let's just catch cruise.

This man is telling her that she should be a good girl for him and he will spoil her, when he returns to Nigeria, he will take her out more often. The fact that this girl is pretending or acting to be ignorant of this old man's intentions is what turned me off.

Individualism will be the end of us. Why shouldn't I take care of my siblings? What am I hustling for? Isn't it for my family and children? I will always support my siblings whether elder or younger in morally, physically, psychologically, emotionally, spiritually and FINANCIALLY till my last breathe.

Shaking bumbum and breasts on social media.

Posting your pictures and videos on social media everyday.

Keeping male FRIENDS.

Lacking in intellectual inclination.

Forming Feminism.

KingDashx:
Lol
Which one is he mistakenly, dude your snake was erect ain't no mistake. Y'all even ENJOYED yourselves.. Omo your matter don enter igala land like this.

Back to the matter, serve you right, next time you won't sleep with every woman you meet, just pray the man no carry your matter go him village if not this 2026 Omo you go hear am

Lol, I am not the one, the guy is my friend. Secondly, mistakenly because the guy had no information that she's married.

Kobicove:
These days it's difficult to know what is rel from what is fake cos everyone is chasing engagement with content

Well, I don't go about lying for engagement, he told me about it and he's really worried, with his permission, I brought it here for wider perspective.

SpencerForbes:
Your friend seems like a “nice” guy, which is great—he should definitely keep that energy. Let’s just hope being too nice doesn't end up landing him in a jail cell.

Also, is he really that young that this guy is going straight to his mom? Usually, you only involve parents when it's kid stuff; adults should be handling things between themselves. He needs to tell the lady to give him her husband’s number so they can have a "man-to-man" talk and he can explain his side. Honestly, there’s no rage quite like a guy who thinks he caught his wife with someone else—he’ll go to extreme lengths to get even. Your friend needs to clear his name now before this whole thing blows up.

Thank you for this. This is one reasonable and resourceful contribution. I will show him this.

bdon123:
Ignorance will kii ur people in nigeria.so sleeping wit married man is not bad xcept its married woman?both are equally bad.he mistakenly slept wit a married woman n hes worried?tell d baga to move on wit his life.shjt happens

I have the same mindset like you. The whole African one sided doctrine. I already convinced him to move on. The girl wanted it after all.

My friend started dating a girl recently, and she claimed to be single. One week into the relationship, my friend had to travel and she visited him, they had sex and he travelled the following day. A strange number called him to warn him to stay away from his wife, the husband visited his house and reported him to his Mom.

He confronted the girl, she informed him that the guy beat her and ceased her phone. She has been crying and apologizing, claiming they're no longer married, but they lived together, she had a child for him before the child died, and begging. I told my friend to move on and block her.

My friend is a nice guy and he is really disturbed he slept with another man's wife, I told him it's not his fault. Why do people cheat, and why is this generation celebrating cheating like a hobby or fun activity? Loyalty is dead.

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It's a fashion brand and the pay is encouraging.

Pathetically, no woman on that list that paid her husband after divorce. They're all women who took from men using marriage as the trap.

Gender equality and Feminism are the two most disgusting and driest jokes of the century.

She's cheating on you.

I got an internship to learn a new skill, and that skill got me a job that I am currently doing. While I am looking forward to better opportunities, I am grateful that I have something doing.

Seeing my elder brother building his house in the village, I am super grateful for that project.

I learned how to drive car this year.