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tbaba1234:

Well, there are men that are all happy and jovial with their inappropriately dressed secretaries but are all frowny at home... Both Brother Shakiru and sister maryam are wrong. It is an act of hypocrisy.

If we maintain the limits required of us, i.e having relevant conversations, not frivolous conversations or flirty conversations... Then it is fine. The problem is many people would have useless conversations with their non-muslim friends (from the opposite sex)... Conversations that they should not be having if they observed limits.

A person who is not observant of the limits will naturally find it easier to converse with a non-muslim...

On the other hand, there is another extreme, those who would not talk to any one from the opposite sex at all.

Islam is all about maintaining balance, cut out the frivolous stuff when having conversations with members of the opposite sex, muslim or non muslim. Be cordial but straight to the point. Some girls need to cut out the giggling.

I didnt see this earlier. to cut out the giggling is funny. Some peeps are naturally giggly

Everyone should avoid the inappropriate conversations. May Allah help us.

anothet thing, some people back each other while talking. sister backs brother..I wonder if they have a reference to back it up..

or backing d lecturer in class while talking. I think lowering your gaze doesnt mean not having eye contacts.

tbaba1234: https://www.nairaland.com/1211209/jumuah-prayers-conversation-surah-jumuah#14543523

Please put this on the front page, It is really important to make people understand the message...

JazakAllahu Khair

I think so too. But moderators recommend, we dont put things on the home page.

olawalebabs: Maybe, we see the 'Sister Ghaniyat' and 'Bro Shakiru' as a wife and husby material, so we tend to relate with them with more respect as not to feel hurt, or should i say 'too decent' to 'joke' with.

and when sister Ghaniyat and bro shakiru marry each other, they continue to be too decent with each other and wont joke and play with each other.



Islam isnt totally against having to do with the other people. it sets limits, fine but a little sister, salam alaykum, how are you doing etc arent too bad among Muslims of different gender.

the other should not start seeing the salam alykum as a marriage proposal either this is probably where the problem lies.

cant stop laughing.

olawalebabs: Absolutely right. consciously or unconsciously, we fall into it.

explain better jare

The economic melt down is eating deep and the 'great economies' need to be replenished.

just like they took from us at the colonial era, they are back.

a second slavery and we are letting them.

Ngwakwe: Why must radicalism be mentioned when the Arabiods and their religion is involved in crime against humanity.

Sunnis and Wahabis can't even allow the Shias celebrate their harmless religious festivals without bombing them in every occasion.

Bunch of Revisionists

are u lost or something?
are u sure u posted on the right thread?
are u ok?

..for i don't see how my post correlates with what u just wrote.

have a deep thought and try again.

thorpido: Have u ever played a game with a child and u let the child win?

no..how about when the child allows the old man think he won. the old man's eyes are red and d child out of pity just allows him.

Acidosis: Coolest - Acidosis

Funniest - Idowuogbo

how can anything from d word acid be cool. it is hot.

Ngwakwe: So you think CIA caused the massacre of innocent Nigerians during Miss World and the Danish Cartoon of Mohammed.

It was all about ideology and religious extremism.

Don't believe all Conspiracy theories from revisionist who never invented anything to make the world a better place.

I know it is religious bigotry that is affecting you. Nevertheless, you need the chance to be told.

it has always been amazing how boko haram, became so sophisticated within a few months. someone needed the chaos no doubt. It isn't surprising that the same people predicted our breakdown.

I have always been that much cynical on the Abdul Mutalab case. while he had become radical without a doubt,some people watched him and allowed him carry out the act. they allowed him free pass through air port checks and stopped him just as he was going to carry out the act.

benefit was seen in Obama prolonging the guantanamo bay issue. it was supposed to be closed days aftet the Mutallab issue. just after that, they had enough reasons to delay.with claims that majority of the inhabitants were from Yemen, d same place where Mutallab got his trainings from.

Am I surprised? NO




Instead of Nigerians to stick together and fight a common enemy, they keep fighting each other.


Una go wise eventually, it would be too late though

go for EGGS

coolest- deols

no one is ugly jare.


d only ugly thing I see is on his head..he needs a shaving stick

infofirst: the intro is an illustration to make a point

so you mean it didn't happen. you made it seem like we here are bad people

bearded or not, we can all learn to smile at least. There is a lot your smiles can do

there is something else though. It appears Muslim young men would rather relate with the non Muslims of the opposite gender and vice versa. someone once told me that and then I had the experience like twice.

something like, brother Shakiru will joke with the faith in his class, will only speak with sister Maryam if dr is somfn serious 2 talk about. sister Maryam also has Mike as a friend and finds it easier having a good rapport with him.

is there something that makes having a good conversation with fellow muslims (of the opposite gender ) face to face hard?

thorpido: Men rule nevertheless.

na lie. women do it quietly.

onatisi: yes i can prove it because i dont have statistics but let me tell u a story , a friend of mine was telling me a story that his wife was telling him that doesn't he know that it is a blessing for him to die before her ,he said he rebuked her harshly that , that wont be his portion and that anyone wishing him dead will go first.
when a woman starts giving her husband shoes or dress to their son , that man should watch his back , that woman has already zeroed him out

that wife made a big mistake. it is wrong 2 say something like that

onatisi: hahahah go and see number of landladies and and their husbands that built the house lies 6 feet below outside,this issue is a very sensitive issue and the main reason why young men die young and early is that they refuse to listen to the advise of our elders concerning women,never think a woman expects you to live long at the back of her mind while kissing u is that you should work ur ass out make money and get out while she enjoys ur money , take it or leave that is the reality of life and the thinking of an average african woman

the matter is very simple- Men should stop being stingy. hhehehe

and who knows, many of those landladies own those houses. nigerian women are the most active/hardworking in the world.
prove me wrong if you can

chaircover: I read somewhere that it is to do with hormones.

Being female is attached to so much morbidity. Except for atherosclerosis,and its accompanying diseases(here is where the female hormones are said to have a role), being masculine isn't usually seen as a risk factor for having a disease.

fellis: Is that your former school?

NO

tbaba1234: I hope the relevant authorities (MSSN?? etc) are aware, a strong stand must be made with the school authorities...

I have no doubt that MSS is playing their part. Other Student bodies like the SUG should be involved as well, after all, they are for all students irrespective of their religion.

fellis: What do you think of these verses and the Hadith?

[Qur'an 4:34]Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means’

[Qur'an 2:228]...and due to the wives is similar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable. But the men have a degree over them. And Allah is Exalted in Might and Wise.

and because they spend from their means.

meaning the dowry, expenditures and various expenses that Allah ordained in His Book and the Sunnah of His Messenger for men to spend on women. For these reasons it is suitable that he is appointed her maintainer, just as Allah said, وَلِلرِّجَالِ عَلَيْهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌ (But men have a degree (of responsibility) over them). (2:228)

..this is both verses in one.

by my understanding, a man is a degree above her because he provides for her.that makes him d head and the degree is that of responsibility over her wa Allahu a'lam.


SOmething else to be noted though, while speaking about equality is that certain positions of leadership are not for a woman. Like in an Islamic state, a woman wouldn't be heaad of state. But in relation to piety, both men and women are equals in the sight of Allah.

Wa Allahu a'lam.

onatisi:
because women are witches

I knew someone was going to attach the 'W" word to women. smh

the same woman who waited until old age before letting him go abi? NoNSENSE

wow! the issue is serious then and calls for some seriousness on the part of the Muslim ummah. I checked the other threads and are different from this.


the OAU students need to come out and express their thoughts. This should not continue like this

Islam is a way of life. On being good to your neighbour, here are quotes from the prophet(S.A.W)

Narrated Samurah: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: A neighbour has the best claim to the house or land of the neighbour. - [Sunan Abu Dawood, 1556]

Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: The neighbour is most entitled to the right of pre-emption, and he should wait for its exercise even if he is absent, when the two properties have one road. - [Sunan Abu Dawood, 1557]

Narrated Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-’As: Mujahid said that Abdullah ibn Amr slaughtered a sheep and said: Have you presented a gift from it to my neighbour, the Jew, for I heard the Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him) say: Gabriel kept on commending the neighbour to me so that I thought he would make an heir? - [Sunan Abu Dawood, 2446]

Malik related to me from Ibn Shihab from al-Araj from Abu Hurayra that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “No one should prevent his neighbour from fixing a wooden peg in his wall.” Then Abu Hurayra said, “Why do I see you turning away from it? By Allah! I shall keep on at you about it.” - [Malik Al-Muwatta, Volume 36, Number 32]

Yahya related to me from Malik from Said ibn Abi Said al-Maqburi from Abu Shurayh al-Kabi that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak good or be silent. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should be generous to his neighbour. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should be generous to his guest. His welcome is for a day and a night, and his hospitality is for three days. Whatever is more than that is sadaqa. It is not halal for a guest to stay with a man until he becomes a burden.” - [Malik Al-Muwatta, Volume 49, Number 22]

Yahya related to me from Malik from Zayd ibn Aslam from Amr ibn Sad ibn Muadh from his grandmother that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “O trusting women, none of you must consider even a roasted sheep’s trotter too small to give to her neighbour.” - [Malik Al-Muwatta, Volume 49, Number 25]

Malik related to me from Zayd ibn Aslam from Amr ibn Muadh al-Ashali al-Ansari that his grandmother said, “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘O trusting women! Let none of you despise giving to her neighbour even if it is only a roasted sheep’s trotter.’ - [Malik Al-Muwatta, Volume 58, Number 4]

Narrated Abdullah ibn Umar: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: The best friend in the sight of Allah is he who is the well-wisher of his companions, and the best neighbour is one who behaves best towards his neighbours. Transmitted by Tirmidhi. - [Al-Tirmidhi, Number 120]

Narrated Abdullah ibn Amr: Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “The best companion in Allah’s estimation is the one who is best to his companion, and the best neighbour in Allah’s estimation is the one who is best to his neighbour.” Tirmidhi and Darimi transmitted it, Tirmidhi saying this is a hasan gharib tradition. - [Al-Tirmidhi, Number 1287]

Narrated AbdurRahman ibn AbuQurad: The Prophet (peace be upon him) performed ablution one day and his companion began to wipe themselves with the water he had used. The Prophet (peace be upon him) asked them what induced them to do that, and when they replied that it was love for Allah and His Messenger (peace be upon him) he said, “If anyone is pleased to love Allah and His Messenger, (peace be upon him) or rather to have Allah and His Messenger (peace be upon him) love him, he should speak the truth when he tells anything, fulfil his trust when he is put in a position of trust, and be a good neighbour.” Bayhaqi transmitted it in Shu’ab al-Iman. - [Al-Tirmidhi, Number 1289]

Narrated Abdullah ibn Mas’ud: Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “Allah Most High has allotted you your characters just as He has allotted you your provisions. Allah Most High gives worldly things to those whom He loves and those whom He does not love, but He gives religion only to those whom He loves, so he who is given religion by Allah has been loved by Him. By Him in Whose hand my soul is, a man is not a Muslim till his heart and tongue are submissive, and he is not a believer till his neighbour is safe from injurious behaviour on his part.” Ahmad and Bayhaqi, in Shu’ab al-Iman transmitted it. - [Al-Tirmidhi, Number 1292]

Narrated AbuHurayrah: Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “Who will accept those words from me and act upon them, or teach people who will act upon them?” When he replied that he would he took him by the hand and counting five characteristics, said, “If you guard against the things which are forbidden, you will be the most devout of men; if you are pleased with what Allah has allotted, you will be the richest of men; if you are kind to your neighbour, you will be a believer; if you like others to have what you like for yourself, you will be a Muslim; and do not laugh immoderately, for immoderate laughter causes the heart to die.” Ahmad and Tirmidhi transmitted it, Tirmidhi saying this is a gharib tradition. - [Al-Tirmidhi, Number 1334]

Narrated AbuHurayrah: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Give presents to one another, for a present removes rancour from the breast, and a woman should not despise even the gift of half a sheep’s trotter from her neighbour.” Tirmidhi transmitted it. - [Al-Tirmidhi, Number 899]

Narrated AbuDharr: Allah’s Apostle (peace be upon him) said: AbuDharr, when you prepare the broth, add water to that and give that (as a present) to your neighbour. - [Sahih Muslim, 1208]

Narrated AbuHurayrah: The Messenger of Allah (may peace and blessings be upon him) observed: He will not enter Paradise whose neighbour is not secure from his wrongful conduct. - [Sahih Muslim, 15]

Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, “O Muslim women! None of you should look down upon the gift sent by her she-neighbor even if it were the trotters of the sheep (fleshless part of legs).” - [Sahih Bukhari, Volume 3, Number 740]

Narrated Abdullah: I or somebody, asked Allah’s Apostle “Which is the biggest sin in the Sight of Allah?” He said, “That you set up a rival (in worship) to Allah though He Alone created you.” I asked, “What is next?” He said, “Then, that you kill your son, being afraid that he may share your meals with you.” I asked, “What is next?” He said, “That you commit illegal sexual intercourse with the wife of your neighbor.” Then the following Verse was revealed to confirm the statement of Allah’s Apostle: “Those who invoke not with Allah, any other god, nor kill life as Allah has forbidden except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse.” (25.68) - [Sahih Bukhari, Volume 6, Number 284]

Narrated Abdullah: I asked the Prophet, “What is the greatest sin in the Sight of Allah?” He said, “That you set up a rival unto Allah though He Alone created you.” I said, “That is indeed a great sin.” Then asked, “What is next?” He said, “To kill your son lest he should share your food with you.” I asked, “What is next?” He said, “To commit illegal sexual intercourse with the wife of your neighbor.” - Sahih Bukhari, Volume 6, Number 4

Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not hurt (trouble) his neighbor. And I advise you to take care of the women, for they are created from a rib and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part; if you try to straighten it, it will break, and if you leave it, it will remain crooked, so I urge you to take care of the women.” - Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 7, Number 114

Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should not hurt his neighbor and whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should serve his guest generously and whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should talk what is good or keep quiet.” - Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 8, Number 158

Narrated Abu Shuraih: The Prophet said, “By Allah, he does not believe! By Allah, he does not believe! By Allah, he does not believe!” It was said, “Who is that, O Allah’s Apostle?” He said, “That person whose neighbor does not feel safe from his evil.” - Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 8, Number 45

Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah’s Apostle said, “Anybody who believes in Allah and the Last Day should not harm his neighbor, and anybody who believes in Allah and the Last Day should entertain his guest generously and anybody who believes in Allah and the Last Day should talk what is good or keep quiet (i.e. abstain from all kinds of evil and dirty talk).” - Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 8, Number 47

Narrated Abu Shuraih Al Adawi: My ears heard and my eyes saw the Prophet when he spoke, “Anybody who believes in Allah and the Last Day, should serve his neighbor generously, and anybody who believes in Allah and the Last Day should serve his guest generously by giving him his reward.” It was asked. “What is his reward, O Allah’s Apostle?” He said, “(To be entertained generously) for a day and a night with high quality of food and the guest has the right to be entertained for three days (with ordinary food) and if he stays longer, what he will be provided with will be regarded as Sadaqa (a charitable gift). And anybody who believes in Allah and the Last Day should talk what is good or keep quiet (i.e. abstain from all kinds of dirty and evil talks).” - Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 8, Number 48

http://islampeace1./2013/02/27/authentic-hadiths-on-neighbours/
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Aa’isha (may Allah be pleased with her) narrates in Sahih Al Bukhari V2/B 15/no.70]:



It was the day of ‘Id, and the Black people were playing with shields and spears; so either I requested the Prophet (peace be upon him) or he asked me whether I would like to see the display. I replied in the affirmative. Then the Prophet (peace be upon him) made me stand behind him and my cheek was touching his cheek and he was saying, “Carry on! O Bani Arfida,” till I got tired.



The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) asked me, “Are you satisfied (Is that sufficient for you)?” I replied in the affirmative and he told me to leave.



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The Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) always kept his smile with his wives and he used to laugh and please them to make them laugh as well. With all the troubles around him, he used to take his wife Aisha, to the desert and say, “Aisha, lets race!” And she used to race him and win. So, he kept on feeding her meat for a whole week, so she would unassumingly gain weight, until he took her again to the desert and said, “Aisha, let’s race!” At that time, he won and said to her, “This time I won!”.

http://islampeace1./2013/02/27/laugh-play-and-joke-with-your-life-partner-its-sunnah/

The story behind this happening is that there was a practical class that was rescheduled for the Seventh Day Adventist Hospital, Ile Ife as the OAU Teaching Hospitals Complex staffs were on strike then. The missionary hospital acted true to type by insisting that the Muslim ladies in headscarves remove their headscarves.

this caught my attention the most. Like, what the heck

So much for christian tolerance.






Oh my good lord, I am actually carrying this matter for head o! Injustice of the highest order. These people are being treated as refugees, if not below that level in their own country.


The OAU authorities must hear word o if this is true.