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bukatyne: Sorry, i'm posting multiple posts. Why don't you believe in equality?

I am very passionate about matters relating to women. I have had experiences with women at the very grassroots. I have seen women who are only trophies and I have met and interacted with intelligent and successful women.

I took a comprehensive course on women and see them sick, hurt, etc like on a daily basis. Despite all these, having a big influence on my attitude towards men and women, I am still very much a Muslim, a muslim first and d laws of the QUr'an are never to be changed.

the Qur'an puts men as the head and that isn't to be changed.so equality doesn't come in. the laws of inheritance are such that women get half of what a man gets and those aren't changing either, etc.

The best a WOman would do to help herself is marry a good man, one who is well brought up, reasonable and wise.

toba: ر يوم طلعت فيه الشمس يوم الجمعة؛ فيه خلق الله آدم،
وفيه أدخل الجنة، وفيه أخرج منها، ولا تقوم الساعة إلا في يوم الجمعة))

that is a beautiful poem. Do u mind translating it, toba? and where did you get it from.

bukatyne: I agree with you. Most men DON'T respect women and it shows in all their dealings with each other. Most men frown at the idea of women being equal with them and I wonder:

Are people just rude to others bacause they are equals?

Don't men relate with their close men friends well?

Don't they compromise in their friendship with their colleagues and others?

Most men will be courteous to their subordinates and female colleagues at work but would be so rude to their wives at home.

I don't believe in equality though. Each person is playing a part that leads to a synergy that works. All I expect is respect from the men for the women folk and that respect would include making their opinions count and being sensitive to their feelings. All these the holy book preach.

funnny though how anyone would be courteous to others and not to the closest people to him.

If you read what Obama said concerning his daughter dating, he said something like they have seen how much respect he gives their mother and have high standards about what to expect in a relationship. this is how to train girls to be confident about whom they are and never to be doormats to anyone, male or female, for anything.

dridowu: May Allah increase us in Knowledge

AMin

wow.
need I say more?

wa alykum salam. I am sure there are people who would be ready to help.

I am in fact counting on tbaba.

But I think your problem is half solved because already you have realised there is a problem and are ready to find solutions.

a mistake you make though is allowing your past weight you down. Once you ask for forgiveness with sincerity, be hopeful you are forgiven. seek from Allah whatever you wish and he will answer you.

Dont think your sins are too big that Allah wouldnt answer your prayers or acc3pt your worship. Remember shaytan asked to be able to mislead even after he had commited the great sin in disobedience to Allah and Allah answered him.

I pray Allah keeps you firm in the deen. do not despair. the favor of Allah is near.

Logicboy03: Thanks but remember that I'm an atheist. I cant afford to put my pics up in case some butthurt extremists recognises me on the street.

dont be so naive.

satisfaction.

I still wonder why scholars emphasise how the wife should be satisfied with what the husband can provide without emphasising that he takes her the way she is and allow her carry out her duties to the best of her abilities.


The world will change when men are brought up by women who teach them to respect women. I always use my family as an example. I would be surprised if any of my siblings disrespects women and I could get same from mdsock's posts.

If you have women you are proud of, that you appreciate in your family, you would want to marry someone you can as well respect, that would not be below par with the ones you know and you would more likely treat her with respect.

I have always known that the life people have lived, the people they have known, where they come from etc are deciding factors when choosing their spouses, their relationship with people, outlook on life and their over all life quality.

The Quran will Guide but all of these play roles.

[quote author=Nuzo']If you think being a conservative muslim or a Wahabbist is just seperating sexes and covering faces...then you are no different from those so-called moderate muslim.

And what do mean by follow follow?



I will appreciate it if you can read up the entire wikipedia on Wahabbism. Then give me your opinion.

I want to learn.[/quote]No, I wont go to wikipedia. You, tell me more. would u prefer the real juice or a diluted one?

emcemayo: Subhanallah I envy the OP for d awesome reward u'll b getting for this thread , that said am going on research I'll insh'llah be back, may Allah uplift you all and CHAKULA barakallahu fee! That's all I can say

envy is good-for the right things. Now you just brought my mind to the rewards. I feel like doing more

BetaThings: We can do better than this
Can we not contribute some money to her? Less than N10k will do

someone has to start. You can be the person. how it will go, qhere the money would be sent, etc

Logicboy03: lol.....what is this one feeling like? mtchew.......commot for road jo.

this one? ikoja aye.

anyways, go and stop.disturbing the peace here. I pray God opens your heart to the truth. you may be another Umar in the making

DANILSA: This is were the issue of moderate Islamist and extremist comes to play. Also is the issue of 21 century Islamist And 8century muslims. Hope hausa muslims will read ur post and learn from yorubas.

there is nothing like hausa or yoruba muslim. Muslims are one

Logicboy03: lol.....Deols why? Is it because I bashed you in the islam section? Why

You wont even miss me? The only atheist that challenges you on the islam section? Kai

bash? me? you are making a mistake o. You and me in d same sentence? I dont think so

youngchopper: kids

there are so many of them behaving like kids here. you'd be surprised with mouth wide open when they mistakenly mention their ages or how many kids they have.

there are a binder of them 'agbayas' on Nl...not saying logic boy.is.one.

dont look at the ages by what and how they post.




btw, you wont be missed OP.

igbayi laaro..just realising there is a world out there?

during the treaty of udaybiyyah, a very trying moment for the prophet and his people,the best decision he made was after he sought his wife, Umm Salama's opinion.

a sissy would have asked her to shut up, even if she wanted to state her mind, because her doing so was him 'submitting'to her which would be unmanly and not what the Quran commands.


someone said laws are made for men and not men for laws.



@bukatyne, I came back k

bukatyne: I am splendid, thanks.
We all like glamour. Beauty appeals to our eyes that's why a guy or girl will be naturally drawn to a beautiful person over an ugly one. The 'worldly' people are wiser than the 'godly' ones and have better packaging. The godly ones should learn to seize opportunities, brand themselves in nice packages and position themselves properly.

You are right.

[quote author=Nuzo']"Wahhabism (Arabic: وهابية‎, Wahhābiyyah) is an ultra-conservative[1] branch of Sunni Islam.[2][3] It is a religious movement among fundamentalist Islamic believers, with an aspiration to return to the earliest fundamental Islamic sources of the Quran and Hadith, with inspiration from the teachings of Medieval theologian Ibn Taymiyyah and early jurist Ahmad ibn Hanbal".[/quote]I have always called myself a Muslim without ascribing a sect but your definition sounds exactly like what I perceive as the true Islam. the Conservative Islam based on the fundamental islamic sources. who doesnt want to be d Muslim that follows this way of life?

fellis: beejaay is an atheist.

no wonder.

bukatyne: How are you? You ran wawy from the Muslim wife thread.

I am fine. how are you too?
I didnt run. there was just too many people speaking my mind.I didnt see a reason to continue.

@op, I see so many Nigerians display intelligence,writing on blogs etc without much to show for it. someone else displays flesh and or sell gossips and boom, is in money.

a lot needs to be done, if Nija must be better.

I cant see a post like this and just move on. well done Op. This is a good one

@ sis. Kauthar, I am late to this thread. All has be3n said and I can only pray for you. Insha Allah all will be well.

thank you so much.

I have actually learnt something. to emphasise and appreciate my priviledges and not my prowess nor abilities.

I am grateful for the lessons and pls bring on the concluding part.