₦airaland Forum

hey bru, if u can't beat em beta join em, get a broom or mat or smtn,

dats what i call tourism, simply exciting n adventurous. its is de spice of life

broda, which one u wan quick divorce yr wife like dat jus becos say she no horridly forgive your selfish ass, as u bin dey expect, becos i no see wey u write say she want divorce, o'l boy u no try at all but sha continue to beg your wife till she gree,,, cos if u eventually go marry dat calabar girl cuz i no say na where dis yr talk dey go so, na your coffin u dey go price soooooooo

The Phrase ''I Do'' means more than it's easy to say. This phrase could also be intepreted as RESPONSIBILITY. THere is a lot to be considered before this phrase ''I DO'' is uttered. You must first understand the word ''MARRAIGE''

Marraige is a convenant committment to love an imperfect man / woman uncomditionally for the rest of your life. and why is this, because marraige is a vacuum and QUALITY is determined by the people involved.

Love is not a feeling, rather its a choice you make to be committed to someone knowing fully well thats there's no perfect man or woman.

Now because of these imperfections in human being, sometime we find ourselves dabbling blindly into marraiges for reasons like lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from family and others or a low self esteem.

Hence divorce is a leeway, i guess when u find yourself in such predicaments, i mean, thats when u've realised that you weren't really prepared for this voyage. Ordinarily, i do not subscribe to divorce, thats why its advicable to date for as long as you wish, get to know who and which family you are gettin involved with and for crying out loud, always ask GOD to guide you in your every step you take & decision making

¤His nagging,anywhere everywhere, anytime everytime. people ask how I cope with it.

¤His shouting at the top of his voice even when u r not quarelling. He is so loud

¤His haggling. No matter how cheap, he still haggles.

¤His holier than thou attitude

¤Plus he is as romantic as a door post.when he wants sex, he just tells me "I want to f**k" and he expects me to hit d sack as if I'm a sex machine.


correct gee flicking away tears of mirth
[quote][/quote]

mohawkchic:
*Wonders if Ladoma is lying unconscious in some hospital* Yesterday was D-Day!! I really do hope he's told his Mrs.

me tink his wife has found out and probably did wat she promised him, rem'ba her quote ''i love you so much dear--if i ever catch you in an amorous affair,i will never forgive U, i will kill you and kill myself'' what a way to end dis, gush maybe we should all light a candle 4 dem

how much u go square me

broda, dis yr tory get small k leg , y yr babe wey u claim say u dey date for 5 yrs, go dey bone yr kid bros, u no tink say she dey try get back at you or somthing u sure say u no bin dey cheat on am badly for dos 5yrs n feel say she no know?? o'l boy beta go back to r draawing board? b4 u go do something ver irrational. wat goes around comes around.

Thank God for guys who don't let loyalty to their sex blind them or stop them from telling the truth. God Bless you.


OP
Listen carefully. . . YOU ARE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP and nothing you can do is going to save it because your friend has serious issues and until he seeks help, it would never change. You didn't say anything about him hitting you but it's just around the corner because he will always try to up the way he controls you. He can't be reasoned with because he is unreasonable so all that talk about sitting him down and "talking about your feeling" abeg, take it and do this

Baby Jinx:
Thank God for guys who don't let loyalty to their sex blind them or stop them from telling the truth. God Bless you.


OP
Listen carefully. . . YOU ARE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP and nothing you can do is going to save it because your friend has serious issues and until he seeks help, it would never change. You didn't say anything about him hitting you but it's just around the corner because he will always try to up the way he controls you. He can't be reasoned with because he is unreasonable so all that talk about sitting him down and "talking about your feeling" abeg, take it and do this https://gi73.photobucket.com/groups/i204/99JUAMR284/not_listening.gif

Read the aritcle below and if I may be so forward as to add. . . RUN!!!!


Signs of An Emotionally Abusive Boyfriend or Partner



- Doesn’t want you to tell people about the problems between the two of you.

- Makes you feel guilty when you don’t want to have sex.

- Pressures you into having sex when you don’t want to.

- Physically forces you into submission when he wants sex after you have sad no.

- Doesn’t accept or respect your decisions.

- When chatting, sends you a lot of nudges when you aren’t answering fast enough.

- Implies that you lie or directly calls you a liar.

- Doesn’t trust you.

- Checks up on you.

- Comes to your home, school or workplace to look for you when you have asked him not to.

- Keeps sending you text messages or calling if you don’t answer.

- Hangs up the phone when he is talking to you.

- Tells you to hang up the phone when you are talking to friends.

- Gives you the silent treatment.

- Expects you to follow him and ask him what's wrong when he walks off.

- Apologizes but then does the same thing.

- Blames you for things.

- Makes you feel guilty for not spending more time with him.

- Tells you what you “should” do.

- Tells you to do things rather than asking you to do them.

- Tells you to do things rather than telling you how he feels.

- Says he can’t live without you or he will kill himself if you leave him.

- Makes you feel responsible for his feelings

- Makes you afraid of telling him the truth, so you find yourself not telling him things or lieing to him in order to avoid fights and conflicts.

- Says things like "I can't believe you are doing this to me." and "You promised me."



While all of these indicators are emotional, remember that emotional abuse is often the first one used. This nearly always escalates and becomes a physical form of abuse. It always involves control - one partner controlling the actions of the other. If this kind of behavior is present, you have a potentially abusive situation that is likely to only get worse as the relationship progresses.

Grabbing your arm or blocking the door when you are trying to leave is one of the first signs the emotional abuse may later turn into physical violence.

While the emotional abuse could lead to physical violence, it doesn't always lead to this. The abusive person might learn he can sufficiently control you with psychological abuse, guilt trips, fear, professions of love, apologies, gifts and other manipulation.

hey baby, i was jus been frank, that son of a bitch is just infactuated, i know one wen i see one, a complete loser

well in my own line of reasoning, i feel a broken relationship is better than a broken marraige

yeah, women dey say is de weaker sex, but in their weakness, they do have tremendous strenght, ds is a msg to all de hulkamanias wanna be, please be guided. do not push a woman!! accept your woman for who she is, do not try to make her what you want her to be, just luv her n respect her mind, soul n body, only dat way u'll be able to harness that energy in her, n utilizing it in areas dat strenght is required like opening an automobile workshop for her, thereby using it to unlock other peoples destiny instead of trying to satisfy your own selfish desire by trying to get her a degree. Its a pity sha u are not alive to take dis lecture, but oda of yr kind would.

broda, i think u're confused! Are u marrying for your ancestors or yourself. You better get your acts together, bru.

look dear, i must be very candid with you, you boyfriend is not inlove with you rather he is obsessed about you, and that my dear is not too healthy. So my advice to you is to get over him and get on with your life. chau

never, infact i cherish de day i got married, cuz its all bout me n my friend, i allow her to wear wateva makes her happy, i allow my wife to do wateva pleases her cuz dats wat bring out de best in her, i don't need to wait on her to cook, if i come home on time, i fix dinner for my wife n my kids, n make sure i feed her on bed. she is my wife and not my slave, she must be happy, cuz dats was de promise i made to her. sometime we get tired, we jus eat out n 4get de rest. its jus de two of us, don't want my wife to look older than her age jus becos of overlabour at home. i hv no regrets watsoeva, even wish we were married since we were in primary school, gaddamit. i love you hon, u're de best forever.