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oyeb15:
Most people on this site have no business acumen. All i can see ever since is just poultry farming.
I weep for this country cos our youths only knows how to eat fish.They lack ideas of how to get out of poverty.
Imagine #150k

1. You can get POS from a bank as low as 20k and use ur remaining money for withdraws,transfers e.t.cwhich will give u commissions from d bank to d extent dat they can fund u if u run out of cash once they know that u are growing fast.
2.Sell Cement. Hire a shop or container around a developing area (site) and start with just 120k cement. U later do turnover.
3.Sell Okirika Cloths .start with just 40k. Go to each town on their market days and sell. Thank me later.
4.Sim Registration. You can move around street by street and sell new lines.its rough but u can make up to 250k in a month if u are hard working. Just go to either glo,airtel or mtn office and ask to b a freelancer.Dont stay under any Dealer .They will register you and give u a freelance number which u will work on and get incentives every month.
5. Sell cooked food in d morning and evening. If u are good at cooking, just get a space near walk way were people pass to work and return from walk. U can sell jollof ,fried or white rice.Just one cooler to start with, ur profit will motivate u later.
6. If u are a rugged type ,look for a clean fairly used bike for 80k ,buy helmet and join union. At least one will make nothing less than 5k daily and dont take drugs.
7. If u are a lazy investor, u can buy yellow kegs of palm oil around feb, march or april when it cheap and sell when d price triples. Very easy to sell when d price is high,u load everything inside a car on market day,those women will rush you.

8.U can loan me d cash with 150% return after one year. Thank u.

mtchwwww I thought you had a reasonable thing to say

MackyNaija:
I am new to the area so I cannot say.

Please do Not put California and decent cost of living in the same sentence.
I advice anyone except those coming here to gain experience while earning a living wage to stay away except you are okay to p1ss away all your earning in living cost.

My opinions might be biased, I lived in cheap Texas before cutthroat California.

heard so many naija nurses are in Texas. you seen them? is it true?

Lmao. Gay guys have showed you pepper, sorry o. You never ready yet. Work on ur dirty manners

No wonder you hate people, you can see husband. You bitter soul. Miat probably ugly

IDERAWOLE:
Your language alone shows the stuff you're made of. No wonder nothing works for you.

Social media rat you must be, respect for others opinion is an anathema to you. Empty nonsense.

You are pained. I said the truth. Psycho nonsense doesn't change sexual orientation. It has been proved tinea without number

Duggedised12:
lol ,by facts you mean western program you have fully downloaded and made into your warped reality,lol. Take a hike bro,this one will no be fooled by your shitty excuses and propaganda.

enjoy your ignorance bro. Propanganda indeed. Read books ok. And if you don't wanna read book, meet with people facing the reality. No one would own up but they are all around you. Even you could be but keep denying your reality. You arent gay and yet talk authoritatively on things you only conjure to satisfy your ignorance

koyyes:
Shut up that f@ggot mouth.

Go and read all the Shiit you have been typing on this thread instead of advising the poster.

Married my a$$. Heaven only knows the degree of oral and anal sex you subject the unfortunate village girl to just to get your finger battery d1ck up.

You are lucky she is not the kind that would have implicated your rotten anus out by now. You for receive the beatings of your life.

Demented f@ggot.

Summary of all I wrote on this group is, people are born gay and lesbians, boarding house don't turn people gay, it may only open their eyes to their internal nature earlier, the woman in this thread is a victim of societal hypocrisy and she's not the only one, millions are married to lesbians and gays and wondering why their partners are not sexually responsive. You all can deny this fact all you want but it's the truth but you all would rather hide under religion than face the truth. Una never see anything, una just dey start. Gays are being born daily and society would always forece them to marry opposite sex to keep face. Gays has been on earth before Africa was discovered, oyinbo didn't bring it, your great grands were gays but they never had the opportunity to express it but the wives suffered it (no sexual satisfaction ). I would not respond to you again , pick a book and read. Then you can have sense and knowledge. Use google if you can't afford books.

koyyes:
Shut up your disgusting mouth.

You are a closet f@ggot and you implicated yourself by delving into my conversation with another person that had nothing to do with you. Another attribute of a f@ggot.

If you think anal sex with a female has healed you from gaydom, go and hit your empty head somewhere.

You will be caught soon. Foolish animal.

Of u are not sick, u would know I never said anal sex with d wife would heal him.
Sick soul. U are d closet gay here. I am happily married but u are a a 1sec vegetable impotent man.

Duggedised12:
lol ,assuming i am straight? Lol you sure look at the world from your warped vision. That it runs in your world doesnt mean everyone is like you cos i already know you are a f@got .

Interviewer of gay people lol,PRO of deviants,take your propaganda else where,i cant remember asking you to argue with me,if you don't agree ,keep scrolling or log out.


And lastly, get this into your thick skull, no one is born gay, from catholic priest to Muslims to boarding school students and anyone else picked it up as a habit because they were exposed to the practice,same way people get stuck on smoking and drugs.

Don't mention me with your nonsense again as i can see you have been gyrating on this thread quoting everyone trying to defend your people,see as you care the matter for head like gala,rubbish,spits!. NO ONE WAS BORN GAY!!!.

Enjoy your ignorance. Your opinion has nothing on facts.

koyyes:
What is this one saying?

Journey miss road.

So the op should go and submit her anus to her f@ggot husband to cure his mental illness abi?

You need psychiatric evaluation.

Ewu. I hope you get punctured in the anus one day. Let's see how much you will enjoy it.

Closet f@ggot.

U are a useless goat. Read my comment again. Agric fowl

Duggedised12:
lol ,nobody is born gay,its a habit just like any other habit picked up by an individual ,its just like any addiction out there.Go and read on the current president of the Philippines.

As for the bolded, please speak for yourself and yourself alone. Except you mean to tell me people are drug addicts because its their nature to be drug addicts and so they got stuck on it.lol.

All this narrative your likes give as excuses for their deviancy wont fly here as far as i am concerned go else where with it.

And i still say it again, gender segregated places such as sharia dominated countries(which is why homos are common in the north) and so on breed favourable grounds for sexual deviancy and make it easy for kids to pick it up at a young age,if you don't agree, take a hike.

People are born gay. Stop arguing. If u are nit gay or lez, u have no rights to impose. All gays and lez I have interviewed said they were born such! Homi is not habit, it is the emotional, physical and sexual attraction to samw sex. When did you pick up being straight? That's assuming you are straight sef?

bluefilm:
Mister GAYbriel.

I dey greet o.

Wehdone sah

Nothing do you.

Truth hurts

Duggedised12:
The gays i know including lesbians picked it up from same sex boarding school and i am sure many people here can testify to it too.If you see it as a stereotype ,definitely your cup of tea ,not mine.


The bottom line here is gender segregation promotes sexual deviancy, same way that vatican has been fingered in homosexality and also sharia run environments are crawling with closet homos.

They didn't "pick" it up. They discovered it was in their nature from their. We all did things while young, we moved on and not stucked. They are stucked cos it is in their nature. Stop arguing anf get the facts. Boarding school didn't turn them, if they never went to boarding school, dey wld stl b gay and els cos sooner or later, the natire comes to glare. Some deny it and marry then they see marriage doesn't cure their gayness or lesbian whatever. Same sex schl could only have actes as catalyst. Thats how ppl label boarders as homos. Bad stereotype

Rilwayne001:
What could have prompted a man to prefer fellow man when it comes to sex? The preference doesn't just come naturally I believe. If it does, we would have had homosexual as much as straights, but what's bringing the difference?

There are gays everwhere even in your family bu you would never know. You expect them to say they are gay? They wld keep it and marry a lady like this op and then wahala would start. Use ur google and research, gays are everywhere same as lesbian u wld not just know. And if u think it's only bobriskies fem guys that are gay, ur are in for a shocker. Ur manly muscular, aggressive aohla males are gays. Only insiders know, it's all biological and inborn. Nothing prayer or anything can cure.

Sicilyjoe:
No need to suspect him, just try and dip ur finger in his anus and confirm it,

Anus is not same as sam sex. Dont open ur mouth to talk about something you don't know.

tiredoflife:
When a woman is materialistic this is what u end up with
U barely knew him
But he had the cash
U just shoved all the other guys cos to u they are broke
See wetin if u no get money hide ur face put u

Many ladies are like u
Unhappy marriages cos of materialism but they will lie its domestic violence

The deed as been done
Leave him alone.
He wont change
Pack and leave the marriage or he will dash u aids one day

You are a dumbfucck.

Shugargal:
Nothing changes any gay person, not even prayers.. though am sure of the lesbian folks, pray till tomorrow you can't change what someone is, talking from experience. madam is either you start doing the other wise or you take him for who he is. but omo having a gay hubby make sense die, this sex up and down from you guys won't be there, they don't even wanna know when you want it or not, weda you're tired or not, make man pikin pai one day ni? dem go rush me so.

from your write up, you are lesbian. I hope u dont deceive a straight guy into marriage? Lesbians should marry gays.

Duggedised12:
Did you attend all male boarding school?

Male boarding school doesn't make people gay. Stop all these stereotypes! People are gay cos they are gay and not cos dey wnet to boarding school

koyyes:
Think like a gay?

Let him have anals?

Are you OK?

Grow brain. Gay is sexually attracted to sane sex, how is it the same as anals? Girls that like anals are gays? That's the mistake you people make. Gaybsex is not same as anal sex. There are gays who. don't do anals and there are straight who do and enjoy anals

IDERAWOLE:
Seriously, you need to calm down, watch things with no bias in your mind. If your suspicions are still being reinforced. Then, call him quietly, to discuss this.

If you aren't explosive in your approach, he'll definitely open up to you, haven seen that you've known and bold enough to open it up.

Now, let's assume he's agreed to your discovery, what's the way out?

Don't be deceived, there are therapists that can assist him to overcome the complexity of his emotions.

What he needs is actually a therapy!

I'll suggest a therapist to you if you need one. Chat me up via my signature.

Don't swindle her. Nothing can change a man's sexual orientation.. Forget all those psychology bullshit and conversation therapy. They don't work!!! Save your self the stress and read more, do more research and stop trying to claim what you know nothing about.

This is what happens when you refuse to accept that people are gay, lesbians and bisexual and you force them to be straight, who do you think they will marry? Your straight families! That's why that anti gay law is stupid. Nigerians are hypocrites and would never want to agreed things are just the way they are.
Madam, you either divorce or you manage him. if, Manage him by talk about it and always use condoms. Infact, go for std tests and do the needful. Your husband is 100percent gay, not bisexual, if he's bisex you would never know. Cos he wld service you well.
Make sure you cry, and tell him your worries, try to keep evidences, and tell hin you know what's up. Prayers would not change him, don't waste your time. He himself woulf have fasted and prayed for it to go but prayers don't change genes and DNA. Prayers can't change you from black skin to white or short to tall. It's all biological but africans and religiosity will not want to agree and na dem do am pass for secret!
Sorry, you are not the only one, plenty people are in your shoes, some it's lesbians they got married to, the lesbians used them to have kids and then ask for divorce later. Hypocrisy will kill Nigerians, until you all accept the truth and stop hiding under religion.

judetov2:
After reading this post I felt like crying...I am sorry to say but that man is a complete GAY. From what u said I believe u are so "hot" yet he is never moved....I can mention more than 10,000 signs of a gay....I hate them so much. .....pls dnt allow ur male child to stay with him even as he is the Father... I will pray for u...u have a beautiful heart.

Seems they have done you strong thing. Loooool

switesthart:
Hello nairalanders, please is there any nigerian trained midwife who has successfully registered with any midwifery council of any developed country and is presently working in the said country. I tried for UK but it dint work out so I am considering newzealand or australia or any other developed country. Pls if you are a midwife or you know any midwife that has copleted the process, please share with a sister. Hope to get feedback from my nairaland family. Cheers.

How far now?

johndan103:
Background
I am 28 years old (will be 29 on the 18th Oct) and I am ready to go the family way. I have a lovely girlfirend lets call her Hauwa, she is 28 too (will be 29 March next year) and is emotionally matured and ready to settle down too, but the problem is my mom.


Statement of Problem
My mom gets irritated when I tell her i am ready to marry. She keeps hoping i dont get married soon saying i am ungrateful for all the care she has shown me. I have a Job and i have promised to do what I should do. But she said i must not marry the person i love. She has rejected every lady I have brought home. In fact she has never approved any relationship I have ever been in. Every lady i date is either a prostitute or a low life according to her.


More Details
She wants to match make for me. She is always talking about her friends daughters, so last year i tried to reason with her and allowed her to send me her choice (this was before my present relationship).
She sent the lady's number and i contacted the lady. Very rude lady who thinks being a medical student is the best thing that has happened since sliced bread. We didnt gel at all cos i feel she's too slow and not my type of woman, she also wasnt digging the match making thingy. The lady eventually told me she is in another relationship and i felt relieved. I told my mom and she said theres another medical student (daughter of another friend) of hers.



My Point of View
I am tired of her trying to match make me with her own opinion of the best choice for me. I love this lady I presently am dating to the moon and I cant see myself leaving a matured, humble and independent woman for another slowpoke i dont even know.

My mom has said if i go ahead I wont have her blessings in the marriage and that i have been jazed. I used to think moms will be happy that their son wants to start a family but mine has made it harder for me. I know parents want the best for their children but this is a tall oder for me.


Hauwa's Point of View
Hauwa is already feeling rejected about the whole saga and has asked me to keep peace with my mom. She says she undestands moms are protective. She handeled it well with maturity. I delibratelty asked her to visit my mom from the begining of the relationship so that they can familiarize with themselves but my mom wont accept her. Hauwa is saying it will be difficult emotionally for us if our relationship and marriage is not accepted.


Mom's Point of View
The first reason my mom gave is that Hauwa is Igala while we are okun (i have introduced my mom to an Okun lady in the past she said our village doesnt marry from Yagba, I also introduced her to another youruba lady she said the lady parents are not together so she wont keep a home).
The second point my mom raised is that the lady is financially independent, makes money and drives a Jeep. (I have asked Hauwa about her financial status and I am convinced runs is not not her way cos she has elaborated on how she affords her lifestyle and its genuine).She also asked for the 4million she loaned me before I talk about marriage which I will. I asked her if she wants cash or a car and she said a benz. My plan is to get her an SUV before end of the year so i can focus on settling down next year. I am very lonely and tired of bachelor life. I want to settle down and start have kids not sleeping around like a fuckboy.


Family point of view
My family is very educated and well travelled so i dont understand why this issue is coming up. I am already processing visa for Hauwa cos i cant keep breaking my heart by ending relationships at her command just to to make her happy. My dad is neutral but he wont want to offend his wife so he might try and reason with her. My sisters have said they will support my chioce but I shouldnt complain if I make the wrong choice even tho my mom will try to convince my siblings not to give me any kind of emotional support.


My Question
What are the repercussions of going ahead with the marriage plans?? Has any man successfully gone against their moms wish and turned out happy??


NB: No one can change my moms mind, not my dad, not pastor, not her sister. on one because she will convince them she is right and tell them I am lying, that she has never rejected anyone except this person.
Please I dont want to give the impression that my mom is a bad person cos she has trained me in the right path and I have never lacked because of her. She is also very supportive and has provided everything and more at all times for all her children.

Please be kind to us cos im sending the link to Hauwa to read matured peoples opinion.

Cheers

Hmm, you are Okun too. My mum has told me expressly never to bring an unOkun girl home she even emphasized yagba. I'm just laughing. Me tht wants to marry oyinbo.