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Travel / Re: General UK Visa Enquiries - Part 5 by DFmum: 4:00pm On Mar 01, 2022
Please can I go for renewal of visa vignette of my son earlier b4 the entry date elapses? If yes, can I do that 2weeks b4 the Expiration?
Please whats involved in vignette renewal. How do I go about it ?
Thank you
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 12:04am On Feb 27, 2022
Thanks
tshoboy:

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Travel / Re: General UK Visa Enquiries - Part 5 by DFmum: 10:00pm On Feb 26, 2022
Please which services can I use to move wardrobe to my new house? My first time of moving something like this bikonu. Can Panther carry dismantled wardrobe?
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 9:52pm On Feb 26, 2022
Please i need vehicle to move wardrobe to my house in cambridge, can panther do it? Or is there particular company that does that? It's just one wardrobe, please I need an urgent response , thank you
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 9:39pm On Feb 26, 2022
Please I have something to move from somewhere to my house, wardrobe to be precise. Does panther company carry such? Any suggestion please
Travel / Re: General UK Visa Enquiries - Part 5 by DFmum: 11:21am On Feb 09, 2022
Please any guide or sample as a guide to make my letter more presenting with the right choice of words wld be well appreciated �. Need to tell them my sons entry is expiring soon so that my husband's and my daughter own will be ready b4 then since the administrative review is a success.
Travel / Re: General UK Visa Enquiries - Part 5 by DFmum: 10:44am On Feb 09, 2022
Am looking for a sample letter addressed to home office , I saw one somewhere in this platform but can't find it again. Need to write to them ASAP b4 my sons entry expires. Thank you all
Travel / Re: General UK Visa Enquiries - Part 5 by DFmum: 10:26am On Feb 09, 2022
Thanks so much, I will do both .
leef2022:


Within 10-20 WD I suppose. you may wish to write or make a paid call to draw their attention in regards to your son's entry expiration. Hopefully they make the trip together. Goodluck.
Travel / Re: General UK Visa Enquiries - Part 5 by DFmum: 8:03am On Feb 09, 2022
Goodmorning my good people, please how long does it take to get a feedback from case manage or whomever after a successful administrative review? My other son's visa entry (90days) wil be expiring next month and I want them all to come in b4 it expires? Please what can I do to achieve this?
Travel / Re: General UK Visa Enquiries - Part 5 by DFmum: 7:57am On Feb 09, 2022
Goodmorning my good people, please how long does it take to get a feedback from case manage or whomever after a successful administrative review?
Travel / Re: General UK Visa Enquiries - Part 5 by DFmum: 6:32am On Feb 07, 2022
Thank you
royalmu:
C O M P L A I N T S @ H O M E O F F I C E . G O V . U K

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Travel / Re: General UK Visa Enquiries - Part 5 by DFmum: 9:26pm On Feb 04, 2022
Please whats their email address, need to mail them as well. Thanks
Oggg:
response is not immediate. I am sure you got a generic email which said response can take up to 20 working days.
Travel / Re: General UK Visa Enquiries - Part 5 by DFmum: 7:10am On Feb 04, 2022
But the ban has been lifted right? Decision will be based on the recent visa application right?
giselle237:
they have sent back to the original caseworker to make decision on the visa. You have to now wait for the outcome from this caseworker. If he or she denies you, you can still go back for AR again. Goodluck
Travel / Re: General UK Visa Enquiries - Part 5 by DFmum: 12:37am On Feb 04, 2022
Thanks so much, that means we are not gonna pay for anything again right?
leef2022:


They will reach him to bring his passport for the needful and deserved visa...... That's depending on the decision to be made...
Best of stay in the UK with your fam... Your solicitor did a good job
Travel / Re: General UK Visa Enquiries - Part 5 by DFmum: 11:53pm On Feb 03, 2022
God bless you all, last December I came here to share my problems on my husband and daughters visa refusal as a result of ban placed on my husband 7years ago which he wasn't aware of , I got a solicitor to help with administrative review and here is the outcome. Please what next from here

Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 6:46pm On Dec 30, 2021
Thanks for sharing
Chreze:
I think sharing experiences helps give the reality of things. Make I share my story.

I have always believed in carrying my load (family) to everywhere I go to. My reasons are:

1. I get this inspiration when I see them.

2. I want them to enjoy everything I enjoy.

3. Financially I believe it will be too much having to keep my family in Naija or anywhere else and me being away. The maintenance cost will be high, as I will be doing everything in two’s …

4. Naija is not a safe place. What that means is you will always have your BP going up and down with the constant security issues in Nigeria (kidnapping and killing)

Even before our child came to the picture we traveled together and when one was going for training, the other will look for a short course to do (this is expensive, part of the reason our child came 2yrs after our marriage). This helped us grow together, as well as have similar-same goals.

Fast forward to coming to the UK. My wife was watching our son while I attend classes and do my part time crypto trading. We were good. Could afford all we needed. But I noticed my wife wasn’t happy as she felt like she should be working to help out financially. I tried to explain to her that the most important thing was helping the family which she was doing already. After my first semester I had no other option as having an unhappy partner is the last thing any man wants so I gave in and she got a Job.

Now the battle was taking care of a 2years old active male child, attending classes, and trading crypto daily (cos new variance of covid regularly means business could shut down again). The first weeks wasn’t funny as it was a lot for me. My wife tries to bath him and give him breakfast before she leaves. But some days it was too early and I don’t like to wake someone up from sleep to do anything. (In fact I still carry one of my mum sister for mind cos she use to wake me up then for irrelevant things).

It was challenging, in fact for the first time in my life, I thought maybe it wasn’t a good idea to come with them to the UK together. That was the first time I ever had that thought and was unhappy to even think that way. Luckily the next day was my wife’s off and early in the morning 7am, I took a 20mins walk just to get my mind and head together. While I was walking I noticed how beautiful the city is and I immediately got a reminder of why I like to carry my family with me everywhere I go. Na there e con click say things can’t be the same with a child involved and that the best thing for me was to enjoy the challenges. And that was it.

When I went back home, I became my normal self. Already my wife was doing all the shopping in the house with her card and she wasnt using my card. So I started enjoying not selling my coins to have pounds. I just changed my mindset towards everything and decided to accept and have fun with everything that comes my way. I normally don’t take this sweet drinks as I prefer fruit, but we buy them cos my wife and son likes to take them. I told my self I was gonna finish the juice she buys in less than 2days. To my surprise she was replacing them after I finish am. For lectures, I attended only the classes that was perfect for me and my son’s timing and watched records for the ones that didnt suit us. For group meetings (teams and zoom) I was constantly muted and only unmute to contribute (of course before the start of any meeting I declare to them that I will be muted because my child is here and i didn’t want them to add “ one little finger to our project”). I played with everything that concerned him and school. There was a day I was having a project meeting with one of my team and a guy asked if I had any final note to add to our work I just type “ twinkle twinkle little star” . They all started laughing and i told them thanks for accepting most of my contributions via chat rather than the usual call.

Now for result, first semester with my wife watching our son, I got only B’s and 1 D (no A’s). For the second semester I had combined duties , I got equal number of A and B with only 1C (the C was in a 10unint course, I believe it won’t matter much) . Third and final semester was project (result is not out) but I hope to get something better as I had a better understanding of time management and Timaya’s song - “this life I can’t kill my self o”.

Having kids and studying can not be an easy thing for any one weather man or woman. My advice is don’t try it, it stresses you mentally and if you are unable to manage the situation properly you will become aggressive towards your child (for doing children things).

To the lady that talked about her children and husband’s situation. You have gotten lots of good advise here from different people, I even had to share my story because of you. But don’t take any of the advise you have been offered, take only the one you and your husband agree to. Be careful not to force any of the suggested ideas on here to your partner, as this may not yield a good result. Just take your time and trust me the right idea will come to you. Remember you only got advise for the part of your situation you shared, they may not be the best idea considering your situation (which as human we can’t share completely with anyone except God).

For anyone (weather man or woman) considering coming to the UK with kids and partner. Just know that it won’t be easy, even money can’t do it (if you care a lot about who is actually watching your child) and the man must be ready to take care of the child(ren) after-all na you born them.

One thing I have told myself in this life is that I will have the best and perfect relationship with my child(ren). I want them to be able to share any and everything with me knowing that I won’t judge them but love them.

Last last na God de help us. So always seek for him in everything.
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 11:53am On Dec 30, 2021
Am not schooling , working here in NHS Trust as a nurse. Just wondering why they gave one child and refused the other.
justwise:


All the ECO wants to know is who will be looking after those kids while you study since the daddy will not be traveling.

Single mums do get a visa but you have to convince the ECO that your kids wellbeing in the UK is taken care of.

Even as your mum may likely come but she is not part of the solution visa-wise.

1. Arrange school/day care for your kids that covers time and days you will be at the university

2. Contact the day care/school and make inquiry then get respondent evidence for visa purposes.

3. Provide financial document to show that you are financially capable of taking care of those kids for the next one year

4. Explain this in a letter to the ECO that you have made arrangement for your kid with evidences and attach them to AR package.


Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 11:47am On Dec 30, 2021
No offence my sister, I really appreciateall your responses on this, am already in UK working. Just that I really missed my family, my kids �, Its as if am incomplete, I think God knows the best in this matter. I have gotten a solicitor to help me because I can't bring one kid and leave the other, let all stay back till its resolved. Since I will only need to renew my sons vignette if he doesn't come in within 90days of the visa issuance. author=Mamatukwas post=108911794]

No offense intended re: different dads.

I know they refused to give a friends daughter visa initially although she applied as a single parent on the tier 4 route (but with shared parental responsibility) The reason given was that she would not be able to take care of her child and go to school. And according to her she had savings for child care. Fortunately she was able to get the dad to apply and they gave her child visa.

Saying this to say it seems that they are unwilling to grant visas to small children when it’s obvious you can’t care for them solo. Maybe get an immigration lawyer las las or go first and wait for your younger child to be a bit older. It can’t be easy to be in your shoes. Pele. I hope you find help. [/quote]

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Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 12:21pm On Dec 29, 2021
Am trying to sort all and journey all together as well, that's my Ernest prayer now. I can't bring one child and leave the other o.
LagosismyHome:


Won't you be very unsettled with this arrangement... if it was me ,I would be thinking of scrapping the masters and journey all together or deferring until it sorted

However u don't even know if the child who was given was given by accident ...however at this point if you proceed then it best to do an admin review for the child who was refused. Admin review takes months so factor that in

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Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 12:15pm On Dec 29, 2021
Different dad kwa? Same dad, Reason for refusal is because dad is not travelling.she is 3years, the one given will be 5years by January.
Mamatukwas:


It’s a bit convoluted. Are their dad’s different? Why give 1 child and deny the other. Are you able to clearly state or post reason for your daughter’s denial? It will help people advice you well.
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 4:29pm On Dec 28, 2021
I have come again o....this people wan kill me. Just discovered that my son was granted visa and my daughter was refused because of his father's visa refusal. How I go take do this one? When my husband recieved 2 TLS travel documents pick up mail, we thought its for the 2 kids, unknowing to us that it's meant for my son. This morning we got her refusal letter and option for administrative review. How will I do this one now?? Hellep me o
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 8:48pm On Dec 27, 2021
Okay....am really confused in making decisions on this matter, should I leave my kids back home with their father or bring them here with my mother for how long? Are there agencies where I can hire helps to stay with the kids when I go to work? So many on this little head of mine
TheGuyFromHR:


You will need to apply for a replacement vignette.
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 8:42pm On Dec 27, 2021
Thanks , I will do just that.
justwise:


Then there is very little the solicitor you hired can do. He was banned in 2015 and the agent who submitted forged documents did not disclose that to him then he applied and the ban was activated.

He can not use agent as an excuse.

Concentrate in getting your mum a visa to help with kids.
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 8:35pm On Dec 27, 2021
Ok noted, Thank you . I can just state she is bringing my kids
TheGuyFromHR:


Just remember not to say she is coming to look after your children; simply state she's coming to visit with you and your children.
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 6:20pm On Dec 27, 2021
I pray they grant her ....thats my only option left now
AirBay:


Your mum needs to apply for a visitor's visa.

Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 6:00pm On Dec 27, 2021
Ok, thank you.
AirBay:


Your mum needs to apply for a visitor's visa.

Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 5:35pm On Dec 27, 2021
Okay, My mum has US green card , came back to Nigeria since November 2019, and didn't go back to US after then, how do I go about her bringing my kids here. Please I really need to know how to go about this
AirBay:


So sorry about the situation. He has to serve the full sentence before he can re apply
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 2:46pm On Dec 27, 2021
Does that mean there is no chance of positive outcome in administrative review?
JustAPasserBy:


If I were you, I wouldn’t engage a solicitor ( except and unless the solicitor services is FREE). Even so, I wouldn’t really want to push my luck too much.

See that bolded part? If by mail, you meant email, I’m afraid, your (his) agent was fraudulent. The UK does not send visa refusal letters by ‘mail’. They put it in an envelope containing the applicant’s passport. The applicant can’t miss it at all. They also explicitly state reason(s) for rejection.

My sister, on this occasion, the agent lied to your husband. Untill and unless your husband is able to kolobi the agent and get out the hard facts, a solicitor is just about to chop your money for nothing.
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 10:58am On Dec 27, 2021
Please what happens if my kids with dependant visa fails to come into UK within the 90days?
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 10:52am On Dec 27, 2021
Ok, I think I stated the reason earlier. He was refused visa 2015 and never got to know the reason for the refusal because nothing was on the mail and it was an agent that did that for him then, and didn't know he was banned as well. So now that we applied for dependant visa , they refused him and gave the kids, stating that he was banned in 2015 because he falsified document, meaning he can only apply after Oct 2025.
JustAPasserBy:


Without going into too much personal details…are you able to say the reason your husband’s application was rejected?
There are a lot of persons (with huge experiences) on this forum who might be able to offer suggestions. And save you the solicitor fees..
Travel / Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by DFmum: 10:15pm On Dec 26, 2021
Thank you so much tushqueen , Adapapaokoye and others for your advice , I really appreciate.
Please what can I do or provide to ensure my mum is given visa so that she can come with my kids. I have been able to get a solicitor here in Uk for administrative review on my husband's visa issue, hoping that it comes out well.
The only option I have now is my mum to bring them and stay here for awhile.

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