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BusinessCity:
List everything out on paper before she comes so you won't forget a single one of your concerns.

Ok. Even me and my wife are even planning of changing our environment when our house rent due by july and it will also affect the boys school if i have to accept them because we never know our destination

nifemi25:
You are the man and you should have a say in your house... Let your yes be yes and no be no... Give your inlaw a tangible reason you won't be accepting those kids due to your not regular job.. Let her knows you are managing for now and you wouldn't want there father come embarrassed you...

Alright. Thanks

BusinessCity:
Tell her all your fears you stated here. That's the best place to start from and all you three flow with the discussion, your wife and my her mum. At the end, all of you would reach an amiable decision, well hopefully

Alright. Thanks

Good evening my fellow nairalanders.
Happy Sunday to you all.
Please i really need your advice urgently.

Let me go straight to the points.
My wife went to visit her mother, and came back and tell me that her mother is coming to our house to come and see me for something.
Na she kon reveal what she wants to see me for.

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My wife younger sister is divorce with her unserious husband and run away with another guy to Lybia and left her 2 child with her mother, and nobody knows when she will come back, though she do call at times.

For the past six months now, her mother has been taking care of her children, carried them up and down, everywhere she go, though the woman is a farmer so she live and spend most times in village with those two boys her daughter left with her. Though they do come to town and visit us and spend like 1-2 weeks.

The problem there now is that, school is about to resume here (on 18th jan) and this woman want those 2boys to be living with us in town, so that they will be able to go to good school, that she will be sending there school fees when is time.

Inshot, she wants those two boys to be living with us while their father is not dead, womanizing up and down and drinking.
we and their father are living in the same town o, infact, na just #100 bike go carry person reach there.

But this woman insist that their father wont take good care of them very well. So they want me to be taking care of another person pikin, not even 1, na two. One is 8yrs while one is 10yrs.

And as for me, am just a builder (bricklayer) and am married with one child. And i don't go to work everyday. Let me just say 3-4 days in a week is my working days, unless i see contract collect myself. But most times na join man I dey do.

So my wife mother is coming this week to come and discuss the issues with me and o don't know what else to say when she come, because at times we sef barely eat good food, thank God for the type of wife God gave me. She understand when we have and when we don't have.

Assuming this two boys are now living with us, and am broke, can they endure hunger?
Won't they implecate us?

And am currently the only one providing for our family because my wife is a nursing mum.
She never start work. Though she's a tailor. Seasoning work. Am really confused right now.
Because their father is alive and enjoying up and down in town.
Please someone should advice me oo

What should i tell her when she comes

Women shas

Muslims and backwardness shaa

So she's still alive. No no ooo

Ay04z:
if u can eat 2 times daily. Buy 100 naira recharge. Sub wen ur data expire u can marry and huzle for a better future togeda. Now komot the issue of u did not want her to suffer. U will carry 65% why she carry d remaining % of the responsibility. U can not Goan kill urself. Reveal ur identify to her and don't lie. if she can stay. No qualms if she wan run fine.. No let dat girl curse u. Thunder is real.

alright. thanks alot

Ralphjoe:
I will advice you to stick with this lady, inasmuch as you are a hustler as you said, you can actually start small with her. For her to be with you all these while means she loves you and truely cares for you and she can stick with you in any condition(very rare to find).

thanks alot. yes she's very rare that's why I don't want her to suffer. but I love her with all my heart

Rockyrascal:
Thumbz up OP for even having a conscience of letting go;but is she complaining?

not much. her only complain is that she can't live in family house because that's where am managing for now and at the same time she's also in haste to get pregnant and settle down with me

Manpoly:
if u leave that babe u don Bleep up for Street big time.. aswear down..7 fucking years ..guy just depend on ur hustle..believe in urself.... and plan with ur babe....and make sure u are both hustling ....an empire is Not built in a day it requires hardwork bro...2 heads is better than 1..I wanna see ur prewedding shoot soon bro

woow..... thanks alot brother. that's my own plan too. but na this country dey fall my hand

marshalldgreat:
MY BROTHER, THE TRUTH IS THAT YOU ARE NOT READY TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY... MOST TIMES IT'S NOT REALLY ABOUT THE MONEY... YOU CAN START FROM SOMEWHERE, I TELL YOU THINGS WILL FALL INTO PLACE... 7 YEARS NO BE BEANS MAN... SHE'S GONNA MAKE A GOOD WIFE BECAUSE YOU HAVE KNOWN HER VERY WELL... MY BROTHER I LIKE WHEN YOU USED THE WORD "HUSTLER" AND I GUESS YOU MEANT TO SAY YOU ARE VERY "HARD WORKING", AT LEAST YOU ARE NOT LAZY... DON'T THINK MARRYING A LADY WOULD COST YOU MILLIONS... I TELL YOU, 50K CAN EVEN START THE JOURNEY NO MATTER WHAT... PLEASE DON'T LOSE THAT WOMAN BECAUSE YOU MAY END UP REGRETTING AT LAST...

thanks alot

Lonestar124:
Marriage is about mutual agreement.. You don't want her to suffer and she copes with you for 7years my dear no lady can endured that with a man if she does not have a deep affection for him.

Matter of both family negotiation.....she is worthy to be betroth and appraised.

Marry her, live and procreate within your capacity.

thanks alot

Good morning to you guys. need your advice on my relationship. have been dating a girl for seven years now and we both love each other to the extent that some of our families has know each other but the problem there is that am not financially okay and I don't want this girl to suffer because I want her to be happy and you know money is the source of happiness. and age is not on this girl side anymore. almost 29years soon. so am planning to end the relationship by telling this girl that if she see any guy that is ready to settle down and financially okay that she should marry him. I don't want to waste her time any longer because she's the first born of her parents , and all her younger once has marry with kids. am 29 too and I can marry at anytime things better but I don't know how this girl and some of our families will feel. please I need your advice my people. should I tell her how I feel or should continue with her till things will be okay. Am a hustler

moscobabs:
Guy u dont need all these to grow beard, just take raw egg once a day for a month and see how hair will be growing even in ur palms.

you mean we should drink raw egg?

she looks just like her sister Lara Omotayo. Peters wife

OYA SWEAR SAY U NEVA DO ANY OF THIS

1.- if u didn't kill earthworm with salt.
2.- if u didn't play rubber band.
3.- if u neva bath in the d rain.
4.- if nobody told u about india vs nigeria 99-1
5.- if u did not sleep on the couch and woke up
on the bed.
6.- if u didn't throw ur milk teeth on the roof
for lizards to take it
and give you new ones.
7.- if u didn't just wash your legs n hands
instead of bathing before going to school.
8.- if u didn't act film inside uncompleted
buildings or under d bed with friends.
9.- if u have never flew a kite.
10.- if u didn't use your two legs to build houses
with sands.
11.- if u never wrote your name on a
paper and
insert it into your
pen so that no one will steal it.
12.- if u didn't close the fridge door really slowly
and see when the light went off.
13.- if u neva waved at white birds expecting
your nails to be whiter.
14.- if u didn't hear of ghost that stays under
mango trees at night.
15.- if u never drove a single car tyre with stick
and call it a car.
16.- if u never mix garri and sugar in ur pocket
and eat it while walking on the street.
17. if u never did mama n papa play e.g cooking
leaf and sand without fire.
18.- if u didn't play table soccer with bottle
cover.
........then i guess ur childhood was not fun!....
Do you knw it is not jangilova epo motor? it is
JINGLE OVER
LIKE A MOTOR! i bet u don't knw. don't be shy. i
didn't knw either until i grew up.
....am sure 99.9% of nigeria Adult doesn't knw
dat nursery rhyme "sandalili sandalili" is actually
"standard living
standard living"
i knw u are singing it now again, smiles...


Happy New Month To You All

*My dear Wife....The Fifa World Cup is close by.

Let me give u a few rules that will preserve the peace ✌️



0. No African Magic Stations at all
1. The remote control belongs to
me for the whole month.
2. Tell all yo friends not to gv
birth or wed or die or wateva
during the World Cup coz we
won't go.
3. You support the teams that i
support.
4. No talking during the
game,wait for half-time or end of
the game.
5. Repeats & highlights are as
good as the main match, so am
gonna watch them..
6. We can watch Telemundo
provided actors and actresses Are
wearing soccer jerseys and they
are in Russia
7. U dont just pass infront of the
tv if am watching soccer, u better
crawl on the floor.
8. Make sure you don't ask silly
questions such as; is this Chelsea
versus England?
9. No funny faces to my friends
when they come for soccer.
10. Smile every time EXCEPT when
my team is losing.

thanks for your understanding
Good Woman!

those that came to charge their home appliances e.g phones, torchlight, radio, mp3, Bluetooth, they even come with their own extensions box or sucket.

AND

those once that will browse and ping throughout the service

inform your parents about it and should not allow her to use browsing phone for now. also should be monitoring her every move very well. let her spend most of her days in church and chase away all those bad girls she called friends.
do this in time before she gain admission to school bcoz if you failed to do so. and she enter higher institutions with that habit. just say bye bye to your sister life ......




wetin be my own sef.
I never solve my own problems
and I dey poke nose to someone else
problem.

who can translate this statement to English language please........
EKURO NI ALABAKU EWA
thanks

who can translate EKURO NI ALABAKU EWA in English language?

akimoriyomi:
Lemme just correct you.... Your mums house is not a family house OK!

alright.... thank you

Also let me know the situation by this time next month so I can wire you something[/quote]thanks bro. where are you and can I have your call and whatsapp number to update you as you said.

dgagar:
Hi guys. need your advice please. this thing is baffling my mind badly.
everyone know how bad and poor Nigeria economy it is. saying no money here and there . am living in family house, face me and slap you . my dad is late but my mum struggle to build the house and she also live there too. the problem now is that my gf is threatening me to go and rent room and parlour outside Cos she wants to settle down soon but I got no money with me now. infact am on sick bed for the past two months and I can't work for now. am just a hustler, trying to make life good and comfortable for myself. and I love this girl like die. she's house materials but this house issues is the only problem am having with her, meanwhile am using room and parlour in this my mum house o. (even is not my happiness to be living in family house too )but no money for now. she's also disturbing me for engagement too inwhich I will be responsible for all the expenses because she's still learning handwork. though age is not on her side but I love her so very much that I can't afford to loose her to another man.
the question now is........... IS IT TOTALLY WRONG FOR MEN TO BE LIVING IN FAMILY HOUSE WITH HIS WIFE.
am really fed up. come to my rescue guys pls. am fed up .

thanks to everybody for your precious time. I really appreciate all your advice. am so excited now. to be candid I really gain alot. thank you very much. may God bless you all

But i heard u say she's 28 and still learning handwork. What has she been doing all this while? Slaying around? Hmmm gudluk to both of you though[/quote]she just through with her ND program last year. so she decided to go for learning hand work before she further.

You didn't say your age or qualification so it's difficult to advise in that regard.

am a hustler and bricklayer. my age is 28 and my girlfriend also 28. and all her younger once had married with kids. that's why she's disturbing me too.


thanks alot for your precious time. I really appreciate it. God bless you

Hi guys. need your advice please. this thing is baffling my mind badly.
everyone know how bad and poor Nigeria economy it is. saying no money here and there . am living in family house, face me and slap you . my dad is late but my mum struggle to build the house and she also live there too. the problem now is that my gf is threatening me to go and rent room and parlour outside Cos she wants to settle down soon but I got no money with me now. infact am on sick bed for the past two months and I can't work for now. am just a hustler, trying to make life good and comfortable for myself. and I love this girl like die. she's house materials but this house issues is the only problem am having with her, meanwhile am using room and parlour in this my mum house o. (even is not my happiness to be living in family house too )but no money for now. she's also disturbing me for engagement too inwhich I will be responsible for all the expenses because she's still learning handwork. though age is not on her side but I love her so very much that I can't afford to loose her to another man.
the question now is........... IS IT TOTALLY WRONG FOR MEN TO BE LIVING IN FAMILY HOUSE WITH HIS WIFE.
am really fed up. come to my rescue guys pls. am fed up .

it's normal thing sha. second to comment

Jeeeesuuuuuu.