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She tells me the only thing that makes her happy in this world is for me never to talk to any other woman. Because I must confess I liked girls a lot before I totally changed to become more responsible. She's just lazy. She facially looks exactly like zainab abacha. Facially o.

[quote author=baby_123]When did the drastic change happen, after marriage or after kids. After which kid?

@Jidegirl may also have a point. You may want to check and ask questions. Like how is she, really? Like mentally, how is she feeling. That she should tell you and not be ashamed to open up to you if anything is going on. That the change is too drastic. Ask her straight out if she is depressed. If she is, take her to get help. Post-partum depression can be dangerous.[/quote]after the second kid

jidegirl12: Of course she's in denial.... I'm okay I'm okay.

I've said my own .... take her in to rule out depression then you can work on what's next.

I'm telling u,, she just doesn't give a damn. We went to church one day, her scarf loosed, a church member was asking her what she uses for her hair (she's got natural curly and wavy hair cos of her descent) she said Vaseline the lady asked me if it's true. I said this one that used groundnut oil( cooking oil) one day when she ran out of Vaseline.

[quote author=baby_123]Well tell her you dont like it. That you didnt marry that person. E no hard na. Na you dey make am harder than it is. Shes probably just lazy then and feeling too comfortable.lol.[/quote]I swear to God u have a good cognition.God bless u. That's the word she is very very very LAZY.

[quote author=baby_123]She seems over burdened by being a wife and a mother. Do you try to help her with the kids? She has definitely let herself go. And the kids are probably taking over as priority. I think you need to let her know all these, and how far it has gone. Some women can lose track and over focus on their kids needs. She also needs a break. Maybe invite grandma/ capable relative to help a little, or you both go for a vacation.[/quote]we have a nanny, my dear this one has nothing to do with burden, lack or stress. She has just chosen that path. She even finds it repulsive when I buy pricey outfits and over dress. She says who am I dressing for

jidegirl12: Are you sure she's not depressed ?and and kinda losing her personality? hair net grocery shopping.... that's tacky IMO for previously feisty lady.

@ jidegirl, depressed ke, she said she's happier that way o.But in my own heart I wish she could look skimpier but afraid of trading my lust for my peace of mind

[quote author=baby_123]Its hair net now haba! Yea, if its at night she may think it wont make a difference, and no one will see her. Especially if she is getting ready for bed. lmao. Just tell her you dont like how she has been dressing. If you cant talk to your wife, who can. Tell her.lol. Abeg, wearing shower cap is another level entirely.rotflmao.[/quote]see u saying at night. This one is broad day light. Sometimes she'll wear a shirt stained with chocolate or baby milk to go out, not down the street o,, but like a big grocery store like jewel osco

[quote author=baby_123]It has to be hair net. Not shower cap. Just tell her you dont like it or find it attractive. That she is letting go of herself to much. And you look at her enter the car with shower cap ke. Lol, you try sha. [/quote]sorry sleeping net I mean. So u see why I posed the question but folks here where quick to insult me

[quote author=baby_123]Shower cap ke .

I think you are exaggerating. You mean sleeping net? Only someone with mental issues will wear shower cap outside.[/quote]abi shower cap, is it not that black thing u guys wear going to bed. Sometimes she'll wear my shirt outside. And to think this is ongoing in the U.s

[quote author=baby_123]Shower cap ke .

I think you are exaggerating. You mean sleeping net? Only someone with mental issues will wear shower cap outside.[/quote]I swear. The babe no send again. I really wish I could be more descriptive of the situation.

[quote author=baby_123]I dont think it would make a difference. You may be seeing who she truly is because now that you are married you give her peace of mind. Dont be afraid, she has not changed. She is relaxed and showing you who she is. She may have been an arrogant omoge, but a wonderful wife. Abi you like all the wahala she was giving you. hahaha. You have found peace, but you are now missing the drama. Try and take her out more often so she is aware of her looks and makes the effort to look good. I hope you sef look good as well. If you want a slimmer her, let her know too.[/quote]if I describe what I look like, people here will insult me and say I am bragging. She is mixed and still very pretty facially even though she'll where shower cap going to do grocery. Thanks for ur advise.

[quote author=baby_123]Now you are talking like a sane person. loool. Yea sure, she is your wife and you will live with that belly for the rest of your life. Just tell her in a sensitive manner. Like "baby, would you like to join me in the gym?" or "I want you to get back to at least a bit close to your pre baby size and look, i love you but it really liked that look. we can work on it together". Am sure you sef are not as se*xy.[/quote]thanks but like I said I am not complaining about her tummy, I am not even complaining about anything I am only saying she is a lot sober and no longer arrogant after our kids. Should I encourage her to go back looking hot or will it make her arrogance resurface or just enjoy my peace of mind with her care free attitude of no makeup, no jewelries and so on. And note it's her choice to give up those stuffs. More advice welcome. Thanks and people insulting me. Thank u also

ogepure: U just need to talk to her in a polite manner abt dat. Also buy her the type of cloths u like her to wear. Afterall she is in dat shape because she is making baby for u.

I do not hate her tummy, I am only asking if I should encourage her to start looking sharp again but afraid she might start her pride problem again.

Y una dey make me feel like say I dumb now

@all u all seem not to understand my point, I should have perhaps used the word ENCOURAGE her.

nikkyshyne: You obviously need to communicate that to her. Or better still buy her some good sexy wears. Lingeries inclusive . Tummy exercise gadgets etc. She will get the picture.

Remind her how much you love and cherish her. When she knows she is sincerely loved, it attracts a submission on her part. My opinion sha.

thanks a lot

nikkyshyne: I am happy now

so wats ur take

totalbaby: MtchEeeeewwwwwwww

holding ur peace would make more sense. Don't u think so

O.k I take that back. I'll modify. @ nikkyshine it is a nickname friends gave me cos of a potent herbal drink I brought from my village. Abeg make una no vex o. Suggestions pls

My wife is extremely beautiful. More like fulani looking. Before she had a baby she used to be so full of herself though not rude but very arrogant. we got 2 pretty babies now. The thing is she dresses shabby, no make up, no jewelries, no special hair-do, all these was after birthing. She's very conservative, humble and respectful now.She doesn't pick a fight no more, I mean not even a single quarell. But my problem is I liked her skimpy looks before our kids, but strongly fear that arrogant attitude she had before kids might arise due to her attractiveness. The fights and pride in her was damn traumatising.. I know if she fixes herself up she will look drop dead stunningly gorgeous again which so strongly desire. Advise as to whether I should encourage her to up her style once more or be content with her new found grandma lifestlye which is void of quarells anyway. NOTE.....Any childish input or insult is not welcomed.

dady12: dont u understant it to be a typing error?

wasn't serious either.

dady12: the days of the wicked are numbered. just imagine, what is happening to the political class,vangences is for God,and now is the time,PLANE CLASS,car crash,hmmm,most of them will be afraid of going to abuja this days.i wish him quick recovery and he should have fear the lord thru out his tenure

wow.... na real plane class

kalufelix: u claim u dont knw the meanin of the ID yet u rephrased to smth dat is more suitable 4 yhu because p-square actually sang 'chop ma moni' nat 'chop ur moni'
by the way who spelt it 4 u without tellin u the meanin or did psquare sing the song with subtitle
mayb nat spelt correctly but dat statement contains 2 english words or is it the corrupt english(chop) dat u dont undastand

LIAR!!

Spectacular! She is phony, with a feigned attitude trying to cut across as some sophisticated girl. She continually twist and conflicts herself, went further to ask me if chop refers to cut, so slimy.

Na wa o. You guys came too strong on that babe. she had to abscond

ChopUrMoni: Dick hardener... Get lost you scum of the earth! I am far from insecure you broke a**. a** licking trail of trash! You better go back to Nigeria where you have a better life than the co*k sucking job you do where you are. Get off my thread and STOP spewing you crap all over the place.

ohoooo I struck a nerve. U ain't getting no attention sisi.

[quote author=eagle,eye]Guy, some Virgins are only virgins because of a tight Hymen. A virgin who sleeps over Na.ked in a guys house, and indulges in all type of Sexua.l act is not realy a virgin if you ask me.[/quote]true, but it's preferrable to 12 ft shitt holes

ChopUrMoni: What are you on about Are in the states? If so, whats the differences between the states and Nigeria. Dr Phill is constantly exposing the situation in the US. Gold diggers all over the place! Dont judge ppl until you them. Uneducated fool

. if u pronounce educated appropriately, I'll give u another white dic.k..... insecure little hoe

dabrake: depending on your definition of a h4rlot. That a girl is no virgin doesn't mean she won't make a good girl friend/wife. Can I say a girl shouldn't date a guy who's got his banana into many honey-pots, referring to him as a harloot? What is good for the goose is also good for the gander. As for the insult, I won't reply that. It only shows you have no point to butress.

did u read my post. I'm trusting it's pretty comprehensible. Give it one more shot

ChopUrMoni: shymexx... I am NOT a gold digger. I don't live in Nigeria and gold digging where i am is very uncommon. I just like the song... maybe i need to close this account and open a new one with a different name. I didn't know chopurmoni meant gold digger. What kind of trouble have i gotten my self into Pleep would not give me a break. Just because his wife used him for money and he found out she had slept with every man in town doesnt mean he should take it out on me.... Pleep GIVE ME A BREAK...

. I don't live in Nigeria either and I believe shymex,, sagamite and a couple others don't either...so quit all the pictorial image of opulence

@chopurmoni, are u sure the banana u are chopping isn't the fat rejected ones?

pleep: The nairaland hens can cackle all they want. I think this topic saved alot of stupid men from falling prey to women like the OP

@ hens. This is what I told my friends, any nija man that gives in to these subtle vipers is a countfeit. I'm so loving this ideology of not being swept into their dens of deceit.

dabrake: get it right. Any guy who chases a woman 'cause she's a virgin is an idiot. I do tell the girls I've dated that I do not expect them to be virgins. I'm after all-round character, attitude, intelligence . . . Most girls, virginity is their only asset, something that will take a split second to vanish, that's not the kind of girl I want. I go for a girl I want for keeps and not for shagging but that doesn't mean I will chase a girl for long, using stupid punchlines(that's if I would because I'm very original) for over 2 hours without success. I will rather use that 2 hours and watch arsenal football club lose to swansea.

you sound brainwashed n high on skank. Y would a sane mind prefer a hoe who's got her nana battered to a pearl who's retained her dignity. Without veering off the fact that character's aren't totalling defined by the capacity to uphold virginity, but it inarguably is a coveted virtue. Common who's screwed ur brains.