Only a poverty-stricken nonentity says he can feed someone he has never met.
Moreover, only lower middle-class people have wives who do a job that contributes to the family. Upper middle class wives don't work because of contributing to family. They work to support their luxury personal life.
Elite wives run financial sinkholes disguised as businesses.
Why does it seem everywhere you turn, small businesses are closing across Africa. Yet the Lebanese and Chinese are still running their malls and marts. What do they know about running a small business that we don't?
In this video, everyday Nigerians share their experiences running their businesses from beer parlours to shoe stalls to defunct cafes. They explain the kind of debt you should avoid, how to deal with jealousy from your peer competitor and how to avoid the greed that commonly plagues business relationships. If you need wisdom for today and hope for tomorrow, I highly recommend you listen till the very end.
eazzzy1: Ladies need to learn that marriage is the natural progression of a good relationship not a long one. You can’t fight a man everyday, have several men in the name of keeping your options open then be demanding marriage from one.
A man who isn’t ready to get married will make the sacrifice if he sees you as irreplaceable. Even if he initially insists, when the reality of losing you stares him in the face he will surrender.
When you broach the topic, don’t make demands like it’s your right, don’t give ultimatums. Show him how the intended marriage can be beneficial to him.
Dimaya: Teeyee, Software developer, 26, in Canada seeks your advice on three problems in his potential relationship with "Cindy", 2nd year Uniport student.
Talking stage started 5months ago after his cousin (her church member connected them. He texts daily and calls once a week. She says she isn't ready for any relationship for the next two years while he wants to get married within 2-3 years
Problem 1: Despite dating several Canadian girls, he's in love with Cindy and scared of losing her if he waits. However, close friends and family advise he waits for some commitment before traveling down to Nigeria to see her.
Problem 2: Over three weeks, he sent N20,000 weekly as cash gifts, but she told him to stop. This month, he wants to buy her a birthday gift but he's afraid it might backfire.
Problem 3: This week, she confessed her feelings are split 50:50 between him and another guy in Nigeria. And she still isn't ready to start dating either. This reve made him emotionally exhausted, and wants to give up on love and even marriage because he has imagined their wedding day several times.
In this conversation, seeking love across continents , young Nigerians in their twenties and thirties read TeeYee's email and give him honest advice on love-distance pursuits.
Teeyee, Software developer, 26, in Canada seeks your advice on three problems in his potential relationship with "Cindy", 2nd year Uniport student.
Talking stage started 5months ago after his cousin (her church member connected them. He texts daily and calls once a week. She says she isn't ready for any relationship for the next two years while he wants to get married within 2-3 years
Problem 1: Despite dating several Canadian girls, he's in love with Cindy and scared of losing her if he waits. However, close friends and family advise he waits for some commitment before traveling down to Nigeria to see her.
Problem 2: Over three weeks, he sent N20,000 weekly as cash gifts, but she told him to stop. This month, he wants to buy her a birthday gift but he's afraid it might backfire.
Problem 3: This week, she confessed her feelings are split 50:50 between him and another guy in Nigeria. And she still isn't ready to start dating either. This reve made him emotionally exhausted, and wants to give up on love and even marriage because he has imagined their wedding day several times.
In this conversation, seeking love across continents , young Nigerians in their twenties and thirties read TeeYee's email and give him honest advice on love-distance pursuits.
ideamonster: The most difficult age for any man born in Nigeria should be between 24 and 29 years, the pressure to succeed- to be something, to be someone is so immense. When you look around you everyone seems to be doing something for themselves, people seem to be living a life you only dream of. You have applied for jobs and the results have been more disappointing than Yakubu Aiyegbeni goal miss at the world cup.
Sadly this is the age when most guys lose it because the disappointments become too much and you find alternative ways to face reality. Worse is when a few people you studied with have been lucky enough to land jobs. Soon your circle of friends gets thinner – mostly they don’t even cut you out but you will be real with yourself and cut yourself off. I mean what will you do when you are in a WhatsApp group of friends and they are discussing about last week’s trip in Dubai and planning another trip to South Africa while you are not sure of what your next meal would be?
Most times you follow the conversation silently, all alone like a cross on the grave. Soon you realize this is no longer your kind of crowd because the more you keep around, the more the pressure to be something, takes a toll on you. You know when stories about house parties come up and you act deaf because you don’t know where an extra 5 guys would fit in your house. Have you ever sat in a group of people discussing the new iPhone on the market or how British Airways offers poo services and you can feel your heart whisper to you "boss this is chest pain hour, can we just go and find a group that talks about GMAT, SHL, Dragnet, jobberman or job vacancies sites". But you sit there as these people are lost in their lifestyle conversations, you are like a secretary taking minutes in meeting.
After a few years of job hunting, you are now ready to take anything even if is to smell a rich man’s farts as long as it pays, so you end up as an office messenger in one blue chip company in town. To imagine that 4-5 years of studying and getting a degree is now reduced to picking and dropping off letters and if you are not doing that, you are being sent for cheap lunch by the employees when they are broke and they can’t order with fast food. This is when conversations about where people schooled start, you go silent for it’s no longer of any use to say you also reached University, it doesn’t matter – you have resorted to surviving.
Once in while you will bump into your now well to do classmates, they would offer you lunch, but not even eating the meals at Eko Hotel or Sheraton will make you feel better about yourself, because in your mind you wish instead they would give you the 30k and you sort your meals for the next 5 weeks. As it is the norm you will have photos taken, and uploaded on Facebook, but always it’s your face that would look the odd one out – not even the best filters can hide a face which has suffered the city's dust and sun but survives on boiled beans.
The worst mistake you can do is to try and date at this point – there is nothing that a person going through such times can offer in terms of love. How are you going to do evening romantic walks when you are tired from walking delivering letters in offices around town? What are you going to tell your lady when she says she wants to go for relaxation at the bar, pool or love garden sites that are in town? That your financial religion doesn’t allow it or what? This is the age when you sit back and watch as the ladies you would want to date are dating or getting married to guys 10 years older than you. And you can’t blame them – it’s only that your life seems to be progressing slower than their goals in life. Most of the ladies you meet during this period, if you are lucky will be patient with you till you hit 28, and if by then your life is still in disarray, then my friend be prepared for a walk out.
In this video: the pressure to succeed, everyday Nigerians like you share their heartfelt experiences facing the pressure to succeed and how to hack through this stage of life. Their conversation exposes a lot about handling disappointments, friendships, love, career growth and personal responsibility as well as persevering and appreciating each day's small wins,
If you've ever felt alone, realize that there are several folks like you who are dealing with difficult times. How you live your life in the 30’s is determined by how you handled your life in this phase. Do not Give up. Do not Be Depressed. remain focused and create a Strategy. Be consistent, you must Surely Win. Peace
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