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OP, how old are you?

Most advice would depend on your age and your proximity to the marital decision.


There's a lot I could advise you about but I think it's best you hear for yourself. I collated some resources that I think should help allay some of your fears.

You need to meet as many men as possible.

ideamonster:
OP, I read your question and understand your dilemma. Almost nobody here can give you accurate counsel but here are a few conversations and resources that should hopefully help you arrive at a decision you will be comfortable with for years to come.


1. What do you need to start a family?
Most times young women are fixated about certain attributes in men that serve no purpose in a marriage. Can you eat his physical attractiveness? What if he's a hunk and he has an accident, would you leave? This video shows young women addressing what a Nigerian woman really needs to start a family


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cl43qph3dWQ



2. Is there a shortage of eligible husbands?

There are a lot of men who can date you. But how many of them are qualified to be husbands, or of the marrying kind? There are yardsticks for assessing if a man is a marrying kind. In the video below, young women like yourself had to tell themselves hard truths about their chances finding suitable men. Like someone said, pen1s is abundant, but husbands are scarce. Pay attention to what the single mother in this story said after she was told the truth about the man she was dating.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2DNoFXD4Bjo




3. How to make the tricky love decisions

This conversation focuses on capitalising on available suitors. Whoever is wooing you now won't always be available. Opportunities of a lifetime have to be used within the lifetime of the opportunity. While the participants are obviously younger than you, I'm certain that you'll benefit greatly from the conversations that they are having.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RJ2ulJMb_pk


4. Regretting the men who get away

Are you certain that you won't regret losing this man? You need to be certain that a better offer comes along. In this conversation, there are women just like you who share their experiences of turning away suitors because of a variety of reasons. One had huge regrets, the other (just like you) was undecided. Pay attention to the girl wearing the pink tee-shirt. Her story appears closest to what you have narrated.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz8ZVqReCJ0


I'm certain one of these stories should be helpful in decision making.


Thank me later .

UPDATE:

I came back to read this after it hit front page and realised some comments made it seem like I'm encouraging you to marry him. That's far from the truth. Nobody here can give accurate-enough counsel to make a huge life-changing decision like getting married. But OP, if you've decided to go along with him, you need to be sure he isn't too good to be true. . Again, while this video below doesn't apply much, I think it contains a few cautionary tales- tings you should be skeptical about in his story.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EU3zIpAEQ64

Ultimately, the decision to take is yours. I wish you all the best.

Ideamonster

Hope this helps someone battling effects of childhood trauma in their adult life. What didn't kill, has just made you stronger


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjG7yR_k3wQ

this is dangerous

at least they are chasing their dreams



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-XuhfdoXHfs

nonsense

Nonsense

OP, you need a strategy to get her off your back.

Just like the women in this video: the men who got away, she regrets that you got away. And she's using all her passive-aggressive methods to get you back just like the ogechi girl in this video:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz8ZVqReCJ0



She's your ex for a reason. Probably at the time of your breakup, she thought she could do better but now she can't. The folks in this discussion have a few ideas that could help. Here's what I advice you to do:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWqppErCr60



Thank me later

Nonsense

Nonsense

Great writeup

Great writeup

What if they leave kano state?

This is interesting

I'll respond shortly

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rdbg7Xqg1cQ

okay. next

great one op

good

these guys have truly run out of ideas. They should just end things.

Meanwhile, this girl ends relationships for no reason


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SRC2DkY__dE

great one op. It so great to see folks follow the honest pathway.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5mfkn2fCmjg

This is how people are currently surviving their jobs. And that was before the recent hike to N700


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rdbg7Xqg1cQ

by how much should salaries be increased to match this?

Eriggs:
Lol
It's very great.

Dis Nairaland sha?

I'm not sure i follow

Great to know this is happening today.

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