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denzel2009: why did your tailor waste too much fabric on the collar?

Denzel the guy said you should rate his looks, not ask questions about the suit which one come be your own?

@ Planmaker

I'll put you at 5, your looks are just average.

Pardon my ignorance but I thought he was married to Penelope Cruiz or was I wrong.

moremi2008: From credible insiders:

1) She wears the pants in that marriage. She slaps him when she's really angry
2) Those kids aren't hers! They are Jonathan's from another woman

I just wanted to get these out there before Nigerians get distracted with their PR romance and publicity shots! Don't be deceived! This family is currently robbing you blind of your inheritance!

Haba Moremi! Is this true? You had me LOL at this oooh.

Just got back to this thread to see your reply. Thanks a lot for your in-put I appreciate it you've given me ideas on what to do when I go natural.

@ Kimberlugee

Okay did you start this thread for fun? Becuase if you did you and most of the posters like Cork made me laugh hard.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Smh. . .

And who says guys don't say no to sex? . . .[/color]

I am yet to meet one myself.

deshclones: let nobody gimme the ""[b]some ladies do not want to get married crap"" [/b]cause its a blatant lie...i don't think there is any healthy lady that would not love to wake up everyday with a man by her side...or do not want to have kids.
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As a matter of fact I am one of those women who is not enamored or thrilled with the idea of marriage so sweetheart I am going to give you that crap as you call it . First of all I don't understand why folks are so quick to assume every woman wants marriage and children? Not all of us are maternally inclined but that's not my issue.

I honestly don't feel a desire for marriage and believe me am not lying about this. Besides I feel content & happy with myself and with being single. I've had people tell me my tune will change when am 35, maybe it will maybe it won't. I really can't say but all I know is that right now I am not feeling this whole marriage thing and I am in my late 20's.

The other angle to it is the many cases of miserable marriages which exist in my world (note the keyword here, being marriages in my world) i.e marriages of friends and siblings. Let's not even go too far you can check the family section of NL to get a feel of what am talking about.

When I hear the stories of married people whom I know, there's hardly anything in it to motivate or inspire me towards marriage. Am not using such marriages as a yardstick to measure anything or to justify my lack of desire for it but goodness their stories do leave me with a phobia about marriage.

I don't think I am one of those women who will thrive or glow with marriage because of my personality. I am a private person as well as introverted and reserved, I enjoy my own company and I enjoy being by myself. I love my space and I don't do breakfast (actually a gallon of water before & after my work out is all I have for breakfast).

Now I don't know how anyone can cope with that, especially a husband and children who need attention. Granted I can make a few adjustments to accommodate a spouse but that's the issue: I don't think I want to alter my lifestyle, selfish right? I know but pls spare me.

Some folks will find my post hard to believe and will tell me I am under the influence of western culture, Oprah Winfrey and the likes of her (to start with I don't even like Oprah and I don't do trash reality tv so nobody should go there ). This is just the truth about my thoughts and feelings on marriage.

You know what as a believer I actually pray about all of this, because my bible teaches me to have the courage to share all I do and think with God, as honesty will strengthen my relationship with Him.

So I speak with Yeshua (Jesus Christ) every now then and I tell Him Lord I don't desire marriage, am not feeling it, its not doing me show me what to do with my life for the rest of my days here on earth, but if it is Your will for me then let Your will and not mine be done.

Meanwhile am thinking if it is His will, then He has a lot of work to do with bending my will to conform to His, transforming & changing me into the woman He wants me to be when it comes to marriage. Because like I said this thing is not doing me oooh.

Amaka

I would like to know how I can successfully make the transition from relaxed hair to natural hair and still look good. I used to have long, full and healthy hair but right now am not liking my hair very much.

It seems the use of hair relaxers,weave-ons and braids over time has done me more harm than good, well the truth is that am really tired of these methods of hair care. I just want something new and easy that won't cause so much damage and will allow my hair go back to its former state of healthiness.

I just took off long bob marley braids, there's new under growth but am not sure I want to go through that whole cycle of retouch, wash a few days later then braid or fix a weave on. Please help a sister out I also need to grow my front hair back ghana weaving has messed it up a bit what would you recommend for effective hair growth?

betrani: And u end up snatching other peoples Husbands abi? Making so much noise in the name of being secured! Mumu

Betrani

Who said anything about dating married men or wanting to snatch another woman's husband. Please spare me ooooh am no saint but I keep married men at arms length because am smart enough to know nothing good will come out of a fling or relationship with them moreover I fear my creator the Almighty God.Mind you not all men within the age group I like to date are married.

SMH at your inability to make your point without the name calling, you are a classic example of the sort of insecure and immature young men I like to avoid.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Some women actually prefer older men because they feel they are more secure and matured you know[/quote]Yep you've got that right.

@ Orikinla I will admit that I prefer to date older men. Am sure you've heard the saying like fine wine men get better with age . Well that adage has proved to be true in my life

I'm in my late 20's and am often attracted to men who are older than me, am talking about men 6 to 10 years older. I feel very at ease and comfortable with men in that age group.Believe me its not necessarily about money or sex,its more about the ease of communication, good companionship and how well they listen when I need to talk through some serious issues.

Older men are indeed more secure and mature like Mynd said, I figure the experiences and challenges they've had at an earlier age moulds them into the men they are. Their younger counterparts on the other hand may only just be going through such challenges/experiences therefore they may be lacking in the areas of maturity and self confidence.

I've dated men in my age group and men 3 to 4yrs older than me, the experience has been energy sapping and emotionally draining. You constantly need to stroke and feed their egos,they expect so much from a relationship forgetting I have a life, other interests and extra curricular activities besides them.

Abeg abeg abeg, give me an older man any time any day life is just so much easier with them. Not only are they mature & secure with themselves they understand the concept of space in a relationship, respect for privacy as well as boundaries and the need to respect boundaries.

@ Sexkillz

I must say that I was shocked to see you listed as a MOD, am sure you remember me from another thread where I named you as one of the culprits who has made this section unappealing and a huge turn off.

One way to transform this section would be for you to lead by example that means that;

1. You clean up your language, no more vulgarity and insults directed at people whose posts/opinions you do not agree with.

2. Show more tolerance and respect for others,by making your point without bashing.

3. And no bias as a MOD, strive to treat users the same way, don't favour some over others

That would be a start and I hope you've got the stomach for criticism without getting combative because you'll be getting a lot of that.

Dear Darkchild

Am glad you got a job and I wish you well with it, a word of caution though pls do not forget the one who blessed you once you start work.

I say this because we generally have the tendencies to run to God when we are in trouble or need something, but the moment that need is met or our trouble passes we quickly forget about God putting Him in the back seat of our lives while letting other things (like our jobs, family, cars etc) come first and take His place.

My point: Lets praise Him and stick with Him in both good & bad times, when we are laughing or grieving.

Rtyfg: Plz guy, can u giv me d direction on hw to apply

You've got to be kidding me, didn't you see or read the part where there's a link/website address to get more information and apply. SMH big time.

Bros abeg no vex,

If I were looking for a husband (which I am not) your written english alone would put me off, which one come be only girls that is seriously searching...... and you can rings this phone for chat

Am not perfect at english language but seriously if you are looking to attract correct, sensible and decent chics you need to brush up your spoken/written english .

Honesty will strengthen your relationship with God and He is concerned about the sincerity of our hearts. So next time you pray tell Him the truth about your doubts, thoughts & feelings.

He won't stop loving you because you some times doubt,tell Him and then ask Him to help you grow out of it, and ask Him to build your trust & faith in Him.

He knows every thought even before we voice it so just go ahead speak with Him about it

Johndoe100: Young lady, at no point did I say anything that would warrant you to lump my post with the OP's. Please read my post again.

I read your post and understood it, in no way did I misunderstand and lump it with the OP's own erroneously assuming you were both saying the same thing.

OP's post made me laugh not because I think he is being silly far from it and yours made me laugh as well because of the phrase 'They always have plans for your wallet'.

LOL,I don't say I am busy.

My catch phrase is 'I would love to but I've made other plans for the evening'.

That works wonders in my favour.

No way, that's kind of like moving too fast for me.

I take personal hygiene seriously until I am sure of a person's hygiene & grooming practice. I won't be sticking my tongue anywhere.

Am simply LOL at posts from Johndoe and the OP.

Are we really that bad?

I guess women who are married to you would have an eye & plans for your wallet but am sure they also know sincere gratitude is one way to keep that wallet open or am I wrong?

Poster, I feel you but when I encounter bad manners from someone, I either ignore the person spewing it or give him a verbal trashing. How I react depends on the gravity of their action and how ticked off I am.

Some time ago a bank teller at the bank asked to use my pen, first of all he didn't ask nicely and I ignored that but when he was done he actually flung the pen at me.

I was like what the he didn't just disrespect me on top of my own pen. See craze that day, I gave him a piece of my mind and did so severely.

In my opinion (and it is my very personal opinion) I would say Nigeria is doing better and ranks higher on my moral scale than the US, because we are not saying yes to homosexuality and openly endorsing gay marriages.

Homosexuality is existent in Nigeria, but the fact that we don't encourage and endorse its practice we deserve a huge pat on the back. May be its more of a cultural value than a moral one. But I still would like to raise my children in Naija.

Interesting topic,

There's also another angle to the use of phones, that just feels very inappropriate to me and that is the consistent rate at which people can call your line with nothing significant to say.

Imagine having six missed calls and when you get back to whoever was calling you, they say something funny or silly like I just wanted to know how you are doing or I was in your neighbourhood and wanted to drop by and am thinking so you had to call six times within a space of 20 minutes when there was no emergency?

My most exasperating experience has been with bosses/co-workers who have no concept of time and respect for privacy, they call you as early as 6.30 - 7am, call late at night after close of work and just go on about issues that are not urgent and can be tackled at work the next day. I decided to start switching off my work phone at 7pm and turning it on at 8am.

I practically feel harassed when people do these things. I have a policy on phone communication which I extend to others If you call me twice and I don't answer please send a text message. I can't stand it when people begin to call a third, fourth & fifth time ignoring my request to send a text after two missed calls, especially when there is absolutely no emergency (and in all my cases there has been none).

We were doing just fine before the advent of gsm, I don't like the harassment & invasion of privacy it has brought with it. The phone has its advantages but I tend to experience the downside of it more because of how people use their phones.

I thougt women were the ones unhappy in marriage, going by the rate at which you see threads on cheatig husbands,lazy husbands,abusive ones etc etc.

Seriously though besides NL the reality of my life has been stories from close relatives, friends & acquaintances about how unhappy they are, the sort of crap they put up with, what spouses do or have done to significantly hurt them.

The picture I often get is one of gloom & misery, and I honestly don't feel inspired or even motivated to get married.The institution is unappealing even though I know my creator intended it for good.

It would be nice to hear from married men what makes them unhappy in marriage so I can have a balanced perspective on this. I only get to hear from women

My target would be power/electricity.

I would, but only when she is old enough to handle it and not throw it in my face in the heat of an argument or in one of her tantrums.

That information would also be passed on as a way of helping her make wise/right choices and avoid making the same mistakes I made.

drnoel

Are you serious? Its actually the other way round for me,I try to avoid married men like a plague.When I meet a man I fancy or one who fancies me, the first thing I do is to check if he is wearing a band.

The band disqualifies a potential date, If I don't see one I am quick to ask about marital status. The sad thing though is that I am often attracted to older men,men who are about 6 - 20 years older than me and who are also attracted to me.

I feel very at ease with that age group but you guessed right such men are already married.

The question should have been why a good number of married men don't wear their wedding band, not the engagement ring.

I had a conversation with a married friend yesterday,and I asked him why he wasn't wearing his band.

I told him the band quickly lets a woman know if a man is still open to the market or not, and that for decent women the wedding band actually keeps them at arms length, prompting them to respect his union.

He laughed real hard and told me that from his experience the band only attracts us women like bees to honey.

I no fit shout ooo.

LOL at topic.

Onila?

I think she's got a love hate relationship going with Mynd_44.

Abeg no mind me ooooh,verify my claims.

Your story is similar to another member on this forum, in his case though his girlfriend threw his Blackberry on the floor smashing it into pieces,I think it was a bold 4.

I can't say I blame you or this other fellow am talking about. I've met some really nasty women who make me feel and I actually want to get low & dirty, forgetting class, dignity and all.

I wish you hadn't brought this to nairaland though, because the self righteous folks here will soon come out en-masse to tear you apart like they did the other guy. Giving a thousand and one reasons why you shouldn't hit a woman and why you are less of a man for doing it. Completely forgetting what the other party (in this case your girl)did wrong and the fact that you feel terrible about the incident.

I get provoked some times too and I've reacted in ways which I later regret, so long as you learn to move on not making the same mistake twice you are fine bro.

Follow the instructions given that's what a friend in HR once said to me.

If you see send your cv to ......... then just send in the cv alone.

If instructions say send in your application and cv then go ahead and do that.

Kilokeys

Dude you are just crazy, you got me laughing hard with your entire post and analysis on the different kinds of women. Abeg free us oooooh. LOL