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Ishilove:
You remind me of my youngest brother. Several years ago, he came home from school weeping bitterly that he was being bullied.
We comforted him as best as we could.
The following day, he came back home with the same complaint. My dad, worried that his darling last born was facing stress at school, stormed the school the following day to complain to the school authorities.
It was then that the fowl's bushy rear end was exposed.
It seemed Lil Bro was the tormentor. He had quite a reputation for being a rabble rouser and a most fearsome bully. When the school management decided to crack down on bullies, he got the rough end of the stick and came home crying blue murder.
After hearing this unbelievable tale, Dad, mortified beyond words, got up, dusted his buttocks, shook the hand of the headmaster and left the school premises in a hurry
I'm sure you catch my drift...

Totally out of sync with the situation here but If you miss your younger brother so much I suggest you seek him out and hug him Hope the bully thing thingy didn't rub off on you,though you come across more like a lamb.
I still insist that you reach out to some females here who are fond of looking for trouble but will be the first to bleat to mods screaming blue mother. I believe your little story is meant for them. Just replace younger brother with younger sister and bam you hit the bulls eye.

Ishilove:
Please, any further reference to rotten puccys here will earn the offenders hefty bans.

Thanks for your anticipated cooperation

So we allow it to rot away like that. Mbanu!

Ishilove:
I appreciate honesty. I also appreciate tact. There are situations that call for brutal honesty, and ther are times that call for tact. You seem to believe that brutal honesty should be used at all times.

You know what they say about words? Words are like daggers; when used carelessly they are capable of causing so much injury...

Be wise in how you use your words, dinachi.

OK.
Now tell your some of your ladies here to get of my back....

Well. There are so many things to do. The first is to move out of that house immediately because as long as you are in your comfort zone you can't act. Seek out a friend and stay in their house for a few weeks. If you do not have any friend who can help, look for a church and start staying there and before anybody begins to talk, I have done it before.I slept in a church for almost a month to find my footing.
What skills do you have? Are you computer literate? If not start going to building sites to look for a job. If you are a good marketer, you can look for painting contracts get a painter and collect money and give him the job.Or you can start real estate agency. You do not need any capital. Look for an empty house for rent and look for clients to take it. The street is blessed!
Meanwhile be strong in your church and let your leaders in the church know what you are passing through. This is not time to look for another boyfriend.

Ishilove:
I have been watching and following what you write about women on Nairaland for a very long time, and to be very blunt, it is very appalling.

If you aren't married, it will be very interesting finding out who you will end up with and how you will fare as a husband.

If you are married, it will also be interesting having a one to one chat with her to know how she is coping with a husband like you. The poor woman must be emotionally stressed and psychologically traumatised!!!

God knows I can't marry a man who thinks like you. I will use mouth to finish his life, reroute his worldview and reformat his thinking.

Playing the gender card on me now ain't you?
I speak from the heart. With me you will know first hand exactly what I think. Well not everybody likes that approah, I admit but with me you don't have to guess.
My dear there is so much pretence in this world. Most people play to the gallery and that is what is really appalling not a guy keeping it real and saying it as it is!
Well if you are addicted to false compliments and pretentious pamperings, very clearly I am not your guy
I am brutally frank. That is my life and style. And I tell ya it had always worked for me even with women.
So take a chill pill and keep being one of my favorite mods!

The engineer promptly donated his four fingers to the god of transformation, gej.
Locomotive Caskets!

Kimoni:
My advice again - nagging will not kill him.

OK. So following your argument if nagging cannot kill him then slapping her cannot kill her either, right?

Kimoni:
The above is a process, and realistically speaking, I don't expect her to stop in a day.

That means the slapping is not also expected to stop anytime soon. I mean following your line of argument abi?

Kimoni:
Rather than hit her back, he should learn to ignore. .

Can she also learn to ignore the slappings?

Kimoni:
Dinachi, you will get this thread locked, you know that right

You know I hate hypocrisy! You saw her attack me and you said Nada but since I now reply in kind you start warning me. This is exactly what I hate. Selective justice. Just the way I have not heard one single condemnation of the Op wife Abusive tendenciws from you.
Some of you women will never learn. You always support evil because a female is the one perpetrating it.

LadyFiona:
You're already up in arms advocating for divorce, if a woman does that she is labelled a feminist. Hiehiehiehie!!!!!!hahaha

You are one funny two timing son of a gun.

Op, allow her to be for sometime to come to her senses, do not look for her to drive home a point that you're tired of her bickering and insolent behavior. Watch her people closely to ascertain if they are fuelling the behavior more and then decide the next action to take. But, show concern for the wellbeing of your kids.

Ignore your wife.

I am just trying to save the mans life here, OK.
The wife is very abusive.

Kimoni:
Lol
If nagging kills full grown men, then they should be going extinct by now.
"Sticks and stones may hurt me but words will never harm me" - this is an English proverb basically saying I might have no control over physical violence targeted at me but I can choose to ignore verbal rantings. The latter is a choice.
Have you allowed NL bullying affected you in any way? Maybe initially, but now?
Note that I am not asking him to accept his fate permanently but it is not enough to separate or divorce her immediately like Dinachi advocated till he has tried to address the underlying root of her problems.

Many men have died and more are dying everyday from effects of nagging especially high blood pressure.
That is why the Bible says it is better to dwell at the corner of the roof than stay with a nagging wo man.
So the husband is a victim of terrible abuse from the wife and he should send her away immediately for his own safety and good health.

What a homosexual family!

mutter:
No smoke without fire. Do you want us to believe that the women in the neighbourhood have nothing better to do than accuse you wrongly? You are doing something very wrong in the marriage. I also can't believe the brother threatened your life for one slap. It wasn't the first time and they have had enough of your violence. Your money should also be a support to your wife. Where do you want her to get the money to pay her debt.? Don't push her to do things you might regret....and because of this minor issue Ou want to break your home and see rate the kid's from their mother. You are heartless.

This is utter rubbish! Pay attention at your peril .

FrancisTony:
But Jesus said let no man be a judge?
Ok...I don't support homosexual neither will I cricticize it.

What do you mean by being judgemental in this case?

What are all these gay dudes doing here competing for Mr Nairaland?. I will vote for the only one that doesn't look gay. My vote goes to Agarawu23. Carry go!
Cc: NLjega

FrancisTony:
I don't have a problem with all you listed.
My problem is my family.
My own is to advice them not be a judge. Thanks

If trully you support incest and homosexuality, where does your Christianity then come in? I am lost here.
If you see someone doing something that is Biblically wrong as a Christian, which other advice apart from stop will you give.?
You are just trying to satisfy the homosexual lobby. If indeed you you are a Bible believing Christian, then you have no business saying Homosexuality is not your problem.

Kimoni:
Lol...so the question is how to engage her and reduce her idle time

So do you now condone her attitude because she is idle?If she kills the man with her nagging, will you be saying this during his funeral?
First things first. Nobody should be an ass because they don't have jobs!
What stops her from looking to a job? It is now the mans duty to get her a job, what is her own duty?

Kimoni:
She is just idle, an idle mind is the devil's workshop. She need a job

You know then that the devils workshop is evil!

FrancisTony:
Yes, I believe in homosexuality doing their things. So?

What about adult family members doing their things? Anything wrong with ince5t as long as they are adults? Can your adult son and daughter marry? Will you support that? What is the difference between support for adult homosexual and adult incestual couples?
My point is ,Christianity and the Bible has not support for your views. There is no Christian Homosexual supporter!

Kimoni:
OMG , I was just praying that Dinachi will not see this post oo seems like I prayed too late

Dinach, you don see market now baa

I know you won't leave this thread

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Dinachi, I just read your comments, pls desist from calling the wife names. Even the poster might not like it and you will make him regret bringing the story here. Give ur advice without calling her evil names. They are still married and even if they separate now, they can still settle in the future.

OK.
I am just angry that the woman does not appreciate the man at all. He works his butts off and sometimes even helps out with household chores yet she is causing him damaging emotional pain by being verbally abusive. Would you as a person approve the woman's behaviour? She even threatens him that she will do something and he will loose his job and she will get a job and become the provider.Now who says that to a spouse, except an evil person? Honestly, I think the man made a very big mistake marrying that kind of person. I know how me and my better half support each other even in trying times. It is extremely painful when a wife or girlfriend is not appreciative and instead gives you emotional pain. Believe me the man may develop high blood pressure and die.
I am jus trying to save his life here.

According to some sources, she is also a hardcore lesbian.

Vyolet:
Lol..
Patience is virtue Mr man. This is just a version of the story,no on knows the main truth.
Everyone would always report a case to suit him or her.

@Op,I think you are not communicating well with your wife,it is not only about giving her money,try and listen to her complaints and work on it.

Stop making excuses for an extremely abusive wife! A woman that threatens to use Juju to make the husband redundant and make herself employed is an evil woman and should be discarded as fast as a used sanitary pad. She does not deserve him. He should dump the trash ASAP!
There are more beautiful respectful and gainfully employed women praying everyday for a good husband like the Op and that evil witch is somewhere making life hell for him.
Op should as a matter of urgency initiate divorce proceedings against her. The man has indeed suffered, he sure needs a better woman in his life now.

SAMBARRY:
with your ever senseless and amusing posts

If I reply you in kind now, you will start bleating for the mods. If you know you do not have anything meaningful to contribute just avoid my post altogether. Next time I will not be so nice!

FrancisTony:
An eye for an eye, only leads to more blindness.

By the way, I don't see how verbal abuse equate Physical abuse.

Verbal abuse and physical abuse all na abuse! How do you measure them pray tell? Both cause pain. One physical, the other emotional. Both can kill if sustained.
It is not an issue of an eye for an eye. If a woman cannot support her husband but derides him at every single opportunity and destroys his self worth and finally threatens to render him useless using juju then that woman cannot be said to be a wife but a witch.
He needs to unbundle himself from that woman before he looses his good self and destroys himself.
Walahi my brother men are indeed suffering! That woman does not deserve him.

SAMBARRY:

You are a clown

How?

FrancisTony:
She pushed you physically? If YES, no problem, but if NO, under no circumstance should you beat up a woman(any human).

BTT:
Allowing your wife to push you to the point of losing your senses and slapping her was wrong. Deed done, but never get caught in that position again.

This is where I absolutely disagree with both you. So it is okay for the wife to be verbally abusive. Don't you know she is the abusive person in the relationship? The guy had to give her a love tap at the cheek to regularise her thinking! I seriously feel for this guy. He got married to a living female demon and he urgently needs to unbundle now. He surely deserves better.
My brothers men are suffering oh! Chai

The wife is an evil woman. She has been cheating on your good uncle and now she has developed terrible vaginal infections. The man should conduct DNA tests on all his kids to know whether they are his. After which he should kick that cheating slut of a wife out of his home. She does not deserve him. Evil women everywhere.

Leave that piece of trash immediately. She is not worth being called a wife. She is a very abusive beast that should be drawn and quartered. She does not DESERVE you. Send her packing and don't look back! There are a lot of beautiful women out there who are more respectful and and even gainfully employed. Don't ever marry all these have who have nothing doing. And to cap it all, she is an evil woman threathning you with Juju. Kai! you wasted too much time. If na me by now I would have told her people I am divorcing her immediately.

First of all he should confirm whether his wife is a closet Lesbian by watching carefully her relationship with other women. Most women this days enjoy only puccy, a carry over from secondary school days.
Secondly, he should check himself. Does her know how to perform well, maybe the wife does not love his love making.
Lastly he should be open and honest with her and say his mind. She needs to know that he is not feeling this style at all.

90% of Nollywood actresses are hardcore Lesbians even the married ones! Very few like Mercy Johnson Okojie, Omotola Jalade Ekehinde, etc are free the rest suck and lick each others rotten puccy. The unmarried ones that are very advanced in age will come and start spewing rubbish that they are waiting for the right guy. I go laugh tire.
These two are stating the obvious, both of them are hardcore Lesbians! And trust me their puccy stinks atrociously because they have been using their mouths and tongues to transmit toilet infections, chlymidia, Gonohrea, Syphilis and co to and fro each other and their other partners.
The government should act ASAP to lock us those two as a deterent .

As usual many of the females here jump to funny conclusions and totally missed the Ops line of thought. He is worried that his wife buys him similar gifts that he bought her. Actually it looks and feels competitive. So next time don't buy her something so big and expensive. Reduce the budget and buy something cheaper and classy and watch her reaction. Keep her guessing.greatly vary your gifts and watch her try to catch up. Eventually she will also begin to vary her own gift items to you.