₦airaland Forum

oyinda.:
again, question at hand is why do some men prefer freaks behind closed doors?

oyinda.:
again. this only applies to SOME men not all. there are some normal men out there. lol

if u marry a holy woman because u want the public to see your fake pic. then u deserve what u get in the bedroom

It depends on what you mean by a "closet freak".I think it is all men or at least "most" men like their women to be adventurous in bed just as women want their men to be more experienced too. In the case of matrimony which is permitted even in the Bible that women should please their husbands even sexually. No man wants a log of wood. You do what pleases your husband afterall, the two bodies become one, your body is his and his body is yours. It is only moral that what you do behind closed doors with your husband should not be let out in the public. But like I said it depends on what you see as being immoral or freaky. In my case, an example I would also consider being freaky is "anal sex" but I do not see any decency in such but people are different.

Been looking for it everywhere in the US, but no luck. Does anyone remember these and know if they sell it in the US?

I don't think they do, but would like to know if anyone else here knows if they do.

I would like to know if there's anyone here that ships or knows anyone that could ship some foodstuffs from Nigeria to the US.  Those of particular interest are "Satis sausages"[/color] and "Pears"[color=#990000]. Those pears that they boil or fry with roasted corn.

chaircover:
I can only offer advice from a woman's point of view. Women generally speaking like strong, focused men they can rely on and are able to seek reassurance from him. Women need to know that there is someone they can count on & trust; someone who will care for them & protect them etc

The sudden disrespect is most likely a unconscious action from your girlfriend in response to her feeling that for whatever reason she feels she cannot trust you to take care of her, emotionally, financially, spiritually etc

Along the line you may have gone "soft"; it could be that you have asked her for money, made it too obvious that you need the citizenship, or she hasn't heard you tabling your plans and how you intend to care for her if you do arrive in the USA etc

It does sound like an unconscious action and once she realises her mistake, she is remorseful and apologises & asks for forgiveness.

My advise to you is to put the American citizen thing out of your mind and concentrate on being there for your other half & being a man. Don't lose your self pride and respect because you want to travel to the USA

I suggest that if possibe, just go for a visit for a few weeks. Take enough money with you and do most of the spending. Show her that you are the man and irrespective of how much she earns you are still in charge and are more than capable of taking care of her.

Please please please finish whatever course you are doing in Nigeria before you emigrate to the USA. Do not sell yourself cheap because of citizenship. Things are not as easy as people portray over there/here and emigrating in the middle of a recession with only a few skills will do you no favours.

Wishing you good Luck

That's right. Couldn't agree less.

C2H5OH:
Reeks of immaturity to me. She is going through some stuff is not a valid reason to disrespect your significant other.

C2H5OH:
Are you suggesting he feed his man-balls to the dogs and marry her for papers instead of standing up for himself?

Did u read my initial reply? I never supported her insulting him. This is what I wrote in support of what noble_gas1 wrote.

Diva1:
@aktunde, he is right but also she could be going through some sort of frustrations over there which means you should be able to communicate with her well and tell her your mind if you are sure, you are not the cause and if no change, then you know what decision to make. It is not worth it, if it won't bring you peace.

C2H5OH:
Why the emphasis on American Passport?
Anyway all the sorries are meaningless if she continues repeating the same offenses over and again.
I don't see how it's going to change with marriage u nless you somehow fix it now.

I have seen it and it does happen. Most times they(some) feel they are doing you a very big and huge favor and sometimes take you for granted or make you kiss their feet.Much emphasis is placed on American passport because it is like the center of the world. Once you have an American passport, you are guaranteed and could travel anywhere in this world. It is much easier.

noble_gas1:
1st off, d answer 2 d question is no, Bleep Shit
2ndly @ Poster, U re still in Nigeria & she`s callin U names & stuffs, remember D law of the United States dat its D woman dat has much more power dan d man, for me, am not 2 sure she`s d right one for U cuz wat assurance do u av dat wen u guys are togeda in yankee, she wont raise alarm & God forbid( U being deported) (hope u understand wat am sayin) u have to b very sure b4 u tie any kot wit her cuz wit dat attitide, hmmmmmmmmmm, but just erase 1 tin from ur mind and wich is dat she has a Blue P, Bleep Blue or red P, am sure ur own wife ll come wen its d right time, and am proud of u at ur age wiv all u ve achieved, so just keep doin it right dawg

@aktunde, he is right but also she could be going through some sort of frustrations over there which means you should be able to communicate with her well and tell her your mind if you are sure, you are not the cause and if no change, then you know what decision to make. It is not worth it, if it won't bring you peace.

@ Tudor, what evidence are you looking for or want to hear? And also do you have evidence to prove that God doesn't exist?

It still baffles me how most atheists think or place their facts. In as much as sometimes when going through tough periods or see things happen, I sometimes ask if God is really there but after seeing everything around me, even the so-called scientists that believe in evolution cannot even think or explain what made it possible for evolution to occur and much more. At the end, it still narrows down to God.

@fl gators, maybe u should tell me what's wrong in that since I'm not aware.

@ Fl gators. R u okay? Wat's the beef about?

Now he can rest in peace especially from d foolish ones that accused him of child molestation. Though I wasn't there but how on earth is it a crime for him to sleep with lil boyz on the same bed? Rest In Peace MJ.

James Brown-December 25th. Aaliyah-August 25th. Left Eye-April 25th. Micheal Jackson- June 25th.

May God see you through dear Sistawoman before, during and after the sugery. Amen.

very very sad

I'm crying now, very sad

@Tisha313

Be "yourself" and no one else. I have heard of people crying out wanting larger boobs, butts, hips n all of that but never heard of trying to change the skin color by all means. Live for your self and no one else, I could imagine if you were an albino, what you would be saying or do, after all they are very light skinned.

FL Gators:
Diva1, all that na story story. She no fit listen.
wan ti fo agbari obirin ye.

What's with this blue and green skin ppl?

Had to add those, to let her know, no matter the color, if one is ugly, that person is still ugly regardless of whatever color.

FL Gators:
Abeg, no use alek wack. That girl is UGLY!!!
Maybe that's Tisha's look alike. Garielle Union ko Gabrielle Unity ni

Lol, at least she is dark skinned too but has status.

oyinda.:
@ Diva,
alek wek  

That's right, thanks, that girl is as Black as even darker than charcoal, but see her, rocking it, still leaving and breathing. Infact, her color was what even made her who she is.

Tisha313:
I don't think they'll like me just for my skin shade but their perception of me will be much more positive. I want popularity, acceptance and status that comes with having those ideal features (lightskin, long hair, light eyes)

Assuming you get what you want and people still find other things to say about you and bring you down, what would you do? would you still change those? The problem here is low self esteem and not skin color.

@Tisha313

Seriously, if you are joking or not, light skinned women still have problems.  As a light skinned lady, I worry so much about getting scars because any little injury, it shows the mark very well, unlike the dark skinned person, it would not be so obvious.
Whether light skinned or blue skinned, people would always find something to say about you to bring you down, it's all about "YOU". If you are dark skinned, rock it. What is this model's name again, very dark, when I remember, I'll put it down, she is very very dark which I assume you are not even up to that extent but she is living and proud of herself.

Beaf:
@Diva1
Why are you wasting kind words on this sorry woman?

Lol, I want to get to the bottom of this. I thought it was like a joke but I see it isn't.

Tisha313:
I don't really understand what you are trying to say. You say most perceive lightskin to be more beautiful, yet guys are still looking for pretty ladies that are of any complexion. You are double talking. Which is it? Do they care about skin tone or not?

Yes, I want to change me. Once I get ahold of some money I will.

now i see your problem. Low self esteem. Some men do care about skin tone, some personality, some weight, some races, there are different characteristics. Let me ask you this, what if you change yourself, and you still don't get a man, what would you do?

@Tisha313

Which would you prefer? being an albino or dark skinned?

Seriously, I agree with you that most perceive light skinned to be more beautiful but that's where it ends, nothing more. If a guy is looking for a pretty lady, whether she is dark, light, green, pink, red or whatever color, I believe he would still go for her. Those guys you encounter are probably ignorant or something.

I think FL Gators is a she


@Tisha313

What is really your problem from this post? You want to be light skinned? You want to change "YOU" and be someone else or what? I really don't get. Even light skinned women some, are not satisfied with themselves and still want more.

Tisha313:
I've gotten really light before and noticed the difference.

Lol, how? Bleaching? pls dear don't tamper with your skin. It has nothing to do with skin color, it is an individual thing and as someone mentioned body structure, haven't you seen very light skinned women that are not so pretty or better still most albinos, which is your pick? dark skinned or albino?

C'mon, don't you even watch America's next top model or something, how many dark skinned women do u see on there? I think the problem is from you.

@ Tisha313

I'm concerned and trying to make sense of your post. What exactly is your problem? you want to be lightskinned? or what?

FL Gators:
I like to believe I'm dark skinned.

My dear, like others say, if you're ugly, you ugly. Making your skin brighter is not going to changed your body structure.

Exactly

Tisha313:
Yes.

Gabrielle Union was recently on a show discussing how she is often the only darkskin woman trying out for a lot of roles in Hollywood. Growing up, she was rejected for being dark, and still is to some extent. Yes, she is very pretty but being dark, she still does not have a lot of status. How many black men in Hollywood are dating women who look like her? Not many

Lol @ post, r u serious?? Gabrielle Union does not have a lot of status?? Girl, think again, I am light skinned and yes many perceive light skinned women to be more beautiful but there are a lot of dark skinned girls that are more beautiful than the light skinned ones. It has nothing to do with color, if you are ugly, you are ugly, if you are pretty, you are pretty in respective of any color and by the way, no one is ugly.

Foster cat:
What most people forget is that wen a girl or lady is Disvirgined,A blood covenant has taken Place becos Blood is involved.it unforgetable for Life.The person that Disvirgin u Matters alot but most Ladies Dont Know.I dont want To b Spiritual now.so i rest my case

Blood convenant? Pls explain, don't rest your case.

@Post

Apologise, plead n give her some little time. This isn't so serious.