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OBNOXIOUS:
She must be very very stupid then! As a man dont you know your the head of the relationsip and any female who is not ready to accept that fact is an imbecilic idiot! I am sure before you told her she is stupid, she must have done something really really stupid because Men are far intelligent than women and weigh their words well. For her to have broken up with you shows she doesnt form to authority and in the process you should have beaten her up to drive home your point!

You dont need to be obsessed about a bitch that wont respect you! She will only stay with you if you say "I love you" but run away when you call her stupid! What a crack head you have for an ex!

Better go and find a submissive chic that will respect you instead of all these bread and butter spoilt stupid animalistic brats your fawning over!

You sound really bitter against women, If I may ask, have you ever been hurt by a woman?

izeek:
boy do i know how that pain feels.
u tell urself to stop feeling down, but u just cant bring urself to lighten up.

i have had to pour myself into my work just to forget the issues, but believe me ,nothing acts as a substitue for the pain.

like some1 said earlier,
let the pain, its sign u loved and almost if not got loved in return.

It is very understandable 'cause I'm there too, even if you know the relationship is as good as bad and worthless, it's still hard to accept it and in this case not because of low self esteem or no self value but just because you LOVED this person.

luxoire:
pain is good - pain means you were sincere in your affections - pain means you are still capable of relating to ppl emotionally

have you ever been in a r/ship were you split up with someone and it doesn't hurt? it just feels blunt - like its done - like it was non-existent and life goes on - makes you ever if you were ever IN the r/ship heart, body and mind

That's right.

Romeo4real:
@ Diva - Its unbelievable how women can excuse insulting a man on the basis that he asked for it, or she tried telling him another way, or she is frustrated, or, what ever, but would be never accept a man being violent to a woman.

The truth is they are both sides of the same coin- Physical and Emotional abuse. None IS justifiable, or should be accepted. It is well known that women use their tongue to lash out, and men use their fists.This makes neither Ok.
Every man ( and woman) knows that a few well chosen words, can irretrievably damage even the strongest man's ego, character and pride.
Men also know that if another man were to speak to them the same way these women do, or use the same words, they would both be rolling on the floor within seconds, with both a few teeth short.

Women excuse their behaviour on the basis that words don't hurt as much as fists, but we all know that is simply not true.

To all the men being macho out there, the truth is that as a married man, there is not a lot you would be able to do about it, but to forgive and hope it does not happen again. Marriage really does show a man how little control he exerts over certain things.

I agree with you a 100% and I'm not justifying any fact. I came here because out of 3yrs, it was the first incident that had happened I went far, and came on here to seek advice from different people and hear their opinions. I know it was wrong and that was why I apologised and pleaded despite ALL he had done prior to that.
I met my friend's dad yesterday, and talked to him about what had happened, him being an older and a married man with more experiences, gave me his mind, that what I had done was wrong HOWEVER, considering what he had and has been doing and all I put up with, he should have at least had a little compassion for such and if genuine,3yrs, he would have tried to make up after all the pleading and apologies. He wasn't innocent either, i have done my part and even though he is a man and would advise me as a father too, that I even went too far pleading, for months and I had tried, it was time to stop. He is at fault too.

I do not justify women insulting their men, or am I saying I was right but I know it is more to that, after all he has been introduced to the movie business here abroad with all these single actresses around so there must be something more to that. Men are everwhere, why did I have to put up with his nonsense? Because I loved him and tried to tolerate for a while so why do I have to make one mistake, which he pushed me, just one, and it had to be this way? I come from a decent family, why would I wake up one morning and start texting some foul words to someone I supposedly care for out of the blues? Of cause not. That's why it was a MISTAKE, a one time, mistake.

Monicaa:
Thanks for understanding Diva1, do u have any email,yim,msn,aim so may talk there?

It's all good girl, anytime. We all are help to help ourselves. You could post yours then I'll add you. Much luv

spikedcylinder:
Please, by all means, die.

WTF.

C'mon, that was a lil harsh. In as much as the topic is not favorable, she knows what she is going through and needs a helping hand.

@ Topup

You didn't admit if you liked him?, personally if it's me, a guy I have no feelings for complimenting my friend, yea I could be a lil jealous but it ends there. No worries, no probs. He could also be doing that to see your reaction and how you feel to see if you are interested in him, who knows? It could be his tactics.

C2H5OH:
oyin, when was the lst time you had suya? i'm eating some suya right now and i almost forgot how good it tastes.

When was the last time I ate suya? sighs,  can you mail some here?

Not necessarily, it should be more like attraction at first sight because love is a different thing entirely. When you see someone for the first time, there is something that attracts you to that person, it could be looks, personality and as such, then until you get closer to that person and know more, you would be able to tell if you love the person or not.

@Serubawon

Your story is touching and it's good to know the faith you have and still going through. God bless.

In my own opinion,Only him can stop it. Those medications and all proved to help stop smoking would not be a 100% effecetive to stop him. Smoking is a very addictive behavior. He could as well think of the risks, like cancer, heart problems and that might help motivate him to stop. It might not be a one day thing but gradually. Also i've heard of nicotine gums or such, I don't know if it helps.

C2H5OH:
casual pssh what a waste of money

Not really, those cheap casual rings like 10dollars or even below or in naira, maybe 50bucks or below if I'm right.

Dear, don't die. There is a reason for everything, you being alive, God must have a reason and would not fail you. You do not know tomorrow. That boyfriend of yours you said he seems to be enjoying himself and all getting away with it, you do not tomorrow might be the same person under you or come to you for help. Just have faith. It is hard I know, but try. It will be well.

It is part of the fashion trends, moreover to ward off guys that like disturbing.

@Monicaa

I can relate to what you are saying. You did not heal properly before jumping into another relationship, more like a rebound relationship. Give yourself time to heal, there are a lot more wonderful guys, heal yourself before getting into another relationship.

Go get a girlfriend! solution n leave guys.

Just a thought, you both can go shopping at the mall, and while looking around, you could pick one of those fashionable casual rings and she would look and you could ask her if she likes and pretend to get yourself one, then you could use the opportunity and find out her size or as Oyinda said, you could get one ofher rings which i guess she should have and use that.

You did not state the reason why the doctor said she can't have babies. And miracles do happen. Also there is in Vitro fertilization depending on the reason why the doctor said she isn't able. Good luck!

ifyalways:
Yeah.They need to hear ur bowel sound b4 u can eat solid foods.

tpiah:
you have to pass air after any major _abdominal surgery, not only appendicitis.

Not doing so is dangerous. That's why the doctors were worried.

Thank you for these. Now I know why.

@Ogidiboy

What was your question?


Good night you all!

acidrop:
babe are u new on nairaland? well allow me 2 run u down, FIGHT is wat they do here, MINUS  me sha ooo

Yea girl, since March. Why? C'mon ya'll the fights' not worth it. This is where people like us abroad come to see what's happening around n back home.

FL Gators:
@Diva1
You're right.
I still don't understand how hugging and forehead kissing turned to "Oh snap, she has a crush on me. I better calL 911, better yet, make a thread on NL cuz my life might be in stake!"

LOL

OgidiBoy:
My dear Diva that's what I've been saying oh, they say they just kidding but it looks like real fight


Anyway did you read my post about you

What post? help me out here

Is this a fight or joke? Why do nairalanders like fighting themselves? Ya'll should stop, not worth it.

@post

Maybe she(Ur fling) was just being friendly. It might be less of what you are thinking.

It could be

C2H5OH:
I might just have to date Diva1. She would make a great spouse.

Hun, u have to join the queue with ur credentials lol

@Sissy, it's true since he was introduced to the movie industry and the likes of some celebrities especially a particular actress but it's all good.

cheatmaker:
Am really grateful for all the advices, but i need to hear from more women. They are the one involved.

I thought you said she left already? isn't it?

~Sissy~:
better to have loved and lost. 'cause you learn from it at least for some.

That's right. There is pain in lost love but it would be worse if you don't learn from it.

C2H5OH:
Not really an ex. . . we kind of sort of dated but she ruined it.
one of those girls that believes she can do whatever she wants n get away with it.  like your ex. except with me and her we were never in a relationship.  she halted all communications prematurely, acting like she didn't wanna have anything to do with it anymore.
now she pulls this crap.

She still wants you now lol, kiss her forehead too

I had a friend that had appendicitis and after the surgery and during recovery, he said the doctors were wating for him to fart even begging him and when he did, they were all clapping and happy. Does anyone have any idea why? What is the relevance between the fart and recovering from appendicitis surgery? Anyone?

Honestly girl your best bet is still a hospital and complain to them how serious it is, then you could pray about it too but go to the hospital again.

@C2H5OH

Was she your ex?

Igwe.:
yeah, because of pains love can make you pass through, and also judging by the notion that true love only manifests itself during the period of trials.

That's right.