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andyanders:
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA MY PERSON, in fact this kind of relationship make me wanna slap some people. When you see signs like this, you have to know what you have ahead of you.Anyway, not many guys are smart and for Op, it's better he voiced his problem out in order to learn.

Right on point bro, but it appears that the OP is either a learner, directionless, an un-principled guy or didn't know what he truly want in a relationship.
Permit me to say that about 50 percent (50%) of problems or complaints in relationship today can be avoided if partners or lovers TRULY KNOW WHAT THEY WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP AND SET THE TONE EARLY ENOUGH to achieve it.

No need to pretend, tell your lover early in a relationship your do and don't (it depends on the kind of relationship and other factors, though). When you started seeing dangerous sign like the op's case, frown at it and make her know your position - YELLOW CARD. And if she continue, GIVE HER RED CARD. A broken relationship is better than a broken home or marriage. But no, some guys are so greedy (maybe because they're not confident in themselves or are afraid to lose the girl); they're not happy in a relationship, they keep complaining about a girl but won't let her be.

MY ADVICE:
Be mature, be principled, be decisive, be a man and know what you want. If she did not fit into what you want or your desired lady, then, do the needful and save space on nairaland.

I RISE!!!

andyanders:
Op, you are gradually drifting into a big problem in your life. The worst relationship you can get into is where your partner is Over possessive. History has shown that most relationships that end up in violence or murder come from been over possessiveness by either party.

You have to get off from this relationship because at a point, it will be ' If I do not have him', nobody else and this can result in murder

Being possessive in relationship can be very dangerous to either party. Therefore, take a walk

Oga, @post ^^^^^, why did you say what I wanted to say

I was just about to say that before you rush to say it. Or are you from Russia?

This can be describe as JONAPHOBIA - the fear of Jonathan winning APC in the forth coming election

prophetfire:
God has already over-blessed nigeria. Its injustice n falsehood dt is keepin it down.until we face them n root them out naija ll not enjoy those blessings.I am irritated @ d plight of d niger-delta n the easterners.hwever if ken n others like elechi amadi n other niger deltans had pitched their tent wit biafra to face a common foe,it wld hav bn better for all.the battle they refused to fight in the 60s is now consuming their descendants n the enemy has become stronger n more viscious.ken n elechi amadi boasted in their books n public statements dt they killed biafra.THEY DENIED OTHERS JUSTICE BUT WANT JUSTICE FOR THEMSELVES.THEY HELPED NORTH TO KILL IGBOS N THE NORTH TURNED TO ANNIHILATE THEM. GOD DOES NOT SLEEP.

MY FRIEND,
do you bother to read my post before quoting me? If you do, have you said anything different from what I post earlier??

BLAME IT ON OJUKWU:
In war, you must belong to one side. In war, you must either attack your enemy or defend against your enemy. In war, there is no friend; anyone who is not for you is against you. Knowing that you're surrounded or land-locked, wouldn't it had been wise to take to confidence or create an alliance with the Niger delta or your southern brothers to form an irresistible force against your enemy?? That's where he got it all wrong. When the going gets tough for him, he resorts to penetrate through the Niger delta to access the sea so he can shell Lagos from the sea. By this time however, the Nigerian troops had already taken over the Niger delta and the west. Thanks to Gen. Gowon who ordered that the biafrans should only be captured but not to be killed. Otherwise Igbo would've been history today. He treated them like a rebellious son. The warlord had runaway by now.

At this point, what do you expect the Niger deltans to do?? Remember, one of the instincts of man is survival.

In my earlier post, I talk about regrets of the the Niger deltans. Believe me, if it were today, the story would've been different. Even as the Biafrans are still planning to go now, is there any plan or a kind of agreement with the present Niger delta

Rockyheight:
What do these guys want.

1, To make Nigeria ungovernable for president Jonathan,

2, To forcefully turned all Nigerians to Islam and to

3, Forcefully turned Nigeria to a sharia state or country.

Na WA ooh!
So this is where we are now?
anyway, arm robbers give reasons why they Rob
drunkard give reasons why they drink to stupor
harlot give reasons why they prostitute
murderers give reasons why they maimed
even boko haram give reasons why they bombed and kill without conscience.

SO
Any surprise in her reasons??
Enaaaah!!!
what about hell fire??
aaaaah, is burning strong, waiting for husband snatchers with their god forsaking reasons.

I dey cum

Na WA ooh!
So this is where we are now?
anyway, arm robbers give reasons why they Rob
drunkard give reasons why they drink to stupor
harlot give reasons why they prostitute
murderers give reasons why they maimed
even boko haram give reasons why they bombed and kill without conscience.

SO
Any surprise in her reasons??
enaaaah!!!
what about hell fire??
aaaaah, is burning strong, waiting for husband snatcher with their god forsaking reasons.

I dey cum

JOURNALIST ARE NOT HELPING MATTERS AT ALL.

But if they (Northern leaders) actually say this, published it and accepted responsibility for its contents, then my people (North) really need urgent rehabilitation - psychologically and otherwise.

This could be the effects of the spoils of war by the boko haram: the hijacked monster that they created. You know, students of psychology will say that "frustration causes aggression".

Its a pity,
but first, let us be sure its not a propaganda by certain party, group, region or even an individual to whip up sentiment and score cheap political points. The statement, if true, CAN NEVER REPRESENT THE OPINION OF ALL NORTHERNERS. After all, some northerners were seen with Jonathan yesterday on the podium for his second term bid. Even here on nairaland, some northerners still support Jonathan's continuity campaign. We've come of age, let's use our heads for once. Habah!

GOD BLESS NIGERIA!!!

This is one problem I have with the APC. So president Jonathan should not declared his intention to run for the office of the president because there was a bomb blast yesterday?? Ok, what if there is bomb blast from now till election, so he will never declare at all??
why not face the issues and leave the person?


NA WA OOOOH!!!

This is one problem I have with the APC. So president Jonathan should not declared his intention to run for the office of the president because there was a bomb blast yesterday?? Ok, what if there is bomb blast from now till election, so he will never declare at all??


NA WA OOOOH!!!

mrofficial:
Who will read all his bullshi.t? Who takes him seriously?

I DID
He is my president, God made him my leader and asked me to respect, obey and pray for him.

For sure, he is not the best president in the world. He has his own weaknesses as our president and much is expected from him, I don't like certain things about him and some of his policies like other Nigerians, but if I must criticize him, I must be constructive in my criticism. I must not criticized him for criticizing sake without a reason.

GOD BLESS NIGERIA!!!

A world class speech. So touching.

Dr. Goodluck, Ebele Azikiwe Jonathan,
May the Almighty God crown all your efforts, strengthen your heart, give you the wisdom to lead this great nation to its days of glory and grants you your heart desires come 2015 in Jesus name, amen.

You shall ride on the increasing intimidation, blackmail, destructive criticism, hatred, propaganda, incisive statements, insults/abuses, terrorism and political gang up against you to new heights like the eagles that settled its wing on the the toughest wind and soared higher. Amen!

GOD BLESS NIGERIA!!!

This is the more reason why people always see us, (the North) as jokers. So our governors now know that they've been "Shifting blames" instead of confronting the insurgency in the measure of their strength while putting heads with the FG??

prophetfire:
The tragic-irony of ken saro-wiwa is that the very oppressors he helped to truncate an equaly just Biafran struggle bcs philip Effiong was made secretary to the govt of biafra instead of him,turned around and murdered him.ojukwu warned him that they plan to waste him when he started his ogoni struggle.

NOT SO MY FRIEND,
Ken-saro wiwa did not joined the Nigeria's side to truncate "the just biafran struggle" out of frustration for the appointment of Phillip Effiong as secretary to the biafran government. They were friends even before the war. NOTE: Phillip Effiong was made secretary to the Biafran government as a desperate attempt to capture the south south (through Cross Rivers and present day Akwa Ibom) to the sea and the Atlantic ocean or gain their sympathy by Ojukwu. Food supply have been cute off by then and they need food, medical attention, more sophisticated weapons to the den gun they were using and access to some foreign country that were sympathetic with the their course. Don't forget that even at this point, there were some few world figure that believed in the Biafran course. Secondly, it was a reconciliatory efforts to gain his already angered friend (Phillip Effiong) who felt let down by Ojukwu for not taking his advice or take him to confidence.

By this time however, Ken-saro wiwa was already in the winning team, the Nigerian side. If Ojukwu had captured the Niger delta, he would have won the war. He want to use the water way to access Lagos.

In any serious nation world wide, history like that of the nigeria civil war are thought in schools (and are found in their school curriculum) for their younger or unborn generation to know where they are coming from, learn some lessons from their past good and bad experiences and plan for the days ahead. Its only a joking nation with questionable intentions that ignored its history or pretend about it.

Yes, the south south were deceived to believe that we are one. Remember, it was during the civil war that they gave off their derivative formula in support of the strong central government to fun the war with the hope and promise of getting it back and getting a better Nigeria of their dreams. What happened after the war is story for the gods. Today, the south is still bagging for a mere 25% derivation but who will give them?? They sold it out to monsters.

The regrets of supporting the war (against their south east sister), the betrayal, the killing of their sons and daughters, the destruction of their land and sea -- their sources of livelihood and feelings of marginalization and silent ecological war rages across the southern (Niger delta) part of the country today.

It is now a matter of struggle for the national cake, but did anyone care that cake are baked in oven (in fierce heat)? The oven is located at the heart of the Niger delta. They suffer the heat. It's a peculiar heat, it burns all aquatic life, it burns the land/soil, it burns the air. Reducing life span of almost everything. They die to keep the soul of Nigeria economy running.

Now, there sons and daughters are there. Any difference?? Hell no. Its like the story of the hungry vulture in the desert -- they keep hope alive but hope never live. What killed hope?? Is it selfishness and greed, corruption, lack of sincere leaders, lack of true patriots with honest democratic principle, lack of vision, how strong is the 'one Nigeria's' foundation to accommodate our questionable marriage and diversity?? I leave that for you to judge.

GOD BLESS NIGERIA!!!

shockwave91:
I don't know hw many people he inspired, but i'm one of dem. Dis doesn't concern only d ogoni rite now, it concerns ALL NIGERIANS!

I am one the people he inspired so much, next to the way Nelson Mandela and other world revolutionist and rights activist inspired me. I have almost all his books/novels in my library -- Forest of flowers, Soza boy, etc.

akereconfi:
Neebueh, olu Khana?

Eehn. Mane, mkana a mua a deede. Kerewo wa doo kor pia nyor-ue a sua.

zendy:
He fought against his Igbo brothers to please his northern pay masters. The northerners then thanked him by hanging him. It's so unfortunate for Ken Saro-Wiwa. Abacha was a no nonsense General who was ready to mow down anybody who was slowing down the flow of oil and Ken was his hit-list.

1025:
HE WAS LUCKY TO HAVE LAST WORDS AS MANY OF THE IGBOS THEY BETRAYED DURING THE BIAFRAN CIVIL WAR HAD NO TIME TO SAY THEIR LAST WORDS.

SO WRONG MY FRIENDS.
Ojukwu got it all wrong. In the first place, what was Ojukwu's plan with the South South and South - West before going to war with Nigeria. What was his plan for the entire East - Igbo. I can tell you from all available facts that even some igbo elite were only conscripted into his Biafra war, were not taken to confidence, briefed for his tactical war plans or allowed to have a say on how to go about the war and win. All he needs to win the war was to create strong ties with the West (Awolowo) and at least captured Lagos. But no, he was so angry and in a hast that he can not wait for the Yorubas and the Niger Delta. Hence the failure and defeat. He never carried them along but wanted them to fight/defend for what they know nothing about. One person alone cannot plan, fight and win war without allies (especially a civil war as it were).

Ken Saro wiwa believed in the oneness of Nigeria, fought to defend its unity. Same with Awolowo. They were not a traitor or betrayers. Ojukwu disrespected elders advice from Awolowo and co. How then do you expect the same people to support him??

Ken Saro Wiwa in his none violent quest to righting the wrongs of inequality, marginalization, ecological war, environmental degradation, pollution of air and waters, constant oil spillage, destruction of the eco system, etc, he sell the idea to the entire people of Ogoni to have a platform called MOSOP - Movement for the Survival of Ogoni People. He coordinated their efforts, sought for international support. But Gen. Abacha was bent on destroying anything that would interrupt his petro-dollar.

Ogoni oil have been locked up since 1993 till date. They might not have achieved much but they're perfect example of how we need to take our destiny into our hands. And achieve it none violently even in the face of increasing intimidation.

LIVE ON, KEN SARO WIWA

LONG LIVE FEDERAL REPUBLIC OF NIGERIA!!!

OrlandoOwoh:
Akien akien pia Ogoni akien . . .

ee wee yira kor nyor-ue a gia e

luka1981:
why now? a threller load of cement is about 800,000 Naira. so why still selling 1k7?

pls can you tell me how many bags of cement are in a trailer load.

Just curious to know pls, thanks.

Nonsensical pieces of nonsense!!!

The success of marriage is not how rosy your dating was, how many years you were a virgin before marriage, how colorful your wedding was, how many times supposedly "an angel" took you to "heaven" just because you are a virgin and God want you (a born again Christian) to marry a Muslim or Christian-to-be, and how many visions you see about your husband-to-be.

Marriage is a practical ground where (marriage) theories are questioned and the twinkle twinkle little star you tell as story above are put to real test. A successful marriage that worth emulation is staying three years or more after your wedding without a child and still hold hand with your (God given) husband without an itch, or celebrate your tenths anniversary without thinking whether he was really the will of God for you or whether the visions was really from God........ may it never be your case, amen.

To me ooh, this story looks fake and if its true, then it very very very early to rejoice over the wind while you're still on the palm tree.

Nonsensical pieces of nonsense!!!

The success of marriage is not how rosy your dating was, how many years you were a virgin before marriage, how colorful your wedding was, how many times supposedly "an angel" took you to "heaven" just because you are a virgin and God want you (a born again Christian) to marry a Muslim or Christian-to-be, and how many visions you see about your husband-to-be.

Marriage is a practical ground where (marriage) theories are questioned and the twinkle twinkle little star you tell as story above are put to real test. A successful marriage that worth emulation is staying three years or more after your wedding without a child and still hold hand with your (God given) husband without an itch, or celebrate your tenths anniversary without thinking whether he was really the will of God for you or whether the visions was really from God........ may it never be your case, amen;

To me ooh, this story looks fake and if its true, then it very very very early to rejoice over the wind while you're still on the palm tree.

I hope and pray that the author will not be assassinated like they did to Walter Rodney - How Europe underdeveloped Africa.

@op, please what is the name/title of this great book and where can I find it??

Allohrandy:
you sound dumb and Stup1d. Its the duty of the president to protect the life of all Nigerians. Do you think its only northerners that have been killed by boko haram? Do you want your family member or you to be killed by bomb blast before you realise that the president has to do more to protect the lives of Nigerians.

@POST,
You can make your argument without insult. Maybe that's how you were brought up - to be violent, aggressive or to force your opinion on people. It could also be as a result of the psychological effects of loosing a close relative or property/displacement to boko haram. Please take heart. We understand your pain. None of us is happy too.

However, in concrete terms, can you be honest to yourself and tell all nairalanders what drastic measures taken so far by governors in the North,
arewas in the North,
political big wig from the North,
former presidents and head of state from the North,
youth from the North,
elders' state men and women from the North and
traditional rulers from the North to end this insurgency.

You may just list them, then let start from there. Waiting. Thank you.

@OP, am a professional, I helped virgin couples in their wedding night. Just makes available the following items,
1, Vaseline
2, a bright light (torchlight preferably)
3, some tissue paper (like two roll)
4, two chains - optional (to hang the two legs if need be)
5, some choc and blackboard (for some theories before the practical)
6, some perfumes, expensive ones (just in case your so so & so have some offensive so so & so)
7, some soap with good odor (for bathing after my work)
8, a feel of twenty million kobo (I don't charge in naira, you can see am not expensive at all).

if interested, email me at: afoolatyourageisafool4eva@oyo.com

Thank me later.

wakacome:
I never get wife,na ur gf I wan marry...

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Chigold101:
Op stop wooping up sentiment please. How many times will he be calling for those meetings? If northern leaders had been a little sincere this thing wont escalate to this.
What u guys want is to hold GEJ hostage, stop him from attending functions. Abegi

Thumbs up bro,
Our Northern elite created boko haram to make Nigeria 'Ungovernable' for president Jonathan before shakau hijacked it. And now they're crying, expecting Jonathan to turned commando or Rambo overnight and rescue them when they have the key to rescue themselves.

Even if am a Northerner and my community is amongst those ruled by boko haram that does not cloud my sense of sound patriotic judgment or make me bias, sentimental and unnecessarily myopic in my reasoning.

So president Jonathan should stop his executive functions, sit down and be crying. How would that change anything??

If winners chapels is 'witch craft church', how would they describe boko haram

wakacome:
[b]....even this man that is the poorest president in the world also had some people around him that puts so much pressure on him and are not happy with his life-style but he did not let their opinion or their pressure change him...so everyone should take responsibility for his/her actions and not try to blame it on someone else...and guess what? do you know that some nigerian leaders and even some leaders at all other countries do not even help people around them not to now talk of trying to please them....now let us be sincere with ourselves and ask once more,how many african president will do that even without financial pressure like you said?do you know that some of our past presidents did not even take care of a lot of people around them even when they were getting the wealth as a president so where is the pressure coming from?

a nigerian president that if possible wants to spend all his life-time to be the president of nigeria so that he can continue to embezzle our money will you say financial pressure made him to become greedy after stealing billions and billions of naira?acquiring private jets for himself and spending lavishly,trust me no one should have an excuse for stealing,greed and bad conscience.

though you made a very good point but whether they put financial pressure on someone or not a greedy man will always be a greedy man,..imagine a very young boy who has become greedy since when he was small even when he had no financial pressure on him and that same boy grew up to become proud,greedy and wants to very wealthy by force would you say financial pressure from people made him become that?[/b]

NICE ONE, MY FRIEND.
With this BRAVE AND CONSTRUCTIVE ARGUMENT, you deserve a very hot, sexy kiss from your girlfriend or wife tonight With your type, there's still hope for my nation - Nigeria.

GOD BLESS NIGERIA!!!....

CoretGistBlog:
One thing with human is that you cant satisfy everybody ..well you can curse as much as you can, its either you were ignorant to follow the instructions properly or you just feel like cursing

U get dis kain talent to b angry at any slightest comment or joke naim u no go luk 4 job in nollewood??

abeg park well jare!

plucky16:
A thief will always be a thief regardless of the pressure....

But we still have a responsibility to make them less thievery

grinface98:
True talk, mate! *Thumbs up*

Thanks bro. Modified, thumbstake

BUT SERIOUSLY,
the attitude and mindset of Nigerians need to change towards political office holders or elected officials and our leaders if we must achieve this in Nigeria. I witnessed a situation in Nigeria where a sitting president send his younger sister parking from the presidential resident (villa), and had serious trouble with his wife for using his name/office to accept gifts, gratifications, contracts from individuals, companies, party leaders, etc, and for an unholy political romance with some governors and state party leaders. This family issue brought in royal fathers, political big wig and elders from the region to settle. They told him (the president) that THIS IS OUR TIME. And you know they say blood is ticker than water.

How can Nigerian citizens fight corruption this way and still complained about leaders