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Family / Re: A Woman, Who Cannot Tolerate, Organize & Change A Man, Is Not Worthy Of A Man. by Donald3d(m): 6:33pm On May 10, 2020 |
Its also safe to turn the tables. Many Nigerian men keep asking for what they can't give or do . 14 Likes 1 Share
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Romance / Re: My Parents Won't Allow Me Marry Outside My Tribe by Donald3d(m): 6:17pm On May 10, 2020 |
You need to understand that you are now a man and no one should make decisions for you. If you allow anyone control who you marry, you would keep bowing to their pressures and control even after you get married. Take your stand ! . But be very sure that she is a good choice. You are good to go. Make your mom see reasons why you are making a valid choice. Make her see what you see in her. 5 Likes |
Family / Re: Would You Pay A Premarital Coach? by Donald3d(m): 6:16pm On May 10, 2020 |
Its a great idea. Churches already do this. You can read your bible too, there are so many powerful principles in there to have a wonderful marriage.It has practically everything you need. You can also buy good books about marriage. 3 Likes |
Business / Re: Kaduna and Abuja record 5 fresh COVID-19 deaths by Donald3d(m): 9:16am On May 10, 2020 |
People with misinformation sef . Who told you Yudala lost to Konga ? The owner of Yudala "bought" Konga . If you pay attention you would see Konga changed most of its colors to Yudala colors . Google Leo Stan Ekeh However if you wish to be bigger than Jijiii , you can. You just have to do what is right. Its possible, but its definitely not easy. |
Science/Technology / Re: The Owl's Long Legs by Donald3d(m): 8:32pm On May 09, 2020 |
15-16 Stay safe folks 2 Likes |
Family / Re: False Prophets by Donald3d(m): 8:27pm On May 09, 2020 |
Be your own prophet, Jesus has made it easy. Hook up to the Holy Spirit 1 Like |
Family / Re: I Need Help Pls by Donald3d(m): 8:26pm On May 09, 2020 |
Chidebless111:You're welcome I just don't want you to read advises here and still fail to act. Please for the sake of your daughter and for yourself. Please leave, and be very smart and discreet about it, so he or no one else would know. Please ACT 2 Likes |
Family / Re: I Need Help by Donald3d(m): 8:23pm On May 09, 2020 |
I responded to you on your other thread, please read it 1 Like |
Family / Re: I Need Help Pls by Donald3d(m): 7:54pm On May 09, 2020 |
Chidebless111: We need to understand something very clearly with relationships of any kind. NEVER TOLERATE OR ENDURE A TOXIC PERSON I want you to do something for yourself, close your eyes, picture yourself going through this same maltreatment everyday for the rest of your life. How does the picture look ? Picture this again, some years from now , he flings an object at you, but this time around it doesn't land on you, it hits your daughter in the eye leading to permanent blindness. Would you forgive yourself ? I could go on and on I am not trying to wish you bad, but these are possible scenarios that can occur with a toxic person. There are so many other terrible possibilities. Things most likely won't end well. Not only does he not care about you, his mother doesn't value you either. You are sleeping in a den filled with lions and poisonous snakes. I understand your thinking "he is the father of my child". No sis, he is just a sperm donor. You need to rewire your mentality and constantly remind yourself that you should never do anything or stay in a place where the disadvantages and risks outweigh the current or potential advantages or benefits. Life, marriage or any relationship of any kind, should not be endured, it should be enjoyed. Even if it needs to be endured, there should be love mixed with endurance. Love is obviously non-existent where you are. You are surrounded by hatred . I am worried about your mental health I am worried about the child. He is committing a crime, he should be punished for it. You deserve to be treated right, remember that. If you are in Lagos, the lock down isn't strict anymore, move to your mom's house . His mother can do nothing to you, involve not just your mom, but other respectable male figures in your family. 6 Likes |
Family / Re: I Feel Like Quitting My Relationship Because Of This by Donald3d(m): 7:41pm On May 09, 2020 |
I wanted to say you should speak to her about it but you said this : endeavor: I would have also loved to ask you to tell us her benefits or what she does right, but from all you posted, she lacks too many basic characteristics of a marital partner. Keep trying to talk to her, this time give her an ultimatum (in your mind, don't tell her the ultimatum). Don't make the big mistake of marrying her without her making changes in line with your very salient requirements. If after about another 6 months, there is no sign of progress or at least an attempt to make progress, its time to share the grace. 7 Likes |
Art, Graphics & Video / Re: Smudge Painting by Donald3d(m): 5:48pm On May 09, 2020 |
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Family / Re: Should You Obey Ignorant Parents?? by Donald3d(m): 9:10pm On May 08, 2020 |
Listen to the Holy Spirit He is the best teacher and director 31 Likes 2 Shares |
Properties / Re: Fire Burns Shops, Cars In Ibadan. Two Feared Dead by Donald3d(m): 8:15pm On May 08, 2020 |
Art, Graphics & Video / Re: Ace Nigerian Stop Motion Artist Creates Covid-19 Awareness Video With Salt by Donald3d(m): 7:40pm On May 08, 2020 |
Family / Re: 1 Year Of Marriage And 2 Kids My Wife Has Had Never Post Any Of My Pics by Donald3d(m): 5:46pm On May 08, 2020 |
I was about to say it isn't important and you shouldn't bother yourself about it, but I have learnt something in marriage, everything is important . So, let's dissect your issue starting from the root. I believe starting from the root is the best way to solve problems, to prevent a recurrence. Let's start with WHY Why do you want her to share your pictures ? 1. Is it because you want to do what others are doing (the ones you are jealous of). You want online validation ? 2. Or is it because you feel she doesn't love you enough, because she isn't sharing your pictures. If your answer is number one. You really need to rethink this Sir. Online validation no dey help anybody. Its a gathering of people who really don't care about you or how much you or your wife love each other. It would put your family under unnecessary stress to "keep up" with what everyone else is doing. You would be subconsciously pushed into basing your love for each other on what people's perception of what your love for each other should be . I hope this isn't confusing. If your answer is number 2, you really need to take it easy with her and also treat her "issues" from the root. Ask her WHY , in a very calm manner, without looking or sounding judgmental. You need to communicate your worries to her and what you would like her to do and WHY you want her to do it. Also listen carefully to why she hasn't posted your pictures. You would be shocked to get replies like "I don't want anyone to steal you from me ". Just ask her, in a respectful manner. Away from your concerns and your worries, please understand that people show love in different ways. Look around you carefully, everyday, and see other ways she is showing you love, apart from uploading your picture online. Offline show of love is always more real than showing it online. Because its done out of selflessness(because no one is watching).Most (not all) people who constantly post their families or spouses online are just looking for online validation, an invisible competition to see who can display love the most. Of what use is it, when love is shown online and you are not treated right offline. What I am trying to say Sir is, while you try to find out why she isn't sharing your pictures, appreciate the other ways she is showing you love offline, because at the end of the day, that is what really counts. 29 Likes 2 Shares |
Science/Technology / Re: Arctic Dinosaur Dominated Northern Latitudes Of The World 70 Million Years Ago by Donald3d(m): 3:32pm On May 08, 2020 |
Family / Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by Donald3d(m): 6:35pm On May 07, 2020 |
aywhy93:Ok thanks |
Family / Re: Tear Your Pillow Today, You Never Can Tell What You’ll Find In It [photo] by Donald3d(m): 6:34pm On May 07, 2020 |
This is disgusting ....Chai
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Health / Re: Lagos Records 2 COVID-19 Deaths by Donald3d(m): 5:29pm On May 07, 2020 |
Family / Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by Donald3d(m): 4:54pm On May 07, 2020 |
aywhy93: Thanks bro. I appreciate your feedback. I would have loved to know the brand of the battery. Can you kindly look at the body ? It should be inscribed somewhere . How many years have you been using the battery for ? 1 Like |
Computers / Re: Help With File Transfer by Donald3d(m): 4:52pm On May 07, 2020 |
SeedofDavid:No you don't need to Its quite easy Someone wrote a tutorial here on Nairaland It should help https://www.nairaland.com/4260570/check-out-how-connect-xender |
Family / Re: Pelumi Fadodun: Missing Boy (Pictured) by Donald3d(m): 12:00am On May 07, 2020 |
I pray he is found safe and ok in Jesus name 180 Likes 8 Shares |
Family / Re: Cockroaches Infestation by Donald3d(m): 11:59pm On May 06, 2020 |
medexico:Sniper...Mixed in the right proportions with water and a pump spray container would do the job...Please keep away from children or depressed people, its very dangerous. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by Donald3d(m): 10:43pm On May 06, 2020 |
aywhy93: Please break down the components of your setup How many KVA inverter and what brand How many AH battery and what brand Is there a solar panel ? How many watts Please give as much details as possible. Thanks in anticipation. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: I'm scared of Marriage. Married People, What Do You Think? Share Your experience by Donald3d(m): 10:40pm On May 06, 2020 |
thehedge:Bless you too ma'am |
Family / Re: I'm scared of Marriage. Married People, What Do You Think? Share Your experience by Donald3d(m): 10:40pm On May 06, 2020 |
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Family / Re: I'm scared of Marriage. Married People, What Do You Think? Share Your experience by Donald3d(m): 10:40pm On May 06, 2020 |
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Family / Re: I'm scared of Marriage. Married People, What Do You Think? Share Your experience by Donald3d(m): 10:39pm On May 06, 2020 |
missyojo:Thank you ma'am |
Family / Re: How Can She Get Her Property Back? by Donald3d(m): 7:05pm On May 06, 2020 |
Wow !!. 1 Like |
Family / Re: I'm scared of Marriage. Married People, What Do You Think? Share Your experience by Donald3d(m): 5:57pm On May 06, 2020 |
GOFRONT: It isn't overrated. Most people aren't just doing it right. Most people go into it with the wrong mentality Most people go into it with selfishness and not selflessness. Of course its not going to be a smooth ride, but being with the right person makes the ride smoother. 13 Likes 4 Shares |
Family / Re: I'm scared of Marriage. Married People, What Do You Think? Share Your experience by Donald3d(m): 5:40pm On May 06, 2020 |
I shared in your fears at a point, until I got enlightened. I would share what I have learnt EDIT : -You have to first of all value yourself. If you don't, no one would value you. -You have to have good value, its different from valuing yourself. A thief might value himself, but he definitely doesn't have value. -You also have to ask yourself if you are worth marrying. Many men focus on marrying wife materials, but they are not husband materials. Are you a husband material ? -You have to be ready to be selfless, if you are not, marriage isn't for you. -You have to know what you want in a spouse. If you don't know what you want, how would you know when you see it. -If you are a Christian, you need to tell God to direct you. Pray for wisdom and the spirit of discernment. -God might not show you a dream or vision of your wife, that's why you need the above. When you see her, and study her for a while, with divine direction and discernment, you would just know. -Marry someone who is going to give you peace, without it, nothing else would make sense. -Make sure she is your friend first, if she isn't your friend first, when an issue comes up it would be difficult to resolve. Your friendship with each other makes you miss each others company. You wouldn't be able to stay too long without talking to your friend. This makes conflict resolution easier and quicker. - Make sure she is also selfless. Marriage with two selfless people is the sweetest. - Third party ruins things. Everybody apart from the two of you are third party. This includes your pastor, your parents , your siblings. No one should live in your house. -Pray together, always. -During courtship, don't cloud your judgment with romantic love and sex. This is why building true friendship is the most important. Anyone can give you romantic love and sex, not everyone can be a friend and a partner. -Make sure, you aren't a lazy person, don't marry a lazy person. Its not restricted to physical laziness, it includes spiritual and mental laziness -Make sure she makes you happy, synonymous to peace of mind. -Make sure she has value and can give value. If I remember any other, I would include it. EDIT -IN choosing the right person, you have to pay attention to their verbal and non verbal communication. You have to watch closely how they treat other people, especially people who have nothing to offer them. This is one of the best ways to know a selfless person 36 Likes 7 Shares |
Travel / Re: Nigerian Woman Gives Birth On Repatriation Flight From UAE by Donald3d(m): 5:13pm On May 06, 2020 |
Anytime I see the word 'baby' .This is the picture that always comes to mind 50 Likes 4 Shares
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