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Most female teenagers just really want to "belong". They wana feel loved and know what its like to be in a relationship. No matter how chaste they decide to keep themselves, yet the urge to love and be love cant just go away. Then, they start tripping, and falling in love.. Too bad, we all knw the end result of it, HEARTBREAK!!

Now as a brother, and a friend, i would like to share few relationship tips for young girls who really want to go into a relationship so they will avert unwanted heartbreaks rendered by these "selfish" guys

1. Set your boundaries

Yes, u read me right, set your boundaries! And i mean it. If you are really going to have a relationship with dat guy whom u think or deceiving urself u love well for now, u gotta set some boundaries.. You have your heart to gaurd so u wouldnt like it to be thrown to the dogs! Yes! Dogs! If its gona be a no sex relationship, then make him know ur stand on it. Of course u may allow other intimate connections like hugs and kisses, buh be wise enough to understand that one thing always leads to another .. So dnt fool urself in that aspect.

Secondly, you two should agree on times of visits. Never ever visit him when he is alone at home, anything can happen. Should you two wana see eachoda, let it be at a mutual place. Remember, you are still a teen! Neva forget that!

2. Let ur siblings be aware of your "friendship" with him

Why do i say this, its very very important for your sibling (elder brother or sister) that is if you have one, buh if you are d eldest and you are still a teen, pls its advisable to let your cousin whom you are close to knw abt ur rship with him. They always will give u good advice whenever u feel confused about something in your relationship and will always keep you in the right steps, do not feel that you are all knowing, therefore u dont need anyone's advice. Cuz many guys out thr are cunning and you wouldnt want to get heartbroken! They have seen it all and will ever be in the best position to tell you the gospel truth.


3. Play mind games

Now what do i mean by mind games? This is simply what it means. You really have to know what his intentions are for you! His intentions may be that he likes you for your money(incase you come from a rich family) or he wants to just have sex with you, thereby he always compliments you on your physical looks. Or that he may be the "insecure" type. You really have to think one step ahead of him in your relationship with him. Its very easy for you to knw if a guy really has ulterior motives or not.. You only just have to put foward to him intriguing questions to deduce facts.


4. Never be the victim
Should you wish to engage in a relationship that involves serious intimacy (sex inclusive) please and please, dnt be silly. When he says oh please, let me just put it insyd for a minute, ask him to wear a condom first. And insist on it. Never ever be taken away by pleasure that you will forget to ask him to wear a condom, u dont want ur future to be wasted. I get pissed everytime i read stories about how small girls get pregnant, you dont want to become a statistic! Unwanted pregnancies could only reduce if the girls either said no and meant it, or strictly insisted on him using a condom.

5 Neva give in to your fantasies

Now, every young girl be like oh, i want a guy who has dis, who has that, who has six packs, who behaves badly, who is famous, etc. most times, your fantasies contribute to your heartbreak! There are quite a number of good boys out there in your class or department who are nice enough, sincere, focused. Wehn u ask them what are their long term goals, you will be surprised to hear responsible answers from them, now these are the kinds of guys you ought to be dating and not your "fantasy boyfrnd" ..


6. The sweetest guy may turn out to be the devil

Now, this is the most important. He swept you off your feet, he was so so sweet with words, his smiles, oh my gosh, killing. His character, mehn, u could literally just want to have him for breakfast! And then, he broke your heart! sorrry! Now leme point this out to you, guys can go to any length, be the sweetest guy on earth just to take advantage of your heart and leave you for the next girl. Please be mindful of such guys. Not all that glitters is gold, there is more to it, than it meets the eye. Should you have this kind of guy as a boyfriend, please play the guess game. He shouldnt not know that you are falling for him always because of his sweet attitude towards you, rather, play the mystifying girlfrnd character.

As time goes on, i will update.

Monalisa185:

tief... U stole my ftc

PunkyVeer:
...

dah babe is damn ugly

Rubbish posts grace frontpage everyday

Maxi112:
bro! she is right ooooo.... if I where on her shoe I will do same

u still dont get it do u...

PunkyVeer:
Most of the ones on this section are so immature, they don't deserve to even hump a leg

I think it'd depend on his personality & the kind of comments he makes. If he's the mouthy type that only talks about yansh all day & everyday, probably not.

punkyveer cmon, u havnt met dem offline yet. Most online personalities are very much distinct from reality, even the likes of durentt, darven etc may be responsible guys in reality.. So dnt eva judge

Oliviaarims:
Why do u ask?

i liked ur comment.. I also want to knw if u'd consider a date sometime

Oliviaarims:
Yea, truly, it's a pathetic situation. I wonder how they manage to cope with such a lifestyle. I detest being unnecessarily indebted to anybody. When I've never taken even a pin from u, I can tell u to get off my line when u strt talking trash, tell u absolutely how I feel about ur statements nd actions without remorse., I'm under no obligation to hang out with u or invite u to my house.. Can ignore ur calls whenever I please... I've got no reason to make excuses or apologies for my actions.. Free to do what pleases me.. That's just the life.. Independence and detachment.. Lol


I'm respectful and considerate, though. But u've just got 2 be worth it.

are u married?

AmiLaHoit:
That was how I introduced this church member of mine to my colleague and all she did was beg him for money for hair, money for keeps, dinner etc. Until the guy gently walked away from her, found a decent gurl and had his traditional marriage last week Saturday.
The other guy I also tried to match her up to, recognized her and said he sees her at CMS waiting for a lift rather than take a bus to work in d mornings. The very first day she also met him in my house, even in d rain she requested to be taken to a nearby pepper soup joint. I WAS SO SO ASHAMMED
The idiot gurl wants to come to my house and spend d weekend and I have been avoiding her cos I am upset with her and embarrassed.

Planning on when I will seat her down and tell her why those guys walked away without asking her for even sex. because they are decent and does not need such girl around them. She is even lucky they are focused.
She feels being slim and fair will give her a man. Her life style won't!!! Never!!!

lol and she will continue to visit several chrurches for delivarance onto husband things... Simple thing to change her lifestyle she wont do.

Jolllyjoy:

why the face, she is right..

Aminat508:
Love is a strong feeling of affection.

E.g Am in love with orente419

lol love isnt a feeling.. Its an act in itself. A doing word, smth for a good cause.

Nice one brother.. Did dey forget to enta the bus with tfare? Iranu..

Its gona be very disasterous if the babe in question is gvn it to another guy while she keeps u in the dark.. God will just punish her

Nice one merlissa


Cc
Mrsphyno
Eroticangelina
Jollyjoy
Estharfabian
Nevi12

Merlissa's posts are always just on point....


Buh the problem is this, female teenagers wont just heed to advice. Cuz they r the ones that are very very vulnerable to "playboys" even if they think they are dat wise enough.


The fact is this, teenage girls will always always get heartbroken at one point. Unless they stay away from guys until dey graduate from university.

mykemiley:
End time ministers

still people patronize them.. Sadly enough

Oh my gosh... i rather eat millipede mehn

Na wa to u oo...

House of reps members jumping fence

And after these girls will b comin in nairaland and b formin Behind for us.. Nonsense



Cc; nigerianium, falconey, agarawu23, tosyne2much, ronald4lif

christinie:
These are the things Obama should worry about, not trying to forcing homosexuality down to our throats.


FTC and am not even bragging lolz.

u just did

Jollyjoy:
omg,wait is this the sonofmark that pass through a higher institution,,,,,now this is shameful! Continually fail jamb?lolz!am in school already,looking forward to judging your case one of these days....lollllz!....talk of flat arse.... Hmmm am sure uploading my full pix will got you masturbating and self servicing...lolllzzz,as a matter of fact,you are nt trying at all,your mate are trying to make headways in life you are here exchanging words with a lady who already got things working for her........you are a dsgrace!!

[size=20pt]don't you ever make d mistake of uploading ur pix.... We know you are ugly already! U dnt neeed to remind us of that fact.[/size]

Girls and desperation....

Some pastors will end up in hell

I don run from lagos go portaicourt.

A mother of three babies

A virgin

A rapist


An undergraduate

A stowaway


A sluttty bitch


A good boy


A good girl

A hawker

okosodo:
After killing enough o

st paul killled millions of christains, where do u think he is nw? Yeah u guessed right ..


That's hw abundant the mercy of d lord is.. Oh ye boko haramist, return to d lord and ye shall be forgiven

bukatyne:
How early is early?

Some married at 18 and are still going strong.

only a handfew of them

zainyola:
Hell yeah

I dnt think so

khukhi:
She's very pretty hey...Nthabiseng. She just acts really ghetto..like we need to hide our cosmetic bags when she's around cause she's really dangerous about everything...food.liquor and she can make a man spend hey. But maybe that isn't a bad thing after all.

its a bad thing... No man will like to take her out

Rapmoney:
Thanks bro

yea.. U welcome.. Promise not to derail