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FireUpNow:
Hold on to what you believe in but as for me it's nor normal but who ever wants to cheat let him or her do it but even our marriage laws permit divorce on the ground of cheating and adultery. Is the law wrong too?

Dude, Stop Being Childish ... Cheating, Prostitution, Adultery, Fornication, Marriage & Divorce has been existing Since Life Itself ....

Na Una Dey Emotionally Attached Importance to all The Social Phenomenon which has Always Been Part & Parcel of Human:

Simply Stick to What Your Emotions Can Bear & leave Others to their Deals ....

Nevertheless, The Fact That You Don't Fornicate/Adultery/Prostitution Doesn't Make Your Life Better off than Those who Do or You Would Make Heaven or Hell Ahead of Them ...

Almighty God is Much More Reasonable Than Humanities also Principle-Based Not Mere Rules Like Mosaic Laws .... That's The Messages of Jesus !

Reality is Reality .... People dey Fvck Anyhow Since Year 0 & That Wouldn't Stop Forever Hoha !

SHIVA001:
Tell big wiz. Davido or burna boy to be careful of who they sleep with, na when poverty don show you shege you go Dey reason like mumu.

.... Poverty Comes with Certain Levels of Depressions & Retardations That's Make Most See Mental Disorder as Spiritual Problems .... !

Most Africans are Ignorant & Lack of Knowledges is the reason for Poverty !

Nevertheless, Illicit Sexual Intercourse is not Meant for Lilly-Livered, Your World would turn Upside Down Due to Hyper Secretions of "Feel Good Hormones" Making Your Mental Spheres to Lose Focus & The Problems Start Popping Which Most Of You Deluded Men Alludes to The Girl Carrying Bad Luck !

Evestar200:
How do you expect ladies to be free to share their stories when what most nairalanders guys do every day is bash and insult Nigeria women at every opportunity.

I shared my story on one thread on Monday and one idiot insulted me, I insulted him back and he reported me to the mod and I was banned for five days.

Now tell me if I will be happy to share my story on Nairand again.

Abi Now !

Gadafii:
Na men go later dominate this thread, nairaland ladies dey hardly talk for this kind thread

Una no dey let them talk na .. Na so Judgements from Every Corners as if Na una create Heaven & Hell to Cast All African Women !

pansophist:
Your question is like a salt asking how to attract flies when the salt can transform into sugar.

I don't get the idea of wooing. Relationships for men may be logical (eg she is virtuous, she has a good heart, etc), but for women, it is emotional. Toasting is appealing to her logic while attracting is appealing to her emotion.

You don't woo, you attract. As you are searching for a wife, lots of ladies are searching for a husband. Understand what women want in a man (can be slightly different depending on the society), and be that man.

Here comes the twist. There may be some natural constraints that may prevent you from being an attractive man (e.g., if you aren't tall, not handsome, etc), but you may compensate for it with other qualities.

Universally, a timeless quality a man can have, that will attract the best of women is to have the ability to give her absolute security. So it would be your ability to provide financially, emotionally, and sexually. Yep, sexual security is a thing lol.

SO throw off that idea of toasting, it doesn't work. All you will do is entertain and make her marvel at your wordplay, but in the end, she will go with a man she is attracted to and who offers security.

So you should have been spending your previous years preparing for when you want to get married, to be able to exchange your quality as a desirable man for the kind of woman you want.

I mean, if toasting works, women won't be having one-night stands with men they met the same day, still chasing after men that clearly do not want them, or cheating after getting married.

I don't think I have ever toast in my life. It's too lame lol. I will just be the best I can be (more like sharpening my sword), then choose from the pool of women that already finds me attractive. Then it's a perfect match in heaven.

If you are doing it wrong, you will think there is something wrong with you, because it's like driving to Abuja and expecting to land in Cotonou. But if you do it rightly, it's a matter of months, and you will be so confused about which women to pick.

Just as your problem is how to woo/get a woman, some men's problem is that they are indecisive, due to so many options from home and away. They just decided to be single and settle with concubines lol.

Even if He attracts But Doesn't know how to Put Out the Right Words He would still Fail with Women !

You missed all his Questions With Your Long Posts ...

Person no sabi Put 5 & 6 Together Because He is a Coward-Lilly-Livered-Feeble-Hearted You are Teaching Him to Attract ....

Of Course Women would flocks him Once They Find him attractive But How would he take it On Afterwards That's His Question !

He is a Boy in a Man Not a Man Yet !

The Power of Attractions is the Reason why Many Men fell into Generations Poverty Because They are Easily Swindled By Street-Wise Woke Women ....

Op, Make it a Target to Approach atleast Two Women Daily Regardless of The Consequences Whether They Gree or Nor Gree ... Your Mental Faculty Would Train You on the Rest Base on Lessons & Experiences.... Learn from Your Mistakes & Consolidate on Your Strengths.... Your Heart Will Beat Faster at this Point But Once You Show Your Body-Systems That's what You wanna Do, Adaptations would kick in & Your Body would Obliged Your souls !

Becareful Though to Avoid Being Addictive.. Once You Become Pro in the Game of Wooing By Learning Games Everything Become so simple and Easy like Semovita On Okro Soup !

FireUpNow:
Can you accept your partner cheating since things are hard.

Dude Religion Teaches Us Perfection While The World is Imperfect, Almighty God has Done what Almighty God Should Do Meanwhile We Have to Adapt ....

There are alot of Psychological Factors Underpinning Cheating & Mostly It's not a Rule of Black & White like Most Religion Fanatics & Hell-Doom-Propagandist Would Paint Immoralities!

I wouldn't Accept My Patner to Cheat But Whereof She Cheats, that's not the end of the world nor the end of our relationship ...

I would Just redraw The Relationship to Include "Others" & Make a Decision Afterwards Which is Personal to Me Depending on the Circumstances!

FireUpNow:
This generation is morally corrupt even the married ones fvck like dogs. Married women going haywire and married think with their preeqs.

Wetin You wan make dem Do .... Marital Responsibilities is now much Harder than Before & the Financial resources to meet Marital Needs couldn't be Bore By the Man of the Family Alone Making The Woman to go extra miles .....

Once Economic is Hard what is Happening is a Normal Norms & Once there is Boom Every one will Reset to Normalcy!

Dem sha no go die of Depressions.... While The Rich Ones Married to Irresponsible Ones that have abandoned them for Eon times no go just dey like that....

As Mouth Dey Chop, The Private Part too must Chop ... That's the Realities of our present world, Simply Stay Off If You Can't Deal ... !

jericco1:
Well you guys should channel same energy into making the country a better place. .
I'm not in support of sexual immorality but I think the topic has been over saturated.

There are better things we should talk about.

Like how do we bridge the gap between the rich and the poor and how to make the world a better place.

The Pastors That are Scamming The Church in the Name of Prosperity are Worst that Adultery & Fornication...

If not for Sugar Daddy, Many Girls would have Perished to the Poverty Created By their Parents ....

Mental & Emotional Hacking is Much More a Menance to Our Society than Sexual Immoralities But The Holier Than Thou Wouldn't See That than People Fvcking Each Other .....

Many Ills befallen our Societies Not Just Sex !

DJBIGGY:
Immoral sex has always been there. It's social media that's exposing it the more. In the old days, everything was done on a low key and no social media handle was there to open nyash

You dey Mind them .. People been fvcking under cassava tree since year 0 na Gen Z just Blossom Everything due to Internet & Social Media ...

Everything Rapture, Rapture as if Una dey there when God Created Earth & Una God dey when Earth Go Blow-Off !

jackcanfield:
The Nigeria side too many entourage, the Paris side little entourage, even the convoy sane. We have to make our country secure enough for the President to walk alone.

Matured Enough not Secured Enough !

festacman:
Dangote always presents Bill Gates to each president. There must be something.

Both are Friends!

Coolsat:
Wike is of no good to any party, he should remain in PDP.

Wike is a Progressive thus He is Better with Tinubu and APC:

DevilsEqual:
Its not about being religious or not...The fundamental knowledge to know the difference between right and wrong is naturally implanted in every human from birth

Moralists may not make the cut as some people would feel moralists dont have the right to tell them what is wrong but in the end...

These things are unnatural, regardless of what school of thought u belong, you may be cool with the LGBT thing but you cant be cool with teaching these lil kids all of these at a very young age...it could disrupt their mental development

The same kid would bring down the west in the foreseeable future!

You can Only Bend Nature But Can't Defeat Nature ...

ChronicGp:
An African man doesn't marry one (1) wife.

Olohun !
Original African(Negro) Man ooo Not Europeanised(Caucasian) African Man ...

Mindlog:
Then in their later years when their children are grown and left the house, those people outside are long gone, same men would accuse the wives they ignored in their youth of now ignoring them in their old age as their wives have divested emotionally.

This is just it !

Jossyfine:
All the comments above have not actually hit the nail in the right place. The major issue is that African marriages are not laced with romance and affection.
How do I mean?
* Most couple stop showing affection to each other once they start bearing kids and over see finish has crawled into their marriage.
* African couples rarely make out for themselves alone in terms of going on dates ( at least once in a while)
* Marriage is what you put in it ,that’s what you get, you should learn to do things together ie weekends both man and wife can create time to put the huz in order( not by force) but with love cuz it creates bond between couples.
*You can create low budget vacation for just you both without the kids.
*Once in a while try having sex outside the huz, look for an affordable hotel around ur area and maybe do just one night.
* Marriage shouldn’t be about the kids, cuz have noticed what most couple talk about the kids, bills and family issues.Spice it up a little and gist about ur selves, probably the sex you had the previous night😜
* Let there be stewardship ( you guys should always review ur attitude towards each other by asking if each is meeting up expectations etc)*

*Most African couple rarely send romantic messages unlike when they were dating when most times you wake up to see sweet soul piercing messages from ur lover. But in marriage all the messages are for purchases of huz hold items.

Marriage is sweet but not in Africa. Africa marriages are very boring😭

Am just wondering how I survived 10 freaking years 😳😳😳and it’s still counting 😔

Marriage No get Manual oo ...
Just Place Your Marriage on Almighty God & Your Maturities Shikena!

LaRosa01:
church marriage na scam,emotional marriage also scam.
three things for marrage
1)RESPECT very very important,without it no man can love any women,he can only bear you for a while.
2) character,that is what sustains marriages ,that emotional feeling go expire but the character na the real deal
3)understanding,once you and your partner understand una self,na paddi relationship be that,nobody fit use una head rather na una go dey use people play.let me give you a case study,I know someone him and wife marry,them they get issues for bed.some times the wife no go like make him touch am,some other time she want head only nothing else.one day him tell the woman ,you better come straight with me or this marriage go end.she come tell am say she dey fear to talk the man start to pack bag,na him the woman come open mouth say the thing is she is into girls but she like the man pass anything just say him no fit do am as her girls fit ,brother shock leave bag go drink for like three days because him no reason him wife like so,when he return him tell him wife well ,na me get you mean say any woman when touch you,I must touch am.so na there understanding be that,they are 12 Years married now 2 kids and I swear,if you see two of them ,na like 2 paddi dey leave.nobody fit run them street.

Dem Be Partner in Crime Now

Hhansome:
Rest on chief!

And to these young women killing our gallant men with sex. E no good oh! Please stop!

He was killed by Drugs

Lucky5000:
She use my power bank to charge her own power bank

Gisos

illiteratepmb:
She told me that she would be the one to enjoy my money when I die. Her dad actually died early and her mum has been the one taking care of the properties he left behind.
I was like .....this lady will push me to my death just to take charge of my wealth.
Precious na you go die several times before me o

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Una no go kill person on this Nairaland ....

Gattuzo05:
She potrayed a good character in the first three weeks of the relationship, later I realized tlshe can drink a whole crate , 12 bottles of any beer , no specific brand. Any gin , rum, vodka name it. But her good character kept me going and I think I can work on her drink habit. Fast forward to third month, she told me one day when we were watching a movie (sex scene) together that she prefer rough sex, like someone to hang her leg with rope , stuff her mouth with clothes, do anything to make her uncomfortable and keep nacking her, I asked her again if she was serious and she said yeah. Later that night , I tried it with her and she was happy, she drank 4 or more bottles of Goldberg that night during the romp. It was during the course of us having the sex that she made a statement that still rings in my ears till today...she said " Ki nti é ri Igbo dié puff bayii" ( make I see small Indian hemp smoke) I smiled over it like nothing happened knowing fully well that I can't continue with her because she has the skill of shocking you with weird habit of hers gradually without thinking it's a big deal.

Damn, You met a Mentally Disorder Pablo Escobar Daughter ....

She yaff Broken Finished ... Abusive Background

Runnerzz:
They will swear even if u catch them under penis sweating and being pounded, they will still try to explain to u its not what u saw. And a man who is an imbe.cile will start doubting what he saw like maybe it's his imagination

Hilarious.... All Men has come

incandescentena:
That's the standard

Nice one.



I remember Atiku's son married Nuhu Ribadu's daughter, and Bola Ahmed Tinubu was the chairman at the Event.




Die for these politicians at your own peril

Na Family Businesses, Dem go Settle am within themselve

KingOfIsoko1:
Nothing to applaud here,

It’s simple economics

Not Many People have the Heart nor Righteousness to do it for our Sinking Nation !

Nigeria shall rise again!

luminouz:
K

Oloshi

proeast:
Nigerians thought Buhari was the most nepotistic ruler to ever to president over this country, but they're going to be shocked. His successor is about to beat his record.

This man once said he doesn't believe in one Nigeria and his actions are already proving it. Everything about him reeks of ethnocentrism. From using tribal phrases to promotion of ethnic sentiments in his region. Now, he has commenced the full yorubanization of Nigeria. He removed Emefiele and replaced him with a yorubaman, not minding that there were more qualified Hausa and Igbo as directors!

Deja Vu right?

Now he has suspended NNPC GMD, Nigerians should also expect another Yoruba man to replace him.

The situation reminds me of a mad man with lighter in a gas station!

Wailing Wailer ... !

zangaozanga:
this is very nice,i think some things are worth more than money,e.g time and knowledge

This is what is Expected from All Japa People ... Come Back to Impact & Replicate What You Have Seen But Na Complain & Complain Dem dey talk About UK is this, US is That, Canada ain't Sheee

Westerhoffe:
And these are the same people telling us to embrace LGBTQ… while polygamy is a crime… right?

Well, only fools like them can be deceived and misled by them.

Me I'm an African Man ... We Love Our Women and Take Good Care of Them All !

wolesmile:
Most of these white people need psychological reevaluation.

Black People Nko ...

See The Beauty of Humanities.....

Her Brain just Dey Reverse & Forward Match Anyhow !

luminouz:
K

Ur Papa Left Nyansh!
U no go grow above "K" .. ...

E ja wo Lapon Tioyo ... Redpiller na Beginning of Irresponsible Shamelessness Man !

Una Wan Dey Fvck Person Daughters Intestines Without Lubricating Her Mindsets!

Poor Boys

luminouz:
See your bald head like luminouz with Z

A man should ONLY take care of his wife....that's his woman and his responsibility.

If you don't agree, then meet me for a bottle of beer and let's drink ourselves to death.

A Man Should take Care of His Women Europeanised-African Lazy Bas.tards Licking Oyinbo Asses Up & Down ....Dem just dey Turnioniwon Una Brain ....

Boys are the Simps Which is Normal While Men Manned Their Worlds & Environments.. Mould Boys into Men Not Making them to become Toxic hating their Fellow Gender !

All these Redpilling, Incels, MGOTW, Homosexual etc are Oyinbos Ways of Responding to their Women Favoured Systems thus Any African Using such Nonsense is a Bastard Because Here we Care for Our Women as a Man Na Why Many Irresponsible Men Plenty Here ... Fvck, Give Belle & Run leaving Mothers & Kids to the Street

My Head is Full of Black Hair as a Yoruba-Boy Mio Raye Weyrey Oyinbo ooo ...

Your Head dey Spark Ni, I drink Reaponsibly Why Would I wanna Drink to Death ... Awon Redpiller Isonu .... Iberre Ailojuti(Shamelessness)

Who follows Women dey Measure Dick ...

Cli.toris & Pe.nis no be Same Length....

No time for Useless Terms Up & Down !

I take care of My Women Lobatan ....

U dey Poke Person Internal Organs Foki-Gburu With WMDs without Maintenance & You Expect Lubrication in a Machine Without Engine Oil ...

Wicked Men Everywhere.....

Jeremani:
I understand you bro, normally I would have given her the money just like that. But bro if smashing a girl and still give her money to attend a job interview is a loss to you. I may have loss both ways , but I see it as still helping her. I guess I didn't loss in that aspect.

Don't Allow them to turn you to become Toxic .... A Man Must Take Care of His Women But A Man Must Not Be a Fool !

Awon Omo Luminouz With "Z" !

No be Oyinbo go teach us how to care & Order our Women!