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Don't give urself headache,its no suprise if she alrdy has ideas/ sees it coming.

Marriage itself almost leaves u dry of ideas to suprise ur spouse. She alrdy knws ur intention, just get it over with,the whole "oh! My God" scenario was defeated d day she knew ur intention

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Whatever happens, you will be fine


Never compromise your standards

do this at your own peril

agarawu23:
how do you know sir, explain

Intution

I justknew befor I openedthe thread.


Nope

@tonychristopher

1. As a child growing p in a yoruba household,nobody told me hate stories,or sold one tribe or the other bad hence reason why I easily dated and mingled with other tribes

2. Experience going from visiting various part of nigeria also showed me that most women that dated yorubaa guys did it cos of highlevel of intelectual prowess,uneasily matched inteligence,romanticnature and curiousitybegging for interest fond in my educted bros.

3. While I was in the south I dated calabar ladies whose typicaal upbring suggest u cater and carefor ur man loving him exceedingly nlike the west, education is what a gurlis made to chase first and this partly/ wholy makes her harder nut to crack for yoruba brothers(this does not imply they don't preach education thr,my pointis it takes a longer time b4a yoruba gurlis taught such)

4. Do u value what u av and is in urr face daily?

5. We yorubas aare just so open, be it our sisters or rs we find hapiness with, way to go!

Typingfrom a phone and dmn! I hate it. Forgive me typos.

And pls don't quote me hoping to start tribaaal war, I won't deem you worthy of response

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we are all contestants in a race, why d hell would i help u? to beat me to the prize

its funny: how graduates cant simply decipher that was the first test (leaving em alone)

simply put, you cant eat your cake and have it....

it gets worse though when the intellectual gap between partners is wide

and a game changer when both are highly intelligent (respect is often lacking and everything seem to be a challenge until they learn to handle it)

u, ur mum needs to go as far as possible away from him

when he has no one to put his weight on, he will learn to carry it and possibly carry urs n ur mum

but for nw, get away from him fast!

Observations

- as a student, you have a 4burner cooker (you are either in food tech or you cook for your whole dept )
- those nails total turn off
- fins left in d fish

anyway u try, food may be tasty but it has no appeal to me.

i like food with appeal, once had okro at a canteen in Eket, oboy after d trial , i got hooked.

Fablady:
That is another story entirely which I am dealing with privately if you guys don't mind. I mean if I can't get regular sex and sperm, how do I get preggy? If I beg for sex especially during fertile window and he manages to oblige, 90% of the time I get no sperm. That is what I meant by 'does not end well' in one of my earlier posts.

@privately, sure, i dont mind, now at bolded, perhaps this whole issue is being misrepresented, he might not be interested in se.x cos he feels its not yeilding results and the reason he seldom indulge. IF this is about "childbearing" then it even becomes easier cos he just needs medical advice possibly beyond NL

Fablady:
Within the first six months of marriage and has been worsening since. I liked his introverted nature cos I thought it would keep us closer and he liked same about me plus the fact that I am smart, beautiful and hardworking.

ever had any discussion about child bearing as an issue ?

@fem29, i think its better to identify what led to the prob and not just conclude the man got there by himself,something triggered all of this, if she saw him like that earlier,she wldnt have gone into marriage with him. i also think she should exhaust all options before giving up

Fablady:
Hmmmm..... My cries don't make any meaning to him anymore. You know how you go cry die thinking it will move him. For where, my guy no send.... When you tire to cry, you go stop by yourself.
He can stay at home from morning to night without saying anything to me. Only when I call him to eat, he will come and eat. Then back to status quo. He is actually not the type that goes out a lot.

can you tell me somthing that you fancied most about him while you were courting and if you still do now, then tell what u thought he fancied then about you. Also state precisely when you began to notice the insensitivity issue.

about the se.x part, when precisely did it diminish to 2x a month

all this question are aimed at determining the time frame things went south

Fablady:
I understand what you mean That one sef go cause katakata if I ask. But I will. Thanks.

i no say make u ask, i say make u beg, asking a man such would anger him.

eg. form cry before e gets home, or when he is around, if he comes to u (jackpot!) then beg that you want the hapiness you guys used to have et al, if he doesnt then its worse than i thought

quick question, does he tell you about his day ? spend time at home with u when not working ? am asking cos you mentioned somwhere he is only concerned when its time to visit his folks

Fablady:
Not arranged. We courted for 2 years.

i dont want to tell it all..... but i think am sure of this

beg ur man to tell you that which he has found elswhere and wishes you have, tell him you want to try or learn.

if you still dont understand...i'll come back to spill it all

op,
- one question before i give my contribution, what was the circumstances surrounding your marriage. Was it arranged, did you guys court, for how long? if u can answer this, i just might have an insight.

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A woman who hasn't done this n that (virgin) would have no problem with such arrangement, experience on her own side is what determines inexperience on the man's side. And since women pretend,she woldnt want a man who would see her as wild, she wants that feeling of "you r d one spoiling me o"

people change, when u reconnect, don't assume they r same persons u used to know

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better not experienced

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Bro, time to move on, believe me, another dude is now invoved or there's a distraction somewhere, truth she loves u, u do too, but to stay 2weeks not taking you calls, if there wasn't a distraction (she cant last that long even with her parents watching her like cctv, she go call u)

12 years,gift from you knw who

BRAVE

Coming back to tell, I promise ya'all will lol