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Hmm

iamJ:
Dear bonobo,

I write to you with pains in my heart, u're on nairaland morning till night trying to seek the praise of people, you wrote jamb 4 times, at 27 it's now ure getting admission wen your mates are wrapping their PhD, u are shameless, only u came here and complained about how you were used and dumped by multiple guys, I wonder the usefulness of you, u're ugly, classless, poor and shameless, u're so ugly fear wouldn't allow u to use ur picture as dp for years low self esteem on fleek

I will only beg you for 1 tin, don't marry and reproduce that face Biko, pity that child, let him have a bright future, looking like you is doomed


Signed yours irritatedly jude

guy this one too much o hahahahahahaha my belle o. Nighas on rampage. zero joy.

iamJ:
Dear bonobo,

I write to you with pains in my heart, u're on nairaland morning till night trying to seek the praise of people, you wrote jamb 4 times, at 27 it's now ure getting admission wen your mates are wrapping their PhD, u are shameless, only u came here and complained about how you were used and dumped by multiple guys, I wonder the usefulness of you, u're ugly, classless, poor and shameless, u're so ugly fear wouldn't allow u to use ur picture as dp for years low self esteem on fleek

I will only beg you for 1 tin, don't marry and reproduce that face Biko, pity that child, let him have a bright future, looking like you is doomed


Signed yours irritatedly jude

guy this one too much o hahahahahahaha my belle o. Nighas on rampage. No joy

Deltayankeeboi:
lol there is something you don't know. I knew you being this arrogant a day like this would come. I have that very picture on one of my background folders. If i upload it, The very least you can do is deny you are not the same person. You ugly or not is not my problem. I could care less but being arrogant even in your condition, that is sickening. You are giving boys here a framework of what you are not and it's a pity.

Just because of the kind of person you are, i will have the time to uncover you until you learn little humility and till every other guys here takes you as sh*t.

You can keep on making indirect snide remarks. I won't reply you. Seeking attention bla bla. That's damage control and it's your headache. It won't stop me as long as you keep being arrogant

some guys sabi make girls feel inferior sha. i wish guys like you plenty here, these nonsense wey them dey always do for don stop. bro i doff my hat for you

Deltayankeeboi:
Imagine this very ugly thin dark girl that looks like something from a roadside dustbin feeling important. Why did you remove your former photo. You are either ashamed & not self confident enough of yourself and you stand up to insult other ladies. The only reason guys now bother to engage you in conversations is because you are now faceless. I guess they might be thinking you a beautiful lady, if only they knew how ugly & ordinary you are. You will be spat on. Thank God i saw your picture before you took it down. You need to go work on yourself.

lol haha this is disheartening. I feel your pains too bro. The girls here are something else. As a guy you dont have your own opinion. They will insult you and scatter you. If you dont agree with their opinion, they say you are not intelligent or not intellectual enough to understand them. You go just weak. They assume they are the most intelligent. If you no agree with them then you dull. Na them sabi o

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Kingson01:


i think is ur brother u need 2 talk nt d poor lady.

I did bro. i dont think he is in his right mind right now. he is desperate. what if he does not actually listen. what do you suggest i do. if the girl accepts to see my reason why i dont support their union, i think my brother will come back to his senses but the girl herself is not backing out. right now the girl is even having more influence on him than i actually do. the reason i think confronting the girl is the next best thing

IsaAbubakar:
talk to your brother
if he refuses then sack the girl yourself

save your brother's future kids
I lost a very good friend of mine to SS
still pained till now

i thought about that. confronting the girl personally but i dont want it resulting to a family war like am against his success in life. i dont want to be the black sheep in the family because i cared too much

bong4:


Your concern is genuine. Call your brother and the lady and sit them and talk with them in love. They can still be friends outside marriage and be happy seeing the other person being happy in their homes. Tell them the consequences of their action. There are so many prayer points to pray for in marriage and prayer against sickled children has been answered even before marriage. Let pressure of age not force them into wrong marriage. It is not how far but how well.

thanks bro. i will keep on trying my best. even though he may not see where am coming from now. he is emotionally unstable. i think its a duty i owe to him regardless of how he feels. i will just keep on trying. thinking about involving some family friends to help me do more talking.

Aremolekunowo:
Please beg your brother and his fiancée not to try it, it happened to me two years ago, I fell in love with my girl I told her I was AS but she lied about her own that she was AA I later discovered after the marriage that she AS when she gave birth to a sickle cell boy. have bn spending a lot of money since then on different sickness and buying drugs every time.
Intact the love have disappeared from my heart have told her to go am not longer interested in the marriage cos I cant cope with another SS child ,my marriage may crash any moment from now. no matter the love when d crises of as comes love will vanish because u won't even have time for the so called love please no one should encourage AS vs AS marrige

hmm as much as your advice is well taken. i respect your courage to talk about truely what you faced. God bless you and strenghten you bro. Thank you very much

OkoYibo:


My brother, I have enormous respect for your concern over your brother.

However, my own is that he's wrongly insisting on faith and gambling when there are medical solutions. Also, you're wrong for insisting on their breakup when they are happy with what they have.

Let them find what works for them but they must never leave it to chance.

thanks man. The faith thing is exactly my worry. The decision was not borne out of faith but it was made due to desperation to get married and avoid another disappointment if he leaves this girl. He is not stable right now emotionally. But it seems like you are married already?

Harkindeylee:
. AS and AS is not good at-all oo. I know of a couple that lost their son at a very high level. Age 30, almost done with his PH.D death came. SS. He has being struggling with it for so long and yet he still died. it pains me alot. I felt it and I wasn’t really close to him. Now. He died after staying alive for 30years. 30 years of pain. How do you think his parent will feel?

My own suggestion. Kindly sit your brother down once again. Talk sense into him. Let him know the risk involved. He’s obviously not on his right state of mind and ready to settle down so fast. Just let him know he’s making the wrong choice. Or better still talk fiercely to your parent about it. They are educated and grown up fellows people of strong faith but they can’t put God to a Test. You can’t test God. Ignore my grammatical errors if any.

exactly.thanks bro. I have tried all i can to talk him out. i think i have to involve extended family members. this is more than me

juola:
There is no big deal in the issue at hand. We don't need to deprive ourselves of marrying someone who we love and have sacrificed so much for because of genotype. We are now in an advanced world. They can go for PGD at bridge clinic or nordical clinic.

i want whats best for them. i dont think any couple wants to go through the whole stress involved in IVF while they see others enjoying their marriage. i know ivf costs a lot of money. that money can be used to by my brother for other better things. dont you think. have you really seen happy couples making babies through ivf. please i just need answers. i think it involves a lot of stress, time, investment and strong emotional backings to go throug such. i want my brother to be happy not going through all these in marriage.

OkoYibo:


The comments I'm seeing here are 9th century comments when witches were blamed for Malaria.

If that guy gets married and stabilises financially after some time, he'll do IVF comfortably and have healthy children to shame his ignorant brother.

am i really been ignorant for wanting the best for family. i just want a happy family bro. thats all. if anything happens if they go ahead to get marriage. the challenge will become a burden all family members will bear in the future. am just trying to avoid all that sorrow. how potent is the ivf something? what if they want to have much kids. are they going to keep doing it all the time. i heard it runs into millions of naira and not 100% sure. wont that be even more expenses than having an SS child.

tolusan:


The Yorubas say, t'ara ile eni ba nje efo to ni kokoro, kurukere e loru ko ni je kaa sun. It is his brother's choice but they will all share in the inevitable consequences.

exactly bro why am so concerned right now. I am not ready to bear the burden of the consequences if something bad happens in the nearest future. That is why am so concerned right now

SoapQueen:



You can't possibly hate her. She is in love. Why are you sounding like she is the only one in the relationship? Sadly, love is never enough. When she starts battling with the aftereffects of sickle cell anemia and finds herself in the underbelly of sadness, then and only then will she realize that she has made a grave mistake.

I know someone that has lost 4kids to SS Anemia.

It might be hard but she should move on.
All of una go dey alright.

i hate her because she is not listening to me. she stills calls my brother. she does not want to sacrifice the time she has spent in the relationship. my brother made the decision out of fear and desperation to get married. i dont understand what the girl actually wants. i think the reason she does not want to leave him is because there is no age on her side. both of them are not balanced emotionally right now. they are sick upstairs. if i cant get to my bro then i have to get to the girl. am tired already

prechbills1:




any man who doesn't support feminism is a big fool.

lol i cant help but agree more . since feminism is about equal right and equal responsibilities. you buy your pant, i buy my boxer abi no be im? i provide money for shopping this week, you do the same next week, i Pay the children's school fees this term, you pay next term. lol i think this is the definition of equal right and responsibitity. too bad. nigerian self acclaimed feminist see feminism as an avenue to hate on men. if my memory still serves me right from what i read online before. feminism started when women were not allowed to participate in societal stuffs like election, voting, talking in public and others. feminism had nothing to do with marriage or equalling your husband as the head of your house. feminism started as a result of not letting women participate in the society political stuff and all that not marriage related issues. i think its on wikipedia.