DopeAngel:
Serious Advice Needed Pls- How Can I Resolve This Impending Doom In My Family

Please nairalanders i kindly need your advice on this family issue. my elder bro met this girl sometime last two years after having too many disappointments in relationship. he said he wants to finally settle down that he is tired of waiting and disappointments.

Now the serious problem is both of them are genotype AS, but my brother does not care, he still wants to go ahead with the marriage. He is saying he has faith and hope in God that nothing will happen. even my parents are not helping matters, my parents are strong church elders and they are even saying my brother should pray that God can change things.

I am so pained with my parents stand on this issue knowing the severe consequence that follows. i was hoping they would outrightly dissolve the relationship but no they are hoping on God. What pains me the most is that the girl herself is a nurse, she knows better than everybody but yet she is not considering that.

Right now i hate the girl because she is coming to ruin the life of bro's unborn children

folake4u:
Love is all about sacrifice and the sacrifice your brother has to pay is to let the girl go. His future children will not forgive him for bringing them to the world for them to suffer the sickle cell anemia. Talk to your parents and your brother not to bring religion into this, inasmuch faith in God to perform miracle is key, some experiences are really not the best teacher.

ranmoor:
If your bro is rich or d wife, then there is no prob. They can conceive thru IVF. Using in vitro fertilization, they can fertilise the healthy cells and discard the sickle cells... They just have to make sure baby making is thru ivf..
Anything aside that is a real problem! Even the child will not forgive them.
Peace!

eyinjuege:
Its not your relationship, neither is it your business.
The main thing is for both of them to understand the risks involved, and if they're ready to plunge in, goodluck to them.
Your place as a brother is to support. Not dictate, not rule or instruct your brother.
You should learn to respect your brother's choice and wishes. If you're not ready to support him, you can disown him.

SoapQueen:



You can't possibly hate her. She is in love. Why are you sounding like she is the only one in the relationship? Sadly, love is never enough. When she starts battling with the aftereffects of sickle cell anemia and finds herself in the underbelly of sadness, then and only then will she realize that she has made a grave mistake.

I know someone that has lost 4kids to SS Anemia.

It might be hard but she should move on.
All of una go dey alright.

pomide:
Technology Has Advanced Now, It's easier to avoid SS Birth now... stop living in the old school Nigerian thought of AS AS stigma.. don't allow your self to loose a great girl that would make your life prosperous just Because of genotype... Google is your friend.

juola:
There is no big deal in the issue at hand. We don't need to deprive ourselves of marrying someone who we love and have sacrificed so much for because of genotype. We are now in an advanced world. They can go for PGD at bridge clinic or nordical clinic.

package7:
Some nairalanders are so ignorant, just imagine if, they love their future they should not go ahead... A broken courtship is better than A broken marriage. Be warn. �����

codedcliq:


I am telling you. Seeing a lot of 20th century comments here is just amazing.

@ OP pls leave them to marry abeg. They can even have multiple kids that will all be AA.
Get informed...

hollah123:
God bless u, d day I saw an ss child I was just cursing the parents deep down in me cos life is hard for d girl. i was moved to tears cos as easy as walking is for most people she couldn't walk properly. u have to see big head,big Tommy with thin neck, thin hand n thin legs. I pity d girl big time

eyinjuege:
Its not your relationship, neither is it your business.
The main thing is for both of them to understand the risks involved, and if they're ready to plunge in, goodluck to them.
Your place as a brother is to support. Not dictate, not rule or instruct your brother.
You should learn to respect your brother's choice and wishes. If you're not ready to support him, you can disown him.

tolusan:


The Yorubas say, t'ara ile eni ba nje efo to ni kokoro, kurukere e loru ko ni je kaa sun. It is his brother's choice but they will all share in the inevitable consequences.

DopeAngel:
Serious Advice Needed Pls- How Can I Resolve This Impending Doom In My Family

Please nairalanders i kindly need your advice on this family issue. my elder bro met this girl sometime last two years after having too many disappointments in relationship. he said he wants to finally settle down that he is tired of waiting and disappointments.

Now the serious problem is both of them are genotype AS, but my brother does not care, he still wants to go ahead with the marriage. He is saying he has faith and hope in God that nothing will happen. even my parents are not helping matters, my parents are strong church elders and they are even saying my brother should pray that God can change things.

I am so pained with my parents stand on this issue knowing the severe consequence that follows. i was hoping they would outrightly dissolve the relationship but no they are hoping on God. What pains me the most is that the girl herself is a nurse, she knows better than everybody but yet she is not considering that.

I really pity the both of them. They should just not go ahead. I did same based on faith and regretted my decision. God has given us the knowledge, we don't have to tempt Him. He should be patient God will provide his wife sooner than later.
Right now i hate the girl because she is coming to ruin the life of bro's unborn children

tradepunter:
All these ignorant idiots calling God will do it, why don't they jump from 5 storey building and believe they will land safely? Even Jesus said thou shall not tempt thy lord your God... God gave you wisdom to understand the consequences but yet some of you are adivcing them to proceed regardless.

when the Bible says my people suffer and die cuz of lack of knowledge una think say it only applies to fake pastors misleading members. The devil just dy rub ee hand and waiting for the union to happen

The Lord blesses and adds no sorrow, make una continue to take God words for a ride. All I see is a weak man that will continue to have problems making critical decision for himself and what ever family he will build.

OkoYibo:


The comments I'm seeing here are 9th century comments when witches were blamed for Malaria.

If that guy gets married and stabilises financially after some time, he'll do IVF comfortably and have healthy children to shame his ignorant brother.

DopeAngel:
exactly bro why am so concerned right now. I am not ready to bear the burden of the consequences if something bad happens in the nearest future. That is why am so concerned right now

DopeAngel:
Serious Advice Needed Pls- How Can I Resolve This Impending Doom In My Family

OkoYibo:


The comments I'm seeing here are 9th century comments when witches were blamed for Malaria.

If that guy gets married and stabilises financially after some time, he'll do IVF comfortably and have healthy children to shame his ignorant brother.

OkoYibo:


See this one.

Not a single scientific line in the text you typed. I'm sure you've never heard of AC and the new genotypes being discovered.

How much is IVF? You don't know
What is CVS test? You don't know
How much is CVS test? You don't know

Take several seats let's teach you what you don't know.

OkoYibo:


See this one.

Not a single scientific line in the text you typed. I'm sure you've never heard of AC and the new genotypes being discovered.

How much is IVF? You don't know
What is CVS test? You don't know
How much is CVS test? You don't know

Take several seats let's teach you what you don't know.