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Romance › The Silent Struggle Of Men: Why Financial Pressure Is Breaking Us by Dpsychologist(op): 7:10pm On Feb 01, 2025

Hey everyone,

I need to get something off my chest, and I think a lot of you will relate to this. Let’s talk about the financial burden men carry and why it’s becoming unbearable. I know this might ruffle some feathers, but it’s a conversation we need to have.

We live in a world where men are expected to be providers—no questions asked. From the first date to the last bill, the pressure to pay, provide, and perform never stops. But here’s the thing: money isn’t easy to come by. The cost of living is insane, wages are stagnant, and the job market is brutal. Yet, men are expected to not only survive but thrive—to take care of themselves, their partners, their kids, and sometimes even extended family.

And what do we get in return? Criticism. Ridicule. Names. When we struggle, we’re called “losers” or “deadbeats.” When we can’t meet expectations, we’re told to “man up” or “do better.” But no one asks how much we’re already sacrificing. No one asks how many sleepless nights we’ve spent worrying about money. No one asks how many dreams we’ve put on hold just to keep up with the demands.

Let’s be real: the financial pressure isn’t just about money. It’s about the emotional toll it takes on us. The constant fear of failure, the guilt of not being able to provide enough, and the loneliness of suffering in silence can lead to anxiety, depression, and worse. Yet, we’re expected to keep it all inside, to “be strong” and “handle it.”

And let’s not even get started on the double standards. When a woman struggles financially, she’s met with sympathy and support. When a man struggles, he’s met with judgment and blame. Women are encouraged to “follow their dreams” and “prioritize self-care,” while men are told to “suck it up” and “keep grinding.” It’s not fair, and it’s not sustainable.

So, what’s the solution? First, we need to change the narrative. Men are not ATMs. We’re human beings with our own struggles, dreams, and limitations. It’s time to stop treating us like walking wallets and start treating us with the respect and understanding we deserve.

Everyone around you wants to keep taking and expecting something from you. angry

Second, we need financial equality in relationships. Splitting bills, sharing expenses, and supporting each other’s goals shouldn’t be optional—it should be the norm. It’s not about who makes more or who pays for what; it’s about working together as a team.

Finally, we need to create a culture of empathy and support for men. Instead of dismissing our struggles, listen. Instead of judging our failures, offer solutions. And instead of demanding more, appreciate what we’re already doing.

Men are not invincible. We’re not machines. We’re human beings trying to navigate a world that expects everything from us but gives little in return. It’s time to acknowledge that, to address it, and to create a better future for all of us.

What are your thoughts? Have you experienced this kind of pressure? Let’s talk about it.

#MensLivesMatterToo #MenBleedToo

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Nlfpmod seun Dominique

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Romance › Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 12:47am On Jan 01, 2025

Happy new year people

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TV/Movies › Re: MARVEL CINEMATIC UNIVERSE (movies) by Dpsychologist(op): 4:01pm On Oct 13, 2023

Dpsychologist:
Yes thor will be in guardians of the galaxy but that will be in phase 5.
As for Spider-Man, there will b no new actor. Tom Holland will do a Spider-Man 3 and may be a 4.
As for thor, he will team up with guardians of the galaxy known as asguardians of the galaxy in thor and will also be in guardians of the galaxy vol 3.
Marvel is bringing new superhero in the Eternals, Shang-Chi and the Legend of the Ten Rings, Doctor win the Multiverse of Madness, ms marvel etc. Its a matter of time.

In the future 2023, people are starting to get tired of marvel movies.

Education › Re: What Is Your Worst Experience With A Project Supervisor? by Dpsychologist(op): 3:58pm On Oct 13, 2023

Kalatium:
Nflpmod seun myndd44 you need to do justice to this thread.

It is FP worthy.

Long time bro

Health › Re: World Arthritis Day: Joint Health For All by Dpsychologist: 7:55am On Oct 12, 2023

October 12, 2023, marks World Arthritis Day, a global initiative aimed at raising awareness about arthritis, fostering understanding, and supporting those affected.

Initiated to address the challenges posed by arthritis, this day has evolved into a crucial platform for education and advocacy.

SDG goals number 3 is a Universal well-being.

Significance of World Arthritis Day:

The significance of this day lies in its ability to bring arthritis into the spotlight, reducing stigmas associated with the condition.

By fostering understanding and empathy, World Arthritis Day encourages a supportive environment for those affected, promoting inclusivity in healthcare practices.

5 Tips for Healthy Joints: Nourishing Your Body

Balanced Diet: Incorporate foods rich in omega-3 fatty acids, antioxidants, and calcium.

Regular Exercise: Engage in joint-friendly activities like swimming, walking, and yoga.

Maintain a Healthy Weight: Excess weight puts strain on joints; strive for a balanced weight.
Stay Hydrated: Water is crucial for joint health, aiding in lubrication and flexibility.

Prioritize Joint Health Supplements: Consult with a healthcare professional for suitable supplements.

Top 5 Books on Joint Health: Enhancing Knowledge

“The Arthritis Cure” by Jason Theodosakis

“Healing Arthritis” by Susan Blum

“Arthritis-Proof Your Life” by Michelle Schoffro Cook

“Freedom from Pain” by Peter Osborne

“The Complete Arthritis Health, Diet Guide & Cookbook” by Kim Arrey and Michael Starr

Conclusion:

As we commemorate World Arthritis Day on October 12, 2023, let’s unite in our commitment to joint health.

Through education, support, and advocacy, we can make a significant impact on the lives of those affected by arthritis, fostering a world where everyone has the opportunity for optimal joint health.

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Romance › Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 4:28pm On Sep 15, 2023

This thread will forever remain Dpsychologist's legacy.

Telegram link is below:

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Romance › Re: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 4:27pm On Sep 15, 2023

The reason why most men never know the true behaviour of a woman they're involved with is because of their moral and judgemental nature. You can know a woman in and out. All you have to do is gradually encourage her to reveal all her nasty behaviours while acting like you're cool with it.

99% of men, when meeting a woman, start dictating what they like in a woman and what they don't like. This makes the woman become a chameleon.
If you tell a hoe that you hate hoes, she will become a nun anytime you're around. Tell her you hate nagging and she will hardly complain when she is with you. If she hears you say you don't like club girls, she will act like she only goes to church vigils.

She will not change her behaviour. She will just keep you in the dark and show you mostly what you want to see. After marriage, after becoming comfortable with you, she will start feeling no need to be a chameleon anymore. She has you all to herself now. You're fully invested. So, now, she can be her true self, especially if she's had kids for you.

That said, nothing is set in stone. However, this understanding makes things, at least, a little bit manageable for those interested in marrying.

You are on point.

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Crime › Re: Why Are Serious Actions Not Taken To Tackle Child Abuse? by Dpsychologist(op): 4:25pm On Sep 15, 2023

A thread about how a woman abused a small child on nairaland is disturbing.

https://www.nairaland.com/7837533/wicked-woman-starves-beats-5-year-old

Serious action to tackle child abuse is needed.

Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Dpsychologist: 4:11pm On Sep 15, 2023

kelvinatkins:
Good day, could you please help me with the link to his telegram channel?

Good evening.

It's been a very long time here. You guys are doing very well here.

Group link is in picture below

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Nairaland General › Re: Ever Been Discriminated Because Of Your Looks? by Dpsychologist(op): 5:48pm On Jun 22, 2023

Styluss:
Yes, I was tall and slim, I almost enter depression, now I am glad I am tall, cos Im 6.2 feet.

Bulking up will be good for you.

Nairaland General › Re: Ever Been Discriminated Because Of Your Looks? by Dpsychologist(op): 2:09pm On Jun 22, 2023

9jaRealist:
SELF-DELUSIONAL…
Paired with an obvious INFERIORITY COMPLEX!

Not a good look dude.
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Family › Re: I Don't Want To Relocate My Children To The Village by Dpsychologist: 2:08pm On Jun 22, 2023

Wahala no dey ever finish.

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Nairaland General › Re: Ever Been Discriminated Because Of Your Looks? by Dpsychologist(op): 6:49pm On Jun 21, 2023

Michaelspresh:
Never

Cos I am a fine kerl😘
Sweet and lovely too

Why do I feel some people are not saying the truth.

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Nairaland General › Re: Ever Been Discriminated Because Of Your Looks? by Dpsychologist(op): 3:19pm On Jun 21, 2023

Worriedguy6699:
All I can say is people are mean to ugly folks and nicer to good looking folks.

Yes you have a point.

Nairaland General › Re: Ever Been Discriminated Because Of Your Looks? by Dpsychologist(op): 10:31pm On Jun 20, 2023

Ay04z:
Female yes.....
Male.... Just be extra good and pray for grace..
I no too fine but grace dey...

Yea, I get you.

Though in showbiz it can affect both gender.

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Nairaland General › Re: Ever Been Discriminated Because Of Your Looks? by Dpsychologist(op): 10:25pm On Jun 20, 2023

4KNGOATS:
You seem to be fkd up victim of your story, are you looking for a fellow niga

If you have no intentions of participating in the survey just back off.

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Nairaland General › Ever Been Discriminated Because Of Your Looks? by Dpsychologist(op): 10:18pm On Jun 20, 2023

They say good looking people are often perceived as more intelligent, honest and successful.

1. Have you ever been discriminated because of your looks?

2. Was someone who is more attractive than you favoured over you, even when you know deep down that you are better?

3. Do you think lookism (discrimination based on looks) exists?

Will love to see your comments. I need to carry out a survey.

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Romance › Re: How We Become Our Parents And Our Children Become Us by Dpsychologist(op): 7:25pm On Jun 20, 2023

We are all trying to get love or give love in everything we do. It is
a natural part of human nature.

How we look for love, and what kind
of love it is that we look for can depend on how we were raised.

It can
also depend on what we have come to understand about ourselves and
the things that become important to us in our lives.

Romance › Re: How We Become Our Parents And Our Children Become Us by Dpsychologist(op): 2:26pm On Jun 20, 2023

Magnoliaa:
This is solid gold 👌.

Every line is a hit, and I can't help but agree.

Romance › Re: How We Become Our Parents And Our Children Become Us by Dpsychologist(op): 2:25pm On Jun 20, 2023

Lifeangel:
You're right and i cherish the simplicity of this short but life-transforming message.

You are welcome

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Romance › Re: How We Become Our Parents And Our Children Become Us by Dpsychologist(op): 2:25pm On Jun 20, 2023

pansophist:
Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.' Carl Jung

You just explained further the brilliant quote above by a Swiss legendary psychologist. Brilliant. Hence it's always good to check the family background of anyone you want to spend your life is.

Spot on.

Health › Re: World Sickle Cell Day 2023 by Dpsychologist: 7:16pm On Jun 19, 2023

Know your genotype before you say yes to that handsome guy or to that beautiful lady whom you wish to spend the rest of your life with...

Genotype & Its Appropriate Suitor:
AA + AA = Excellent
AA + AS = Good
AA + SS = Fair
AS + AS = Bad
AS + SS = Very Bad
SS + SS = Extremely Bad (In fact, don't try it)

💉BLOOD GROUP COMPATIBILITY 💉

What’s Your Type and how common is it?

O+ 1 in 3. 37.4% (Most common)

A+ 1 in 3. 35.7%

B+ 1 in 12 8.5%

AB+ 1 in 29 3.4%

O- 1 in 15 6.6%

A- 1 in 16 6.3%

B- 1 in 67 1.5%

AB- 1 in 167 0.6% (Rarest)

Compatible Blood Types

O- can receive O-

O+ can receive O+, O-

A- can receive A-, O-

A+ can receive A+, A-, O+, O-

B- can receive B-, O-

B+ can receive B+, B-, O+, O-

AB- can receive AB-, B-, A-, O-

AB+ can receive AB+, AB-, B+, B-, A+, A-, O+, O-

This is an important msg that can save a life!
What is ur, blood group?

world sickle cell day is by the corner.

#SickleCellAwareness

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Celebrities › Re: I Did Abortion For Sarkordie And He Abandoned Me – Yvonne Nelson Chronicles by Dpsychologist: 5:32pm On Jun 19, 2023

With the abundance of contraceptives all over the world.

We still hear of unwanted pregnancies. Don't you know if you dive raw with a contraceptives it becomes pregnancy?

Or is it with the intention to trap the man.

Romance › How We Become Our Parents And Our Children Become Us by Dpsychologist(op): 4:37pm On Jun 19, 2023*

With years of research and observation, I noticed that we become our parents and our children Become Us. Not only genetically but also environmentally.

Children learn alot from their parents and unless the children actively despise the parents attitude and resolved to be the opposite they end up becoming like those parents.

Since this is a romance section, we will focus on love.
When there is no love shown between the parents, it creates insecurity in their children as though they don't have anything to offer.

When children grow up around parents that do not show love to each other, children in turn perpetuate that in their own relationships in the future.

Parents stay together for years without showing the proper example of a loving, healthy relationship to their children. This in turn makes kids think: That’s just the way things are.

Whatever unhealthy relationships parent have ,the kids will most times have a clue by the time they reached their own teenage dating years.

I had one friend who was married to a girl that he got pregnant at the age of 16 or 17. Over the years, what may have seemed like love at first, turned into a marriage solely for the sake of the children.

He began to have an affair. She started gaining weight – a lot of weight.
She was seeking her happiness in food and using it to fill her up with that feel good sensation she was missing in her marriage.

At a wedding for a mutual friend, both the husband and wife got into a fight and bark each other. Consequentially both of their boys were extremely obese, very unhappy, and had very low self-esteem.

These children hadn’t even reached their dating age and they were already caught in the same trap of misery perpetuated by their parents. They will probably end up seeking out the same type of relationships for themselves, never knowing that there can be better for them.

They will end up perpetuating the pain for another generation.
Parents may think they are staying together for the sake of the children, but kids need to see parents in happy, loving, supportive relationships. The choices you make in your relationship life can certainly have an impact on the other people around you, especially the
kids.

There is also the impact on yourself to consider, as well as the happiness of the other person in the relationship.
If you are not growing together in a direction, then maybe you need to consider going your separate ways so that you can continue to grow.

The ultimate impact in a relationship that involves children is how they carry their own relationship knowledge forward with them, into the next generation.

Your legacy to your children should be learning what healthy love looks like, not only in your love for them, but in your love for your partner. Your example is what sets the way for
them to find the same kind of love in their lives in the future.

Ultimately, the only way to see healthier relationships around us is to be a part of building our own happiness and letting it follow forward through the next generation.

Our children should see love between us and our spouse.

Pls move to FP for wide coverage.

Cc
Nlfpmod Rocktation Dominique Farano Seun
myndd44

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Health › Re: Top 7 Unnecessary Drugs People Give Their Babies by Dpsychologist(op): 3:22pm On May 20, 2023

chariisGRACE:
Bleaching

They want the baby to look like them.

Health › Re: World Hypertension Day 2023 by Dpsychologist: 2:48pm On May 20, 2023

ayotade09:
My aunt died on Monday from diabetes and hypertension

Sorry for your loss.

It is the diabetes that precipitates the hypertension.

Health › Re: World Hypertension Day 2023 by Dpsychologist: 2:46pm On May 20, 2023

Iseoluwani:
It has been like that for two weeks now. Sometimes 130/70

If it's fluctuating then there are environmental factors causing it to be fluctuating

The best remedy for you now is to focus on lifestyle modification.

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Phones › Re: New NCC USSD Codes For All Nigerian Networks by Dpsychologist(op): 2:43pm On May 20, 2023

Jeezuzpick:
IMO, it's way better, since a person can have phones with more than one SIM card.

As it currently stands, one only needs to know the same set of codes.

Yea. Sometimes I dial *556# on my airtel sim until I see the message display before I noticed it's an error.

Phones › Re: New NCC USSD Codes For All Nigerian Networks by Dpsychologist(op): 2:39pm On May 20, 2023

Nyanabo:
At least people would stop asking me what's the code for recharge for this network or that network. Everything has be synchronized.

I guess that's good news then.

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Phones › Re: New NCC USSD Codes For All Nigerian Networks by Dpsychologist(op): 2:38pm On May 20, 2023

FlexMinister:
This is one love
I pray all religions to be as united as this mobiles network

Never be possible.

All religion have different sets of doctrines which they see as infallible. Anything infallible is not liable to change which makes it difficult for harmonisation.

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Phones › Re: New NCC USSD Codes For All Nigerian Networks by Dpsychologist(op): 2:37pm On May 20, 2023

Jerekre:
Another set of numbers to cram

For the past 3 days I kept using the old codes.

With time we will get used to it.

Phones › Re: New NCC USSD Codes For All Nigerian Networks by Dpsychologist(op): 5:55pm On May 17, 2023

vastolord4:
Yeah! Got a message from mtn bout these codes

Do you see this NCC USSD integration as better than the way it has been in time past?

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