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Dear fathers and mothers,

Train your sons to be responsible and have sense, so that another woman's daughter will not swear for you.

How can someone with a brainfart like Op be married while there many good single men looking to settle down? As far as he's off these streets sha. May God give his wife strength for taking one for the team.

What is the probability that Op would give his wife an STD in their marriage?

What is the probability that Op's wife is a married single mother if he has children?

What is the probability that Op's w9fe doesn't approve of his behavior and is at home sick with worry, wondering why her husband is not yet home?

Babangidapikin:
If you throw him out he would still go elsewhere to inconvenience another person, tell him he needs a job or something doing to fetch money. If he's not consuming your food and toiletries, you only need to endure for him to get a new place or loan him to get the smallest accommodation. Some friends are closed to you like a brother they're there for you in your lowest moments when everyone tags you a liability, while some friends would run once you become irrelevant.

what rubbish is this.

Nobody is saying don't be down and out. But when you start lying and behaving like a parasite, then you obviously don't value that friendship.

If the squatter had been honest from the start op would have managed his expectations and laid ground rules.

Lovelink1991:
Staying single is more difficult than staying in marriage going by the responsibility you bear alone.

it comes with peace of mind though

drfasam:
My

That's Schistosoma haematobium.

Another good differential. I thought of scurvy

Freshtruth:
I am 37yrs old man I work offshore just going for my time off the hotel my company lodge me I just woke up and I was feeling the need to defecate ( shit) as I was defecating I began to urinate I felt sharp pain in my penis after am done I was about to flush I discovered blood stains I taught maybe is a stain in the wbc untll I look at my penis I discovered I just reuniate blood . Omo I put . My 2 hands in my head thinking na so life take end for me . I have not be able to sleep all night. Not married no child now this . Has anyone experience this before? Blood also in my siliva for months now but I didn't take it serious but this one I just saw now fear done grip me like this

If you are on a ship,
for how long?
are you taking enough vitamin C?

Scurvy is dangerous for seamen.

Sha see your nearest medic

ShenTeh:
I've been shouting this since late 2000s when the banks were employing lots of females for marketing etc.

Stand in Adeola Odeku junction in VI from 5pm and see the people driving the fine cars and going home from work. It's the ladies.

Give the men jobs and see how that social issue gets a lift.

So you believe that women should be downgraded so that men can be elevated.

It's like you didn't learn enough from history.

May your type never find me

fixzycode:
Hello Nairalanders, my friend got a lady pregnant and later discovered that both he and the lady's genotype are AS. Now he is confused because the lady is suggesting abortion but he is not In support of that.

He is confused because he don't know if the child will turn out SS but he wants to give luck a chance. Those with experience please advise.
Thank you for your attention to this matter.

if he has money, go for chronic villus sampling/amniocentesis in to determine the baby's genotype while in the womb and proceed from there.

If he is broke, up to you two

She moved from one cult to another. Some people are very susceptible to mass hypnosis

This looks like fake news. Where did this happen?

Thanks so much for this guide

[quote author=cr7lomo post=138886072][/quote]trying to deflect/derail from the point. If you want to discuss a separate topic, make another thread

This orange man with a bad tan job is delusional.

Think twice before believing the BS he says or tweets

cr7lomo:
No ...u and her are the problem... women wanna be equal with men... they also should be equal in responsibility.... a man that gets drunk and passes out inside gutter and is robbed of his wallet and phone is blamed and insulted for being so irresponsible.... but when women do same and they are taken advantage of ....u wanna act like they are children that dont know better...

I can bet that no guy got drunk to the extent of passing out cos men know the consequences of that happening.... but women will throw caution to the wind cos they believe nothing bad should happen to them....like they are the only ones in the world .... thats a very childish way of acting

is a passed out male drunk raped?

If her property was stolen, then yes I will blame her, but being passed out drunk is not an invitation to be molested and raped.

Your gender has no shame, raping infants, children, old women, your fellow men, animals and dead bodies. There is something fundamentally wrong with y'all.

And you refusing to call out problematic behavior, you are a rape apologist and a danger to every woman in your life. The world can never be better place as long as people like you are in it

cr7lomo:
Why should an adult be so irresponsible as a woman that she allows herself get drunk to the extent that she passes out.... she only has herself to blame

you are part of the problem.

Sonnobax15:

She's right tho.

But then again,what else do an average Nigerian banny has to offer in a relationship apart from opueh?

Simple conversations,they can't maintain.

Bring business idea,so that we can invest and grow together,na once their nipples go catch Cold run enter breast

You that you're talking, are you married?

What value can you provide to the "banny" in question?

From what you wrote, all you want to do is take, take and take from a woman, leech off her energy and suck her soul.

Do you have emotional intelligence? Or will you make her life worse because you have a pènis?

Will she have to clean up after you and cook for you? Will she have to walk on egg shells around you?

Can you provide and lead? With the way you type comments here, can she feel safe around someone with your character?

Please focus on the plank in your eyes before the splinters in others.

She was most likely sexually assaulted when she was passed out drunk.

Fear men!!

Before you say not all men, by keeping quiet about behavior like this, you become part of them because silence is agreement.

donmik:
Some girls are more useless than pig

The ones that are more useless are the men that i.pretnate and abandon the girls.

Their destinies are usually cursed

Passionate888:
This is bad, that child could have been something

An almajiri, book haram or.fulani herdsman?

vincenteger:
This is very brutal
Why allow the pregnancy grow if you intend to do this at the end

This is why safe abortion should be legalized, so that it doesn't get to this level of inhumaneness.

Who is the irresponsible man that impregnated the mother? May he be rendered infertile.

Only a pregnant woman who had no support from her family and the father of the child could do this

anonimi:
The woman is pressing phone all day long.

This means she has a housemaid paid for by her hardworking husband, who is obviously not satisfied with how she is NOT looking after the children.

I am only concerned that she is still his wife.

What does the Bible say about no food for lazy people

Did op say outright that he got her a housemaid, because if he didn't and she is a stay at home wife, then she is contributing to the household.

Unpaid labor is still labor.
If stay at home wives charge at the standard rate for the work they do, many men will become bankrupt.

His job is to provide. He is not required to look after the home or the kids. If he is so resentful, let op switch roles with her for a day and see how he fares.

How does he know that she is pressing phone all day, is he with her all day?

To me, op is low key ungrateful. Many single men looking for the opportunity that he takes for granted

hopeforcharles:
You are a w*cked Soul.
Instead of you to understand the plight of this young man and give a constructive assistance you are heaping the problems on him, In this economy why wount she assist? This issue of laziness is causing a strain in the marriage already and if not handled properly will be come a bigger issue.

Do they have a housemaid?
Doesn't she look after the children?
Doesn't she do housework?
How is that not contributing to the family?

Rep9jaCom:
A Nigerian lady has taken to social media to educate women on a strategy that helped sustain her marriage for five years. Rep9ja reports

According to her, the key lies in patience, timing, and knowing how to communicate effectively with your husband.

The lady revealed that one of the most important things she practiced in her marriage was not responding when her husband was upset or shouting.

She explained that this approach prevented conflicts from escalating and helped her maintain peace in the home.

She said her mother trained her to remain composed even in moments when she felt provoked.



She emphasized the importance of timing when discussing disagreements.

According to her, instead of arguing during a heated moment, women should wait for a calm or positive environment, such as when the husband is relaxed or enjoying a meal.



The lady advised women to approach communication tactfully, using positive moments to address issues.

She described preparing special meals or using intimate moments to gently bring up concerns, rather than confronting the husband angrily.



She advised women who are not yet married to take note of these lessons before entering serious relationships.



See below;

“When He Talks, I Don’t…” – Lady Shares Strategy That Kept Her Marriage Strong For 5 Years https://t.co/XlC4W6eWsP pic.twitter.com/H11LIoo77l

— PlayLoaded.Com (@playloadites) March 3, 2026

https://www.rep9ja.com/romance/lady-shares-strategy-that-kept/

aka tolerating bullshit, walking on eggshells around somebody's son in the name of marriage, paid bills and children.

Mtcheew

advanceDNA:
Ermmm okaay…I have seen both mothers and fathers leave marriage/ relationships and abandon their children….but whats your point though, cos last i check we were on the topic of paternity fraud … i dont get what you are driving at or what context you are tryng to present

if a man can father many bastards, why can't he take care of another

Portiphaaa:
It takes a third eye to see these generation Z as 'end-time-generation' they really are.
The future is dark... take it or leave it.... Adolescent has never been the same ever since women took over most of kid's upbringing undertakings..
I paid for my son's hair cut and left for a meeting, my son chose a wired hairstyle, when I came back I couldn't believe what I saw, I forced him to go back and barb a normal hair cut, since Saturday he has not been talking to me... A boy I paid almost half a million naira tuition fee just last month...

I use to blame irresponsible fathers, but Now I understand better......

Men left.
There's a difference.

Men bear heavy responsibility for the nature of GenZ teens today

advanceDNA:
i mean …:yall have right to sleep with whoever you want…. But denying a father his child and also denying the child his or her real father is another level of witchcraft I will never understand..…
Furthermore, how yall orchestrate this dual deceptive wickedness and sleep well at night is a course that needs to be studied to help understand how women think
…

A lot of men deny their children though.

Even in marriages, don't they walk away from the children all the time? Especially when they fall out with the mother

livinbygrace:
Marriage only favors women and If you don’t have a supporting woman at least 70/30 pls young men don’t marry .
When you see responsibilities,you will forget love .
The easiest fall for any man is to marry liability ,you will regret it

as far as the man can support her with all the u paid invisible labor, then nothing wrong with this.

No.
What did you studyin university?

Show us your undertakingand bond.

Mtcheew

MrPresident1:
Let them sign undertaking that they will work in Nigeria for at least five years after graduation. After five years then they can japa to wherever

We cannot train you with public funds and then you will now Japa to go and be enjoyning in European and American and Saudi and Kuwait and Aussie

Kalatium:
In 1993, at the absolute peak of his power, Eddie Murphy married Nicole Mitchell Murphy.

At that time, Murphy was not just famous. He was one of the highest paid and most influential men in Hollywood. Wealth. Status. Structure. The marriage produced five children. From the outside, it looked stable, protected, built to last.

Years later, it ended.

Nicole reportedly walked away with around fifteen million dollars. On paper, that sounds like victory. Security. Independence. A fresh start with lifetime cushioning.

But here is the part people skip.

Money without structure can quietly become a liability.

After the divorce, Nicole trusted a childhood friend with roughly eleven million dollars to invest overseas. Not a random stranger. Someone from her past. Someone familiar. Someone emotionally trusted.

It was a scam.

The money vanished. The friend was later arrested and sentenced to over two decades in prison. By the time everything surfaced, the damage was irreversible.

Within a few years, reports suggested financial strain. Property sales. Tax issues. Pressure. Exposure.

This is not about mocking her. It is about understanding a pattern people are afraid to say out loud.

Divorce is often marketed as liberation. But liberation without structure can become exposure.

Many people underestimate what a stable masculine presence provides. A man does not only bring income. He often brings risk control, long term strategy, insulation from emotional decisions, and boundaries around who gets access to the money.

When that structure disappears, something subtle happens. Friends replace advisors. Feelings replace due diligence. Trust replaces verification.

And the world is ruthless with exposed wealth.

This is not about women being incapable. It is about human nature. Sudden autonomy without preparation can destabilize anyone. Men included. But culturally, we glamorize divorce settlements as automatic wins, especially for women leaving powerful men.

We celebrate the check.
We ignore the responsibility attached to it.

Fifteen million dollars is not just freedom. It is management. It is taxes. It is long term planning. It is discipline. It is saying no to people you love. It is resisting emotional loyalty when financial logic says otherwise.

Divorce does not automatically equal empowerment.
Sometimes it simply means you are now standing without insulation.

And the world is full of people who can smell exposed wealth from miles away.

The uncomfortable truth is this:

Security is not just about money.
It is about structure.
It is about leadership.
It is about discipline.

Remove those, and even millions can disappear quietly.

That is the part nobody likes to discuss.

I Laugh in swalhili.

Women have structure.
They have discipline and leadership.

They can provide their own security.

What are men providing for and protecting from?

Is not to provide for themselves and their families, and protect themselves and families from problems created by men themselves?

The oldest scam in history if you ask me.

You are painting the picture as if all men provide security, as if they don't make financial blunders and squander resources.

You are talking as if nicole had no legitimate reason for divorce.

So you are insinuating that she should give up her peace of mind for 'security'

I wonder where some people type all these beer parlor arguments from?

Avedonn:
She looks beautiful after the face-lift. Women with well defined cheek bone are considered beautiful in western society and beauty industries.

Face lifts are for older women.
A woman in her 20s or 30s with little to minimal jowls should not be having them done.

She looks so skeletal and eerie.

I hope the results are improving sha.

She should have stopped at the nose job.

It is well

dre11:
https://leadership.ng/valentines-day-federal-government-bans-money-bouquet/

let's use dollars instead.