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LordIsaac:
The question is, what is that dream? If men are to remove family from their dreams, won't society collapse? Who can love unconditionally like men?

Men don't love unconditionally. Who told you that crap?!

If ahe poisons you and gets your wealth, it wouldbe justified.

If she leaves you it would also be justified.

What you need is consequences for your actions

Igodomigodo419:
Hello Nairalanders!

I seriously need help and a bit of advice right now. I've been a silent and observant Nairalander for a long time now.

My marriage is barely 6 months old. Got married to the girl of my dreams. I honestly didn't envisage marriage at this stage of my life but it happened because my wife sacrificed a lot for me, and for us to be living as man and wife.

I really love my wife so much, during our courtship, i flirted with girls online which at some point she caught me, and forgave me. But i still didn't learn my lesson, subsequently, this bad habit of mine of flirting with random girls online continued, even despite her catching me again, she still kept on trusting and forgiving me. Now we are married and still, I'm still in the habit of texting and flirting with random girls.

The one that broke her was this particular lady i was flirting with online, she caught feelings for me and even went as far as posting my Pictures with hers on her tiktok page, my wife saw it online and confronted me. I begged her for forgiveness and was trying to reassure her that it was just an online flirting.. She believed me again and trusted me one more time, but now this girl i flirted with online saw my marraige pictures online (ofcos i told her i was single), and now she'has messaged my wife via Facebook and exposed our chat of us flirting to her.

My wife called me from my office and confronted me of the chat (esp the part i told her i was not married). My wife has been crying ever since and i honestly don't know what to do.

I've begged her, but she's having none of it again. Please i love my wife so much and she's currently pregnant.

I'm ashamed of myself and devasted too. I really need all the encouragement and advice right now.

I will be reading your comment,😭🥺

Stephen0mozzy:
E nor get wetin food bloggers nor go take accessorize food. I take it the kpangolo meek was for scale sha, not that you drink orange and meek 😁

On the topic: Orange get season when them take they sweet. I don't think we are there now. Those very sweet ones tend to have lesser juice though... Knowing farmers, it's possible that this batch you bought was prematurely ripened just for sales

October is not the season for oranges, but tangerines, at least in lagos.

Oranges around this period would be fibrous, stringy and watered down.

Evergreen4:
Love is transactional these days. There's nothing like unconditional love among these generation.

why should you expect unconditional love?

That's the real delusion.

Hemanwel:
[Whenever I see raw fish, ladies come to mind.

Why?

maybe it's from your mum? PTSD is real.

Islie:
https://saharareporters.com/2026/09/01/tinubu-government-announces-plans-360kmh-high-speed-rail-lagos-maiduguri

What do we need that for?

A one way ticket for boko haram and ISWAP to travel to lagos?!

Tenrack:
her parents are very stupid. They should reap th fruit of their stupidity. Pikin wey you go tell to dey school from home first until she's mature enough to be by herself.

She’s in Uni.
What if the uni is not in the same state.

Just do your part.

Once they hear the news, they will most likely tighten the girl up.

All this Gen Z parenting styles sef.

A good old fashioned ass whooping is still needed for these children

Too much igbo is not good

Goo0dHardDick:
I Came across a thread which says men should respect their girlfriends because they decided to keep their bodies.

https://www.nairaland.com/8724226/why-men-should-respect-faithful

Understand this, a woman who decides to remain faithful isn't in anyway whatsoever doing her husband or boyfriend a favour. So why do you expect the society to reward her for that? Keeping herself means she respects her body enough not to mess around because women knows very well that their value is in their body. why do you think women lie about their body counts? Because they're ashamed of saying it out for fear of being called a prostitute knowing fully well that their bodies is their value.

Men don't really care how much money you have as a woman. If you like have 100 houses, 100 cars etc, as long as your body has lost its value, it's game over!

So therefore being faithful in a relationship as a woman simply means you respect yourself and your own body enough for multiple men not to have access to it. It instantly portrays you as a high value woman. Why then do you expect people to praise you for keeping your own body? How does that make sense to you?

CC seun farano justwise nlfpmod mynd44

Tenrack:
how is it your business? Oga let live and let live. Na your daughter?

if it were your daughter, wouldn't you want to know that someone's riffraff son wants to spoil the fruit of your labor?

Please report ASAP!!

muyico:
I actually don't blame men who refuse to train their female children in the university, because I have seen a lot!

For starters, I paid 1.4 million Naira to get the current place I'm staying.

My direct neighbor is a Yoruba girl who is barely 18. She finished secondary school last year and gain admission immediately.

The day she was moving in, all her family came with her, to help fix the place.

In the course of that, the mum and I got talking. I asked if she was going to have a roommate and the woman shouted "O ti ooo!" They want her daughter to be as comfortable as she can get.

1.3 million Naira? I said to the woman, that you people must really love your daughter. She affirmed. She said she is the first daughter and her daddy loves her to death.

1.3 million, minus other furniture and household items? When I was in school, my house rent was 100k and my parents were insisting that I look for a roommate. Even some of the working class where I live, have roommates. Sorry for digressing.

When I installed my air conditioner, the woman met me to ask where I got mine from, that she wanted to buy for her daughter. In less than a week, a brand new AC was installed.

In my head, I was saying: omoh, this is the best I'll do for my female children. Spoil them silly, so that no man can come and entice them with little things they know they can get from their father.

It wasn't up to a week this girl fully moved in and guess what? By midnight, I heard her going to open the gate for a male visitor and he didn't leave.

Turns out that this male visitor is her "boyfriend".

This boy will come at intervals and spend days in this girl's house. He goes everywhere with her, sagging his pants down to his bare buttocks. If you see him, he looks like a typical omo ita! He smokes like a chimney! Always holding igbeaux in his hands. A street urchin!

I have just been sad since. If you see how much this girl's parents love her enh!!! You'll never believe this girl will betray their trust like that!

If she carry bele now, what will the poor mother do?

I'm tempted to call the mother and ask if she knows about a certain boy who has made her daughter's apartment his second home, but I'll mind my business so that God won't punish me for 600 years.

©Kosi Ugo.

Tell the parents with evidence. God bless you.

nlfpmod:

“I haven’t slept since I gave birth to my twins”

— New mom of twins cries out pic.twitter.com/e7NCpS5Xyl

— Vampz (@Hybrid_Ola) August 13, 2026

where's the father? He should help out

odaniel1:
Seriously, it is alarming the way the term ‘dialysis’ props up in various medical centers. I used to hear about such sickness in churches in the mid 90s (95/96) so strange a term the pastors had issues pronouncing it.
Today, my neighbor can easily tell me he is going for dialysis and I will expect it like a usual medical checkup runs. So sad.
Energy drinks nkor, satchet nkor? Wetin we go use de ‘step down’?
Na wa 😭

why do you need to 'step down' in the first place?

Keep stepping down .

Dialysis is not beans

Evaress:
Ways to prevent kidney failure, try to treat your hypertension and your diabetes. Reduce the intake of sugar, stay hydrated, stop consuming too much food/fruits high in oxalates, choose your food and drug vendor wisely. Check your bp levels and blood sugar levels always. Stay clear from Alcohol, energy drinks, herbal drugs and drinks.

Also harmful chemicals in our environment can lead to kidney failure.

Aviod use of bleaching/organic and tube creams.
If you work in industries, e.g those that deal with machine parts, car batteries and so so on, ensure that your employers give you Pereonal protective Equipment (PPE) so that the chemicals don't enter your body through your skin.

Any factory that is dumping its industrial waste into canals and rivers should be reported. Because the waste will enter people's drinking and cooking water,thereby leading to kidney issues.


If your employers refuse, report them to your union or nigerian ministry of labor.

Dialysis is not cheap. Replacing a kidney is not easy for the average nigerian

Erikiel:
If she matches up to 65 percent of what I need in a woman, I will, but with a prenuptial agreement 🤝

As far as the prenuptial is fair and just to both parties

AdolfHitlerxXx:
Probably acromegaly but I didn't see his face well enough to be sure.

Likely a combination of acromegaly and gigantism because of the rapid onset. Tongue growth as he mentioned.

acromegaly won't grow that tall

okomile:
You are young
Pls think of your life
Your parents have lived their life, let them sort themselves

Don't meddle in what you know but not in depth of it all

All the best

Exactly

Mmayeneyen:
The Federal Ministry of Works has trained 40 youths drawn from host communities to patrol the Lagos-Calabar Coastal Highway as part of efforts to protect the multi-billion naira infrastructure from vandalism and other illegal activities.

The youths, who were trained by the Nigeria Police Force in Lagos on Tuesday, will work in shifts, with 20 on daytime patrol and 20 on night duty.

Speaking at the training, the Federal Controller of Works in Lagos, Mr Olufemi Dare, said the initiative was directed by the Minister of Works, Sen. Dave Umahi, to safeguard the highway from increasing cases of vandalism and misuse.

Dare said the guards would complement the police by monitoring the corridor and reporting offenders, stressing that they were not police officers and would only hand over suspects to the police for prosecution.

According to him, the government has recorded persistent theft of critical infrastructure, including clear-view steel fences, manhole covers and directional signs installed along the highway.

He disclosed that vandals had stolen about one kilometre of the steel fence and repeatedly removed manhole covers over an 18-kilometre stretch of the road inspite of replacements by contractors.

"We must not allow this huge investment by the Federal Government to be destroyed by criminals.

"The President and the Minister of Works are committed to protecting this project, which is why these 40 youths have been engaged to support the police," he said.

Dare warned that scavengers operating under the guise of collecting scrap metal, illegal refuse dumpers, commercial motorcycles (Okada), tricycles (Keke Marwa), stationary trucks and roaming livestock would no longer be tolerated on the superhighway.

He said the ministry had procured 20 brand-new motorcycles, branded "Coastal Road Guards", to support the patrol teams.

He added that the guards' activities would be closely monitored, warning that any member found engaging in misconduct or criminal activities would be arrested and prosecuted.

The controller also said the ministry was collaborating with the Lagos State Government and relevant agencies to address indiscriminate refuse dumping along the corridor.

He warned that anyone caught dumping refuse on the highway would face the full weight of the law.

Also speaking, the Deputy Commissioner of Police in charge of Operations, Zone 2, Lagos, Hakeem Ajasa, charged the recruits to carry out their responsibilities with discipline, professionalism and integrity.

Ajasa warned them against extortion, abuse of authority and jungle justice, stressing that they must always hand over suspects to the police.

"You are not there to collect money from anybody. If anyone is found extorting road users or abusing the assignment, the police will not spare such a person," he said.

He urged the recruits to prioritise intelligence gathering, document offences with cameras or mobile phones where necessary and work only within their assigned communities.

The police chief assured them that anyone arrested for vandalism or related offences would be prosecuted in accordance with the law.

Similarly, the Assistant Commissioner of Police and Area Commander, Area A, Lion Building, Godwin Idehai, described the Lagos-Calabar Coastal Highway as a national asset deserving maximum protection.

Idehai urged the recruits to embrace community policing by working with residents to identify and apprehend criminals attempting to vandalise public infrastructure.

He advised them to remain patriotic, diligent and committed to the assignment.

Also speaking, the Community Relations Manager of HITEC Construction Company, Mr David Omaghomi, said the initiative aligned with the contractor's community engagement strategy aimed at ensuring sustainable infrastructure delivery.

Omaghomi said the security arrangement was designed to strengthen intelligence gathering and surveillance rather than create an armed enforcement outfit.

"Our responsibility is to provide information, monitor activities and quickly alert the police whenever vandalism occurs.

"We are the eyes and ears of the security architecture because we are closest to the communities," he said.

He noted that investigations had shown that most of the vandalism was perpetrated by outsiders rather than host communities, urging residents to protect their reputation by exposing criminals.

Omaghomi added that community representatives involved in the initiative could be replaced if found wanting.

Speaking on behalf of the recruits, the Assistant Team Lead of the Coastal Highway Security Guards, Mr Kelvin Okereke, commended President Bola Tinubu and the Minister of Works for the initiative.

Okereke assured the ministry and Nigerians that the security guards would protect the highway and its infrastructure from vandalism.

He pledged that the team would remain committed to safeguarding manholes, fencing, road furniture and other public assets along the corridor.

The Lagos-Calabar Coastal Highway is one of the Federal Government's flagship road infrastructure projects aimed at improving connectivity, trade and economic development across Nigeria's coastal states.

those youths they hired are the ones mostly likely scamming motorists to collect money from them 1000naira before the turning point.

Especially from those who want to turn and reverse.

Policemen are also extorting money from motorists along that lagos calabar highway.


Because the highway has no signs, making a lot of people to get lost on the highway

[quote author=EmmyMaestro post=139876175]“My Husband Is The God I'm Seeing” – Woman Praises Husband For Transforming Her Life, Lists Achievements

A Nigerian woman has gone viral after showering praises on her husband, crediting him for transforming her life and insisting he deserves her lifelong respect and submission.

In a video making the rounds on social media, the woman recounted how her husband changed her living conditions, sponsored her education and exposed her to opportunities she never imagined.

According to her, she moved from living in a public compound to a comfortable flat, completed her education and owned her first iPhone, BlackBerry and Android phone, all thanks to her husband’s support.

Recounting her experience, she said:

“Because of my husband, I left public yard. I no dey run again to take turn to bath or poo. Because of him, I started living in a flat. Because of my husband, I finished my school. Because of that man, I used my first iPhone, my first BlackBerry and my first Android.”

She went on to say that her husband also made her a mother and gave her a better life, stressing that she could not have attained those milestones on her own or through her parents.

Maintaining that she would never stop appreciating him despite criticism online, the woman declared that she would continue to honour and submit to her husband for the rest of her life.

“Before God in heaven, he is the God I am seeing. I will keep respecting and submitting all the days of my life. They hate when you appreciate a man that does good in your life. I can never take someone’s glory. I appreciate him,” she added.

The video has since sparked mixed reactions on social media, with many praising her gratitude, while others criticised her for describing her husband as “the God I am seeing.”

“Because of my husband, I now sit in the front seat of a car, I now live in a compound where I don't share toilet or bathroom, because of him, I now live in a flat, I use Android. I will keep on submitting to him all the days of my life”

Nigerian Woman sing praises of her… pic.twitter.com/rR9gXzwI1i

— Oyindamola🙄 (@dammiedammie35) June 29, 2026

praise and accolades where praise and accolades is due.

May she continue to appreciate him, may they continue to love each other. May their marriage stand the test of time.


Men dey!! Her husband na real G!!

@Truvelisback as a feminist I will praise and encourage men who do the right thing.

Bigsin:
What's the name of this dog breed? The brown one.

Plus, I'm looking for a mate for her. If you have a male dog that is compatible and can mate with her, don't hesitate to reach out to me.

I reside in Iju, Fagba.

The one on the lease if it has no tail and has a line along its back, looks like a Rhodesian Ridgeback.

Very aggressive dog breed needs lots of activity.

I lost mine to the cold Jaws of death last month. Bruno was 11 years old. I miss him

If it has a tail, it's probably a boxer or boxer mixed with something else. Just love em all the same

Sonnobax15:

Men don't lie when it comes to bedding a woman .

When a man says he has had a thingy with a woman, there's a huge probability that he truly did.

They do it all the time, especially when the babe rejects him

Sebi aisha is your younger sister?

AdamuKD:
Ha Aisha's pants are like 3 and she have been using them for three years straight now if I am not mistaken

If na brassiere own, just forget it. She can use one bra for years and she doesn't wash it. She washes it 3 or 4 times in a year

Some ladies are terrible aswear

Those pictures are AI tho

mysticwarrior:
Since the guy sent the money to his mother back in Nigeria, the woman should have shown some understanding.

Did he tell her first? If he didn't, it shows a lack of respect and it is stealing

Simple change the sign.

Beware of Dog!
They will attack tresspassers indiscriminately!

giftson102:
*If your Dog bites somebody today, can you escape liability simply because you wrote “BEWARE OF DOG” on your gate?*

A lot of people think the answer is YES.

The law says otherwise.

That warning sign alone may not save you from being sued or even facing criminal liability. In fact, sometimes that same sign can become evidence AGAINST you.

Why?

Because it may prove that you already knew the dog was d@ngerous.

Many people misunderstand the law. They think once they hang:
“⚠️ BEWARE OF DOG”
on their gate, every injury automatically becomes the victim’s problem. No.

Under the law, once you decide to keep a dog especially an aggressive or d@ngerous one you have a duty to control it.

Not advice.
Not suggestion.
Duty.

So if your dog escapes through a faulty gate or roams freely outside
Or attacks a delivery rider…
A neighbour…
A visitor…
A NEPA official…
Or even somebody you invited into your compound…
That signboard may do absolutely nothing for you.
You may still be sued.

And yes, the victim can demand compensation for:
🥢 Medical bills
🥢 Pain and suffering
🥢 Permanent injuries
🥢 Emotional trauma
🥢 Loss of income
And it can become VERY expensive.

The shocking part?

Section 207 of the Criminal Code makes it an offence to negligently allow a dangerous anim@l to cause h@rm.

Meaning this is not always “just a dog issue.”
It can quickly become a legal pr0blem.

Now before somebody says:
“What if the person was a th!ef?”
That changes things.

If someone jumps your fence at 2am trying to ste@l and gets bitten, the law may treat that situation differently because the person was trespassing unlawfully.

But for lawful visitors?

The law expects responsibility from the dog owner and this is where many people make a costly mistake. They rely on bold capital letters instead of proper control.

A warning sign is NOT a magic shield. The real protection is:
🥢 A secured gate
🥢 Proper restraint
🥢 Proper training
🥢 Responsible handling

Because when the lawsuit starts, “BUT I WROTE BEWARE OF DOG” may not be enough.

The law does not bark but financially?
It can bite harder than the dog itself.

Now imagine this
If your dog bites a child who innocently entered your compound to return a ball should the owner still be held responsible?

Thewrath:
You are probably unmarried and without any experience whatsoever….No woman should ever condition any man because of marriage,the promise alone of opening a business for her is already enough,if she can’t t manage whatever he has with him now or in the marriage then she shouldn’t accept his marriage proposal!

No it's not. When did she condition the man. It is Op that is trying to restrict her financial independence when he has not fully married her.
Let him build the supermarket first and give her in a name and with a contract. This is how financial abuse starts. Did she beg him for money?! What is wrong with hotel job? The man is just being insecure.

There's a way to broach the topic of issues like this without sounding offensive, egomaniacial or insecure.

Thewrath:
They no Dey carry that hotel work play,imagine choosing hotel salary job over a a supermarket your finance (that is about going to see your people) wants to open for you…

It’s just the promiscuity in her speaking,nothing else..
There are jobs,associations,groups that couples and intending couples DO NOT BELONG TO!

This is an ignorant statement

Goo0dHardDick:
My house is always the venue of all my dates with women! Anything aside that count me out!

U Can try and intentional man who will take you out to dates and impress you into liking him. Someone who will spend on a date what you yourself cannot spend on your own self.

If it's not my house, then relax

your house is not a safe place for her na. Especially the 1st few dates where she doesn't know you. This is not about you, but concerning safety, especially for women. Many women have lost their lives and chastity when visiting a man's place.

It is what it is

These outfits show more creativity and class than what some people wore to the Met Gala

Goo0dHardDick:
Dear men,

If the cost of loving a girl is higher than your cost of living, be wise and leave her for someone who can afford her cost of living, or she may be your cost of dying. If you must maintain anything as a man, let it be your money, not your honey, and your business, not your sweetness, or it may lead to your weakness.

Yes, eating out once a month is romantic. But when you have to eat out everyday, it becomes problematic and could make you erratic. You only owe a duty of financial care to your wife. Any woman who demands that of you may affect how far you go in life.

Fine then. Come up with date ideas that don't cost money, Date a lady within your budget, Or date intentionally so that you don't waste your and her time, and your money before you marry her. So it shouldn't pass 6 months.

Babangidapikin:
Dr Funmi we are not fighting na, someone in desperate condition would say anything to get out of a situation. Moreover no one enjoys been a liability.

then be honest about it. Sure it's a blow to your pride but this has gotten out of hand

Dear fathers and mothers,

Train your sons to be responsible and have sense, so that another woman's daughter will not swear for you.

How can someone with a brainfart like Op be married while there many good single men looking to settle down? As far as he's off these streets sha. May God give his wife strength for taking one for the team.

What is the probability that Op would give his wife an STD in their marriage?

What is the probability that Op's wife is a married single mother if he has children?

What is the probability that Op's w9fe doesn't approve of his behavior and is at home sick with worry, wondering why her husband is not yet home?

Babangidapikin:
If you throw him out he would still go elsewhere to inconvenience another person, tell him he needs a job or something doing to fetch money. If he's not consuming your food and toiletries, you only need to endure for him to get a new place or loan him to get the smallest accommodation. Some friends are closed to you like a brother they're there for you in your lowest moments when everyone tags you a liability, while some friends would run once you become irrelevant.

what rubbish is this.

Nobody is saying don't be down and out. But when you start lying and behaving like a parasite, then you obviously don't value that friendship.

If the squatter had been honest from the start op would have managed his expectations and laid ground rules.