₦airaland Forum

kpankpangolo:
They wore her out. No wonder prostitutes abandon their clothes and jump out of windows when customers try the same.

ebubeson:
Do ladies still feel guilty committing abortion and killing a baby or are they just after the guy not dumping them after abortion?

Please does guilt for abortion still exist? It does exist because God gave conscience. But maybe some ladies have dead conscience on that.

yomi007k:
Demoralizing to say the least.

After all my call duty, emergency response, innovation, putting myself at risk.

Curse be to them.

Racoon:
https://www.arise.tv/lagos-health-sector-short-33000-doctors-over-16000-have-migrated-overseas-says-health-commissioner/

Eberechukwu4u:
All the stories I post on Nairaland are true accounts drawn from real-life experiences. I’m sharing them here to hear your sincere thoughts and opinions. Thanks1️⃣♥️ 🇳🇬's


I grew up in a house where silence was survival.
Where laughter was rare and fear had a permanent seat at the table. My father was a police officer.
Feared by people outside hated by the ones inside.
He had a voice that shook the walls and a temper that made the air thick.
When he entered the house, we all disappeared sometimes into corners, sometimes into ourselves. He didn’t beat us often. But the shouting, the insults, the starvation That one, we felt it in our bones. My mother? She was a shadow of a woman. Frying Akara morning to night just to feed us. Rain or sun, pregnancy or not, she would sit by that fire with swollen feet and a tired smile.
She never ate first. She gave us what she had sometimes one piece of akara and water before bed.
She’d say, Eat, my child. I’m not hungry. But we knew she was lying. My father had women everywhere.
He would travel for duty only for us to find out later that he had children in two other states.
And when my mother would cry or confront him, he would shout until she backed down. Sometimes he wouldn’t give her money for a week. Sometimes two.
We used to beg. We used to borrow.
We used to eat salt and garri, and sometimes nothing at all. Yet, somehow, my mother never stopped being kind.
She prayed for him. She covered his shame. She stayed.
I watched her grow older, not from age but from pain. Her back curved. Her eyes lost light. But she stayed. Because in her world, women didn’t leave. They endured.
Today, my father is a retired officer.
He walks with pride and still talks with thunder.
But sometimes I want to shake him and say you were supposed to protect us. You were the reason we feared home. My mother? She still sells akara.
Now with grey hair, still with those burnt fingers, wiping sweat off her brows like a warrior in a silent war.
I don’t know how she made it through those years.
I don’t know how she still smiles when she sees him.
But I know she is the reason I believe in strength.
She is the reason I fight for peace. She is the reason I say If your home doesn’t feel safe, it’s not your fault. It’s not God’s will. It’s not love.
To every woman who gave her life to a man who gave her pain
You’re not weak. You’re not stupid.
Imagine if my mum left? Today, I see women leave marriage over small things, but look at the story of my mum; she stayed with him to raise us.
Marriage is for better and worse. Don’t leave your marriage no matter what.
May the lord help everyone.

What are your thoughts on this?

DISCLAIMER : NOT MY STORY❗

Seun:
Hello Guys,

I'm throwing this question to you because it's very important. Every time I ask, "how is Nairaland?" I'm told that it is fine. If I ask what are the challenges I'm told there are none.

So I need to talk to you guys directly about what you think is going on and what you want us to do. I have not had the confidence to make major changes on Nairaland. I have a little confidence now because of AI.

What are your complaints, your challenges, your issues. What are the things that can drive people away and need to be nipped?

Speak your mind, but don't be rude. Thanks.

koladata:
where people they see all these type of woman marry self, if she is his daughter nko. He kill person ?

fritiyo:
What is wrong I. Standing for ur own country has a president. China export to USA is much more than the whole of EU and African combined, trump is only fighting a just war for his people but folks like u won't understand the rational behind it.

DrAda:
I don't just get it. How is this sustainable? Is he expecting hundreds of well-equipped factories to magically spring up overnight in USA?

And what does he mean by disrespect to "world" markets. I thought he loved to work alone. This is so irrational

The Internet is awash with theories that Trump manipulated the stock market for himself and friends to buy at low prices. Makes a lot of sense

I personally believe that someone out there has something on Trump and is playing him like a fiddle because all of this is just abnormal.

But then again the most shocking aspect of all this is that noone is curbing his excesses which is just strange.

Acidosis:
Here’s a polished and grammatically correct version of your thoughts, completed with a natural flow:
I understand your view. Standards must be high, but I’d like to believe there are many people who could easily meet these standards yet still didn’t gain admission. Also, while I get your position, it could easily come across as ‘blaming’ the learners rather than the teachers. I think the teaching side has failed more people than their own intellect ever did.

A bad doctor puts lives at risk, sure, but we also have engineers building bridges that carry tens of thousands daily. We have pilots and others in high-stakes jobs, yet they manage to contribute to society without much fuss about shortage. It all boils down to training and retraining.

In many Western countries, nurses are already being trained to take on more tasking roles like prescription. Nurses prescribe medications, not just OTC, but the whole. They are starting to realise that hoarding certain knowledge for a select group, who are never enough to go around, is actually killing more people than it’s saving.

abdsamad:

Manage which tide

The most experienced/Brilliant doctors have left so nobody is actually training all the new doctors you churn out.
So, your quantity jump is without quality.

Also, also, half of the new doctors you're producing have written or about to write their ielts before they even go for service. They are barely paying attention to whatever they're doing cos they have important exams to focus on

omohayek:
This "standards" talk is the same line of argument that is always used by any group looking to restrict competition in their line of business. Isn't that what bodies like medical boards are for?

Just graduating from a school with "medical" in its name doesn't grant anyone license to practice medicine, and for most Nigerians, at present the alternative to your favored few "high standards" doctors are roadside peddlers of "patent" medicine quackery, native "doctors", religious conmen masquerading as "prophets", etc. Even medical school dropouts would be preferable to all of these.

Malawian:
that 30% is all they know.

We came to the University for the lecturers to teach us all they know, and not for us to keep resorting to self help.

Acidosis:
The only way out is to keep churning out more doctors until the international market becomes over-saturated and extremely competitive for newbies. You can ask India what they did to tech sector. Too many people are now applying to jobs that don't exist.

You people should stop hoarding medical knowledge at the detriment of people's health. People want to be doctor, you failed to admit them, failed to build new training grounds, yet complain every four market days about shortage of doctors.

CodeTemplarr:
$21,000 to train a doctor? How?

Malawian:
Do you know the worst part of this test question? The lecturers did not teach it. In fact, they don't even know the answer and are merely waiting for the students to help them.

Malawian:
Do you know the worst part of this test question? The lecturers did not teach it. In fact, they don't even know the answer and are merely waiting for the students to help them.

DeGLORIOUS:
Tell me why these students will not fail this exam. These questions are just for showoff. They may not have the time to go through it. Even if you do well here, your score depends on the lecturer's personal discretion.

ricson11:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_0WbOoWZsIE?si=SwMYLxcMjz5R1Rug

Americans protested against Donald Trump yesterday, but nobody was teargassed. Why is our own different? – Sowore

boysco:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NYMCKVkDVIw?si=IvdIJf2RYrzU_c_Z


GheGhe explores four popular and culturally relevant ways Nigerian women approach finding a husband

advanceDNA:
Hahahahahahha!! U sound pained just becos I don't agree with your opinion....what's the big deal madam....

Resulting to insults doesn't change the fact that your explanation is weak and desperate as if you women don't exploit men you just met for money in the first place...

I don't have to agree with your opinion just because u think it's the only reason a girl is asking a man for money...

..u don't have to angry and a cry baby about it ...

bigpicture001:
Donu know the full story if goodluck Jonathan, your ex president...?

He was an adult undergraduate who is very poor and at one occasion when transport fares were increased in RTC . He was stranded... The touts pitied the bood looking broke guy and urged him to meet their ticketing lady and see what sh can do.. the lady is a tout too but sells ticket at the park.. sh knows her way around making runs money at the garage..

The lady helped hi complete the transport, got his number, found out he was focused but poor, got into his life with alot of financial support, all he gave the lady was a very genuine and commuted marriage... The rest is story of where they got to in life...

Guy, I believe sometimes . If it requires u to bail out a guy as a lady so long as he will stay true to his promise ND marry u... Do it.. life is not textbook.. it churns our different flavours

bigpicture001:
Can you lay down 1million naira as it stands to a good man to get him as a husband.... Assuming all is sure he won't change his mind...

Can u..?

I just want to know how much u place money over marriage or marriage over money.

advanceDNA:
Hahahahhahhahha.... Madam?? The only way, as in the only way.??.to say no to a man is agree to a date of free food and ask 40k clothes....

Madam.... I'm not a child..

And u are desperate ASF to drive home a weak ass point...

advanceDNA:
Hahahahahahaha!! Is this the new excuse u ladies now use for unsuccessful exploitation of men you just met??

Like wtf .... I agree with one thing...she doesn't like him..which is normal with women when random niggas approach you on the street..

She could have decided not to give him her number....
Or decide to ignore his call if she ddnt like him
Or not respond to his chat...
Or just tell him straight up she's not interested


But nooooo....agreeing to a free food date and asking for 40k clothe is how she wants to get rid ....

I mean....why does this narrative make sense to only you women??

SoftSport:
It's amazing how something so popular like 5 Alive can just disappear but I guess even the best drinks sometimes get forgotten while big names like CocaCola just keep going

Holluwhakemmy:
Stop lying not everyone will be sleeping around like your sisters . I'm a perfect virgin and I don't have a medical problem pertaining to that.

spiceadole:
That's the whole truth.
A lot of men hate women very much but marry them because of what women do for them

Sex mate
Baby maker
Nanny for their children
Housekeeper: Cook,laundry,Clean,etc

Marriage benefits men more.
Reason why they remarry as soon as their wives die.


Some men look dirty and unkempt until a wife comes into their lives.

As for me,I have no trust in my husband.
He is a typical Nigerian man.

I started having Pregnancy induced hypertension in my second pregnancy but my husband(in the selfish nature of men) kept hammering that we were going to try for a 4th child,despite my health condition..Asthmatic(and I had bad exacerbations in both pregnancies) plus preeclampsia.
Eventually signed for a BTL during my CS.
3 Children are more than enough.
I had even wanted 2 ,only for the second pregnancy to come as twins.
I always put myself and children first.
Na mumu dey trust man

spiceadole:
Calm down.
I have been reading your comments and I agreed with you until this.

I have 3 children.
1st pregnancy was a single birth.. Vaginal delivery
2nd pregnancy..a set of twins.C/S
My husband and I are medical doctors.
I worked all through both pregnancies and saved up money for MY delivery.
I only started maternity leave 3 weeks before my EDD.
Men are naturally very selfish people.

A reasonable woman should not put her hope on a man.
If women know how much their husbands hate them for real,they will love themselves more.
Husband is just waiting for you to die so he can marry a new wife.

OgunjimiFengxi:
It's called an emergency for a reason - you can never be fully prepared for it. Just pray to God you don't encounter one beyond your power and financial capacity.

A friend of mine was in a similar situation months back. He cried to me for help after spending over a million in less than 48hours. Luckily for him and his wife, treatment was not stopped while he was out sourcing funds to cover the outstanding bill.

Your comments and most others on this thread are quite disheartening. Compassion matters even to animals, particularly in matters of life or death as this. Where is our humanity? What has happened to us?? We've become so numb that the sanctity of human life means absolutely nothing us anymore.

JuanDeDios:
And for these reasons, if you make it into the House of Reps, you'd introduce a bill to stop poor people (or anyone who can't put aside, say, 500k from having kids?) Goodluck with Utopia.

It's ok for you to use your present position to advise individual parents to have fewer kids. But a blanket stance that says have kids if you can raise 500k is utopia. It is not achievable. Even if it is achievable, it is a terrible idea - I don't even have time to explain the ramifications to you. But I'd just tell you that Lee Kwan Yew tried it in Singapore. He was encouraging rich women to have kids and poor women not too - reportedly sterilised some of the poor women while at it. Today, that country's demographic issues are so bad that once it's 8pm, they start playing jingles on radio reminding people to go home and have sex. They want kids!

A perfect society does not exist. Every society goes through its phases. What happened to that man is sad. But it was NOT preventable. The only way to prevent it would have been for him not to marry or get her pregnant. And the day that happens (poor people, 70-80% of Nigerians, stop having kids) will never arrive.